<human>: Hi guys, I've been with my girlfriend (Jess) for 2yrs 5 months. She still lives with her parents and I live with two friends. I work full time and she studies full time. Lately I've been thinking about our relationship and where we are going, and it's made me think that our relationship is very different than most I've read on reddit or others I know. Jess is a terrific girlfriend, of course she isn't perfect but she's great, so why do I feel like I don't love her and our relationship is a waste of both our time? We have never really had a verbal fight, we also have never really sat down and talked about our problems and what's bothering us. She is very submissive for lack of a better word, she will never argue her point on things. Even when she is right. I dislike my job and I've always wanted to apply for the defence force, it's something I feel I really want to do. But that means I'll be in another state for my training. And I can't see us working out long distance because I've never believed they work. She wants four kids, I want none. She wants to buy a house, I could never see myself with having that much debt. All these important issues, and in two years we haven't spoken about them, i tell her I love her, but the thing is, I don't know what love is, yeah sure I care a lot about her but I couldn't describe what love is and if I'm feeling it. I think I'm a very strange person to feel this way. With sex she isn't very interested, we might have sex once a fortnight, I stopped asking because she was pretty mean how she'd reject me so I just accept it when I get it, that's only one of her very few flaws. I also think if I ever did break up with her she'd act like it's the end of the world, where as I would be sad but know we both would find someone more compatible. So should I talk to her immediately and work out where we can go from here? And am I different in feeling this way? Sorry if this is confusing I'm typing as I think.

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<bot>: myself and SO have never seriously communicated in 2 years, and we both have very different future goals, not sure what to do