<human>: We are a long distance couple, we live 8 hours away and we met online. I love him, and I want to be with him forever, but I am at a point in my life where I need to plan out the next few years (because of school and graduate school). However, he is still at home, with his parents, without a job (never had one actually) and without a car, meaning I have to make the trip to see him every month. 

He wants me to go to school where he lives so we can live together, which I would be willing to do- just not there. It is in the middle of nowhere and there aren't many schools that I would be happy going to. And if we did end up breaking up and I was there, I know I would be miserable and alone. It would make more sense for him to move to my state and get a job in the city of whichever school I attend (there are a few options). 

Is it fair of me to ask him to move away from his *awesome* family, to get a job in a town that he will have a say in? 

How do I ask him what he even wants to do with his life, without sounding too harsh?

And I know I need to bring up the "what if we break up?" part of this all, but he will get defensive, has anyone else had a problem like this when discussing moving in together?

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<bot>: My boyfriend has no plans for his future and wants me to move in the middle of nowhere which could jeopardize my education and happiness if we broke up. How do I address these issues without him getting upset?