<human>: Condense the text into a few key points

For the past year, me and my girlfriend have been engaged and this November we will be getting married. My father has really approved our relationship for the past five years we've been dating and really cared about us both. But, just last week, he has said that he would not be attending my wedding because of the decision to take my girlfriend's last name when I get married.

He has not taken this lightly and quite frankly, it's been terrible to be around him. He's been very toxic to me and even my girlfriend. He's been saying that she is controlling me and using me for her own needs. It is clear that she is the breadwinner in our relationship as she works at a very high-end business, while I work at a local hotel in the middle of the city we live in. But he was never bothered by that. But he's really bothered by this!

He got into an argument with my girlfriend and it was really embarrassing to watch! I jumped in and told him to stop and said to him that we have made this decision as a couple. But he refused to listen My girlfriend said that she does not want to see my father again! However, we did, but they are not on the best of terms now and it's really concerning for the whole family.

My mother fully supports our decision and thinks that it's a really nice thing to do. But my father is just concerned that my girlfriend is using me when she clearly not! It's really made me mad and I don't know what to do about it all! The wedding is still going, it's just that I want my father to understand our decision.

Any advice?
<bot>: My father has said that he will not be attending our wedding because I made the decision to take my girlfriend's last name. He and my girlfriend have been arguing about it and he thinks that she is taking control of me.