<human>: My wife and I have two children, 2 year 9mo girl and 9mo boy. Recently (about 4-5 months ago) my daughter has become very difficult around bedtime. Before this time we would take her to her room, read one or two books, cover her up, kiss, goodnight, and that was it. Now, we take her to bed and she tries every trick in the book to stall. When we finally get her down, she wants us to read book after book after book. Then, when we get past the books she will demand that we rub her back until she's asleep. If we don't do any of these things she immediately goes into tantrum mode. Sometimes it's bad enough that she's kick, punch, scratch and bite until she's too tired to fight anymore. Last night was particularly bad. She tried to change her PJs (stalling tactic), and I had to physically restrain her for about 10 minutes until she stopped freaking out. 

In addition to the trouble getting her to go to sleep, she also comes in our room several times per night. Sometimes we're too tired to get her back in her room. Other times one of us will walk her back to her bed and she's usually too tired to argue. 

What should we do? We're trying to avoid the meltdowns while also being strong parents with stern, yet reasonable expectations.

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<bot>: 2y9m daughter wont go to bed peacefully anymore. Comes in our room multiple times a night. Need to find a workable solution to avoid the fighting and make bedtime easier and peaceful for everyone.