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I'm in a relationship where one partner has lots of debt and the other is debt free.

I'm the debt free BF who makes 50k a year and feels like a dick when I don't plan on taking my GF with me on awesome vacations.

The only reason I am debt free today (it was a huge battle) was not going on vacations until now.  Lifelong dreams of trips to europe and tokyo are spurr of the moment decisions now and it feels great.  However, i have a loving girlfriend who would need massive subsidies to go with me.  I feel like that is a huge compromise and that people would look at me like an asshole for leaving her behind.

I'm looking for advice for both parties.  Things you would tell her if she asked "I have tons of debt and my BF loves to travel.  What should I do?"

Would the advice to her be "if he can't bring you with, fuck him" or "why doesn't he help you with your debt instead?"  To which my response would be, "Why should i pay for her?" and "Why pay debt that isn't mine?"

I struggle with this concept even when applied to married couples, but it makes hella sense to not pay out for a GF, no matter how much I love her.

I am having trouble keeping this cohesive because there is such a mix of emotion and fiscal responsibility that it makes it difficult.  I guess I would just really like some anecdotes and various approaches others have taken.
<bot>: GF has 50k in debt, i have none and want to travel.  Need advice on how to not be a dick.