<human>: Hi there. Long time lurker, first time poster.

My husband Josh and I have been together for 5 years. We were married nearly 2 years ago and I'm currently 7 months  pregnant. He's my soul mate. He treats me perfectly and we are equal partners. But this issue is really getting between us and I can't see how we are going to come to a conclusion that satisfies us both.

We found out we're having a baby boy and Josh was thrilled. His father died when he was 19, he was his idol and, from what I've been told, he was a great man and father. It's always been a big deal for  Josh to name a baby after him (I didn't know this until I became pregnant). His whole family were thrilled to find out we were having a boy, and automatically assumed he'd be named after Josh's father.

His father has a fairly common name, particularly in Ireland. We are both from Irish families.

My father died nearly 5 years ago, actually not long after Josh and I got  together. He never met my father, but I wasn't close to him during the last few years of his life. My father actually had the same name as Josh's father, so for him it seemed (fairly) like a no brainer to name our child after both fathers.

It seems ideal, but I can't do it. That name is cursed to me. My father, my grandfather (his father) and my uncle (my mothers brother) all had that same name and all were alcoholics and died of alcoholism. I just feel like the name has alcoholism attached, as silly as that sounds, and I can't face naming a child that same name, it feels like I'm inviting a drinking problem into my child's life.

I'm aware I sound insane, and I'm pretty hormonal, but I feel sick at the thought of using that name for baby. But this is so important to Josh. He's spent his adult life excited to have a son and honour his father with that name.

What do I do? Am I being crazy and superstitious?

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<bot>: My husband wants to name our baby after both of our dead fathers (they had the same name). His was a great man, mine was an alcoholic, and we cannot reach an agreement about this name.