<human>: Last week, my SO got a call saying that her grandfather is in the hospital and his outlook is pretty bad. He's been sick for awhile but it looks like he is going to pass away soon. My SO's grandfather is one of her personal idols and this has obviously put a very heavy toll on her. 

My grandfather died when I was 14, so I know a bit what she's going through. However, every time I say something, or do something, to try and make her feel better, or just show support, she gets angry and tells me i'm making it worse. Not only that, she has been telling me i've been acting differently and just wants me to act "normal." I want to ask her to elaborate but i'm afraid of making her upset during this difficult time, and don't want this to become an issue about me suddenly. 

Additionally, she works a very emotionally taxing job (reading tutor for inner city youth in DC at one of the city's poorest schools). I want to be there for her as emotionally support and comfort, but everything I say/do seems to be met with animosity. Even if I just sit there and say nothing to her, she seems to have an issue with it.

How do some of you console your SOs when they are dealing with family tragedy? Is there something I should be doing that i'm not? Something that i'm doing that I shouldn't?

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<bot>: My SO's grandfather is dying and I am unsure about how to be there for support because every time I say/do something she gets angry at me.