<human>: Can you condense the text into three sentences or less?

I dated my first real girlfriend in 2010 for about a year and a half. We were both really into music and enjoyed a lot of the same things. I haven't been able to have the same connection with any other girl so feelings for my ex still linger. I have trouble distinguishing whether I am in love with the idea of her or actually still in love with her. I had a lot of issues with our relationship and ultimately realized she probably isn't good for me. The issue is I still think about her even after 4 years. Throughout the four years she sometimes text me but other times will ignore me. She recently sent me a text saying she forgot about my birthday and she was heard a band we liked recently and it made her think of me. I wanted to see her again so I asked her to meet up for a drink. She said she would let me know but never sent me anything back letting me know.

Now I have trouble with listening to bands that we used to listen or going to places that we used to go to because it kind of upsets me. I don't want to think about her anymore but I feel like it is a shame I can't really listen to any band that reminds me of her because of this. I think this is more my issue then anything. Any words of advice would help me.
<bot>: Ex gf text me sometimes and ignores me others. I still think about her after 4 years and hate that I can't do anything that reminds me of her.