<human>: Give me the gist of the text in a nutshell

My boyfriend and I are at a disagreement regarding "forgiving and forgetting" and it's really affecting our relationship. I truly live by the phrase "forgive and forget", and most of the time when I forgive someone for an offense I truly and deeply forget about it. My boyfriend on the other hand, believes in forgiving, but remembering the offense to, in his words, re-examine the conflict if it arrises again.

Although I completely understand where he is coming from, when we argue this fundamental difference in thinking causes a greater rift between us. Because I do not recollect specific actions he or I have done in the past to cause conflict, I become upset that he keeps bringing up past hurtful things, and I also become frustrated that I cannot "defend" myself as I do not remember specific actions he has done to hurt me. 

He, on the other hand, becomes frustrated that I do not remember past conflicts because he sees it as me only wanting to focus on happy times, and belittling the tough times. I believe that he also sees it as me perhaps running away from the situation, or me committing the same mistakes over and over again.

I'm not sure what to do at this point. I truly cannot recall specific past actions, but I do remember outcomes (i.e.: I don't remember us fighting at the mall because I keep texting my friend Jane about a birthday party, but I will remember that he doesn't like me texting too much on dates), but he will remember the details of the fight, and bring it up again which flusters me. 

Is anybody else like me or my boyfriend? Am I not seeing something from his point of view? Perhaps there is a middle ground we can meet.
<bot>: I forgive and completely forget, whereas boyfriend will forgive, but bring up old fights later down the road and frustrate me as I cannot remember what the past fight was about.