<human>: I'm 28, unmarried but I have had a few long-term relationships and I've been with my current girlfriend for a little over 18 months.

I've noticed a disturbing trend as my friends and I get older, get married, have children etc. The guys are constantly being harassed and treated like children by their wives and girlfriends. The poor guys can't even have a beer without the wife telling them not to get drunk, can't even answer a text without having to answer a bunch questions about who they're texting, can't fire up the grill without being "reminded" to wash their hands before they touch food, can't even take a shit in their own house without being asked where they've been when they come back 10 minutes later. Lately, my girlfriend has started doing some of the same stuff that the wives do, and I'm worried, because I can't deal with being treated that way.

I and most of my friends are ex-military and have been on our own all around the country and all around the world. We also all have professional jobs and achieved high incomes at a young age. These women have nothing to worry about in life, and half of them don't even have jobs, but they're constantly busting my friends' balls about petty bullshit.

Is this just how the majority of women are? Is it just them? Is it just us, bringing it on ourselves somehow?? What is the deal?

Could you distill the essence of the text into 1-3 sentences?
<bot>: Basically I want to know if women in general think that men in general need to be told what to do, or if it's just the women that I happen to be around.