<human>: So I started seeing my boyfriend 3 months ago. We hit it off right away, and despite him being a bit older than me we are pretty compatible. He really is everything I could want in a guy. He listens, he is respectful, and I can tell he truly cares about my feelings. We do a lot of stuff together, and I love being around him... it's like the start to something really great. 

He wanted to wait a month or two to have sex, which is fine. I'm not used to that with guys, but its actually quite refreshing. So a few weeks later we did it for the first time, and he couldn't stay hard. Like, we couldn't accomplish penetration because he couldn't stay hard... even after I went down on him. We just left it at that and stopped and continued watching the movie. 

We have tried again numerous times, and he can't stay hard. In addition to this, it appears I have a higher sex drive than him. Whenever I initiate he can't get/stay erect and I think he loses confidence and stopped. He seems like he's embarrassed by this, and he even mentioned that he was afraid that this would make me leave him. It broke my heart when he said that. 

Like I said, I really care about this guy, but I am getting pretty sexually frustrated due to these circumstances. We were in the midst of getting it on the other night, and he just didn't seem too interested. Out of frustration I was just like, "fuck me like you mean it!". He lost his boner completely and said he felt a weird pressure from me. Fuck. I'm really glad he communicated that with me. But you know when people say they have to "tip toe around someones feelings". That's how I feel with him and sex, it's like such a fragile situation. 

I don't know what's going on Reddit. It seems like there might be something more to this, or maybe it's a medical issue. I just can't find the right words to talk to him about it. Every time I try to talk to him he just says he just gets nervous and dismisses it, seemingly out of embarrassment.

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<bot>: Boyfriend can't stay hard or loses his boner every time we have sex. How do I gently approach this situation?