<human>: My mother and I have always had a rocky relationship. She wants me a a bestfriend, and I'm an extremely private person. However, I have never been able to go for her for advice for anything as she has an extremely narrow set of view points, and me having anything outside of those view points will result in a repetitive string of screaming. She just cannot be told certain things for her own good. So I have learned to rely on myself and my boyfriend for advice.

However, in the recent years, she's wanted to know all my personal viewpoints and secrets. I used to give her small information in exchange for a temporary acceptance, but realized she started wanting more and more personal info so I stopped doing that.

These days, when I refuse her the information she wants ( ie : I saw you talking to (my) boyfriend's mother, what did you talk about), she get's extremely passive aggressive and will pull "clearly you don't care about me, you don't want a relationship with me. If you wanted to know anything personal about me, I would tell you. Do the same for me. (Her friends) daughter tells her mother anything her mother wants, that's normal" stunt.

I need to know a way to turn my mothers' request down with grace, so I'm able to walk away from the situation unscathed and she doesn't get the idea that "I don't care about her" and I'm not left on the receiving end of 2 days of passive aggressive nonsense.

Can you succinctly summarize the text in 1-3 sentences?
<bot>: Mother wants to know secrets/personal details. I learned a long time about it is best not to tell her anything along those lines. How do I gracefully turn her requests for personal information down? I want us to be civil.