<human>: Can you give me the gist of the text in a nutshell?

I'll try keep this short. Husband and I [both 31] met about 10 years ago. He had a friend he was a FWB with before we started going out. I didn't have a problem with this at all! The problem I had is that she was obvious about her dislike for me. She'd talk badly about me to her friends (sometimes within earshot of me) and to people who were friends with me. I don't know if she realized I was friends with them as well or if she was trying to win them to her side. 

I can't deny that I gave him an ultimatum. I don't feel I was malicious or manipulative, but I'm very biased. I told him that I could be in his life or she could. One way or the other. He chose me and we've been together ever since. We married 5 years ago. 

Ten years and two kids later, he's been bringing her up again. Comments were made over the years about wishing he handled it differently, but it has been different over the last couple weeks. 

I don't remember the context of the conversation this came up in (maybe we heard an old song she liked), he mentioned that he didn't understand what the big deal was. Why I made "such a fuss." Then, two days ago, I mentioned wanting to not hang out with someone because I didn't like their behavior in a certain situation and he brought her up again. "I stopped talk to [her] because YOU told me to." For the record, I wasn't asking him to not speak to this other friend, I was just saying that I may stay home the next time they hang out. 

I don't know where to go from here. I'm hurt and don't know how to make it better. Putting it all out like this, I know I sound really controlling, but I want help and advice. Give it to me straight.
<bot>: asked husband to go no contact with a former FWB who didn't like me. He did as I asked but is still bitter about it after 10 years.