<human>: I'm writing this on behalf of both me and my fiancé. I'm a European guy and my fiancé is a Filipina from a decently well off family. There are quite a few stereotypes in the Phillipines regarding relationships like ours, though we break them. We are close in age, we have a lot in common and we have been together for quite a while and while it has been long distance we have each visited each other quite a bit over the course of our relationship. We have a relationship built on love and partnership, my family knows it and her immediate family knows it.

The problem is with her extended family, where gossip flows freely. As a bit closer to the wedding than is traditional, we will be holding something called "pamanhikan", which serves the purpose of letting the bride and the grooms family get to know each other. My fiancés father wants to invite quite a lot of relatives to it just so they can see that we do not fall under the stereotypes of an intercultural couple. My fiancé just wants to ignore the opinions of the extended family instead though and neither she or I want to make the pamanhikan about proving our relationship.

Furthermore, if we agree to her fathers wishes the whole thing might end up involving almost a hundred people, undermining the purpose of it and possibly making my family uncomfortable. We want to know how to deal with this, if we should give in or not.

Note that this was after we refused to invite these people to our wedding (which we pay for ourselves, aside from a small contribution from my mother), as we both want something smaller 
than the typical Filipino wedding. He even offered to double our wedding budget so we could accommodate it.

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<bot>: Fiancés father wants to use The Meeting of the Family event to quench gossip after we did not allow him to use our wedding for it.