<human>: Throwaway because some of my family members know my main account.

So I have been engaged to my wonderful fianceé for approximately 6 months, and we'll be getting married next year.

Recently my cousin who lives far awag away from where we lived got engaged as well! We were very excited and he will be getting married much sooner than us, in the summer of this year. My fianceé and I, and the rest of my family were invited to a small ceremony for the bride and groom along with the wedding, and also the rehearsal dinner the day before the wedding. I told my fianceé about the date and about the rehearsal dinner, and her initial reaction was very down. I asked what the issue was and she said that work would be problem for her, as the rehearsal dinner is on her last day of work (she works at a school). I asked when she was done on that Friday, and she told me she would be done at 630pm. She then said that after she was done at work, we could make the 9+ hour drive to the hotel the rest of my family is at. 

I responded that I was upset I would be the only family member missing the rehearsal dinner, and we wouldn't be arriving in town for the wedding until 3-4am the day of the wedding if we drove. I asked if there was any way that she could take the day off and she said no, and that we needed to come to a compromise on what we wanted to do for this wedding. I'm stumped, because I know my cousin will be upset if I can't make the rehearsal dinner and get a chance to talk with them (as their wedding day will be chaotic) so I'm unsure of what to do at this point.

Can you provide a brief rundown of the text in within 3 sentences?
<bot>: My fianceé can't take the day off of work for a rehearsal dinner, wants to go to the wedding but I'll miss the rehearsal dinner