<human>: My husband and I have been together for almost 8 years now. We have 2 wonderful kids, a boy and a girl, 2.5 years and 2.5 weeks old :)

We always said that we wanted "2 or 3" kids. Well, now that we have had the experience of being parents, he settled on 2 and I settled on 3. He really wants to get a vasectomy and be done having kids forever.

It's hard for me to even express in words how devastating that feels to me. Ever since we had our first I knew that 3 was the right number for us, and we've been talking about it off and on since then. But the more sure I became that I wanted 3, the more sure he became that he wanted 2.

Neither of us is really basing this on anything logical, although I admit that he has the finances and time/energy argument on his side. Three kids is a lot more time and money than two. But for both of us the main motivation behind our position is just that that's what we want. I feel like our family isn't complete without another child, and he feels that it is.

We are really at an impasse despite having discussed this over and over, and I figured that we can't possibly be the first people who have had this problem, so I thought reddit might be able to help us out with some advice.

Also maybe relevant, he is a good, involved father, but we both work and I think I do a little more of the childcare, partly by necessity (breastfeeding) and partly just by my nature (I'm a little more hands-on than he is).

Anything else I forgot to include, please ask :)

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<bot>: Husband is ready to stop at 2 kids, and I desperately, viscerally want a third in the future!