<human>: Can you succinctly summarize the text in 1-3 sentences?

We flirted and sexted back and forth for the first year, then she became eligible about a month before I became eligible (last August & September). Since then, we've "hooked-up" on several occasions, but it never went past that until recently...

In December, I told her how I felt (didn't say "love," but I did basically tell her that she's the only girl I want).  She turned me down by saying that she likes being single too much and isn't looking for a relationship.

In May, she started "kinda dating" this guy back in her home state (LDR).  I cranked-up the charm a little bit, and by the time he started getting on her nerves, I was right there to swoop-in.  She dumped him, and we've been having a lot of sex lately... I'm not even sure if she would consider me her boyfriend at this point - she's very smart, but not very open with her feelings.

SO... here's the deal:  she's seen me go through several crappy relationships in the past year, and she knows me VERY well.  She has already "warned" me that she doesn't like a guy to be more emotional than she is.  This IS a pretty big problem, because she's so UNemotional that it's hard to match her in that department.  I'm trying to give her space and not be clingy and be the guy that she's trying to find, but I still don't even know where I stand.  My biggest worry is that there are other guys putting the same moves on her when I'm not around.  I can give her space, but in doing so, I might be sitting back and letting the other guys win.  How can I ask her where I stand without sounding like an Overly Attached Boyfriend?
<bot>: finally got my dream girl's attention, but I can't tell where I stand or if I'm even IN a relationship.