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We met whilst he was separated (a year after the separation) and he since a month ago, he is going through a divorce and custody issues. I was always super uncomfortable with going out with a married guy (irrespective of him being separated), so had refused to make any long term plans whilst he was still not out of his previous relationship. He was insisting on future planning which I half engaged in.. 

Over the last 7 months, we were working together overseas, and we tried repeatedly to end things - each time, neither of us were able to walk away. I more or less tortured myself by remaining in the relationship and watching things slowly degrade. I gave him some space to sort out his life (and did not want to be involved in his messy life) ... but found living in limbo land intolerable.

Today, after finally listening to yet another plan for the coming year which precluded me, I pressured him to either commit or to end things - he stated yet again that he could not offer anything in this relationship and that we should end things. He wants to stay in contact as friends (we have been in touch everyday  up to 3 days ago for 15 months) but I stated that this was not possible if he wanted us to remain as friends. He does not want this however and does not understand why.

So .. question is: what does he have to gain by remaining in contact (we are in a long distance relationship currently and skype/facebook is the way we remain in touch). 

We both care about each other but currently are not helping each other out - I realise that this is a codependent situation but I am totally lost. I just want things to be as they were before.
<bot>: more or less finally ended things with boyfriend who has retracted a commitment to a relationship but thinks it is still possible to be friends. Why bother?