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My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year, and it was long distance for most of it. I love him. At the start of the relationship, things were wonderful - fancy hotels, picnics, adventures, he accompanied me shopping, didn't mind driving me anywhere, etc. Since moving to the same state to be with me, that's all stopped. We have bee arguing a lot lately, but I still love him and want to be with him, but now he doesn't make an effort to make me feel loved at all. There are no romantic gestures anymore, no nice surprises, he all but refuses to accompany me shopping and drive me places, he's never bought me flowers or anything like that. 

From the ages of 17 -23 I was in a long-term relationship with someone, until I decided that I was too young to settle for a boring life with no love gestures, and gave up 6 years of stability and security to find someone more suitable. 

Now I am confused, because I feel like I'm in the same situation I was in 3 years ago. I don't feel like he loves me enough to express it, maybe because we argue so much now (we're trying to work on it). 
I am starting to think that it's just unrealistic to expect your SO to ever do nice things or surprise you to make you feel loved. At this stage I would feel incredibly awkward in making an obvious gesture of love, as I think it would be met with unappreciative confusion. I need some advice on coming to terms with this fact, and help in lowering my expectations of romantic/nice gestures in relationships.
<bot>: Boyfriend and I are fighting a lot, I don't feel like he loves me because he doesn't do anything nice any more. Need advice on lowering expectations of romantic gestures.