<human>: I recently started dating a (so far) very sweet guy who is a fair amount older than I am. I don't see that as much of an issue, however, since we have a lot of the more important values, goals and interests in common. We met through a mutual friend [27M] who vouched for him, and we have a few friends in common but mostly run in different circles. 

Last night, I visited his house for the first time. He gave me a tour, I played with his dog, and we settled into cuddle position to play a video game. But this is where things get confusing. We'd only hugged before, and he finally outright asked me for a kiss. I was happy to, but soon his hands were everywhere and I was constantly saying 'I'm not ready', 'Can we take it slow', 'I need a break', ect. I'm sure my body language was more encouraging than my words were (I am most certainly attracted to him), but I kept pulling myself away and reiterating. He didn't want to listen, or let me go, and made it very clear he had the expectation that we should have been sleeping together.

I know that I am not the best at saying no to men when they push to have sex. Some men have been very good at making me feel guilty for saying 'not yet', and this has fast tracked me to abusive relationships (specifically my most most recent ex), and I am really trying to change my behavior. I want to wait to sleep with this guy because I'm not sure about him yet, and last night didn't clear anything up. I don't want to feel like I'm a cruel person for leaving someone... unfulfilled, but we've only known each other about 3 weeks. 

Am I being misleading? Am I waiting too long or being unfair? Is it reasonable for me to expect to just kiss and hang out for a while longer? I want to move forward with him, but now I feel like all I can do is plan dates where we're not alone together until I'm ready to go all the way. That seems a bit off to me, but I would really value some other insight.

Can you give me a shortened version of the text?
<bot>: Dating guy for 3 weeks and am trying to rectify his expectations for sex with my desire to build up a relationship prior.