<human>: My husband occasionally gets very, VERY angry. He will scream, throw things and threaten to hit me, but the worst he has ever done is shove me very hard. He maintains that when this is happening, it is largely my fault because I continue to talk to him when he has already said he is too angry to talk further. He tends to get very angry if I tell him how I feel about things, especially if I am upset with his behavior in any way. 

It gets all muddled, though, since often what I am complaining about is his very critical treatment of me. He maintains that the core of the issue is that I am too sensitive to criticism, and then bully him into exploding so I can have the moral high ground (I am trying to be as fair to him as possible in my description of the issue).

These flare-ups are not terribly common, but have happened consistently over our 10 year marriage. We have two daughters who adore their father and who I honestly don't think are aware of these incidents.

After the last fight, I cannot stop being frightened of him. He shoved me very hard, said that he wanted to hurt me very badly. He has not apologized, and maintains I was at fault.

I am wary of counseling because I actually think digging into the issues will make it worse. He has personally sought therapy but not stuck with it. I am frightened of leaving because I worry he will become much, much more dangerous to me if I leave. He has never been violent to the kids.

I love him and genuinely wish for him to confront his demons. But in the meantime, what is the most prudent course of action. I honestly don't care that much about my own happiness, but the well-being of my own kids.

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<bot>: I have a relationship with sporadic threats of violence but little actual violence. I worry that either leaving or seeking help might make things worse. What's in the best interests of my children?