<human>: I've (31m) been married to my wife (35f) for 9 years and it's not been all sunshine and rainbows. For 9 years my wife has her extreme yelling episodes where shit just hits the fan. They involve her yelling at me and bringing out everything I've been doing that has been bothering her for the past six months. Does this instead of talking to me. 
She yells at my kids (4&6) daily. Clean your room, get up, don't talk back, clean the house, you can't play outside with the other kids because you've played long enough. Everyday, this control over them happens everyday. 

Mind you she takes them to camp, cleans up after them, takes them to school, helps them with homework. She does it all and she is amazing. I leave to work at 6:30 and get home at 8pm. Before this we lived in an apartment and it was I'm not capable of getting us into a home and she needs to be the man. 

So now I make more than a doctor and have no time as a result of it. I get home and just want a break. She expects me to get home, clean the whole house, put the kids to sleep, discipline them for something they did that she won't let go of and then clean a little more. 

Granted I do play with the kids when they should be in bed, so they go to bed later than she'd like (but why does that make me a monster). And yes when they go to bed they still talk and are silly in their beds (they have bunk beds) . Yes at least two maybe three times a week I just come home, play with the kids, put them to bed and will veg out on a movie or game. 

Not sure what I'm asking, just venting maybe. Any advice or comments would sure be helpful.

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<bot>: I work 14 hours a day, wife always yells at me and kids and I'm not sure how to solve it.