<human>: On my birthday my in laws came to stay with me and my husband for a few weeks. They literally arrived on my birthday and knowing them I knew they would be too tired to do anything so I went to stay with my parents (two hours away) for a week so I could celebrate and so my husband could have time with his parents. They knew this was going to happen ahead of time and I spent most of my birthday with my in laws, plus before I left i went with them to stores to get what they needed for their stay. When I came back everything was reorganized, some of my pans/pots were ruined, the walls were painted different colors, and furniture moved into different places. I tried to shrug this off and help but was yelled at for being in the way. I am extremely upset by this but my husband feels I am overreacting that this should of been viewed as present.

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<bot>: left for a week and came back to a reorganized house furniture moved and walls painted different colors without my input. When I tried to help was told I was in the way.