<human>: First, a complicating factor. We've been friends for well over 10 years who started sleeping with each other about a year ago, and now we're dating.

I do think we're good for each other, we both have some eccentricities which we're generally supportive of, and I want to make this work, but her anxiety has me really stressed out and I come from a "no nonsense" family that is not very empathetic about that type of thing.

By anxiety I mean she refuses to come to my house (a rental rowhouse) because it's in a "bad" neighborhood (I have to walk her from the curb to my front door whenever she comes over), she thinks my place smells (and that these smells are damaging to her health), that there is a possible bat infestation (she made me duct tape the cracks around the closet doors), that there is someone hiding in my "unsecured basement".... I could probably go on. Note not all of the anxieties are tied to my house (though that is a particular point of contention)

Some of the anxieties are not rational so I have a hard time being empathetic. Others might have a sliver of reason to them but are so extreme and uncompromising that they still cause tension. 

My fear is twofold: I'm more mild-mannered and don't have strong opinions, but I feel it's unfair to me that I should have to always defer to these anxieties which I just don't agree with. Secondly, I refuse to live a life which is diminished because of her fears (for example, missing out on new experiences or not being able to live in my own house)

There is probably a medical component to these anxieties which is also making me feel badly.... am I a terrible person for not being more accommodating? Is it shallow of me to prefer my girlfriend not have debilitating anxieties?

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<bot>: how can I compromise / find common ground with a girlfriend with severe anxieties, when I simply don't share those anxieties and they are slowly building up some type of resentment in me?