<human>: No one thing jumps out, so I'm going to list a few.

- If he doesn't want to have sex, he thinks it's perfectly normal and I should respect that and never question it, even if it goes on for weeks at a time. If I don't want to have sex (like it's midnight and he wakes me up and I just want to sleep because I have to work in the morning - and I asked him at 10:00pm if he wanted to have sex and he said no), I am a horrible person for not satisfying his needs, and he responds by refusing to speak to me. (This is new and was not present when we dated for nearly 2 years).

- My money is "our" money, his money is "his" money. Lately he can't seem to hold down a job for very long, leaving me to pay bills. I'm broke and paycheck-to-paycheck now. Yet if he gets money, he immediately spends it. When I ask him to contribute, he says he will ... in a few weeks. When I ask for his work schedule, he's evasive.

- He will randomly leave in the middle of the night (like 1 a.m.) and think I don't notice, then give a really odd excuse. He's accused me of cheating, and said he "wouldn't be surprised if I had." Once he looked through my phone, but there's nothing there but my texts to him. 

- He says I visit my family too much. (Twice a week.)

- He's been very sarcastic, and likes to egg me on, or tell me something and later say "I never said that!" I try to calmly tell him he's upsetting me, and he just ridicules me. I suggested couples therapy, he'll alternately refuse or tell me to go by myself.

I used to love his company, but he's become so rude to me, I don't know what to do.

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<bot>: Husband is basically beating me down on a lot of fronts - emotionally, financially, etc. How do I deal with this?