<human>: Can you condense the text into three sentences or less?

Ok, We've been married for a year and a half and things have been really great.  We start talking about what we'll be doing when I get out in a bout a year, and my favorite option is to go back north to the (fairly prestigious) school I attended.  If I go national guard, my commitment to be reactivated is cut in half (2 years), and they pay full tuition.  It sounded like a great opportunity, but my SO's family threw a fit.  Her brother told me I need to watch my back, and her mom basically called me the devil. 
 
My mistake is that I told my wife I had made up my mind that this was what I wanted.  I reasoned to myself that if she chose to her family over me, and chose to live in the town she grew up in for the rest of her life (something I'm not at all interested in), well then we had some irreconcilable differences and I should go on my own.  

That was about two weeks ago.  Things have fairly spiraled out of control since then.  She's taken serious offense to the idea that I'd even consider leaving her.  I don't see how different that is from her staying put while I moved on.  Now she questions if I've ever really loved her, since she's a dependent lover (her+me=100%), while I'm a more independent lover(me+her=100%+her). 

So we're barely talking, after we got into it pretty deep last night.  I'm not sure what to do.  She already said shes going to move back home and that we're over.  I asked her to at least wait until we talk to a professional, to which she didn't really make a comment one way or the other.  I'm not sure what to do, please help.

I'm 25 male, she's 24 female.
I'm from northeast.  This is the longest relationship I've ever been in.  
She's never lived anywhere but her parents house when we met 2.5 years ago.  Her last boyfriend of 4 years was a drug addict and shes a nurse.
<bot>: Bout to get out of army, wife of 1.5 year won't move from hometown.  Now questions whether I ever really loved her.