<human>: Could you distill the essence of the text into 1-3 sentences?

4 years ago I ended an emotionally abuse relationship, where my girlfriend at the time was constantly cheating on me while I was on business trips.

I think my whole mindset on relationships have changed, and no matter how understanding and supporting of my insecurities my new girlfriends are, I still am a jealous person.

I'm always asking where they are, how many guys are there, if they are being hit on, who is hitting on them etc.  And it's hurting development of my newest relationship and I want it to stop.  I can already see her pushing away (it's been 3 months)

Before the cheating I was very laid back and not the jealous type at all, and now today I feel like a monster sometimes.  Do you have any advice on how I can curve these feelings I'm having?
<bot>: me being cheated on is haunting my new relationships by me asking too many jealous type questions all the time, and I want to stop.