<human>: Basically I'm in a situation where I put myself out there, I like to consider myself nice, I volunteer at battered womens' shelters and pay what you can restaurants. I was at one point #1 in the country for my age group when it came to BMX and I was a competitive gamer for a while (US top 100 for WoW). I was also a Peer Counselor for 2 years and helped tutor kids as part of this. No hygiene issues, and I've been told time and time again that I'm actually a fairly attractive person. I have friends, and I don't seem to have issues hooking up, but I really want to actually land a girlfriend at this point.

Basically I've only really connected with a girl once, and that was amazing. We dated for about 6 months, but we drifted because we started to have issues seeing each other. We're still great friends and I talk to her about a lot.

I want this to happen again, but the second that relationships start to form girls start to get rather distant. I'll often times wait out of sheer paranoia for them to text me rather than me text them and it'll often times go a couple of days before I decide to text them, and inevitably it ends up in the friend zone, or we just don't really talk anymore. A couple times I've gone on 1-3 dates with them and they just want to be friends, which is understandable as I can't expect every girl to want to flock straight to me, but I'd figure that with at least a few of them I'd see some sort of headway. 

Basically I want to know what I could do to possibly fix this.

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<bot>: I can't find a reason why girls don't want to date me. Hooking up isn't an issue, but I want something deeper than that. Anything that I may be able to improve upon?