<human>: Can you condense the text into three sentences or less?

so I (21F) broke up with my abusive ex almost a year ago. we were together for almost 3 years and he was emotionally, mentally and physically abusive after 3 months of being together.
I finally had the courage to leave him after an incident at a friend's party last Feb. 

well I've been happy since the breakup, even though I'm not completely over it yet. but my family won't stop making fun of me for being abused.

my grandpa often makes jokes about beating me up worse than my ex did if I don't listen. my sister likes to throw it in my face and say it's my fault that it happened. my dad made a comment saying he knows why my ex hit me, when he got angry with me. and now my step dad doesn't listen to what I have to say because he says I'm just an abused woman.

it hurts me very much and I let them know it hurts me and not to bring it up. because that relationship made a big impact on me. I just don't know what to do. sorry I'm just blabbing about it. I just need some advice on how to not let this affect me so much and how to move on from this ordeal. don't know how to get over the abusive relationship. scared I won't be able to have a healthy relationship now because of this. 

I think about the abuse often and I can't help but think I deserved this.
<bot>: need advice on how to deal with family bringing up me being abused by ex. and don't know how to get over the abusive relationship.