<human>: I'm on mobile so there may be some typos.

I'm a guy who's been single over a year. I'm finally ready to date again. My problem is the opposite of most guys... I know how to not act desperate. In fact I'm so good at it I think women lose interest.

I legit don't "need" a woman. I can take care of myself, have fun with friends, consciously override desire for sex or watch porn. I'm a very independent person but a gf would be nice to have. By default I'm single (At a given time I'm way more likely to be single than with a girl).

Every bit of advice online tells you not to act desperate.. To me that means don't engage that much. For example if a girl doesn't want to meet up and gives me some excuse I just kinda stop texting. They don't magically pursue me lol.
How can one be interested in a woman or date (make moves) but not be needy or desperate? They seem like two mutually exclusive concepts. The act of pursuing is in and of itself needy.

I just can't figure out the balance and I'm not going to ask my friends to guide me through it lol.  No one really showed me the ropes so I'm not the best.  I've had two ltrs.  I'm 25 yr old and American

Can you give me the gist of the text in a nutshell?
<bot>: how to show interest without appearing desperate.  I swing heavily to the stoic end so I probably don't show interest.