<human>: Can you give me the gist of the text in a nutshell?

I have a **tendency to never clarify misunderstandings and have a hard time letting go of them**. Unfortunately after holding on to misunderstandings from weeks to months, **I become convinced that my friends are angry with me or hate me.** Eventually after much frustration, I bring up to them what I have a problem with, **only to realize it was all a misunderstanding and nothing was wrong.** 

What triggers this is **usually a period of a few days when I haven't gotten the chance to talk to them.** I believe this could be because **my mind tends to try and assume what others are thinking.** I seem to **always assume the worst**, and this complicates many situations for me. 

I believe it stems from my **fear of abandonment (from other friendships)** and I've also **seen this behavior in my Mom.** 

**I want to change my behavior, and confront misunderstandings early so I can avoid becoming paranoid. What are some tips to go about confronting friends about misunderstandings?
<bot>: My susceptibility to misunderstands, and tendency to avoid confrontation, makes me paranoid about whether my friends like me. Often times leading to confrontations where I realize I imagined most of the problems in my own head.