<human>: My boyfriend and I have been dating for just over three years now and I love him dearly. However I've noticed that our sex life seems to be dwindling. I'd say it's been this way for about 3 months. I've had to initiate almost every time we have sex. Now I'm not opposed to me initiating but it seems that every time I do he responds with half of what I'm doing. It's like it's a chore. 
  
However the times I'm able to put him in the mood or he initiates, the foreplay is severely lacking. He sticks to about three core moves and that's it. I've tried telling him I'd like more foreplay and to try to switch things up and he'll nod and say he'd be okay with that but it never happens. He's a redditor (mostly for his porn) so I told him I'd love it if he were to subscribe to r/sex to find some fun things (toys positions, etc.) that he'd like to try. He said "I guess I could" but it wasn't with much enthusiasm and I doubt he has due to the lack of suggestions. I've even asked him to show me some of his favorite porn clips/movies so I could see what he likes and he shrugs off the suggestion by saying he mostly just looks at pictures. 

The lack of enthusiasm towards our sex life is making me self conscious and just plain sexually frustrated. Last night at a party I got pretty drunk with a girl friend. We started to dance and ended up calling all the other girls at the party over to dance, and in my drunken state I began to grind on another guy. I realized how getting some male attention felt really good. I then felt immediately guilty for seeking attention from some random guy. 

It's gotten to this and I feel like I've tried communicating to him that I need more attention and that I am human and do have sexual needs as well. Can anyone give me some advice?

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<bot>: My sex life is down the toilet and I've communicated this to him with suggestions to him so he wouldn't be completely in the dark and still nothing. Help.