<human>: Could you distill the essence of the text into 1-3 sentences?

Hello Parents,
My husband and I have a two and half year old boy.  Last month we started him in a new school (Toddler room at a preschool).  Overall, he is doing well with the transition, but as everyone warned us, drop offs and pick ups can get very emotional.  He cries in the morning for drop off, but the teachers say he settles down quickly once we leave.

At pick up he is happy to see us, but also very sensitive.  The smallest thing can set him off and send him into a crying spell, or a tantrum, as my husband sees it.  For example, we get home and give him dinner...he decides he doesn't like his spoon and melts down. 

I think these reactions are normal for a toddler making a big transition.  When he gets home, it's as if he then remembers we've been away from him all day and he gets upset again.  I think he needs a lot of affection, tenderness, attention during these episodes.  My husband thinks I am coddling, and that he should be put in his room for a time out until he stops crying.

He has only been in the new school for a few weeks.  All the teachers and other parents said it would take some time for the adjustment.

But this difference in opinion is causing tension in my marriage.  Instead of working together, we are working against each other.  Any advice?  Good books we should read?  Should we try some family counseling?  Any help is appreciated.
<bot>: When my son has meltdowns I want to hug and comfort him but my husband wants to give him time outs.  Is there a right answer?