<human>: The topic has come up a couple of times but mostly in a joking manner and it has never been a serious discussion but I think it is getting to the point where we need to have a serious talk about it.  

Basically she refuses to have sex with the lights on and I prefer at least a small amount of light so I can see her, a bedside lamp is enough.  But everytime I try to bring it up or say something she is always like "its sooooo awkarddddd...." and I just dont get it.  To me it doesnt seem like it should be that big of a deal but she makes it out to be one and it is starting to wear down on me.  

I find myself pretty regularly unmotivated to have sex and looking at other women in a sexually way. She is incredibly beautiful and I enjoy everything about her but I find myself looking at other women in a sexual way because I am not getting the fulfillment I want with her. I want to talk to her about it but I dont know how to approach the conversation without making her feel insecure or something.

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<bot>: Is it normal for girls to refuse to do it with lights on (or even in the morning when its lightoutside) and how do I talk to her about how it is effecting me?