<human>: Summarize the given text in a few sentences.

Hey,

So I'm trying to be a better person.  I've never had a good relationship with my parents, but especially with my mother.  Long story short, I felt like I was used while growing up as my mother wanted to live vicariously through me.

Anyways, at 26, this past has caught up to me and is causing issues.  Basically it's become 'baggage' that I need to get rid of.  I know I need to forgive, but that is extremely hard.  I'm taking baby steps and am also working with a therapist.  My mom's coming in town for some unrelated business and has reached out to me to see if I want to grab lunch.  I haven't responded yet.

I think this is a really good opportunity to move in the right direction except I'm freaking out.  I really have no idea what I would talk about with her and the last thing I want to do is revist the past.  Unfortunately, I don't think she has yet realized there are certain things that I don't like talking about.  But it's been a while and I should probably give it ago.  Everything I'm feeling is telling me to avoid the situation but I don't think that'll help me grow.  So I'm gonna to at least reach out and maybe set up something simple, lunch or tea.

Any advice on how to approach this situation?  Like how should I proceed with this lunch?  Keep in mind we don't really have anything in common and the so called 'common' thing (aka path of life that she wanted me to live) is also the thing that drives us apart.  I know it's inevitable that she will talk about it because fortunately I have a younger brother she can live vicariously through and so I think we will be talking about him.  And she's actually visiting to help him out with that thing.

Bottom line is, I don't feel ready.  But I need to do this so I can grow.
<bot>: Never had a good relationship with mother and want to reconcile and create a better life for myself.  Would like some advice on how to proceed.