<human>: On the surface, this may seem like an esoteric question, but I've given it a lot of thought, so posting here for second opinions.

In a nutshell, my question is this: 

I love my wife more than anything, and she is a totally awesome person, and a fantastic Mom to our two kids, and everyone we know loves her.  But day to day I can't help feeling like there is a lack of connection between us, many times.  She shows little interest in my day to day stuff, doesn't give much feedback on ideas and things I bring up for discussion.  Basically, it's almost like we're roommates.

And so I feel stuck.  On the one hand, it seems possible that I'm too needy and maybe my idea of connection is either not normal or not practical.  On the other hand, perhaps my wife is in fact distant and she just struggles to connect with me in the ways I need.

I should make clear that I have shared all these concerns with her, but she didn't seem to understand the issues I raised (lack of connection).

Any thoughts / ideas would be much appreciated.

Also, in order to avoid walls of text, have kept it brief.  If you have questions about specifics, please ask.  I am sincerely interested in hearing other opinions.

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<bot>: I'm married to a great wife / mom to my kids - but lacking a feeling of connection between us.  Is it me or is it her?