<human>: We have been married for 10 years, together 12, and have 3 small children. I found out my father's prostate cancer is now end-stage in February and decided to drive the 7 hours to visit him. Ken chose to stay home so he could have a boys' weekend and relax. He's never been to a strip club before that I know of and never asked about going. 

The trip was very dangerous and emotionally draining. I really could have used his support, but respected his need for space. I was suspicious leaving that weekend, but dropped it until the other night. I had a very vivid dream about him getting a lap dance. I woke up with the feeling something wasn't right about the trip to my Dad's. 

I confronted Ken and he said he didn't go. After looking through his bank account, I found a charge from Utah's only fully-nude strip club at the atm. He lied and said he only brought his friend there to talk to his girlfriend. He pulled money off just to check the place out because he'd never been. I didn't buy it. My bullshit meter was in the red.

I asked his friend and the friends ex. His friend repeatedly lied about it, but the girlfriend said he did pay for dances. I confronted him again and he called them both liars, until I said I'm leaving with the kids. He still hasn't fully said what "really" happened.

I am furious, hurt, and betrayed. There have been many betrayals and lies on his end before, but I've foolishly and blindly forgiven him. I now have 3 kids at 30, no job, and all my family is dead save my father, who's dying and in no place to help anyway. I don't think I can forgive him after this, given the lies and the circumstances. I just need some advice or support or insight on the subject. I feel so lost and I'm too ashamed to turn to my friends about what happened.

Can you give me the gist of the text in a nutshell?
<bot>: My husband went to a strip club while I was visiting my cancer-ridden father, has lied repeatedly after being confronted and I am devastated.