<human>: Can you condense the text into three sentences or less?

I don't mean to sound dramatic, and insane might be too strong of a word, maybe a unaware narcissist. We've dated since we were in our early twenties, and between together for 10+ years, married for 3 years. We get in fights about stupid stuff and either I instigate the fights, or she is passive-aggressive.  For example, and please remember I am biased towards myself, I will tell her she is beautiful and she will respond with "well, I don't feel beautiful." (She is in great shape, eats right, she has ran 30 miles this month already). I will try to reassure her, but her rebuttal will be confusion about why I said that. I will then feel a bit insecure and respond with "oh, but I really think you are." and she goes back to "I'm sorry, I just didn't feel that way.' Then this confirms my insecurity and I say "I'm sorry love, I just thought you were beautiful." Then she starts to feel bad and apologizes to me. Then I feel worse that this whole situation has caused this amount of drama. I honestly feel like I am going insane.
<bot>: wife seems passive-aggressive and gets upset at me for nothing. I apologize which makes her feel depressed which creates a negative feedback loop.