<human>: My husband and I have been together for 12 years, married for 4- no kids. We've been separated on and off over the past year. Our relationship has had its ups and down and has included major lies and deceptions on both sides. I also have a strong tendency towards codependency. 

He was the one who initiated the initial separation as well as the subsequent ones. For most of the time we were separated I wanted to get back together. I finally started casually dating and almost immediately met someone who I connect with deeply. My husband is now ready to start trying again. I don't think I want to anymore. I still consider him my best friend and we were together all of those years. I don't know what to do.

When we separated he told me he wasn't sure if I could push him in the way that he needed, that we didn't communicate well and that we weren't sexually compatible. We do communicate much better and the sex has improved. I feel like he isn't in love with me anymore, that I can't trust him and that he is always judging me and that he pushes me too hard. I'm not sure I'm in love with him anymore either but I'm not sure what that looks like 14 years again. We agree that we both love each other.
How do I decide if my marriage or if it's something I should save?
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<bot>: Husband and I have been separated for a year. He's been dating the woman he cheated on me with. I'm falling for another guy. Is it time to end it