<human>: Can you condense the text into a few key points?

Hello r/relationships. This is probably a bit different from most of the problems here, but I'm at a bit of a loss as to how to improve this, and I do think it has an impact on the way people view me.

My mother has always said that I was born without a volume dial. By this she means that I've always talked too loud, and seem incapable at turning my voice down to a normal volume when talking to people, particularly when I get excited about something. I've been told numerous times by my brothers and parents to talk quieter, and that I'm talking louder than they are in public places. My boyfriend has agreed that I speak loud sometimes, I've even heard my family tell me that people where I work have sometimes remarked that I'm louder than usual.

The only problem is, I'm not sure if it's because I'm so used to my own voice, but I can't even tell I'm doing this. Someone will talk to me, I'll respond back in what I hear and believe myself to be the same volume as them… and then get told off for talking loud. It makes me so confused, but I've had enough people tell me to quieten down that I know that it's a problem, even if I've never been able to notice it myself. Call me delusional, maybe I am, but I honestly can't tell the difference between someone I'm talking with talking at a 'normal' volume, and me talking 'louder' than them. We both sound the same to me.

I'm not sure what to do about this. I want to improve, being told this so many times makes me feel like a downright embarrassment. But I don't know how, and I don't even know when I'm doing it! But this has been going on all my life, and I really don't want this to carry on into the future, and continue to make things awkward to people just because I can't turn my voice down. So any advice, or even personal experiences, would be greatly appreciated. :)
<bot>: I talk too loud and can't tell that I do it - to me I seem to talk at a normal volume. What can I do to stop this?