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My husband and I have been married a year, dated about 6 before that. We've lived together for about 3 years now.

I'm hoping for some suggestions for us to help manage household and other tasks together given that he has ADHD. He is being actively treated, but my main lingering issue is a lack of ability to pull his weight in household chores. I underdtand this is common in ADHD relationships, and he genuinely means well and wants to help, the follow through just isn't there.

Typically, for regular things like dishes, trash, general picking up, etc., my tolerance for letting it build up is less than his. He knows this, but has motivation issues and trouble remembering when I ask him to do things to actually do them. He always wants to do them later, but doesn't typically follow through and do them without multiple reminders from me, which makes me feel like a nag. Some times, I'll end up just doing myself out of frustration.

We've talked about this several times, but our unfortunate current cycle seems to be me getting past my limit, getting upset, and him taking care of things because I'm upset. This a) doesn't solve the underlying issue and therefore doesn't really diffuse me being upset entirely and b) makes me feel guilty for getting that upset about something that isn't ultimately a big deal.

We both work full time and similar hours, and have similar levels of obligations outside of work. Because I am better at getting things done, I do the majority of getting things done around the house between finances, paperwork, and day to day picking up. However, I don't like doing this stuff any more than he does, hate nagging him to do it, and wish I had more regular help doing some of that work without me having to initiate getting help.

I'm hoping some other couples where one partner is ADHD can share some tips or systems you've come up with to make things around the house work without frustration for either party.
<bot>: husband has ADHD; ideas for managing housework to keep me from bearing the brunt of it just due to being able to better remember and complete tasks?