<human>: Hi all, throwaway just in case. I'm at my wits end, my mother has had weight issues all of her life, she's well large but not that bad at all! The greater problem is that she just doesn't see herself well and refuses to do anything about it. Every now and again, and currently we are at one of those times, she bursts out crying because she thinks she's ugly and stupid - which she is not! My friend suggested that this could be menopause related but this has been going on since I was at least in elementary school. She doesn't really have any friends outside of a small circle and is practically afraid to seek a social life outside of my family for fear of judgement. 

She exercises regularly (way too often in my opinion) and is physically stronger than I am, but because she doesn't look like a model she is constantly disappointed in herself. She eats on a scale between pretty well and too little but I'm pretty sure she sneaks crap food. She's hyper-focused on what her body looks like as opposed to what her body can do. Which is just plain sad!

She refuses to seek counseling for her body image issues because she doesn't trust doctors because 'they judge you and don't help' (her words not mine). We've tried talking to her and she refuses to talk through her issues, answering basic questions like "what can we do to address this? how can we help?" with crying and saying that we can't and at one point saying that she is just a waste of space and worse things. It sounds awful but my sympathy has run rather low, I have listened to over a decade's worth of this crap and I just can't take it anymore! How do you help someone who doesn't want help? Have any of you had a similar situation or any ideas on what to do?

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<bot>: My mother has had body image issues all her life and I don't know how to help her when it seems like she doesn't want help