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Some context now. I live in an Asian country, and here people my age do not become financially independent as early as their contemporaries in Western culture. This means that I'm not moving out anytime soon. 

On to the problem. There's a lot of back story, but the main issue now is that I don't want my parents telling me what to do, who to be friends with, etc. For example, before I go out with anyone I'll ask permission from them. I think it's slightly ridiculous, at this age, to be doing that. Can't I decide for myself? Of course I can compromise if there's a need. But right now I still listen to them, so if they say no, that's it. 

So basically, how do I tell my parents in the politest, most respectful way possible that I want to make my own decisions from now on, and they really have to let go. I'll face the consequences of those decisions, of course. But its my life, and I'll do what I want with whoever I want. So best case scenario, they back off entirely, leave me alone. I know everything g they do is out of love for me, but I'm being smothered right now. 

I definitely still have respect for them. And we were/are very very close. I don't like hurting them, but I feel this is what I really need. Any advice at all is much appreciated. Thank you!
<bot>: I've been a paragon of obedience to my parents for all my life. Now how do I politely and respectfully tell them that I'm going to do whatever I want?