<human>: I don't mean this to be insulting or like I think I'm better than my BF, I don't at all. I simply am wondering how to know if your SO is "the one", so to speak, in spite of the little annoyances that pop up in any relationship. 

Background: I (28F) have been with my boyfriend (29M) for just over a year now, and I recently moved into his apartment. Things between us are generally very good: we were friends for a few years before dating, love each other very much, have great sex, have the same general plans for the future regarding kids, location, etc. 

However, like any relationship, there are definitely ways in which we are different that cause minor rifts in our relationship. For example, he is very good at communicating when he is upset, whereas I am much more closed off and still working on being 100% open with my feelings. I had some pretty bad trauma in my previous relationship, which I know is the source of this, and I've gotten much better at this since we've been dating, but I know it is a source of frustration for him when we get into disagreements. On my end, I am much more affectionate and "lovey" than he is. I like to do little chores for him around the house, write him notes, buy him little treats as a surprise, etc. He knows this kind of affection is important to me, and he has gotten much better at doing this as well since we started dating. 

I guess I'm just wondering, when is it worth it to think that we should just break up so he can find someone who has his preferred communication style and I can find someone who loves to express affection like I do? I feel like a traitor even saying this, because we DO love each other greatly. And I know all relationships take work, but I guess my question is, how much is too much work in day o day life?

Can you give me a shortened version of the text?
<bot>: Boyfriend and I differ in a few ways, makes relationship more "difficult", when to know if we should break up and find someone more similar in those key areas?