<human>: Married 7 years, 3 kids. We're both working out and in the best shape of our lives. I don't really know why I'm using a thowaway account for this question.  I guess I'm just embarrassed that I have to ask it. 

How do I encourage my wife to be more enthusiastic in the sack? She's typically a very generous lover... but she definitely lacks enthusiasm. 

I do my best to compliment her on her looks, I tell her how hot she is, make it a point to kiss her where she likes to be kissed, etc. The only time she REALLY comes out of her shell is when she's drunk, and I don't drink anymore. 

It's honestly gotten to the point where I've said, "Can you just act the way you do when you're plastered?" She just laughs, and then proceeds to be a deer in headlights.  Even when she gets on top, it's a very reserved and shy kind of sex. 

I know this is a stupid complaint and I should just be happy that we're happily married, but I feel like I'm doing something totally wrong and I feel awful about it. Or that my libido is just too much for her and it's going to cause more problems in the future.

Please help?

Can you give me a shortened version of the text?
<bot>: Wife is only enthusiastic during sex when drunk, would like that to be all the time though.  Seeking advice to help that along.