<human>: Can you give me a shortened version of the text?

I have been single and in the dating world since I was 19 years old. I have had one "real" relationship and that was in high school. Ever since then I have wanted to find a new boyfriend, but I have never been successful. I believe that I am reasonably attractive as I do get asked out on dates (through online dating) and guys do flirt with me. Over time, I have become more attracted to older men and that has become my preference. However, I tend to be stuck in a rut where someone seems to be interested in me and I think we're going somewhere until we have "the talk."  The conversation is always some variation of I think you're fun, sexy, intelligent, and a great woman BUT I don't want to date you. Then they ask if we can be fuck buddies. 

I don't want a fuck buddy. I got tired of that very quickly when I was in college. I think it's a waste of time and I want to start building a meaningful relationship built around loving another person and maybe eventually starting a family. I keep getting lead on by guys who say they are looking for a relationship and I am getting discouraged. I've started to consider changing everything about myself to be the most attractive woman and candidate but it makes me very emotional whenever I think about it. I want someone to like me for who I am not who I think they want me to be. I really need some help with this because it's causing a lot of emotional stress for me.
<bot>: I'm a 25F who wants a longterm relationship instead of being the woman guys want to sleep with me. How can I achieve this without compromising who I am?