<human>: Give me the gist of the text in a nutshell

Hello, 

I feel a bit silly turning to Reddit for help for what I think is an extremely silly problem, but I have nowhere else to turn. 

OK, first, my girlfriend is from Europe and I met her studying abroad about a year and a half ago. We've been doing pretty well doing a long distance thing and have seen each other every few months or so. 

So she's in New York for an internship and I am in NC living with my parents (I graduated and am still looking for a job). So I've interviewed in NYC and seen her and she was recently here for Thanksgiving. She wanted to spend Christmas with me and had assumed that she could be with my parents and my brothers here. 

My parents don't mind her but they are hesitant to have her over for Christmas. My dad likes Xmas as a really private thing for our close family and since he doesn't really know her that well and he would like to be reunited with his sons (my other brothers don't live in state). 

She is staying with a family that she has known for awhile and she is super offended that my parents don't want her over. So she thinks that my parents hate her (which I don't think is true) and she has taken it very personally and now wants me to leave my family and see her in NYC. I don't get what everyone's deal is (why do my parents insist on not having her over & why does she make this some sort of ultimatum on our relationship?). 

As for me, I don't really have any personal cash to go and visit her. My parents wouldn't mind if I went to see her for New Years but she insists that she needs me ON Christmas Day because she will be away from her real family and will be lonely. 

So Reddit, what should I do? How do I save my relationship but also not hurt my parents?
<bot>: My parents don't want my foreign girlfriend over for Christmas and my gf wants me to ditch my family for her.