<human>: Can you provide a brief rundown of the text in within 3 sentences?

We don't have our "collective futures" planned since we got together after our divorces (we each married after 5+ year-long relationships). Both of us are unsure where we land on many things in the future, so we have decided not to move in with each other until that's more known. 

The biggest issue is that we cannot communicate about difficult issues. Whether it's work stress, family drama, or medical stuff, or even our relationship, we both are SOOO inhibited. We've seen a counselor about 6 times, and he will not see another one with me. He says he still loves me though.

I know I'm so scared I will upset the peaceful balance, since I've had really bad (violent) experiences with my ex. I think it's safe to say we're probably still hurt by our old failed marriages. I don't know why he stonewalls me and shuts me out when he's upset. I only know why I do.

Help? How can I get him to open up to me when he's feeling down or needs support or wants to talk about the future with me? How can I be less inhibited with sharing my goals/wants/dreams with him? 

throwaway since he's a redditor
<bot>: we both stonewall each other in difficult times. no formal commitments after 3.5 years. Are we doomed?