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Hi Reddit.  I'm 29f, boyfriend is 30m.  We have lived together for four years.  Anytime I get sick, it just doesn't seem to register with him.  He behaves like it's any other day.  Household duties still fall onto me even though we both work fulltime (another issue for another day), he doesn't seem to have any nurturing instinct at all.  My job requires a doctor's note for sick days for paid leave, and when he woke up this morning after I had been up the entire night sick with a fever, body aches, chills, etc., and I told him I was going to stay home, the first thing out of his mouth was "are you going to get a doctor's note?"  No "what's wrong?" or "how are you feeling?"  I didn't disturb him the entire night because I knew he'd be working today and wanted him to get a good night's sleep even though I really could have used his help.  

When he gets sick, it's a totally different story.  I'm a nurturer, so I usually run out to the market, buy fresh veggies, and make soups/natural remedies that I know will help him.  I don't expect the same level of attention, but a little concern would be nice!  A girlfriend of mine tells me this is just the way men are.  Is she right?  He's a wonderful partner and I love him so much, but it's the same cycle over and over again: I get sick, he shows little compassion, I get angry, he promises to be better.  It never changes.
<bot>: I get sick, boyfriend doesn't care.  He gets sick, I nurture him back to health.  Why does this keep happening?