<human>: So, my boyfriend, Tom, and I have been together for about a year, and it's usually pretty great!  This is less of a problem with our relationship than it is with me not being the best SO that I could be.  We come from slightly different backgrounds (his family is more well-off and being outdoorsy, he's pretty partial to expensive sports) but I really do enjoy that we can share our hobbies with one another!  

My issue is that Tom is gone a lot more than I am. Sometimes it's for work, sometimes it's for recreation, but he's probably gone at least two weekends plus several weekdays during a month.  This leads to me wanting to spend as much time as possible with him when we're both available (though that's not always that much, due to conflicting schedules) whereas he needs time to himself.  

I'm working on being more involved with things in the community, because I know I should have more of a life outside Tom.  But I also need help stepping back and making sure my love for him is healthy.  Recently, he wanted to spend time with some friends instead of watching a movie.  He didn't communicate this well, which we talked about, but when I got to my house, I couldn't help but feel like a loser girlfriend.  I *know* this isn't good, but I don't know how to change my mindset from *if we're spending time together all is well but if we're not, then he obviously must not love me anymore*.  So there's that.

Can you succinctly summarize the text in 1-3 sentences?
<bot>: My boyfriend is great but I have big issues with feeling unloved when he's gone, which I know isn't rational.  How do I become better at giving him the space he needs, and being okay with it?