<human>: So the back story is here basically: 

We haven't talked since then, like its been 0 contact and I feel like I've done well to not break that, haven't got a clue how easy she has found but probably easier than me. 

Anyway its my birthday today and she messaged me to wish me and I replied but I really didn't want to go back to messaging her again and messing it all up and emotions with it. So I just kept my input to a minimum but it seems she doesn't really get the hint. I'm still not over her, even though I feel like everyday is progress. Do I just stop talking to her and ignore her or tell her again that I'd prefer more time without contact? I don't want to come across as a dick to her because everyone is entitled to stopping a relationship for various reasons but doesn't make it particularly easy on the other person when you get blind sided like I did...

Can you condense the text into a few key points?
<bot>: Ex messaged me on bday after about a month of 0 contact but still not over her, ignore or politely remind? Or even start talking again?