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Hello Reddit, Reusing a throwaway and posting from mobile. My girlfriend and I both have leases that will be ending in February which is prime time for somewhat decent rental specials in the DC apartment market. We are very happy together and excited to further our relationship and spend more time together by finding our own place. My girlfriend is one of those type-a overachievers and likes to organize and color code. She also does a lot of tele-meetings/grantwriting for a charity when she isn't at her full time job. I am a total slob and work full time/grad school full time and tend to use my space as a crash pad and football watching space with friends on Sunday . We both make the same amount of money.

The conflict: She insists that she must have her own space with a door so that she can be compulsive,express herself and work without stuff being moved around. She believes that the relationship will take a nosedive if she doesn't have her own space and we will fight all of the time. She is pretty much always at my place now with no issues so I do not understand where she is coming from and am offended by it. She compares it to a man cave. As I understand it the point of a man cave is to have a space where you can do man shit by yourself and decorate with beer cans. I get home later than she does so she would have 2 hours a day to herself and I would let her decorate the entire apartment however she wants and do as much woman shit as she wants (she has better furniture anyway). I feel like that should be enough.

 The housing in DC is insanely expensive and living in a 2 bedroom would mean spending 40% of my income on rent or moving to a neighboring suburb which I do not want to do. She is holding firm and says that she will keep paying for her apartment until we are both willing/ can afford to pay for a larger space together. I don't think this is reasonable and am trying to understand her perspective. Is she stalling? being unreasonable? unable to cohabitate?
<bot>: Want to move in with gf, she won't do it unless she can have her own space to work/color code in. DC is too expensive for that shit.  any compromises? perspective? is she being unreasonable?