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We recently celebrated the 10 year anniversary of getting together but we're not married or even engaged.  We met at university and have created the life of a young professional couple buying our first home and focusing largely on our careers.  We've moved around so lost touch with close friends and barely socialise outside of our couple.

Throughout the relationship we have discussed marriage and family but the fact that it wasn't a priority was never a significant issue until we each turned 30.  Then, last year, things had been heading south between us and a conversation about whether or not we saw things moving forwards turned to me saying that I just wasn't ready.  Things quickly deteriorated and within a few months she decided she couldn't wait and moved out.

This was hard to accept and I couldn't shake the feeling that it was a serious mistake so held a position of wanting to work through it. We agreed to give relationship counselling a shot.  This led to a lot of deep and revealing discussions about our roles and positions within the relationship but, over the months, I started to feel that I wasn't making the necessary progress towards her (more pressing) desire for children.

Each of us has had issues to deal with over 10 years and there's no doubt that we have been good for one another.  However, there had also been neglect in terms of building our couple; at times it has felt more like housemates than lovers or partners.  The sex is good but we both agree it is too infrequent.  Neither of us have cheated and at least I have been presented with opportunities.

I realise that a lot of the above sounds very negative but I know that at least some of that is due to the current situation.  
Sometimes I feel I can see us moving on together and other times I despair at not ending things earlier.  I feel totally stuck and don't want to hurt or hurt her any more.

We can't have given 10 years in vain.  How can I solve this and avoid making the wrong decision?
Am I having an early mid-life crisis or have we reached the end of the road?
<bot>: I think have done a reasonable job but I want more and this makes me wonder whether I'm giving up on the possibility of a Great love.