<human>: Wedding planning is foreign to me and have not been part of wedding until now as a BM. I've hit the age where now there are 2-3 weddings per year and I've been invited to my first 2 bridal showers for two older friends who are like older sisters to me. I need help with planning a gift for both (coming up in April) and about making a list for the bridal shower. 

The bride has no MOH bc she loves every BM and doesn't want to rank. But now we're in a dilemma of who to invite and how many due to the bride's diverse background of friends. And say to put in a buffer in case people can't make it. Would we send out 40-50 invites and expect of 20-30? Do we invite the in laws family as well, co workers, or even greeks? Has anyone done everyone together and it went successful with no awkward interactions? Is 20-30 too big? There will be about 23 from one lifetime, 12 from greek, and 3 from work? 

For the gifts to my two friends at their upcoming bridal shower, I'm going to get something from their registry but also wanted to give a small/medium personal gift. Should I handcraft it or have other close friends join in on the personal gift? like a scrapbook or something alike. Should we gives those not during gift opening? So we don't put down others or flaunt that we are closer? 

I have no experience, never thought about weddings until now...I think I may have a small circle of friends cause I have mostly guy friends...And now getting self conscious...

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<bot>: unexperienced tomboy needs help with first encounter of planning and attending bridal showers..getting self conscious about my own in the future