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I finally talked about it with him.  He told me they ran into each other at a bar and he wasn't paying attention to his phone, she grabbed it when he wasn't looking.  Apparently, friends had told her about me.  Fine, ok, she grabbed his phone.

He apologized, but not very profusely for what happened.  Insisted to me that he was sorry but just didn't know what to say and that he'd been honest with me about his separation.  I had asked him very clearly before if his marriage was over and he had said "yes."

Now, I asked if I was getting myself in the middle of something and he hedged a bit, saying "well, you might be."  I insisted on a yes or no answer and his answer was yes.  I told him "great, that means you lied directly to my face when you told me it was over.  I'm just going to go ahead and remove myself from the situation."

All of it just confuses the hell out of me.  Why tell me that he wants to be with only me, which I neither asked for or was ready to give, if he was lying the entire time?  Why keep up this charade when I'm hours away after introducing me to everyone around town?  I'm still confused and not sure exactly how this all happened.  I looked for all of the normal warning signs, asked clear questions, did everything you're supposed to do in this situation, and still feel like an idiot.

I didn't respond to a lot of people but I did listen to everyone and it helped to have all the different perspectives.  I was calm and rational when I talked to him and simply ended it right away.  It's not worth the drama to keep him in my life, and I won't want him in the time it would take him to get it all straightened out.  I'm still a bit angry, but I'm moving on and grateful I wasn't more emotionally invested.

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<bot>: They really are separated, but yup, I'm the other woman.  FML. Removed myself from the situation.