<human>: My boyfriend and I are starting to talk about marriage, and one thing that came up is that neither of us likes the traditional "one person proposes to another" ritual, not least because we're gay, but we do think it would be meaningful to think up a proposal (or a different ritual to replace a proposal) that feels more mutual, like something we're both doing together.

A bit of quick googling gave me a few ideas, which ranged from interestingly symmetric (each presenting the other a piece of broken in half jewelry) to kinda silly (finding a third party to propose us to each other), but I feel like there must be people out there who have done this or thought about this.

So, does anyone have ideas for proposals (or some similar ritual in place of a proposal) that are more mutual than the traditional "one person proposes to the other" model? They don't have to be perfectly symmetrical (i.e. each of us can be doing different things). I'd love to hear from anyone who's actually done something like this, but I'd also appreciate any brainstorming help that anyone can give me. Thank you in advance!

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<bot>: My boyfriend and I are thinking of getting engaged, and are looking for ideas for both of us can propose, rather than picking one person to propose to the other.