<human>: Can you succinctly summarize the text in 1-3 sentences?

I normally keep to very honest monogamous relationships that are pretty much 50/50 on the financial front.  The problem I'm having is that my family disagrees (as is common I'm sure) with how I choose to date.  I'm wondering if anyone has any advice and also if what I've been told is as extreme as I think it is.

Their view is that unless the guy drives you everywhere, pays for everything, and basically waits on you hand and foot, then he's taking you for granted. I'm living at home since I just graduated, so I know that until I can move out there's little I can do to avoid it.

My mom encourages me to be a manipulative player, telling me I shouldn't tie myself down to one person until marriage.  This means I should date a few people at a time in an open relationship scenario and just make sure that no one finds out.  I should also try to get them to pay whenever possible, and it should be all about them being essentially desperate to spend time with me.  This should not decrease over time, but instead he should be even more willing to pay for all dating-related expenses as time goes on.

I've always prided myself on being low-maintenance and very independent, but they constantly criticize my willingness to meet people halfway.  I feel that this is just how the nature of relationships has changed, but it does make me start to wonder at times if I am indeed being too much of a doormat.  I do feel like offering to pay as a female too often has led to lowered expectations in my most recent relationship, but I'll talk more about details on request.
<bot>: My family thinks guys won't respect me because I don't make them jump through hoops in a relationship.  It's a constant argument.