<human>: Extremely happy relationship. Finished building a house with the man of my dreams. Now to seal the last step right? 

Well, sort of.

His reasons aren't what you would think in the typical "two men are getting married" thing. Both of our family's are over the moon and we're all one big happy family. Well, minus the marriage thing. 

We announced our engagement right after the proposal (he did it. Out of the blue after shopping for plant and tile for the house.) And we've still been the happiest sons of bitches. 

Here's where the issue is: he's been married before. It lasted a year. He was young. The girl was... Also young.... And abusive... And psycho...

His last marriage was just signing a paper in a living room and that was it. 

He doesn't want that for us.We have plans for an official ceremony. But in the meantime, he wants to just go ahead with the court house wedding so in case of emergencies, for taxes, and insurance, it will be out of his mind next year. He wants to just sign a piece of paper and not tell anyone that we're legally married. Then go ahead and have the "wedding" 

To me it feels... Dirty? Like we are hiding something that's supposed to be a happy thing! Won't people notice that when they go to wish us a happy anniversary? Are we going to go through a whole wedding and then go "gotcha! We were married all along! You just came to stand in uncomfortable shoes for a few hours and eat cake! Yaaay!" To family? 

Am i just over thinking it because *it's my first real relationship* and the thought of being legally with someone is just freakin out my brain?

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<bot>: boyfriend wants to get hitched without telling anyone and have a "ceremony" next year. Am i just being a nervous nut to think it's dirty to keep a secret?