<human>: Give me the gist of the text in a nutshell

So, me and my boyfriend (he's 22) have been together for 7 months. We are going to be long distance for about a month and a half. He wants to videotape us having sex, and I don't want to.
He says he wants the videos so that he can have stuff to remember me by while we're apart...but he has also been bringing up the videos for a few months, even when we weren't long distance. What complicates all fo this is that, originally, I said yes to the videotapes. Then I realized "holy sh*t..my future." I talked to him about it, and deleted them. 

He feels hurt that I deleted them, and hurt that I don't want to make more. I've offered a compromise of doing a video, but without my face in it, so no one who accidentally saw it could recognize me.He still isn't happy with that. He asks why I don't want to: I say it's because of the risks, that if someone saw the video, it would be humiliating, not to mention if the video somehow got out. He says it won't get out- but the thing is..you never know, and I just feel like it's a very high risk to take? I'm just not comfortable with the idea of it. I've heard stories of women's careers being ruined over sex tapes. 

I also don't like the attitude he takes to me saying no. For example, we were about to have sex, he asked if he could video, I said no, and he then refused sex. He has done this about 3 times. And when I deleted the videos he refused to do anything physical with me beyond a small kiss on the lips and wouldn't say "I love you" for 2 days.  
What do you all think?
<bot>: boyfriend wants sex tapes, i don't want to do them, i want to know if i'm being irrational.