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Some context to the question:  I have a twin brother (I am also male); we were close as close can be growing up.  I have always taken care of him b/c he can't be assertive and stand up for himself.

We are now 28-years-old.  I have a daughter and a wife; he recently got a good job as a programmer and is still with his boyfriend of 6 years.

He is also miserable, an alcoholic, terrible with money, and unhappy in his relationship.  No matter what advice he gets, he won't do anything to rectify his situation b/c he's scared of change.

I am tired as hell of him or his boyfriend calling me and telling me about them fighting, hating life, doing incredibly stupid things (let's take in two young adults who don't have jobs even though we can barely pay the bills) and overall making my days shit b/c I care about him.

I am ready to tell him to not bother talking to me or seeing until he ditches the alcohol and gets off his ass to improve his life.  Is this a good idea or am I being an asshole?
<bot>: brother constantly shares his misery with me and ruins my days b/c of his stupid decisions, should I tell him to screw off until he cleans up his act?