<human>: so we have been talking about having a crack at this whole open relationship idea for about a year now.

 we both acknowledge that we love each other and cant imagine feeling the same way about anyone else, but we are occasionally attracted to others. and we think we feel secure enough to have an open relationship.

she sees it like "why would we stop something wonderful happening naturally?" we want the best for each other. seems strange to both of us that love means restricting and controlling the one you love.

but i feel that unfortunately society will not let us play this out the way we want. i.e sexism, she talks about it as if sex just magically happens, and maybe it does for her. in fact thats what im afraid of.

i've always had a hard time getting laid, and when i have its usually with the expectation from the girl that there is potential for a romantic relationship. thing is ive already got one of those and im happy with it. way i see it is my gf is a home cooked meal, which is great! but you cant eat at home every night, sometimes you gota treat yourself.

and i dont doubt she will have no problems doing that, but i dont believe i have the ability. i personally see this as a result of sexism, i.e all the guys will be keen to jump on that one night stand, but the girls wont (because of some messed up social hang up about being percieved as "slutty").

 so basicallly she is offering me the ideal love life but i feel i will end up not gaining much, while she gains everything.
which is not just a lack of a positive but also could screw what we already have.

what should i do?

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<bot>: open relationship on the cards, but im afraid i dont have the game to actually get anything out of it. will probably end up jealous with an inferiority complex. But i want it so bad!