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My wife and I are currently seeing help for relationship issues.  She is super critical, and controlling, and this is something she won't admit to.  The most I can get from her is that she admits to "not having a filter" when when she talks.

In a moment of weakness, I mentioned to my mother our marital issues, and she smiled, and said something that shocked me.  My family is afraid of her criticisms and her "help".  Then she mentioned my SIL, my oldest friend, and their families also have the same opinion.

What do I do with this information?  My marriage is in a tough spot, I want it to survive (we have two small children who need a strong family), but this is something my wife should know.  I don't know if our marriage in its current state can survive if I drop a bomb like this on her.
<bot>: Wife and I are having marital issues, and I come across important information that confirm my issues with my wife, but telling her would gut my wife, and maybe ruin our marriage.  Do I tell her?