<human>: Can you succinctly summarize the text in 1-3 sentences?

I have been dating my gf for four years and while we have many common interests, I don't think we click very well. Also from a hard facts point of view, there is too big of an age gap for this to work long-term. Sooner or later I'm going to have make the break that I've known would come for awhile now.

Cut to an admittedly unreasonable phobia. I have to be really comfortable with someone and trust them before "sexy time" can happen. Once I trust this person and am comfortable, things usually are fine but there have been times where I had to bail on being intimate because I was nervous or uncomfortable. When this happens, it really freaks me out (i.e. insane emasculation).

Women of reddit, is my quirkiness about sex a dealbreaker? I have this image in my head that men are expected to treat sex like a dog after a squirrel, "Get it, get it, get it!!!". 

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<bot>: Want to start over again relationship wise. I am afraid of rejection because I typically don't do sex right after the bat and can get overly anxious if things don't work.