<human>: This is a fairly new relationship and I have been single for 5 years so I am a little shaky on the timing of things. I am 23 and she is 20. We have been officially dating for about a month now and I feel that things could get very serious at some point. We haven't said "I love you" yet but I can feel myself wanting to say it so it may happen soon.

Here is the problem:

When I was 18, I had just gotten out of a bad relationship and went to the nearest rebound girl for meaningless sex. This eventually turned into a terrible relationship, but my heart-broken self wanted any kind of relationship if it meant someone at least acted like they loved me (not a sob story, sorry for how it sounds). We eventually ended up having unprotected sex as per her request but she cheated on my not soon after. About 18ish months later, I found out I had a kid with her. I had a test done and hired a lawyer but it was proven to be mine and I am now fucked for 18 years.

I am now 23 and have started this relationship with a girl from school and we have started referring to each other as BF and GF. I want to eventually say "I love you" and maybe get more serious later on (only time will tell if this stuff will last through school), but I don't think I can until she knows my shameful secret. I don't know when to tell her.

I don't see the child and I do not care to. I have no feelings for the child, as heartless as it may sound, and I do not wish to be part of that family's life. I will pay my fees for the next 13 years with grinding teeth and be done with it.

I don't want to tell her as I think it will drive her away. This scares me as she is such a great girl. However, I know I have to if things get serious and, with that in mind, I suppose sooner is better. But how soon?

Can you give me the gist of the text in a nutshell?
<bot>: I have a kid. Don't see it. I pay my fees. Started new relationship after 5 years of single life. Girl is great. Can see long term relationship. Need to tell her about kid. Not sure when.