<human>: My husband and I have been married for 18 years.  We are still married even though he has lived on the other side of the country from me for 1.5 years.  He is gay and has a boyfriend that he loves.  I now know that husband has been cheating on me for most of the 18 years of our marriage, struggles with codependency, and is a compulsive liar.  I've never cheated, never even flirted with other men because I was so happy to have a family.  

My problem now is that I find myself unable to move on in a healthy way.  I feel a lot of jealousy that I am not the person that he loves.  I swing from feelings of codependency on him to feelings of anger and that translates into me either begging him to come back (which is completely illogical) or me raging that I never want to hear from him again (which is not healthy for our two teen kids).  

I recognize that I need counseling help to get through my jealousy and codependency tendencies.  However, I have never seen a counselor/therapist/psychologist before so I don't know what type of counseling I need.  Am I looking for marriage/relationship counseling?  I'm not even sure where to start.  

If any of you have experience with counseling because of a failed relationship, can you guide me to the type of therapist that I should find?  Additionally, does anyone have experience with chat/Skype counseling where I work with a therapist through Skype?  

And yes, as a side note, even though my teen kids seem to be processing this change in a healthy, honest way, I am looking for gentle counseling for them too.

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<bot>: Gay husband has left me.  I can't move on and need counseling.  What type of therapist should I find?