<human>: Can you succinctly summarize the text in 1-3 sentences?

Well to begin, my fiance and I want to have a more intimate BBQ type wedding reception with only close friends and family.  Today we talked to his parents about our plans for our reception and his mom wants to invite all of her friends and all of the people from the weddings that they have attended.  She pretty much says that she owes them and that they have to come.  We want to only have about 75 people come.  With the amount of people she wants to add to the guest list it would be around 125 people.  I absolutely hate being the center of attention and have some social anxiety and it would completely ruin my whole day to be in front of that many strangers.  We also don't want to spend most of out night making sure these people we've never met are entertained.

Money. They offered to help pay for the wedding, but only under a bunch of their stipulations.  At this point my fiance is probably going to tell them we do not want to accept their money. 

How do we deal with her and still have our dream wedding?
<bot>: MIL wants to invite everyone to our intimate wedding and reception. Social anxiety and personal wants will make our day not as good as we want.