<human>: Can you condense the text into three sentences or less?

My husband and I are still very much in love, and our relationship feels perfect pretty much all of the time...until we have conflict.
 A small disagreement will sometimes take a normal happy day, and turn it into a huge blowout fight. We have incredible difficulty communicating with each other and seeing the other's point of view. We yell, curse, and cry. This happens maybe twice a month, but it takes us several days to recover from a fight. It feels abnormal to me. I've had other relationships before and arguing to this extent was never an issue, but I have also never cared as deeply for another person as I do my husband. In the grand scheme of life, I know our three year relationship is still new. Are huge arguments over little things normal? And in your experience, do things get better as you are together longer? 
I am especially curious what those who have very long term relationships have been through. When we fight, it feels like the end. However, when we aren't arguing, we are strong, solid, and nothing can come between us.
<bot>: I fear our arguments are killing an otherwise happy relationship. Are we headed towards the end? Or is this something all couples go through