<human>: My bf grew up with a non-affectionate family and doesn't really understand my need for consistent (not constant) touch. Often [weeks at a time] he's great with cuddling and putting his arm around me, etc but he has cold spells [also lasting weeks].

It really bothers me, I'm not sure why so intensely, and it usually causes an argument. He knows it bothers me but doesn't think it's a big deal and doesn't understand why I get so upset.

Am I crazy, should I just accept that he has cold spells given his upbringing and be grateful for his affection when I get it?

Any explanation as to why it may affect me so strongly?

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<bot>: BF cycles through weeks of affection and non-affection - am I right to be upset or am I blowing it out of proportion?