<human>: Can you condense the text into three sentences or less?

I am unhappy, husband is a chronic liar, porn addict, lazy, uninvolved, basically he wants a family but doesn't want to put in the work or sacrifice. I have dealt with his lies, low-effort and constant seeking of other female attention and porn addiction for far too long. Any time I brought up separating or a break he manages to twist it into "you're leaving US???" Like I am leaving the family to go on this wild single life, is what he implies with this. I am leaving his poor soul with the children (that he honestly has no clue how to care for) to live this wild single whore life (what he is imagining, not reality). No, I would never leave my kids...just him.... but anytime a separation comes up he makes it into this warped version of me wanting to drop my kids and go live this carefree single life without anyone but the reality of it is I just want him and his drama gone. It's not about dating other guys or being single and I don't even understand where this idea is coming from. We can't even have a reasonable conversation about things because it always reverts to me supposedly "recklessly wanting to leave and destroy the family" and how he is keeping the kids because a "single curious whore" like me is suddenly an unfit mother. I'm apparently fine to leave the kids with and have provided most of their direct care for their entire lives but as soon as I want to leave him I am an unfit mother? What?

Basically, reddit, I am fed up. My problem is that I have no picture ID, no drivers license, haven't had a job in like 12 years, no friends, no family, nothing. I want to break free but where do I even start? I'm not going to a shelter because there's people so much worse off than I am and I refuse to take services away from them. I can get out without using up services that others need more but I am just so confused and disorganized and unsure about how to do life on my own. Please help!
<bot>: I am trapped legally and financially (and have kids custody thrown in my face constantly) in a toxic marriage, no resources, family or friends... how can I get out?