<human>: This is the first relationship I have ever been in, and the first girl I have ever even held hands with, let alone anything higher up on the list.  My jealousy started right at the beginning of the relationship, she was a very experienced dater and had been on dates and kissed lots of other guys before.  It didn't take me very long to understand I was being irrational, and was able to get over this insecurity without even bringing it to her attention.

Now I've been jealous of things in the past (her remaining friends with a guy who (one-sided) sexted her during our relationship), but I've come to a weird plateau, where I feel like I'm no longer improving my level of jealousy.  I'm now not sure what I'm being jealous about, and what I'm justified with my jealous about!  I have thought about seeking counseling for my jealousy.

What really stinks about some things she does, is that I'm not sure if I'm over-reacting or if she's overstepping boundaries, I would especially like to know what types of boundaries our relationship should have!  To exacerbate the issue, she has more guy friends and hangs out with them alone a lot.

I don't think she would ever cheat on me, I just think some of her actions cross boundaries (sitting on her friend's lap for example), and she will often be flirtier with other guys in public than me, because she feels that she doesn't want to be a public, "lovey-dovey" couple, which I'm 100% okay with.  It just stinks that I get less attention and physical interaction with her than her friends!

Can you condense the text into three sentences or less?
<bot>: I'm jealous, and I'm really not sure what I'm being too jealous about, and what she's doing that's overstepping boundaries!