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I'm an Indian Hindu male (27) and my wife (25) is also Indian but from different religion (Jain). We both work and live outside the country . We are visiting India for a month, both my family and my extended family lives in the same city.

My wife is very close to her relatives and she wanted to visit each and every member of her family once, which honestly even I don't like and I feel it's unnecessary. I can understand visiting my in laws, her maternal uncles (lives in the same city) & grandpa/grandmaa. The issue is that they call me every now and then to their place to meet someone, and this is causing strain in my relationship with my wife and my family.

My wife's brother is visiting from another city just to meet us, I already met him thrice during our visit, but now they want me to spend a while day with them since "I didn't get to meet him properly", to which I said no. But my MIL is persuading me to visit, and my wife is kind blackmailing me to do, else she won't go to visit my grandpa and my maternal grandmaa. 

My family feels that my wife and her family is controlling me and making a fool of me. The things they have mentioned, like, she not agreeing to meet my relatives, always saying that "I don't feel comfortable in your family", even though everybody is trying to make her happy, changing the way my family lives, saying things to make me regret my family. She does these things.

I may not be close to my extended family, but I love to visit them for a day or two, and hang out with them.

In not sure what to do ? Being an Indian, it is really hard for me to ignore both sides, and I really feel that my family is right, and my wife and her family is trying to control me and cut me off from my family. But I love my wife dearly, and don't want to hurt her.

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<bot>: My family thinks my wife and her family is controlling me, and I feel the same after pondering over the details.