<human>: Wife and I have been married for nine months. It's been great so far up until this week (we've been having spats this week). 
  
She works as a software engineer at a prestigious tech company that does government work. She very recently got put on a new team and project that is doing confidential and secretive work to do with national defense. 

We were in bed and talking and I could tell she wanted to mention something about her project but she held back at the last moment and brushed it aside. I mentioned that it bothered me when she holds back information from me because I do want to know every part of her life and I don't want to feel like I"m missing some part of it. 

She essentially told me she can't tell me her confidential work secrets even though she claims she trusts me not to tell anybody. She said there's always the possibility that if we divorce, I'll put her job in jeopardy and get her fired. 

What the actual fuck. When she saw that I was upset, she "apologized" and told me she was just being realistic. How does she not see that what she said is extremely hurtful and mean? I'm sure she means what she said and this makes me incredibly sad to hear. Well in my eyes we should just divorce right now then and save ourselves any more wasted time since we might divorce in the future. 

Am I overreacting or is she being incredibly insensitive and hurtful?

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<bot>: Wife told me she won't tell me confidential information even though I'm her wife because she might want to someday divorce me in the future