<human>: My mom has been heavy since she was in her 30s but I'm 21 and shes been obese all my life. She is a type 2 diabetic and doesn't take her diet seriously at all. She has tried numerous diets and gives up on them after a few days. I see her sneak extra servings at supper and she snacks all the time. I'm not sure of shes depressed at this point but she has tried seeing a therpist in the past and quickly gave up on it.  

On top of her health she goes to work at 6am and gets back at 5 and every weekend I come home the house is an absolute mess with dirty dishes everywhere and no fresh food in the house. She says its because shes tired after work and can't always do both but I don't think that's an excuse. She also has my father to help but neither of them seem to care and I feel uncomfortable staying in such a filthy place. 

I tried talking about these issues with her a couple times in the past but immediately gets defensive or makes excuses. I don't know what to do but I'm angry that shes eating herself to death. I want her to meet her grandchildren if I decide to have kids one day. She doesn't care about herself at all and deep down I get embarrassed when she keeps eating plates of food in public. I know thats harsh but she wasn't the best role model growing up but since I've become an adult I learned to eat healthy and lost a lot of weight and I find time to clean around a busy schedule.

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<bot>: My mother is completely letting herself go and eating herself sick as well as living in gross conditions. What can I do to help her want to help herself?