<human>: This may be small problem, but I feel like it's sucking the life out of me. 

We are really close. He lives an hour away, and does everything he can to spend time with me or make me spend time with him. He wants to be a part of everything I do and me to be a part of everything he does to the point of bribery. That doesn't even bother me.

What does bother me is that he strives for us to basically be joined at the hip. He wants us to work in the same industry forever, and start businesses together, and do stand-up comedy, anything he can think of. 

What's really happening is that he wants me to push him through life. He wants to impress me while I applaud him. It's gotten to a point where he will take every chance to make my mind up for me (because that's what *he* wants "*us*" to do).

Example: My dad offered to take me on a trip for my 21st birthday, and I get to choose. My brother is now automatically coming along and telling me where I should pick. Saying things like, "If you have any ideas, run them by me first."

I can't be a part of his life at all times, and I don't think it's wise to let him keep manipulating my life to make him feel better. 

How do I tell him that I want to be my own person, and that he should be his own person?

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<bot>: My brother is constantly manipulating me for his own good, and I can't stand up to him for my own good. How do I get him to chill out? Also, where do you think I should go for my birthday?