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So for some background: I grew up in an emotionally and verbally abusive household. My mom would regularly call me names i.g. "shithead" and "slut" and more. I dated a guy who was verbally abusive in high school for a short time. Had a verbally and physically abusive relationship for 3 years after that one ended. I started therapy after we broke up. I am no longer with said therapist because I moved, and thought I was at an "okay" place mentally. I am aware that there is still work that I need to do with regards to how I gauge what's normal and what's abusive. 

Here's my current issue: I am dating a pretty great guy but occasionally he has taken to teasing me by name calling.  These things are not said in a contemptuous manner, but for obvious reasons, they hurt. He is aware of my past abuse. For an example of one of said "teasings", yesterday we were texting and asking each other how each others day were. He said, "having an off day. miss you." I responded with "aw how come?" to which his response was, "because I love you dummy!" He texted a few seconds later to say that he meant that in a playful and cute manner and that I am obviously not a "dummy." Another example would be from when we had a disagreement a few weeks ago. When we were done talking he told me to "c'mon, quit being a jerk" while trying to pull me in for a hug. Am I overreacting? I am terrified of being in an abusive relationship again. How should I bring this up to him if at all?
<bot>: Grew up in emotionally and verbally abusive home and now I am having trouble differentiating between what's abusive and what's not.