<human>: We've been dating for around 10 months. He was a virgin, I was not. The sex has always been unsatisfying. He has only been able to come to orgasm with me once. Every other time he has had to finish himself (masturbate himself to orgasm). We started off using condoms, we no longer do that (I went on birth control). Despite the lack of orgasm, he still pressures me into 'risky sex,' as in, unprotected sex when I have told him that I've skipped a pill by accident. He knows my position on abortion (not in favor). He can no longer use condoms after going without.

He is pretty uninterested in bringing me to orgasm. I will only come to orgasm if he does oral. This is also the only way we can go without lube, if he does oral beforehand. He will lose his erection if he does this, and is often unable to regain it. We've gotten the closest to bringing him to orgasm this way, though, because I can alternate oral on him with sex. But he's most comfortable with giving me manual stimulation. He has never gotten the hang of that and it just makes me extremely uncomfortable.

He becomes extremely uncomfortable having sex for over 10-15 mins. He says he has to finish. He won't really give me a chance to bring him to orgasm myself.

Sex the way we currently do it leaves me extremely sore for a day or so. I know that it doesn't have to be this way.

I have had good sex before. We have 'basic chemistry' in that we get along and are very attracted to each other, but the sex life just isn't there.

How do I have 'the talk' that our lackluster sex life is becoming a major issue without putting even more pressure on him to come and rendering him more incapable of coming?

Could you distill the essence of the text into 1-3 sentences?
<bot>: Sex life is so bad I'm considering breaking up. How do I bring this up with him without worsening his performance anxiety?