<human>: Met a girl online, similar ethnicity, cultural background etc, we hit it off and have been dating for the last 3 years (which is a long time in our culture). We had some ups and downs but has been good for most of the time. She got to know my friends, family, colleagues by the 6 month mark and it was all going well. We did have a talk about settling down and were working towards it.

I have met her family only once so far, after nearly a year and a half, and was given mixed signals from them, she insists that they are ok with us, but I sense hostility from them. To an extent her family is a bit overbearing (constantly need to be aware of her whereabouts, take up all her time- she's either working or tending to her family issues). Couple of months back, I made my intentions clear to her about having a future together etc, she was ok initially, but every time I get serious about the future she tries to deflect. When I asked her what the issue is, she keeps saying that she is not sure, says feels trapped by her family and me, and keeps talking about flying off to a different country, but at the same time does not want to let me go.

While I have a great support system, I understand her problem too, barring some co-workers who are close to her, she is unable to confide in with anyone about this (neither friends nor family) so is unable to get an external perspective on this. I am now at a stage, where I have invested a lot of time and effort into this but am not sure if I will be able to see it through. Am I wasting my time on this? do I stay and try and make it work or do I move on?

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<bot>: In a directionless relationship with non-committal girlfriend of 3 years, do I stay the course or move on?