<human>: Give me a shortened version of the text

Been debating posting this awhile so I'm curious what the female redditors/guys who have been in this position with some more life experience think.

Basically, the last 3-4 girls I have dated for a period of months I actually liked quite a bit, but they all ended for similar reasons: they claim that I'm a catch and they would want a long term relationship with me instead of a fling (and either they were moving away soon or were worried of my impending move as I end grad school). I consider myself a reasonably cool, nerdy, athletic guy with a great profession ahead of myself so I can see what they're saying and resigned myself that this was more of a good thing than bad thing.

After this weekend though, I have noticed that when I'm hooking up with girls they claim similar things and it is actually stopping me from getting any action or just hanging out on a casual basis. I'm not just interested in just wonton sexification, but I would prefer to hang out with girls who I actually like on a casual basis and maybe be a fwb instead of someone seen as relationship material.

So I guess my question is, am I doing something wrong/should my behavior change to be more...of an asshole? Is this actually a good thing that appears shitty due to multiple instances?
<bot>: Girls say I'm too much of a catch to date casually who can't get into serious relationships themselves; would rather at least be fwb than stop dating. Should I start being a jerk instead?