<human>: Today my boyfriend told me that I'm too nice and pamper him too much. He also said I need to focus on my own happiness. 

When I'm at his apartment I do tend to throw a load of clothes in the laundry or put dishes he leaves out in the dishwasher just to help him out since I know he is generally busy. Nothing ridiculous. He said that he does not need to be taken care of. I do things like this more just because I care about him and want to make his life easier.

I am happy, I just like being a nice girlfriend. When we first started dating I was more harsh and he said he "wasn't sure that I liked him." Now that he knows I adore him and the game is up, I think the relationship is less interesting for him. I am utterly confused as to where I should go from here.

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<bot>: Boyfriend says I do too many nice things for him and should focus on myself. What steps should I take now? I don't want to compromise the kind of partner I want to be in a relationship.