<human>: Can you provide a brief rundown of the text in within 3 sentences?

Our daughter is a smart cookie - in fact she was speaking and counting numbers at 19 months. She can express herself very well for a kid her age, but when this girl gets into tantrum mode, it is a force of nature. I read about a lot of kids having tantrums that last 3 to 5 minutes and they pass -- our daughter's tantrums can go 30-45 minutes or more and they are Category 5 intense. We recently got her a "big girl" toddler bed and at the same time, maybe even mistakenly, we told her bubbies (pacifiers) went away with her crib, which we talked about for a couple weeks leading up to it. Before that, which was about 3 weeks ago, she had no problem sleeping through the night. Now she is up at least 3 times a night, every night wanting to come in bed with us, or going into full-on rage mode when she can't. As a consolation, I or my wife will lie down next to her bed in her room and rub her back for awhile, then, like a ninja we sneak out of there when she's on her way to la-la-land.- but it can take up to 30-40 minutes to get her mellow enough back in her bed and to that point.  We feel like it's completely unsafe to let her scream it out by herself, and when she gets into kicking mode, all of our neighbors are up (we live in a townhouse) and she kicks the walls, door in her room, whatever and it gets loud.

Is this just how it is? Is there any way to calm a child down quickly and make her feel comfortable in her own room?
<bot>: 11PM, 1AM & 4AM tantrums: We are physically and mentally exhausted from our strong-willed 2 year-old girl on week 3 of a paci-less night time and toddler bed.