<human>: Can you condense the text into a few key points?

Throwaway to prevent ID by friends/fam.

I'll try and make this quick.  I have been seeing two guys for the past year.  40M isn't very affectionate or emotionally supportive.  Yet every time he calls, texts, or I see him it's like I'm in a trance.  

35M is open-hearted, kind, helpful, sensitive, caring, loving, loyal and giving of himself.  I like him and know he would make a good husband/father but there are just no fireworks.  I would honestly love to feel the intense way I do for 40M, but it just isn't there.  

The biggest difference between the two is that 40M is dominant and I love it. I feel like the best version of myself when I'm with him.  I'm an ambitious, accomplished woman in my own right but he inspires me to set my goals even higher to be on par with him.  35M makes me feel like even if I decided to be complacent in life and not maximize my potential, it would be A-OK.  He just wants the wife, the house, the kids and the white picket fence.  Obviously I'm at that age where it's time to sh*t or get off the pot.  35M wants marriage, now, 40M wants a long term partnership but not marriage (unless with an iron-clad prenup).  35M seems like the smart option; he will be there for me no matter what. 40M I'm not so sure.  

What say you, Reddit?
<bot>: Why doesn't the guy I know makes for good husband/father material make me feel like the guy who isn't? Am I the problem here?