<human>: Been together a long time, I think we are happy pretty much everywhere else in the relationship besides the bedroom...at least that is where I am unsatisfied. I have never been with any other partners, she has had 2 others before me. So naturally we started off on condoms, and haven't ever left. Only recently have I asked if she was interested in any other forms of contraception. I felt guilty asking because I know that she reacted badly to the pill before from the stories she has told me. She seems scared to do IUD and doesn't want me to get a vasectomy because she knows that I might want kids one day (She isn't interested in kids right now anyway which is fine by me because I am still too young to be a father). I guess I just feel guilty bringing it up, we haven't made love in over a month now.

Am I being too selfish by asking to stop wearing condoms in our 9 year relationship?

I consider myself to have a high libido but what I am really interested in is just some sort of confirmation that my partner is attracted to me, she never initiates anymore.

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<bot>: Fiancee of 9 years doesn't feel safe with any other contraception other than condoms, I feel guilty asking to look into other options.