<human>: We've been dating for two years now. Both university students, and we live in different cities. We see each other once a month for couple of days each or during weekends (when time and money allow us). 

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Yesterday I asked her who was texting her, because she kept texting for a while. She said it's not a text but a snapchat. I asked if I can see. She took away her phone and said its already gone because it's a snapchat.

Eventually she showed it to me but the message was still up, she left the chat room and went back in... but the message was gone (of course that's the whole point of snapchat). 

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She blamed me and said why I don't trust her and her phone is her privacy and she never asked me who am I texting with. She added that she is not hiding, lying, cheating or anything else. She just wants privacy and wants me to respect it.

Further she complained that I am being controlling and obsessive and that she doesn't like my behavior.

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I never ever looked on her phone secretly and never even dare to touch it without asking her and never went through her messages - this would be a trust issue I guess.

IMO asking to see a girlfriends phone should not be a big deal and she should not react that way she did. Few weeks ago I asked her to see her pics just of curiosity, I showed her my holiday pics with my friends beforehand. She denied at first, deleted some pics and later showed her phone to me. I felt kinda somethings is wrong.

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I think I really should trust her more and I do actually but recently her behavior made me feel insecure. I don't know whether I am the "problem" or if she caused these things. At the beginning of our relationship I had no concerns whatsoever.

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<bot>: is it really not appropriate to see phone chats of my gf? But why would she not show it to me anyway if there is nothing?!