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After 6 years my boyfriend and I broke up on Monday. This was following several years of what I viewed as very serious depression on his end. He ended up having an emotional affair, which was the ultimate cause of our breakup. He told me that he just felt like it was so easy to talk to this other woman, which turned into flirting which turned into basically a relationship without physical cheating.

We still live together (I moved 400 miles away to stay with him 2 years ago, and I have no where to go at the moment), we no longer sleep in the same room. I would like to try and work things out. 

Since Monday we've spent every evening talking, and it's actually been fantastic. It's the most communicating we've done in YEARS. This wasn't from lack of trying on my part, he just always clammed up. Since we've been communicating and enjoying time together, he's been reminded of WHY we were together in the first place, so he, while scared, hopes to work things out too.

He's been in therapy for 6 months (something he hid from me until about a month ago) and went in for an emergency session on Wednesday. The therapist said that he had an obvious fear of intimacy. After googling the issue, this basically describes where 99% of our relationship issues come from. That's why now that we have the label of being a "couple" off of us he can suddenly open up to me.

My issue is that when he pulls back, I almost feel the need to overcompensate and I become overbearing. This makes him feel trapped, so he pulls back even more. This is something I'm trying to work on. I'm currently in therapy and we've been talking about this there. 

Has anyone else had a partner who has dealt with a fear of intimacy? Do you suffer from it yourself and have any tips? I'm just looking for ways to support him without making him feel trapped.
<bot>: My now-ex has a fear of intimacy, we're both hoping to work on this issue and get back together. How do I support him and not make him feel like I'm being overbearing?