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We've been together for 5 years. We both REALLY want to get hitched in his dad's yard. However, my Fiancé "James" really dislikes his Dad's (lets call him Jack) side of the family and is not attached to any of them. He finds the elders rude, and his cousins that are close to his age were cruel to him when they were young and they did not spend a lot of time together to actually bond (that goes to the older folks as well). James picked out 8 people (all childhood buddies for 20 years) that he would actually want there. I have about 50 people on my side (friends and family) that I would want to be there (the number difference does not bother me).

James told me that he's pretty sure his dad Jack does not care much for the majority of people on his side of the family either and is invited them all out of formality. I advised James to have an honest talk with his dad to see if they can cross-reference the guests on their side to see of they can narrow it down to people that his dad Jack would actually, truly want to be there. My side of the family and Jame's side of the family are splitting the wedding evenly - we estimated it will be about $7K at the most. No money has been put down on anything yet, so fluidity is on our side at the moment. But the yard wedding is preferred.

Anybody have some ideas on how to handle this?
<bot>: Fiance feels he is being forced to invite family he does want at our wedding because we want it in his dads backyard.