<human>: We started dating about 3 months ago and overall, the relationship has been good and things have gotten pretty serious. She's one of the kindest people I know. I could write a laundry list of reasons why I should feel more emotionally/romantically attached to her than I actually do. It's nothing about the relationship itself that makes me unhappy -- she's truly a great person, we get along well, I'm physically attracted to her, we share the same values, she's got a great family, etc. 

It just seems to me that no matter how many reasons I find to fall in love with her, my emotions are always a few steps behind. I'm not totally happy in the relationship because I can't figure out how I feel, but I think that I'd be even more unhappy if we were to break up. I don't know whether to have a serious conversation with her about it, to just give myself some time to process everything, or where I should go from here. Am I being selfish? Am I just emotionally exhausted? Any insight that you'd like to offer?

Can you give me the gist of the text in a nutshell?
<bot>: I'm struggling to love one of the most lovable people I've ever met and it keeps me awake at night.