<human>: Married 16+ years, together almost 19 in all. My [47M] wife [45F], has been over the past few weeks telling me that we're not good for each other, that we've been unhappy for years, and that I shouldn't want to be with her, because she thinks she is the source of my unhappiness. Her unhappiness stems from my being unhappy, in her words.

We've recently moved across country for her job, and I am in a work from home situation which is, by its very nature, a bit isolating. On the plus side, I have really improved my relationships with my kids [12M, 14F], and my wife has absolutely noticed that my dynamic with them has never been better. A lot of stress on the family, but the kids are thriving here in our new community, and we just bought a house here which has allowed us to feel a bit more settled.

We've found a great therapist, and my wife has now seen her once or twice. I feel like we're in a pretty dark place with no easy path out, but that if we each decide that we want to make this work, we can find a way with our therapist's help.

I think we could recover -- but I would like to know if anyone here has gotten to the point where their spouse (or you) has (have) said, "I don't think this is going to work", but somehow, managed to get to a better dynamic in your relationship. There are a few things she's said recently that are encouraging, but mostly, it feels like she wants to end it. I know I can't make her want to stay, she has to get there of her own accord. But if you've dealt with these feelings of losing hope for the future of a relationship (one with almost 20 years, 2 kids and a lot of history), how did you do it?

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<bot>: Starting therapy for a 16+ year marriage that is in trouble. Can we recover from being this close to divorce? How can I encourage my wife to see a future even if the path from here is unclear.