<human>: Can you condense the text into a few key points?

At the beginning of the relationship I was still in the process of getting divorced. He said that he and his wife were separated but remained together for the sake of children and money.  Boyfriend works out of his home country and so is where I live for 2 months then home for 2 weeks.  They still own same house and that is where he stays when he is home.  They have two children 3 and 6 years old.  His wife knows about me and who I am, we had spoke on skype but because of language differences we could not really talk much,  After almost a year of dating I have grown restless from this situation and do not feel right about it.  The wife messaged me a few nights ago saying I am horrible and how they were happy before me.  He says she was just drunk and messaging out of anger.  This last time he was home he told me he talked to a  lawyer and started the divorce process.  I am partially unsure if I believe this. And even with this I am unsure if this relationship could ever be viable with such a start.  He says he is ready to spend his life with me, and months ago I would have been happy to hear all of this, however now after almost a year of this situation I am questioning if I was dumb for allowing it to go on this long.  Please help.
<bot>: Boyfriend of almost a year is still married, but says divorce is in process as of a month ago.  Was I dumb for staying in this situation?