<human>: So my ex and I had a pretty rocky relationship the last 2 years after his parents got divorced in July 2012. But we were determined to make it work because we loved each other and had a great natural connection. Things changed last summer (August 2013) when out of absolutely no where he dumped me and I found out he was talking to another girl in the days after we broke up. I was crushed, but being naive I tried relentlessly to get him back until he reluctantly agreed. 

We had a good few days but started fighting again and after that we decided we should break up again... for good. Unfortunately, after 2 weeks he texted me again and I ran back to him. We continued to have a friends with benefits thing starting in about January-July of this year. 

We had many discussions on why we were doing it, what our futures would be like, and why we should just stop but we never did... we just couldn't stay away from each other. Then, mid-July he just abruptly stopped texting me and talking to me and completely ignored me at all costs. I go on his facebook today and of course, he has a new girlfriend. And this is after he had told me that he only would love me, he wouldn't even look for anything for a long time, he didn't think anyone would ever love him the way he is. Apparently... that's not true.

My heart just sunk upon learning this and of course I'm a mix of miserable, upset, pissed, and jealous. My question is... how can I learn to let this go? And more so I need tips on self-confidence. I just have never been very confident in myself and am pretty shy, I just want to be more open and less self-conscious. 

Feels good to get this all out, thanks to anyone who reads and helps ahead of time :)

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<bot>: My ex moved on way faster than I anticipated and it's killing me. How do I become more self-confident and less self-conscious so I can find someone too?