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Hey... 

We had a tumultuous relationship, but we always loved each other very much. I moved to LA, and she still has a year left in college, so we had to break up. She's headed to NYC anyway.
But a month after we broke up, she posted a picture on instagram of her kissing another guy from her hometown in seattle. This hurt me deeply, and I told her, and she said since we weren't together, she shouldn't dictate her life around me when making decisions. Fair enough.

But we've been talking recently... She called me when she had a panic attack, and I called her for something similar recently as well. And now we're talking regularly, and Im going to visit her for a week in a couple months in our hometown.

The only thing is shes going to be in seattle for a week beforehand, where aforementioned random guy lives. I told her I would feel uncomfortable if they hooked up, and then I came to visit her the next week... After much debate, she said that would set a false precedent if we started telling each other who we hooked up with and when or if we didn't. So she didn't say yes or no. And I eventually said Id rather see her than make her break this principle that we have for my insecurity. 

But I feel like a huge pushover with no self-respect for it. But we want to work out, and be in each others lives, and be with each other when we can... But its also tearing me apart out of jealousy. I dont know what to do.

Am I wrong? I just dont know what to do, its driving me insane, I love this stupid girl so fuckin much.
<bot>: Ex and I broke up... Started talking again. Going to see her soon, potentially knowing she could be hooking up with her rebound the week before I get there. Need help.