<human>: Hopefully some of you have either been in this situation, or can be of help to us in this situation! 

My fiance and I became engaged in September of 2014, and we've been dating since our senior year of High school, June of 2010. Although we've had our moments, we both have commented that our relationship is very strong and stable. We have no major issues whatsoever. But, I've been feeling a little overwhelmed with how to progress our relationship. 

We both live with our families, but in different states. He lives in Maryland (my hometown) and I live in Virginia (only an hour away). I thought it would be best to live together and have a home settled for us before marrying because it doesn't make sense to me to be married and live separately. 

But, I don't know when or how to plan our wedding. The last time we've mentioned it was when we both went to a jewelry store to have my ring cleaned. The associate asked when we planned to get married. My fiance paused and said, "Well, whenever she's ready. I'm financially stable so..." 

He's more focused on the financial side of marriage, whereas I am focused more on the mental aspect. I want us to be prepared for anything, but he seems to think that "it's good now, so it'll be good forever." But to his defense, I was his first girlfriend (first everything actually...)

Currently, we are in the process of getting into a home buyers program to buy our first home so that's a start. I just don't know when is the best time to plan our wedding. We only want a ceremony, something intimate. There will only be about 20 people there, if that (we're not a social bunch and are very private.) I thought that once our home situation is settled, that's when the wedding planning can begin. We're both very young, but very mature and care for each other deeply, so we want to be prepared and do this the best way possible.

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<bot>: Is planning our wedding after buying our home a good idea? What, as a young couple, should we be doing before marriage that will prepare us, and what advice would you give to a young couple looking to marry?