<human>: I'm [38/M] close friends with V [35/F] who is close friends with S [35/F].  I've only seen S a couple times, but we had a nice talk on a group hike and she's very smart and pretty and I would be interested to ask her out.

I talked to V about that because I wanted to be able to include in my message to S that I had already talked to V and gotten her blessing that everything was cool about me asking her out.  V said I had her blessing to date S, but I didn't have her blessing to ask her out on account of she thinks S would turn me down.  My opinion is so what, I get turned down a lot, but V seems to think that would be a very bad thing to happen.

I mentioned to V that the reason I wanted to include the part about her blessing was that I had imagined it was something that would also be important to S, at which point V claimed that was not at all how the world works.  I had been under the impression that the world does work that way, that it is just the courteous thing to do in such situations.  Just wanted to get reddit's take.

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<bot>: If you wanted to ask out or were asked out by a close friend of a close friend is it normal to want to get the blessing of your close friend?