<human>: Backstory if you want it, but not really important.
Im near to the end of my current relationship(just shy of 3 years), whether its a matter of hours or days I have not yet decided. Depends on when that person and I can communicate. I am mentally distant enough that I am picturing how to not let these problems into my next relationship.

How do I keep myself from rebounding and hurting the next gentle soul I find? Or hurting myself by getting too attached? I am not a phone-number-at-the-bar sort of girl, I may have been called a serial monogamist by some. 

I do not want to find a guy now, be 'friends' knowing that he wants more, put all of the emotional burden I am going through on him, make him a shoulder to cry on, while I step out of this. I do not want to use someone, then feel emotionally attached and end up dating them.
I want to rise on my own, stronger than before, and begin a new relationship by finding someone with similar interests and passions and their own interesting life. That person I may have already met, or maybe not, I want to remain open and available until I find a BETTER one, not just the nearest available option.

Can you give me a shortened version of the text?
<bot>: Do I need to distance myself from all men? Or are there things I can make and effort to consciously recognize and know when I'm 'using' someone(a potential suitor) for emotional support?