<human>: Both my husband and I have ADHD. However our travels in life have of course due to different backgrounds have caused different symptoms and behaviours but now it's starting to get to the point where my husband's Adhd and his attitude is destroying things.

He was diagnosed at first as a child but then was not on medication for many years, so like many people diagnosed as an adult his issues have caused depression and anxiety but also anger. He just rages, and often randomly without any warning. Something little can cause his frustrations to spill over and boom. Broken stuff in loungeroom floor and him not listening to word I am saying.
In the last few years, its gotten worse. His adhd has worsened so much and it doesn't help that his depression is bad right now and refuses to get the help he needs.
He has also recently done some very very stupid things in our relationship that has caused a huge rift between us and he doesn't realise or care that I am healing right now and that I had to make my priorities our son and my uni work.

I understand the anger, I have experienced it as well, however either through social conditioning or a better understanding of my own mental illnesses I have never been as explosive as him.

I am standing up for myself and I still want this relationship to work but how can I make him understand that regardless of other people's actions he is responsible for his reactions. He is blaming everyone but himself at the moment for everything and its driving me mad. He thinks he will never change and will always be a prisoner of his adhd when I know for a fact that is not true. I work at it everyday to soothe my symptoms and my adhd is jsut as severe as his. He is a typical "adhd excuser" and he doesnt like that I dont accept that.

Does anybody else rage out? what can I do?

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<bot>: Adhd sucks and my husband his its prisoner and he is destroying our marriage. And without him I cannot continue my uni course or parent our son.