<human>: Obligatory "long time lurker, first time poster." So, my bf and I have been together for about three years. The relationship is generally very happy and healthy, but I'll be the first to admit that we're not great at communicating about the big things like sex and the future, and that when it comes down to talking about big things, I always feel like I'm forcing it upon him. It's not that he's reluctant to talk about it, it just only comes up when I bring it up and it makes me feel naggy. Basically, I know communication is the issue here, so I need help improving it.

The situation is this: 6+ months ago, there were a few instances of him having trouble staying hard during sex. Now, we have never had a ton of sex anyway (which is a bummer, because I was under the impression that we had pretty good sex), but it ceased after this. Even though I know it's not about me (or at least I hope so), I can't help but feel rejected and not good enough. It's definitely made me feel somewhat insecure in my appearance, I often wonder if he's still attracted to me or what I can do to be more attractive to him. I've brought it up to him on three separate occasions, basically saying that "you know, we haven't had sex in awhile, it makes me worried, can we work on it" and he's always like "yeah, I know, sorry, we can try" and then nothing changes from either of us because we're both too big of pussies to actually make a move.

He's away on a trip now but I'm planning on bringing this up to him when he returns because, though it's not a deal breaker for me, physicality in a relationship is important, and I think I'm going to have to be the one to initiate any possible progress. Additionally, I want to have a conversation with him about our future a.k.a. getting married, but I think we should figure this out first.

Can you condense the text into three sentences or less?
<bot>: my bf and I are currently not sexually active due to a few failed attempts. I want to talk to him about working together to fix it and move forward, but I don't know how without feeling like a nag.