<human>: Can you give me a shortened version of the text?

I've known since I was a little girl that I would never give up my last name when I got married. I like it, it's a part of me, and I think those reasons are good enough. Thankfully, my fiance and I talked about the kind of future we'd like to have before he proposed and he accepted my suggestion that he take my last name when we got married. 

Note that I would have been happy to hyphenate our names, but I wanted to at least throw my idea into the ring on the off chance that he'd consider it. Turn out, he was thrilled with the idea. His last name is difficult to spell and pronounce and he has never been a big fan of it.

But, now wedding plans have been underway for two months and he's suddenly come to me and said that he would rather we "go with tradition" and have me take his last name. The thing is, I don't think *he* really wants that, I think it's his parents. They are VERY traditional and conservative (fiance has never cared about any kind of tradition), and I know they've been putting a lot of pressure on him to have the kind of wedding they've envisioned. I don't mind their creative input on the ceremony because in my mind it's just a big party, but the wedding is just one day and changing my name will be for life.

The worst part is, apparently hyphenation is no longer an acceptable compromise. It's his last name and his alone. I am very upset by this, I don't think it's fair that I should have to give up a piece of my identity just because I am the woman and he is the man. And I'm upset with my future in-laws for coercing him like this and upset with him for going along with it when he knows my name is important to me.

I don't know what to do. Help? He won't outright say that this sudden desire for traditionalism is because his parents are twisting his arm, but I strongly suspect it. He hasn't given me any sort of ultimatum, but I feel stressed that this issue is unresolved.
<bot>: Future husband was happy to take my last name at marriage, but suddenly decided that I need to take his. Can't compromise, and I think his parents are behind it.