<human>: Can you give me the gist of the text in a nutshell?

**Background:**I met my bf at an event about a year and a half ago. He lives in South America and was in the US for a little over a month before he had to return home. In that time we got to know each other very well and quickly fell in love. Once he returned home we kept in contact but it hasn't been very easy. 

**Current:**For the most part I've been confused about the nature of our relationship. We were never officially seeing each other, however, we act as if we are in a romantic relationship (talking a lot, pet names, "I love you"s, etc.). On several different occasions I tried to ask for clarification or confirmation on our relationship status (friends or more) and he told me that though he was sure we were more than friends, he also said being in such a long distance (I am in the US Northeast) monogamous relationship was unrealistic. I understood and respected his reasoning but the current undefined state of our relationship leaves me in an uncomfortable position. I don't see other men but I don't know if he is seeing other women (though he promised to let me know if something serious developed with another person). And I am still very worried because he does go out and party a lot and there are women he knows that like him that he hangs around.

**The Dilemma:** I'm no longer satisfied with continuing things the way they are. I don't want to pretend to be more than what we are anymore. I am not okay speaking to him and be spoken to as if we are in a monogamous relationship when we are not. Reddit, how do I break this to him without losing him as a friend?
<bot>: I want to break up with my kind of boyfriend in South America but am not sure how to do it and remain friends