<human>: I need guidance on what I am supposed to feel, not break up/make up advice so I am giving very little background. 

My long distance boyfriend has just told me, a month before we were supposed to close the distance with me moving across continents to live with him, that he has been cheating on me with a friend of his who has been living with him for the last three months and that she got pregnant. She is considering an abortion (her own reasons, not because of me) but I don't know how sure that is because he is not sharing his feelings and experience with me. He claims he doesn't want to be in a relationship with her and still wants to be with me, which I am OK with child or not, but I am feeling very confused right now:

Am I selfish to think he should share his feelings, and what he is going through, with me to show that he wants and can let me back into his life or should I keep out of this entirely? If they keep the child, I will need to be included somehow, will that come later or should we discuss it now? 

Am I allowed to feel sad and betrayed and in need of comfort when they are going through this huge thing together or should I get over myself already?

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<bot>: boyfriend got another girl pregnant,  she is possibly getting an abortion, I don't know how to deal with conflicting feelings of betrayal and guilt.