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So as stated above I have been with my boyfriend for about two years and our relationship is rocky but I have grown to understand that the hardships make you stronger, that is if you can move past it. 

I have an upcoming birthday which I am always excited about but I'm pretty sure that we aren't doing anything of significance. He has a track record for not being the most romantic person for which is understandable because you can't force men to be in the first place. It's taken him awhile to even remember my actual birth-date (also not good with dates ex: feb 14) but he's actually leaving town the weekend before my birthday to celebrate a close friends birthday in San Francisco. He wasn't given much notice so I couldn't request the day off as well so it looks as though I won't be able to make the trip. Mind you at this time we are being very skimpy when it comes to spending any money i.e. not going out on dates in all forms and a lot more cooking at home and such. He's slowly getting more money from school so he has some wiggle room to spend it here or there. So obviously he went out and bought himself some clothes for the upcoming adventures and I'm sure he's about to blow who knows the amount of money it costs at the bars in SF. One last side note was that I joked about them possibly going out to a strip club and he joked offhandedly that they are nice there. We are semi open-ish so him not needing my approval is expected. 

some questions I have are: Do I come off as selfish and/or am I getting worked up over nothing? Should I just try and make plans for what to do for my birthday since I'm sure he won't take the reigns and plan something for me?
<bot>: I feel like my boyfriend is spending frivolously on himself when he doesn't have much to spare and my birthday is coming up with no plans for what we are doing.