<human>: Give me the gist of the text in a nutshell

First of all, I'm sorry if this isn't appropriate for this subreddit. I just stumbled upon it from /r/raisedbynarcissists and thought it'd be a good place to get a few general questions answered. 

I'm 23F, approximately 5'7" and 185#, Caucasian, allergic to sulfa-class drugs.

As I stated in the title, my mother has what she calls white coat syndrome - basically she's afraid of doctors. I'd rather make a separate post on RBN about what I believe is possibly narcissistic behavior, but it has little relevance to this post other than I rarely went to a doctor because of her.... and now I have no idea what to do.

I've told my sister-in-law that I've never had a pap smear (what is that even??) and she looked at me like I was crazy. From what I hear, there are certain exams that women are supposed to have at certain ages, but I'm not sure what these are or when I was supposed to have them (because, surely I've missed them by now?)

I have no idea about costs, about figuring out how to pick a regular doctor, or a gynecologist (I need one, right?) Or just... anything. 

And I'm terrified because... I want to have kids one day. I don't want to miss important hospital check ups or... whatever because I wasn't exposed to it growing up and just didn't know. 

Also, sorry for the formatting (I'm on mobile) and for the rambling (I'm just starting to accept that my mother is probably a narcissist and it's really bothering me).
<bot>: mother has white coat syndrome, as a result, I've missed important medical milestones and check ups and have no idea how to go about figuring out what I've missed or finding a doctor or... pretty much anything medical.