<human>: We've been dating for 2 years now and have recently been having the 'relationship talk' and figuring out where we're going in life. We spoke about marriage and kids and we were on the same page about most things until the topic of surnames came up.

The problem here is he believes there is no point to marriage if I'm not going to take his last name. I on the other hand appreciate that there are many social, legal and financial benefits to marriage and if I'm going to spend the rest of my life with someone I'd like that extra level of commitment.

Neither of us are in a rush to get married and if he told me he never wants to get married then I'd be somewhat understanding. What I don't understand is his condition to get married. Everything up until this point in my life, accounts, my degree, etc. has been under my name and I feel as if I'd be losing a part of my identity by changing it. 

We've discussed other options, he's open to hyphenation but it'd feel the same as changing my surname completely. He is not open to taking my surname. We don't want kids but I've agreed if we ever changed our mind I would be happy for them to take his last name.

I have explained to him the significance of my name to my personal identity and the ties it has to my family, but he just doesn't seem to understand. Basically, he thinks I'm being unreasonable and I think he's being unreasonably. Can I get some outside perspective here?

Can you condense the text into a few key points?
<bot>: Boyfriend won't marry someone unless they take his last name. I would like to marry him if things keep going the way they are, but I want to keep my last name.