<human>: I'll just jump right in. I (24/F) found out through a mutual friend that the guy I was dating (25/M) does not consider me someone he'd commit to long-term because I'm (1) not Indian (which he is) and (2) not a virgin (which he most definitely is not). Now, I am 24 years old and a year away from getting my law degree and hopefully going out there and making a difference in a few lives. I am certainly not crossing my fingers for an engagement ring at this point. Still, that kind of archaic bullshit is not for me (he actually used the term "wife material." Jesus.). I talked to my guy and after days of dodging my questions, he half-heartedly admitted that he wouldn't want to disappoint his family by marrying a non-Indian, non-virgin girl. Needless to say, I dumped him.

The rational part of me knows that I probably dodged a bullet with this dude. The insane part of me needs a dose of reality, though. I can't help but feel...really, really devalued by the experience. I don't think a man owes me anything just because we're having sex, but it was really jarring to hear someone more or less admit that you are good enough for their bed but not for their family. I grew up in a progressive family that did not shame me for not waiting until marriage/engagement/soulmate and my friends are the same. I have only ever been with 2 guys (he's been with more girls than that), but this conversation with a man I really cared about and saw a future with has left me feeling pretty bad. I hate it because I know I shouldn't feel this way and I don't know where it's even coming from. 

Does anyone have advice on how to deal with these emotions?

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<bot>: The guy I was seeing/really cared about said he does not see me as someone to commit to because I am not Indian and had a sex partner before him. I feel...cheap.