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Hi I have been going through a really bad rough patch when it comes to dating. It has been over 2 years now since I have had a real relationship. 

The last 2 guys I dated have semi made me lose hope in finding love again.  The the first to last guy I was in a abusive relationship that was both physical and verbal.  He was my second love and since than i have been going to therapy to get myself back to normal. 

My last boyfriend he used me for sex and was never there for me when I needed him and dumped me when I accused him of cheating on me. 

Relationships before that were pretty civil and since than I have remained friends and or talking terms with them. 

Now that it is the end of the year and I am just graduating from college I am wanting a real mature relationship. I feel like I dropped my standards when I was in school and because of that it has made me very vulnerable.

At this point and time I have become very selective and have found myself surrounded by people who have no real ambitions or don't fit where I am at with life. I am not perfect and don't expect that of someone else. I am just sick of not finding the right guy.

I have already done the dating websites and they have given me ppl I don't like or abusive ppl like my ex.

So my questions are of right now, how should I get myself out there? and what is the best way to filter and meet real good people? I really have been out of the loop of real dating and could use all the help i can get.
<bot>: I just need advise on how to get myself out there and meet new guys without the hassle of being around losers and deadbeats.