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Ok right now she's left her computer at my place, and I'm posting here instead of reading her messages without her permission.

A couple of months ago my relationship of about 6 months was in bad shape. 

Gf just didn't believe that communicating was worthwhile, her idea was that if there was somthing bad happening, the trick was to ignore it, and spend a few days apart until she'd forgotten about it.

This left me stressing out like crazy.

So she went away for a couple of weeks on holiday, and when she came back I'd composed myself enough to talk assertively, but not accusatorially about what I wanted in order to feel like I was in a relationship. She dug it, but put forward that she might not be able to do be what I want, as she had feelings for her ex. (Who lives in a different city.)

This was shocking, of course.

So here's what I did: I asked what she wanted to do. And also said (politely, if you can believe me) that she was being a jerk. 

She said this other dude wasn't really good for her, and that I was, but that her previous relationship had ended for stupid reasons, and felt unresolved. AND that this had been a significant part of the reason she'd been so distant, but that she didn't want to have to confront this (internally), and would rather just ignore the whole thing.

So I felt good that I'd actually found the problem, and told her that I wanted her to confront her feelings, as it was causing her and I real problems.

Then we hung out and took it easy. I brought it up again maybe a week or two later and she said that talking about it had made it go away.

So now I have this girl hanging out, who brings up ideas for our future together, who no longer does things like disappearing for a few days without calling, and, who now believes that communication (done tactfully) is a positive thing.
<bot>: Gf had feelings for someone else. I think I did good. Everyone tell me that snooping around now would make a trust breaking arsehole.