<human>: Can you condense the text into a few key points?

I'm a dad who is 45. I've known my daughter her whole life, obviously. My wife and I both work, so we trusted out 14-year-old daughter to be left home until 6:45 or so. One day, I came home early and saw her kissing her boyfriend (my friend's son...nice kid who I've known since he was two) and he was rubbing her breasts (her shirt was off.)

I freaked out. I told the boy to get the fuck out of my home. I then called my daughter a worthless slut and said that if the boy told everyone and she got bullied at school (she's a freshman; he's a sophomore), that she would deserve it and not to cry to me. 

The next day she tried to hug me and talk about it, and I told her to leave me the hell alone. I gave her the cold shoulder.

I KNOW I overreacted. My wife thinks so as well. When ever she sees me now, she cries and screams "I'm sorry!" It hurts me to see how I've hurt her. I'm scared I've ruined our (very close) relationship forever. 

Plus, I don't know how far she's gone. I've talked to her about staying safe. Still, I didn't think she would be intimate so young.
<bot>: I caught my daughter being intimate. I exploded. I need help talking to her calmly and apologizing for my bat shit insanity.