<human>: Could you distill the essence of the text into 1-3 sentences?

I have been divorced for 2.5 years, my girlfriend for 14 years. I met her shortly after my divorce was final. Just fell into it. My kids are still under 18. Hers are all adult, with the youngest being a HS graduate 18 living at home. Her ex passed away 9 years ago and it has caused issues of course for the younger 2 of her kids. 

We have a great time together being active, etc. However, I can't really even go to her house when he is there. He does not like that his mother is dating and in the past he has done things like break drywall. She indulges him and admits to me that she goes overboard because of what happened with her ex passing away. He recently got an OWI and she is all full of angst and depressed about it. Her response is to give him rides to work, etc. She will probably foot the bill for his lawyer too.

My instincts are telling me that this will always be a problem and I should consider moving on. Its hard because I like her a lot, but its hard to see a future for us together. We both agree we want to go slow and are in no hurry to marry or move in together. My kids have no issue with me dating and she has been over with them many times. My ex and I have a civil relationship. 

Am I being hasty? Or do you feel that this will never end with her son? I guess I have been hoping he will grow up and move along. When I was 18 I didn't really care what my parents were doing. Am I being naive?
<bot>: My girlfriend of 2 years seems to be unable or unwilling to move forward because of her 18 year old son who still lives at home and does not like her dating.