<human>: Can you give me a shortened version of the text?

Married ten years. We had in-laws come live with us and everything went downhill. My husband would behave in a certain way and then we'd fight over how that behavior was unloving and disrespectful. I no longer felt very close to him and we've been having problems ever since.

Today I had this realization that when I'm blaming him for not loving me I may be really projecting my feelings on him.  

For example, I'll say something to the effect of: *You did such and such and it hurt and it shows me you don't care about me at all and you've made us distant.*

Maybe what I'm really feeling is: *You did such and such and because that hurt me I have lost some love for you, and now I don't feel as close to you."*

Does that make sense? I just wonder if all this time I've been blaming him for how he feels, when in reality the problem is actually how I feel.
 

If so, is this something I should keep to myself and privately work on fixing, or do I fess up and apologize? (Fessing up that I haven't loved him much lately seems harsh and unnecessary.)
<bot>: Think I've been blaming my husband for how I feel. Do I admit this or just work to improve it on my own?