<human>: Help?

My husband and I have a 9 month old son. We made the decision together to have a baby and as far as I knew, we were both on board and totally happy with the pregnancy and the baby. A couple of months ago we moved from our smallish city where we had a ton of friends with families to a very large city where we have only a couple friends who have no kids.

A couple days ago, my husband told me that he wishes we never had a baby. He loves me, loves our son, but wishes we were able to go out more and explore our new city and do new things. He said he feels bad for wishing we didn't have a baby. He emphasized that he just feels like he is missing out on...everything. He gets easily frustrated with our son and loses interest in spending time with him/doing anything as a family as soon as our son gets even a bit fussy.

I suggested we take a walk, explore a new part of town, that he join a meetup, that he go out with a friend while I stay home, etc. But he said he just wanted to go home and take a nap. He also said he wanted to go out to bars and trendy restaurants with me, not the 1-2 friends he has made here. I suggested we try harder to find a baby sitter so we can go out 1-2 times a month. He said the thought bummed him out more because of how infrequent it was.

I suspect he is depressed. He has a history of depression, especially surrounding major life events. He avoids treatment. When he tried to back out of our engagement and go back to being together without marriage, he and I both spent some time in therapy, but as soon as he felt better he stopped going.

Basically, what are some magic words I can say to convince him to talk to someone? I don't know if this is postpartum depression, seasonal depression, the same mild depression that has stopped being dormant, or nothing. I know I will have to navigate our insurance and find a suitable therapist or he will not go - what kind do I look for? Someone specializing in family issues?

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<bot>: My husband regrets having a baby 9 months in. I suspect he is depressed. What do I say/where do I start looking to get him to get checked out and get help if he needs it?