<human>: Can you succinctly summarize the text in 1-3 sentences?

So to start. My mother and I are very close. I even considered her to be a matron of honor before my FH and I decided to opt out of MoH and best man. I am the only girl in my family, the youngest, and the first to get married. So this is a big deal for everyone in our circle of family and friends. My mother has taken her role as mother of the bride very seriously. When we first went to look at venues she told me she "has been planning this wedding for 23 years and its going to go her way" I very quickly put her in her place (as awful as that sounds but I wanted to make it clear she cannot be controlling). But she didn't stop there. She fought with me on the shoes I wanted, the veil I wanted, along with a lot of other details. Thankfully everything has gone my way with approvals of ideas and things like that because we have gotten into a number of fights. Yesterday we were talking about my shower this upcoming weekend. I said my FH will be there towards the end to say hi to everyone and pack up the gifts. She said "why? They have to come to my house." I was like...what? She said my father wants to see what I get...I told her they are gifts for my FH and my new home and life together. They go to my house and if my father wants to see them he can see them at the house. She honestly thinks I shouldnt even think about using them until after we are married. That's not happening. But what has really upset me, and im trying my best to get over it, is she is throwing her own party the same night of my bachelorette party next weekend. She invited a ton of her friends over for food and drinks and movies. My girls and I are staying overnight at a hotel having food and drinks and watching movies. I just can't seem to get over that it feels like she is drawing attention to herself to make it about her, at least in her friends eyes. I feel so selfish thinking about this because every decision about the wedding has been made by my FH and I together.
<bot>: my mother is throwing herself a party the night of my bachelorette party. Mimicking what I'm doing. We have fought a lot during the wedding planning on who makes the decisions.