<human>: Can you give me the gist of the text in a nutshell?

We have a great and cooperative relationship with no fighting or major disagreements, however for the past year we have gone without sex.

We had a very active sexual relationship in the beginning that calmed down to a more standard pace. Then after a few failed attempts at having sex it all together stopped. These failed attempts were due to either her being too distracted or not in the mood, and thus I would loose my erection. I cannot have sex with someone who is not as mentally engaged with it as I am, it feels like an awkward favor or service if they do.

This is not completely her fault. My approach to engaging her did become more lazy overtime and that is a large fault on my part. So we stopped having sex, which became frustrating for the first few months. We talked it out and came to the conclusion that we were just losing interest in sex but not our relationship. Now for the strange part.

After a year of not having sex we are completely fine with it. We see sex as a primitive and or procreative part of human nature. It is not something that needs to be present in a healthy relationship, although that is something that needs to be mutually agreed on, and we do.

I understand there's this whole sex culture that believes sex is important for a relationships sustainability, but what if we don't want children. Then it's just for pleasure, but what if we both see it as kind of primitive and undesirable. I'm not saying during intercourse I did not enjoy it, but that I realize if your not using it to make a child then you're only doing it for pleasure. Which is fine if that floats your boat, but we get more satisfaction out of many other things.

Is it not normal that we grow out of certain things? We see particular things we used to know as fun and pleasurable when we were kids different when we become adults. Why does it seem like in our culture it is not possible for sex to be one of those things we can grow out of?
<bot>: I want to know if there are couples on here who do not have sex and have successful relationships. Why does not having sex seem like such a fundamental problem in our culture?