<human>: Hi there reddit. This is my first time posting, I've seen so many people give great advice on here so i thought i would give it a shot!

I am about to graduate college. It is a scary time for me because i don't know what I am going to do after college, and I don't know what my interests are. My parents are very high achieving, which makes this more daunting to me. I am also financially dependent on them (they are well off and I'm afraid to leave this financial safety net, something which my parents use to tie me to them). I hate talking about graduation/ my post-college plans with my parents and avoid it whenever possible.

During college, I've had periods of anxiety and then depression. But I have never done anything irrational during these periods. Growing up I was overprotected and my parents made the decisions for me. They continue to patronize me and undermine my decision making abilities directly and indirectly. My mom has constantly stated that I lack 'situational awareness' (aka I don't know what's going on in my surroundings - and thereby can't take care of myself). When I went away from home for a summer internship, the day before I was about to leave she told me I was overweight and to 'look at myself' (and how disgusting I looked). I constantly feel like I need to prove myself and put up a front. Then today, after spending a vacation away with my parents for 5 days, when we got back (and I wanted time alone but didn't say it outright) she told me I need to let her know what I'm up to and to not just 'disappear' into my room so she knows i'm not "slitting my wrists"!! I know she's worried about the upcoming life transition but WTF!

What type of relationship should I be having with my parents? If I'm supposed to feel compassionate towards her because she wants to still feel needed...how can I do that when she pegs me down so quickly as being depressed and wanting to hurt myself!? I don't know what to do.

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<bot>: College ending soon, complicated (probably codependent) family relationship, not sure what type of relationship to have with my parents, mom thinks i'm depressed to the point of hurting myself when i want to be alone