<human>: I realize it's rather uncommon for a guy to be the one in a relationship withholding sex, so it might make things kind of strange.  The last relationship I was in ended because she couldn't do the abstinence thing. And in my area where I live, I think my abstinence attitude is almost-nonexistent in people my age. So am I wasting my time in asking a girl out if I don't already know she's okay with abstinence? Or should I look for someone who I already know will be okay with it (like in church groups etc)?

I just don't want to go through a break-up like that again.

Can you condense the text into three sentences or less?
<bot>: If I am out at the uni, gym, etc, otherwise in public, and meet a nice girl, should I ask her out if I don't already know she'll be okay with abstinence?