<human>: I had a realization the other day when the guy I'd been dating started calling me fat and ugly (not true) because I wanted to end things.    I seem to attract very mean spirited people in my life and it seems to be getting worse the older i get ( in my 30's now)

 I speak to people how I want to be spoken to,  I treat my friends like the precious beings they are.. I put my younger siblings before me (we lost our parents early on).  Im open with people about things i've been through just to have them throw it in my face later.   I know a lot of people are not self aware and its always been important to me that i am,  so i pay attention to my actions,  and i know that i dont deserve the treatment i've been getting from those around me.

its not that i even let them do it.  i cut toxic people out pretty quickly.   but why do they consistently act toxic towards me?    i am outspoken,  certainly not a pushover.  i stand by my convictions,  i dont bend to anyone's whim.    and i respect individuality more than anyone i personally know.    

Its getting worse.  I've been being brave and dating recently and every single person i've met has been horrible to me.   I just dont understand why this keeps happening and what I can do to change it.

Can you condense the text into a few key points?
<bot>: im a nice person who doesnt take shit from people but keeps finding people who just wanna shit on me.   help.