<human>: Hey all, so I've been with an amazing girl for just under a year.  We both love music, wine and good food, we seem to have a fair bit in common.  A large portion of our first year together has been evenings sitting down drinking a few bottles of red, smoking cigarettes, listening to music, cooking, eating and generally talking shit.

As much as I love what we've done for the last year, it clearly is not a healthy or sustainable lifestyle and I'm wanting to change my (our) lifestyle.  I've stopped smoking, I'm no longer wanting to spend an evening drinking wine (i will every now and then, but not as frequently as we have in the past).  I'd rather go to a beach for an evening swim (it's summer here) or go for a walk/bike ride.

It's evident to me that my GF is still wanting to stick with the same lifestyle.  I find myself getting frustrated and resentment is building, and it's only been 2 weeks !?!?!

She said last night she will not change herself for anyone, or change her lifestyle for anyone as she wants to live the life she wants to lead.  This I find a little hard to take as she talks about our relationship frequently as a team and speaks of team work between us.  Also when she found out about my porn habit   shortly into the start of our relationship I made big changes in my lifestyle to help us, so it wouldn't be a factor.

Have anyone of you out there wanted to go through a lifestyle change but your partner has resisted the change?

Can you give me a shortened version of the text?
<bot>: I'm wanting a lifestyle change (stop smoking, more active), my partner seems resistant and it's causing a rift.