<human>: Can you provide a brief overview of the text?

I've gotten really good at ruining get togethers and events, at least between us. Some stupid thing I say will ruin the night at a ballgame, concert, etc. Just the other day, we went to a concert and had a great time despite me saying things that upset her. Looking back now, I wish I could have not said anything at all. I know that is really vague but it would be too much to go into detail. 

This kind of thing happens often enough to make me wonder is something wrong with me? Why is it I get so mad at her and then just say what I know will piss her off? I love the woman, she is my wife and we want to have kids, it just hasn't happened yet. I hate that I feel any hate toward her but it's the little things that make me mad, like how she sarcastically reminds me of something she told me that I forgot, or how she never seems to take the blame for anything. 

We recently ended an ongoing argument about one of my friends who would say things about her that she would say I don't defend her against, but that I know he doesn't actually feel that way. I would get crap from her for hanging out with him or wanting to stay friends and it nearly came to us breaking up (on her part) but now I am not friends with him and that has fixed things between her and I. Of course, he was one of a few friends I would hang out with without her so now, I have fewer options but at least she's not pissed off right? 

I've wondered if the problems were hers to work through but now I'm wondering if it's me and I need to suck it up and deal with things. We've talked about counseling but I've been slow to start anything. Now, I kind of think I should go on my own for a while, and see what I can work on. What do you think, Redditors?
<bot>: The wife and I have problems, not sure if it's her or me, but I tend to ruin activities because I'm mad at her.