<human>: Hi, Reddit. Repost because I fucked up the ages and thought of a better title.

"Mon" and I have been together for three years, engaged for one year. She's a total sweetheart, we get along really well, and I can see myself being with her for a long time.

Mon was married for six years before she met me to a guy named "Kyle." Kyle died in a car accident a few years ago.

While Mon and I's relationship is great, she frequently calls me by her dead husband's name. Things like, "How was your day, Kyle?" or "Can you grab that for me, Kyle?" I'm pretty sure it's accidental, and she always apologizes for it and corrects herself, but it still makes me uncomfortable. She's also slipped up and called me by his name during sex.

I finally sat her down and told her that it was making me uncomfortable. She felt really bad (even started to cry) and promised to work on it, but told me she "still loves Kyle and always will." I don't know why, but that made me really unhappy. I told her so, and she told me that while she'll always love and remember Kyle, that doesn't affect her love for me. 

Is it unfair of me to want her to stop loving this guy? It rubs me the wrong way. She told me that it's not a competition and that she loves me, but it's just frustrating me.

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<bot>: Fiancee still loves her dead husband and calls me by his name frequently. I want her to stop loving him and move on.