<human>: Could you distill the essence of the text into 1-3 sentences?

I feel that my boyfriend and I are generally good communicators and sort out most problems pretty well. We've never had a shouting match or anything like that, usually just pretty calm discussions. But sometimes I feel like we're having too many "discussions" and I'm trying to understand what other couples would consider a normal amount of arguing/discussing in a relationship. He's mentioned that he sometimes he'd like a night where "he doesn't have to worry". How do you balance communicating well with not overwhelming your partner?

Oh and I hope I don't make it sound like we're constantly fighting because we're not - he's awesome and we're really happy. Usually it's just little things I bring up, but I'm worried I'm doing it too much. I struggle with depression/anxiety too, so it could just be all that talking. Been together 9 months.
<bot>: How often do you talk about relationship problems with your SO? How often do you argue? How do you balance communication with letting some stuff go?