<human>: My soon to be ex-wife and I have a 1.5 year old daughter. Were separating and I'm having a really hard time with this sudden fear that my wife wont be capable of taking care of my daughter and will make bad choices in her life without my consent.

Were still working through the custody portion of the separation but my lawyer has told me that I should expect joint custody and likely to only see her every other weekend with a few weekdays sprinkled in between. This absolutely crushed me, and actually made me stay for a while longer than I should have.

My wife and her mother both have pretty terrible OCD and anxiety and they let it rule their life. My wife will only drive on certain roads in our town and has never driven outside of it. She cleans constantly, its priority number one. If the baby is screaming, cleaning comes first. My mother-in-law is just a loose cannon, think of all the worst possible traits of a mother-in-law and she has them. She once told my 6 year old nephew that she was going to lock him in the basement and chop his head off... for fun.

So I have some concerns about the type of people shes going to be spending most of her time around. Specifically since I dont think my wife will be able to live on her own and will likely move in with her parents.

Lastly, my even larger concern is that I was an anomaly in my wife's dating resume. She tends to gravitate towards people with criminal backgrounds, people who are abusive and people who use her.

I feel so helpless....

Can you give me a shortened version of the text?
<bot>: Getting a divorce, joint custody, wife makes bad choices, has some mental illness, how do you deal with the fear of something bad happening?