<human>: She's got a PhD. I enlisted in the military, and am newly civilian (two years) and am attending college for an engineering degree while I work full time. I make good money, I have my own place, I have a car, some savings, etc. Her parents paid for school, her car, etc. They're rich, my family is not. I've had to work for things,  she did too but in a different way (12 years of higher education)

She's met my family, who live in the area. She used to talk about me visiting her family with her in the fall/winter. When the time came to start looking at tickets, she said that she wanted to go alone, and that it was too soon. She was very apologetic and afraid of hurting my feelings, but just said she didn't want to spring me on them so quickly.

Plans fell through and she won't be going to visit them, but her mom sent her a message saying that she would be coming to visit later this year. The next time I came over to her place, a bunch of stuff of mine was hidden and put away (there is now only one towel hanging on the rack, for instance). She says it was because her landlord would need to fix something. It still kind of stings because I think it's in preparation for her mom visiting in a couple months.

She constantly makes comments about our future together, even though it's early. It makes me think there's some sort of disconnect here.

So, my question is this: Is this a red flag? Is it too early to be worrying about meeting parents, or is this a sign that she's ashamed of me?

Few additional contextual items: She's Asian, I'm white. I've met a ton of her friends, so that makes me think maybe she's not exactly ashamed of me. Also, she's had very few boyfriends and apparently none of them has gone with her to visit her parents before. (Writing that makes me wonder if it's just her.)

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<bot>: Girlfriend does some things that make me think she's ashamed of me, others that make me think she is not. Not sure what to believe.