<human>: A little bit of background: "Alan" piloted a flight I was on a couple months ago. He took a few photos of my friends and I for us and texted them to me. We struck up a conversation that kept going until he invited me to fly with him again. After that we were an in person item pretty quick. The relationship is now about a month old. He's been divorced for two years.

Alan has three kids, the oldest boy is in Fourth Grade. He's super proud of his kids and has primary custody. He's that dad who actually digs the dance recitals and school plays. He doesn't want to introduce me as his "girlfriend" to the kids quite yet but he does want me to meet them and get to know them, so on Sunday he asked me to come with them Christmas tree hunting. I thought that might be a little too "family tradition" for a first meeting, but I agreed to stop over later while they were decorating. I brought my puppy with me and all three kids played with her and were super friendly toward me.

However, when Alan went to put them all to bed his oldest had a minor meltdown. He freaked a little on his dad and told him that I needed to go right away and that it wasn't okay for him (Alan) to have women friends at the house. This has thrown Alan for a small loop, as his boy has never seemed bothered by his mom dating and she has had several guys in her life whereas I'm the first "friend" Alan has introduced.

He wants his son and I to get to know each other, but neither of us are totally sure how I ought to "reach out." I'm hoping for a few good suggestions and perhaps some insight from those who have been there.

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<bot>: I'm (F32) dating a (M40) great guy with three kiddos - his oldest flipped a little when introduced to me. How do I get to know his son with minimum trauma to everyone involved?