<human>: I broke up with my SO of 9 months after realizing that there wasn't enough balance in our relationship. I have a very rigorous work/life balance but always initiated conversations and made moves to see each other. I never felt that he was plugged in to my schedule or made any effort to accommodate it despite his having a much more relaxed work/life balance. 

We did not share a lot of big interests with each other and our communication styles were very different. I was very open and honest about what I felt and I never really got comforted or consoled when I was sad/angry about our issues. If he made a mistake and I brought it up, in a nice or angry way, the conversation became about his anger at himself and I never got to feel like my feelings mattered.

To add further complication, I tried extremely hard to work with a personal health issue that he suffered from but I believe it led me to spread myself too thin and him to resent me for being involved like that even though he always said I helped ease it through my involvement. I never felt deeply appreciated or cared for in the same way in return.

He did not want to break up and believes that we were on a path to him understanding me better. He agrees that I understand him more than he understands me but we've had the same time to get to know each other?

How long am I supposed to wait for us to get to each others levels and/or did I do the right thing by seeing the red flags of long term resentment building between us?

Could you distill the essence of the text into 1-3 sentences?
<bot>: just having a tough time processing a break up, need advice from people who might have been in the same situation of feeling like me/him