<human>: I'm not sure if this is the right sub for this but anyway. Essentially, I've been single for six years now. I've moved locations and in the past I didn't have much of a desire for a relationship, however, new location is very much geared towards more of a family oriented lifestyle and it's sort of rekindled the desire again or perhaps it's just loneliness. 

A little background, I was married fairly young at 18. At a time when I could barely speak English and was made fun of such, I met her at 15, and basically she was the first kind soul I really encountered. We were close friends and I married her when I legally could. We had eight years together before she passed away. 

I've never been naturally social or outgoing or any of those things. I am for my career, but that's very much an act. I deal heavily with clients and execs, and ultimately it leads to a number of social work related outings. But it's never natural, or really comfortable. I'm sure there is some level of social anxiety there. I think it's also worth well noting that I've never really had some extensive dating history. I knew who I wanted right away. So really, I don't know a damn thing about dating, and probably would be really awkward.

Anyway, for the most part I'm looking for insights really, especially from anyone that's been in a similar situation. I've largely been very much okay being single, I've never really felt too lonely. I'm well aware of what I would need to do to meet people here (Activities / sports / clubs etc.). I did give online dating a try, but all in all, I'd say I'm fairly average in terms of looks and frankly it feels like a massive time sink when you are average. I pretty much welcome any advice and insights. Thanks!

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<bot>: Married young. Took a long time to recover. What are the first steps when you didn't even really date to begin with.