<human>: So we just moved away to college, 3000 miles from home and are in the vicinity of NYC. I have an on campus job and make around $200 a month, he does not have a job. We've been together for a little over 3 years now, and we've been through things like this before, bu this time is different.

It has been ages since we did anything noce together that he planned. He did prom with me, but only because I told him that I wanted him to plan it, and I didn't want to have any part of it.
I left organizing our annaversary (oct 1) to him, but he flaked and I took over about a week before it happened. 

I have explicitly told him that I want him to do nice things with me, like buy underwear for me, and make me/take me to nice things, but he doesn't do anything, even when I offer to foot the bill.

I just miss the cute romantic things we used to do together and he used to do for me. I don't think its a bad sign for our relationship, but I do want to help him get to the right conclusion if I can.

I just want to make sure I'm doing everything I can. Is it because he just doesn't want to? or because he can't plan (I'm usually the planner).
I will do anything to help him.

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<bot>: My BF doesn't do sweet things for me anymore. Is it because he doesn't want to spend money? how can I get him to?