<human>: Can you provide a brief rundown of the text in within 3 sentences?

I've never had trouble having the "what are we" conversation with my other relationships, because I've always been bold and like to be in the same page. 
A friend of mine (i met him through my cousin this year) and I made out (several times) at a friend's wedding, and danced all night long (no alcohol), and since we've been texting back and forth. He is 30, im 21. 
We went on a date a week after, and although there was a lot of hand holding, laughter and no awkward silences, we only had a super fast (kinda awkward) peck kiss goodbye. 
Now, I know I might be overthinking this, but I dont know if he wants to take things slow, or if he is shy, or he is just afraid of the age gap, but I need to know what are we because I do like him a lot, but I dont want to waste my time. This doesnt mean I'm looking to marry him or become a serious couple, but at least know that the feelings are mutual and we are on the same page, or not. What I'm afraid of, based on how he hasn't been replying to my signals and body language, is that if I come up to him boldly and ask him what are we, he will distance himself thinking I'm just a glingy young girl that will easily fall in love and get attached to him, and even lose our friendship. I know its only been two dates, but I dont want to let my feelings build up if this is not going anywhere. 
How would you approach this ?
<bot>: Dont know how to bring up the "what are we" conversation with an older friend that clearly isn't picking up on my signals without scaring him off.