<human>: Can you summarize the given text in a few sentences?

For instance, his co-workers aren't allowed to spend their money how they want (maybe because they have kids? We don't), they aren't allowed to watch porn or even have Sports Illustrated issues, or go to Hooter-like restaurants.  They also aren't trusted to go out with their male friends alone.

I personally think it's his money, he can do what he wants.  I have my own money.  And he can have those things, I only ask that he uses discretion.  I don't care about Hooters, and I've clearly spoken about my distaste for actual stripclubs.  I've met his buddies and they seem like very nice people, and I really don't mind if they go out.  

I am very clear in what is acceptable to me, and what makes me too uncomfortable. 

But he brings these "rules" into our relationship, and acts paranoid.  Like he's going to get in trouble if I stumble on his porn somehow.  Or like he's going to get in trouble if he doesn't get me something for Valentine's.  

We are not those married people with kids!  I am not those wives!  If I say "I don't want anything for Valentine's", I don't want him to act like it's "a test".  It isn't! 

*How can I let him know to chill out?
<bot>: Boyfriend is picking up "relationship rules" from his married with kids coworkers, and those rules fit our relationship not.  How can I tell him to calm down?