<human>: Hi /r/relationships this is a throwaway account because she knows my username. Anyways my girlfriend lets say Jane (not her real name) says I'm super controlling sometimes and we get into fights and end up not talking for the rest of the day......
Into her past a little bit, her mom married a man, divorced about 6 years ago, when Jane was about 12 years old, Jane told me that this man was very controlling and abusive towards her. (Always looking through her phone, telling her what to wear,  what she could and couldn't do). So she is really protective of all her things, locks her phone, where I cant even get on it to take a picture or play one of her games.....
Jane tells me sometimes that I am so controlling that it is unbearable sometimes, but I don't know if I am just blinded that I'm not or how to fix it. One example I can give would be today she isn't a very outgoing person but she met these to friends in her social work class, well they had a study secession at her house and I got the text around 3:30pm CTZ that "So I'm going out with _____ and _____ tonight so ill see you tomorrow". Being curious I asked her "where are you going?". She replied "the strip" which is like a downtown city or where all the clubs and bars are. I asked what are you going to do and she replied with were going to bars and stuff...... Now this is where she said i was controlling I replied back I'd rather you not. (I trust Jane with all my heart I really do, I guess it just caught me off guard and I said I'd rather you not) Well she said I cant tell what she cant and can do. I said sorry you're right and I want you to go have fun and enjoy your night. That was the last thing we said today. 

I am very open to anything, if I am controlling I would like to fix it because I really love Jane, and want her to be happy.

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<bot>: Girlfriend says I'm really controlling and I don't know if I am or how to fix it. Help please. Thank you.