<human>: I'm 34m. Her 33f. Together 3 years, living in our house for 2. We had "the chat". She asked if we plan to have **kids in the next 2 years**. I said "**I can't guarantee that without sorting out our problems.**"

She's devastated. She said "well, you can't give me what I want." So that kinda means it's over. She called me a heartless coward for letting relationship continue, that **I wasted 3 years** of her life, that I've shattered her **dreams** of having a family. That I have unrealistic expectations of her.

The problems between us (for me) are that **she's a yeller** when she's upset or uses a tone that leads me feeling like I'm a dog being told to sit. The other problem is that **she's never apologised** to me for anything. This is because our problems are my fault.

**Are these unrealistic expectations?**

I feel like a horrible person for not giving her what she wants. **Especially at our age.** Now I feel like vomiting at my desk at work. Should I suck it up, grow some balls and start a family despite reservations?

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<bot>: We broke up because I can't guarantee kids without us first working out our problems. She's devastated and now I feel like vomiting. What should I do?*