<human>: I've always wanted a relationship, marriage and a family. I've put myself out there, I've dated a lot, but I just don't seem to be finding the right guy.  I've gone through therapy, and realized that I've dated lots of men that have problems with alcohol. It's good that I've realized that, but I'm still just emotionally burned out at the present moment, so I think that taking a break from dating is a good idea. My therapist said that I should just focus on my own interests, but to be very honest, I'm also a little anxious because a family and marriage is something that I do want, and that number "30" is kind of haunting me.  

I've come to think that maybe I need to focus on making myself happy.... Because if my happiness depends on a relationship, and I never get that, I don't want to be unhappy because of *that* reason, for the rest of my life, and miss out on the positives that life has to offer. I'm just not exactly sure how to make myself happy, when, my entire life, having someone else in my life IS what made me happy. that might sound pathetic, but it's the honest to god truth.

What are some words of advice that you could provide, about the pros of being in your 30s and single? Also, preferably that have nothing to do with spending time with friends (as the few that I have, are either in a relationship, or I don't have much in common with anymore, the older I get).... then again, maybe your advice will be to make new friends.... I'm open ears!

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<bot>: Finally in a healthy state of mind about future relationships, but I want to find my own happiness before entering into another relationship. What are some pros of being single and 30?