<human>: Okay so I have this friend that I've known for nearly 20 years, she's always been wild, crazy, loyal and lots of fun and I love her to bits. Over that time obviously lots has changed, we're all scattered all over the world, we're not all married with kids but mainly we've just grown up. The last 7 yrs her and I have lived in different countries, which is a blessing, whenever we do see each other I'm done after a few days as she can just be a bit full on.
Anyway about a year ago I started notice massive changes in her, with our time difference we speak her night/my morning, shes on wine and me on coffee, that aside, all our convos she's really self righteous and quite delusional. It's basically just ranting, her telling me what I should do in my life, even when there's no actual problem, she sort of invents one or repeating to me what she told her other friends what they should be doing etc. For ages I just ignored it all as drunken carry on but now I've just realised that she's a serious mess. Through a bit of digging I learned all of her friends have abandoned her, her family is barely there, she's drinking a lot, all the time. I didn't do any of that behind her back, I just asked her in an around about way. The last few times I insisted we spoke during non drinking hours and she's exactly the same sober. So the other day I brought it up with her, but not exactly directly, I brought up a convo we had where she was ranting at me and explained how out of line it was and suggested that maybe the drink or something else emotional is going on with her to carry on that way. Well, she flipped. We're still friends but she did explain it all away, basically she's perfect and I've a bit of a nerve to be bring it up. Anybody ever have any ideas to help someone when you're far away?

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<bot>: I'm pretty sure my friends an alcoholic or has serious mental issues but I'm not in the same country to be able to give hands on help, any ideas?