<human>: Hello everyone,

I broke up with my girlfriend about 4 months ago, we had a 3 year long relationship that was full of its own problems, due to her relationship with her ultra religious family and very bad decisions on both of our parts. 

I reached a point that It was hard to be to care for her and myself, I went into a depression because of things that had happened between us in the past. I finally broke up with her.

I find now that I want to contact her to tell her that I appreciated our time together, or simply to encourage her to take care of herself and have a good life. I wanna do this because I think she didn't have much support from anyone, we were each others family for quite some time.

I am afraid tho of her thinking I want to get back with her, or simply making her upset. I am not sure how I would feel if our places were reversed. I just want her to feel some encouragement and that she can put a past of pain behind her.

I appreciate all the advice you can give me.

Can you condense the text into a few key points?
<bot>: I want to contact my ex girlfriend but I am afraid it will cause her problems. I would like simply to do something good for her to help her to move on and feel happier.