<human>: So I spent a few years in the foster home system as an adolescent. There was no sexual abuse but my memories of that time still aren't pleasant. That's about as much as I've discussed the issue with my fiancee. I don't really think about that part of my life anymore, and really don't care to. That happened and it's done. I've thought about it plenty and taken from it what I could. I'm just interested in focusing on my future, family, work, etc...

I feel like, I don't want to get married and one day have her ask me what such and such what like or how I spent my time or what were the people around me like during that time. I was thinking of bringing it up with her right now and pretty much explaining how I feel the same way as I'm writing it, I guess. And that, if she wanted to think of anything she might want to ask me or know about, to do that now rather than later.

I understand how impractical a request that is because that's not how curiosity works at all. But at the same time, I kind want to convey/spell out to her the option she has: a) that I'd rather let this part of my past die and she has the choice to get on board with that or b) continue our lives like usual and address such situations as they come up (if they ever do).

The real desire is to ask her if she's interested in not inquiring at all. Short of that would be to attempt to get "get it out of the way now." Regardless, it's not any kind of dealbreaker--I'm perfectly happy moving forward in marrying her and I'm completely accepting of any of her future behavior regarding this. Just thought to ask or bring to the table what my personal wish was. Not sure if I'm doing it a good way though.

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<bot>: Should I ask my fiancee that I don't ever want to discuss a certain part of my past again, or leave it alone?