<human>: Can you condense the text into a few key points?

We dated for 3 years and lived together for 2 (almost 3 now) years. I have a intense phobia that my SO gets irritated at rather than sympathize. Like most girls I hate bugs, but it's not really just a flail and scream "OMG! EWWW!" type of fear. I literally must flee the room and can't return until its out of sight. I seriously can't deal with them. All of my life, bugs/insects/whatever always come STRAIGHT FOR ME. In my fucking face. In my fucking ears. If I'm around them too long I will actually start crying. I'm being as serious as I can through text. I am terrified of bugs. 

I don't think he realizes how serious it is. We used to live in a cold area where bugs were rarely around. Now we live in Southern California and its a problem several times a week. Something will fucking fly inside here and I panic. And every time he's like "Seriously? C'mon" to me or "Jesus, calm down" or something that really makes me it seem like I'm doing it on purpose. Yeah, I just have this problem just to piss you off! We usually are great at communicating but how the hell do I get him to understand this isn't just some annoying girly thing I do that can be fixed like a bad habit? It's a minor problem to what's going on but sometimes that response just triggers more shit and I think getting this out of the way would be a start.
<bot>: I have a legitimate phobia of bugs/insects and my SO just thinks I'm being a typical whimpy girl and tells me to stop when I react.