<human>: I live in America and I'm a citizen now, but I was born in Eastern Europe and my family (and extended family) has always been very conservative. I did not even kiss anyone till I was 19 by choice, and I wanted to marry young like every did in my culture and family. 

I would have been fine with that, but my ex of three years was getting too much to handle (whom I met at a chat site) that I had to break up with him. Before him I've never dated, in fact no one has ever really "dated" in my family. (Basically everyone marries the first guy / girl they find.) 

Now my attitude towards the whole thing is different (like I want to be in a relationship but not marry yet) however I feel like my old(?) culture is still having pulls on me. What I am doing now: I find most men online (OKC, POF, Tinder) though they usually are not what I am looking for. 

They are either very chaste or try to be very sexual. I don't like either extremes much. Finding men in reality seems to be very hard for me. I am kind of shy and awkward, and there are some cultural differences that don't translate well into American customs which might be an issue. 

Not sure if all Eastern Europeans are this way or it's just my very large and religious family. I've asked my mother's advice on this and she just wants me to settle with whoever comes my way and or "find a rich older dude and marry him". My father wants me to find a "nice church boy" but I am an atheist now. Sigh.

I go out often to dance, see comedy, bowl, etc. but I don't drink, smoke, nor do drugs. I've had bad experiences with addicts and I don't want to share my life with someone who participates in such things. Though people who like to go out and people who are straight edge don't seem to mix. 

Anyway, what can / should I do? How do I find men besides the internet and bars? I just graduated and I don't have a job yet.

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<bot>: Culturally Eastern European and conservative - ish. I don't know how to date the correct way it seems, and my own culture does not have a script at all for this.