<human>: I had a very difficult life growing up at home and I have never been close to any member of my immediate or extended family. So when I left for San Diego 3 years ago, I really had no desire to ever look back.

I do have some contact with family. My mom calls me every month and I listen to her talk for 30 minutes, then I tell her I'm doing okay and hang up. I don't particularly enjoy her phone calls, as they usually end up making me feel guilty or stressed about her problems-of-the-month. I'm friends with most of my extended family on Facebook, whatever that's worth.

My mom, who has been in and out of recovery her whole life, finally feels she has got her shit together. She does, relatively. Anyway, she leaves me a voicemail asking me to call ASAP to discuss something "very important" so I immediately return her call.

Turns out, she has a couple hundo she wants to blow on a plane ticket out here. She also wants my live-in boyfriend and I to put her up for 5 days. Boyfriend is a sweetheart, but he's never met her and we live in a small place. I certainly wouldn't want to put *his* mom up for 5 days. I live paycheck-to-paycheck myself, so I don't have the scratch to put her anywhere else.

She started crying a bit on the phone when I wasn't thrilled about the idea. I dunno what to do. I really would be happiest not seeing any family anytime soon, but I know she's my mom and it would hurt her a lot if she knew that. I also think she wants to come out to prove to her estranged daughter that she's a stable adult, which doesn't really take my feelings into consideration.

Anyway, by the time I finished writing this, I pretty much knew what the answer was. I can't tell her not to come out, even if I'm flat broke and staying here would be awkward. I guess I just needed to vent.

Anyone else desert their family and later had to deal with unwanted visitors?

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<bot>: Ex-addict mom wants to visit estranged daughter and stay with her and her live-in boyfriend for 5 days, how to cope?