<human>: I am a married man (11 years) and I am really frustrated and sad concerning my wife and I's sex life.

2 years ago we were at a pretty low point in our marriage. I was close to leaving, and finally gave her an ultimatum of marriage counselor or divorce lawyer. Things have improved a lot and I finally feel like I have my best friend back. As far as how we operate as a team, our marriage has never been better.

One of the big problems 2 years ago was her total unwillingness to have sex. We went from a passionate couple having sex all the time to once every 2 months. To her credit she listened to how this made me feel as a man and her husband, and we now have sex 2-3 times a week. 

Here's the problem: I can tell she is doing it just for me. She loves me and wants me to be happy, so when I initiate sex she almost never tells me no, but she has the same look in her eyes I get when she asks me for help with a household project. She seems to view sex with me as a chore. I've tried very hard to communicate with her, I make sure I am a giving partner in bed, and once we get going she always seems to enjoy herself. However, if I didn't initiate, we wouldn't be having sex.

I have brought this up to her and she explains that her day is very busy between a part-time job and our 2 children. She says she usually fantasizes about a bowl of ice cream, a glass of wine, some quiet time, then curling up in bed with me to cuddle and fall asleep.

I can tell my wife loves me, she just doesn't seem to have any passion for me anymore. She seems to love me like a brother or close male friend. I still have a lot of passion for her and realizing how one sided it is makes me feel hopeless. So much so I am considering leaving.

I could really use some female perspective on this. Am I justified in feeling this way? Am I being ridiculous? Is there anything I can do to improve this?

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<bot>: I am married to a wonderful woman who loves me and tries hard to make me happy. However, she seems to love me like a brother or best friend, and has no passion for me. Should I end things?