<human>: Hello Reddit,

As I said, my GF is buying a house. She wants me to move in with her, but I have very little to contribute financially. I live with my parents rent free (they have never hinted at me paying rent/moving out) as currently all the money I make goes towards school.

I do want to live with my GF, but fear that our relationship dynamic could be affected negatively. She has expressed that items of mine I want to bring into the house need her approval, but items she brings in don't require mine. I understand her wanting control as it her name on the mortgage, but I do not want to potentially sacrifice my possessions and the freedom that comes with deciding how I want to decorate my own space. Anyways, our taste in decoration is not very different.

She has told me that the house will be ours, and it doesn't matter that I can't contribute much financially now because when we have children in the future, the situation will be reversed. I find this statement hypocritical because the house will not be ours if she has final say on what enters the building. Yes, it is in her name, but how can she say it's ours if she has control? It feels like she would be a landlord.

I don't need to move in with her. Given what she's said I might prefer to wait until I'm making money that can go towards the mortgage so I'm not making decisions simply because I feel bad that she's spent all this money and I've done nothing.

I really do want to move in with her, but I don't want to lose control over my personal space. However, I am not saying I am beyond compromise.

Also, I think she would be insulted if I didn't move in with her. I don't think that would be a huge deal, but it would potentially do something negative to our relationship.

What are some of your thoughts?

Thanks.

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<bot>: Live with my parents rent free. GF wants me to move in with her rent free (until I start my career). Her place will be 'ours.' Her definition of ours is hers.