<human>: I'm 23 and working professionally as a Software Developer. I am healthy both physically, mentally, and financially. I enjoy smoking weed maybe twice a week, and perhaps using psychedelics once a season. As we've continued to date, my girlfriend has become increasingly more uncomfortable with my use, despite my use actually decreasing (we started dating in college, naturally I have begun to settle down). She has been aware of my use the entire time - I've always been very forthcoming.

I tripped at a music festival 'Electric Forest' recently and had a great time - naturally I wanted to tell her about it. She listened, but when I said "I can't wait for you to come next year", she sternly said "no - I don't want to be around you when you do that".
I began probing more into her opinions, never really having a true discussion about our boundaries about this subject, trying to understand her viewpoints. She gave me some uncomfortable ultimatums - if we live together, no drugs in the house, and I'm not allowed to do anything around her. On my own time, I can do whatever I want.

This is troubling to me, and I try to describe this, which led to her becoming extremely upset and saying things like "I can't believe you're going to choose drugs over me". She believes she is compromising by letting me do these things on my own time, whereas I think these ultimatums will undoubtedly create a barrier between us.

Honestly, I'm not sure what I can even do. I feel like she is forcing me to choose between drugs and her, whereas I simply want both. If she tolerated my use, there would be no problem. But I suppose she is 'tolerating' my use in a way. I'm envisioning a future where I have to sneak out of my own house to smoke a joint thinking to myself "what kind of marriage is that".

She is an incredible woman, and really, this is the only thing we've ever fought over. I'm wondering if anyone has any advice. Should I be appreciative of her compromise more, and am I wrong to have anxiety over these ultimatums?

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<bot>: girlfriend has become troubled by my drug use, has given me uncomfortable ultimatums that give me anxiety over our future