<human>: Let me start off by saying that if I did pursue this relationship, it would only be my second "serious" one. I like this girl, she seems very nice and we have a lot in common, so far we've gone on two dates, and I really enjoyed them. I want to take it to the next level with her and such, but I'm having a bit of an internal conflict. Now, the problem: do I really like her, or do I like the idea for her. I had decided to take myself out of the dating scene for sometime after a huge falling out with my last ex of a couple years. First love, was great and everything, emotionally it was a whole range of great experiences. Am I liking her for her, or do I just like the contact with another attractive person. Physically I want to start having sex again, but regardless I enjoy our hanging out and going on dates even without it. Second portion of it is that I am questioning if it's worth loosing a friend over - I don't convince myself I can be friends with my ex's post relationship.

Can you give me the gist of the text in a nutshell?
<bot>: How do I know if the second time around I like a person for real or if I am just simply feeling less lonely and want physical contact? (Do I like the idea of her or actually being with her?)