<human>: Can you condense the text into three sentences or less?

Brief Overview: Got married too young (OP: 20, Wife: 18) and spent first few years of marriage in military. Not perfect but as good as one could hope for. Traditional "roles" in the marriage. 

Got out, went home, started university and she got a job. Argue constantly. Wife begins to neglect home, pets, and lastly me. Sex life has never been great (she never initiated anything, dry spells last 3 weeks to 3 months) but worsens at this time.

Wife has affair with coworker while I am taking care of home, School, and working in the evening. Massive, epic fallout ensues.

Counseling happens. We arrive at a tentative peace. Still married.

Now I'm close to graduating and still don't trust my wife. I'll be getting a career job this summer and hopefully getting a decent home. She is *affectionate* but not very physical. I have great difficulty seeing her as the mother of my children...Being that I'm 26 now, I feel as if I've lost a good bit of time. We get along OK, but many times it feels platonic. 

I find my wife somewhat boring and don't feel like she's grown much as a person. She is awash in her emotions constantly, and it's nearly impossible to have an intelligent conversation with her. 9/10 conversations we have is about how she feels and nothing else! 

Are my expectations just too high? Am I being unrealistic in fantasizing about a confident, intuitive, and curious woman who likes personal growth (physical, and intellectual)?
<bot>: My wife cheated, I don't think she'll be a good mother, sex is rare, and I find her boring and difficult to have conversations with.