<human>: I met this guy through friends, we'll call him R. We started getting into intimate situations last weekend, and he did everything to please me (which is great), but he sort of pushed me away when I tried anything to please him and then turned all the focus back on me. 

I spent the night for the first time at R's apartment a few days ago and we had sex for the first time, but he didn't come and pulled me off of him and again turned all the focus on me. I felt really bad, like perhaps I'm not doing things right for him.

The other night R was drunk texting me and explained that he can't come unless he is masturbating. He said he was very embarrassed about this and didn't tell anyone about it most of the time. I don't know what to do. I feel pretty lousy that I can't please him sexually.  R is not on any medication that could cause this and he said it's always been this way. Has anyone else dealt with this? If you're a guy with this issue, does that mean sex isn't pleasurable for you? Should I continue to try? He's a great guy and the first guy I've legitimately dated in over a year because I've been recovering from a lot of emotional and mental problems and had a shitty previous boyfriend. I'm very happy with him as a person, but I feel bad that I can't do anything for him sexually.

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<bot>: New hubby confessed he can't come during any kind of sex (oral, vaginal, anal, etc.) Any advice?