<human>: So this girl I am seeing I have worked with for 4 years. Never really talked or anything, but after one company party we ended up home together.  Decided to be FWB and both started to like each other so it worked out.  *I am leaving for a new job btw so working together isn't the issue.

So this is the first girl I have ever felt like I want to "go all out with." I have always been in relationships, 1st gf was 1.5 years, 2nd was 4 years and a few flings here or there.  The thing is she never really dated or wanted to when she was younger.  She has just been with a number of guys throughout her life and maybe dated for 2-3 weeks she said.  But I am the first guy she has ever felt this way about before and likes me a lot. I like her a lot too.

Anyway, in my past relationships I have always had that "one foot out the door mentality" i.e. I was always in control and was not worried about them leaving me ever.  However this girl doesn't "need" me. She wants to be with me and for some reason that scares me because I don't feel I'm in control.  I like her so much but this is legit the first girl I ever felt could hurt me.  And with that though it makes me think of all the guys she's been with and makes me wonder if she could do that to me one day?  I am not sure how to handle this feeling or if this rant even makes sense.  But if someone out there has experienced this before or something similar or any advice at all I would appreciate it.

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<bot>: I have always had "needy" gfs but new gf does not "need" me, she chooses to be with me and that scares me because I am not in control even though it's a much healthier relationship.