<human>: Can you condense the text into three sentences or less?

We:

* Moved into an apartment after two years.
* Bought a house and got engaged after four years.
* Broke off our engagement after five and a half.

We have spent the past year and a half in counseling with a psychologist and have focused on improving ourselves and our relationship.

Our dynamic over the the majority of our relationship has been:

1. She identifies an issue that affects her or us that I'm not aware of.

2. I have an initial defensive reaction and sometimes take the issue off the table.

3. I think about it some more, then discuss where I'm coming from with her after I have had time to let down my defenses.

4. I apologize for my defensive response if needed and propose a path forward where I develop and maintain an increased awareness of the issue.

After this conversation, we usually don't have to deal with the issue again. They aren't "socks on the floor" kind of issues, but they aren't at the infidelity level either.

She just finished reading "Too Good To Leave, Too Bad To Stay" and is just as confused about the path forward as ever. She has encountered a good number of the issues that are brought up in the book in our own relationship at some point, but we have always been able to resolve them together.

She is concerned about the future issues we're bound to face, especially when it comes to having kids together. Always being able to pull through our issues has kept her going in our relationship. I think she wants to be with someone who has less issues to work through, or someone who is able to independently work through them as they come up without her prompting (and without defense mechanisms).

I want to facilitate her exit from ambivalence to confident certainty in her path forward, even if it isn't with me. Has anyone else been in this situation? How can I be supportive?
<bot>: She has spent much of the past 7 years of our relationship unsure whether we should stay together. How can I help her?