<human>: Can you give me a shortened version of the text?

Dear Reddit,

I am a 25 year old female and my boyfriend is 27.  We have been together for 6 years.  Now, I'm moving across the country for a funded (i.e. they are paying me) PhD program.  He has decided not to come with me.  He says "I have no idea who I am," "I need to do stuff on my own," etc.  He doesn't have a career or any reason to stay behind except his family and a few acquaintances.  I still love him but I am deeply hurt and angry and I feel abandoned.  If he doesn't come with me now I don't know if I can keep loving him; I may have to get over him for my sanity.

He says he still loves me and has suggested that he might come along eventually, but he won't give me a straight answer about when and said that if he couldn't move in with me immediately (i.e. without looking for his own place) he wouldn't want to do it.  If I give him an ultimatum along the lines of "Come with me or lose me" I know he will choose to stay behind because he hates ultimata.  When I talk to him about these feelings he has a way of convincing me that it will all be okay and that we'll be together again and it will be like it was before, but afterward I always feel bad again.

Am I being unreasonable?  Will it, as he suggested, be my fault if our relationship ends because I didn't make space for him to [whatever whatever]?  Is he even worth it given all this?
<bot>: Boyfriend of 6 years has opted not to move across the country with me; I'm not sure how to feel about it.