<human>: Hello. I hoped someone here might be able to give me a little advice or share experiences on how to move forward when you get back together with a long term romantic partner after a separation; namely, how do you let go of the hurtful things that were said in the past? I love my partner and want to let go of my anxieties and my pain, but there are times throughout the day when I find myself dwelling on hurtful things we said to each other. This is someone I want to spend my life with, and I'm already looking into counseling to improve my communication and address things about myself I'd like to change.

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<bot>: When two people (late 20s) make the decision to give their relationship (4+ years) another shot instead of abandoning it, how do they go about letting the old hurt go?