<human>: My wife and I have several friend-couples we enjoy hanging out with. All are married, some have kids. Most of the time, we see them in large group settings like watching football or playing poker. My wife and I prefer to hang out with people in smaller settings, like just four of us having dinner or something. Other couples claim to want this too, often saying "we should hang out sometime!" to us as the football party/poker game breaks up.

Thing is, it's always us who call/email people to see if they want to hang out, and I do mean always. Not once in the last year or so have any of our friends initiated meeting up. The kid-free couples are no different than the couples who do have kids. The people we've known forever are no different than the people we just met a couple months ago.

We do end up hanging out with our friends, but only after **we** ask them if they want to hang out. Nobody ever asks us.

When we get together with people, we have shitloads of fun, with everyone saying "we should do this more often" as we're walking to our cars. But then... nothing. If my wife and I didn't make the calls and send the emails, we'd have no social life at all. We would really like it, and jump at the chance, if our friends asked us to hang out, but they never do. Never, and I'm not exaggerating.

I don't know what to think, and we (my wife and I) don't know what to do. We feel like we're annoying people by asking them if they'd like to go out without them ever asking us the same. We're wondering if our friends really like us as much as they claim to.

Is anyone else in this situation? Is anyone in the OPPOSITE situation, where you're always the invitees rather than the inviters?

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<bot>: my wife and I always invite our friends to do things, nobody ever invites us; should we take the hint or just roll with it?