<human>: Can you condense the text into three sentences or less?

I [21F] got out of an almost 3.5 year relationship and finally re-entered the dating world. I met someone I find attractive [23M] who I get along with fairly well. He wants to be in a relationship immediately but I've held back, although I agreed not to see other people while we get to know each other.

I feel very experienced with love and partnership and I think of the feelings I had in my last relationship, and that's where the problem begins.  It doesn't matter to me to be told I'm beautiful, or sexy, or smart, or anything that shows a man is interested in you.  I find it fake and it feels like he's feeding me lines.  

I'm not sure if this is because of how he presents it or because I'm used to the comfort and steadiness of a long term relationship. Maybe he's just not the right fit, but I am used to such a strong emotional connection that it almost irritates me to hear nice things from him because it feels like he doesn't understand what being in a relationship is about.

It's been so long since I've dated someone new, this is almost a "what's wrong with me?" post, but I'm wondering, if he were the right person, would I feel differently? Am I supposed to instantly connect like I did in my last relationship, or now that I'm a bit older will it take time to grow into a relationship? I'm very confused. Thanks for reading.
<bot>: I feel disconnected from this new guy I'm dating because of his surface level remarks about how pretty I am. I feel like this isn't normal and I don't know if it's me or if it's him.