<human>: For some background: my BF is an Iraq veteran who came back from overseas with more than his share of issues from both the war and serving before DADT was repealed. When he first came back, he drank too much and had a lot of sex with a lot of different men. Thankfully he didn't catch anything, found a therapist, is dealing with his issues, etc. It hasn't been easy but we're actually quite happy together. His friends have said on more than one occasion that they're relieved to see him doing better.

His family is great and have been very supportive and welcoming regarding our relationship. Except for the "jokes" they make about us during family gatherings. He's been with a number of men whom he fell hard for and later dumped him with the longest one lasting about four months. His parents make snide remarks about whether or not they should risk getting too attached to me knowing their son is a "serial monogamist". 

I get that this might be a defense mechanism because nobody wants to see their son self-destruct but it's worn me down steadily. After one "hey, you're still here!" too many during Thanksgiving dinner last night, it finally broke me. I "jokingly" told them how "funny" I thought it was that they neglected their middle child so much that he denied his own sexuality (he did during his teenage years but I believe his parents would have been okay with it), joined the army to try and make his father proud (his dad is way cooler than that and wouldn't put conditions on his pride), and then made him feel so out of place when he returned that he turned to sex to deal with his problems (sort of true but also unfair to his parents). Lots of sarcastic finger "quotes" included.

The evening never really recovered after that.

To whom do I apologize first?

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<bot>: Boyfriend has a promiscuous past and I got tired of his own family refusing to let him forget it. What do i do?