<human>: Ok, I don't know if this sub is the best place for this, but there's a dating flair so I hope it is.

There's this girl I've had a sort of crush since high school, and we've been good friends since, but I still have some feelings for her but I don't even know what are they, I've had them for so long that I think they look more like infatuation. Ugh.

Anyway, she had a rough childhood and she just recently told me she dated a 41 year old guy. Well that guy has been pestering her for about a year to go on a date with him, and have done creepy stuff like looking for her address (they are coworkers) and basically going to stalk her, and shady shit like that.

But she still ended up with him. And that's not the first time she does that. The last guy (24) she dated pestered her for months and even threatened to quit college if she stopped talking to him, but they ended up together for about 2 years.

*Now the important part: I know I shouldn't judge her or be offended or anything.* Those are her choices and I have to respect them, but still it pains me that she does that, that she lets any scumbag in her life if they pester her enough, no matter how shady and shitty they are.

How do I stop that from bothering me? I told her what I thought about that, but she just regretted telling me because "she knew how would I react". Well of course you knew because you are doing something stupid! Ugh.

I know she doesn't have feelings for me, we kissed about 3 years ago but nothing came out of it (except me with a big broken heart) but, does that means that if I ask her and pester her enough about it she'll end up with me?

Why do some girls do that? I knew this girl in Germany and we sort of hit it off but there was this asshole Italian guy that pissed her off so much she once screamed at him to leave her alone, and BAM 3 weeks later they are together.

wat do

Can you condense the text into a few key points?
<bot>: Girl lets anyone in her life if they pester her enough, no matter how shitty they are. This bothers me, even though it shouldn't I gues.