<human>: We are engaged and planning a Spring wedding.  Our lives are always stressful (mostly due to work), but we love each other.  I really do believe he loves me.  

The problem is that the closer we become, the more disrespectful he becomes.  Now he acts like this with his mom and sister too (two people I know he loves completely).  But I am not enjoying this side of him at all, and we've had numerous discussions.  When he gets angry and stressed, he will be rude and disrespectful to me, and then expect me to just "forget about it" and he wants to literally forget it ever happened (and I never get an apology).

He claims he struggles with anger issues and tends to say things without thinking it through (still doesn't really apologize though).  And he says a lot the reason we have issues is because I get so mad in response and keep it going whereas if I would just ignore it and let it go we'd be better off.   

**Bottom Line:  he says he will work on not being unreasonably angry and disrespectful in the first place (I haven't seen a reduction in this), but I need to work on my reaction.**

I'm just finding it draining and even though I love him I'm starting to get worried about being married to him.  It's not uncommon for me to suddenly receive some version of the following text:

Him:  oh my fucking god, Dae.  Why did you take my fucking keys?  You are such an airhead sometimes.
Me:  I didn't.
Yes:  Yes you did!  
Me:  No, I saw them on the counter before I left.
Him:  Oh.

I then get very pissed off that he spoke to me that way in the first place.  His responses from then on are usually something like:  "stop it"  "let it go"

Are we doomed?

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<bot>: Fiance is very disrespectful towards me when he is mad (which happens a lot these days, usually over nothing) and I'm questioning our relationship.