<human>: I am (f) 37 yo. Coming out of a 13 year marriage, together a total of 16 years. I am in a good place, we have a healthy/friendly "friendship" for the sake of our kids...and honestly, for my own peace of mind, too.

So I'm re-entering the dating scene....cautiously and curiously. My concern is this - and please don't take any offense, men, I think its a legitimate concern (for men AND women) considering the number of divorces happening in my age group these days...my concern is how possible / likely is it I will meet someone who possesses the qualities I am looking for in a partner who doesn't have crazy baggage accompanying him?

Although I'm fairly new in the dating arena (again) I've seen enough to know that its going to be a lot HARDER this time around simply because I now have children to consider. On top of that I'm older as are my prospective mates out there, and they likely have their share of history / baggage that will make finding a match even more difficult.

ON the flip side, I am thrilled to be where I am today, "older and wiser" and more whole as a person. I know myself, love myself, and know I am a great person who deserves someone equally great. SO I know not to settle, I have a good head on my shoulders. I know I'm fun, friendly, adventurous, etc...I'm just waiting to catch someone's eye.

My downfall: I'm painfully shy when it comes to initiating conversations with men, making the first move, etc. I'd rather be pursued/approached first by him. So am I missing out on some amazing opportunities to meet great people? Potentially...sadly, I am still in a bit of a vulnerable place and simply just don't want to be turned down. So I don't even try...

SO...what are the chances for a girl like me, to meet someone who intrigues me, makes me laugh, shares similar values, who will also accept my kids and hopefully not have some psychotic ex or bratty kids?

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<bot>: 37 yo divorced mom of 3, re-entering dating scene, worried I won't meet someone with the qualities I am looking for - how do I get there?