<human>: Just as some back story, me and my girlfriend have been seeing each other for the past 3 months. For those three months, she would sometimes seem distance if we began to do anything physical, so because of this I avoided sex because I assumed she wasn't ready. Recently, she told me that she was the victim of previous sexual abuse in a past relationship, and this has stuck with her, and some niche parts of a physical relationship reminds her of these events. From there I decided that I wouldn't mention or suggest sex, because I assumed she would let me know when she was ready.

Now recently she has finally suggested that we have sex. The problem however is that I noticed that after having sex she became very distant for some time, and only after plenty of comforting was she in a better place. I didn't notice this as much the first time, but when she suggested we had sex again, and about the same thing happened, but this time I noticed it.

From there I talked to her about the distance between us after sex, and she admitted that almost anything sexual reminds her of the sexual abuse. However, she hinted that the reason she suggested sex was that she thought it would make me happy. I have told her that forcing herself through this with extreme discomfort to herself is not what I want, and I don't want her to feel pressured to have a more physical relationship.

The biggest problem that I am currently facing is that I don't think she has really accepted my words, and may force herself into a more sexual relationship because she thinks that is what I want. I don't know what to do if she suggested sex again, because on one hand she is a fully grown human and I shouldn't force my will onto her, but on the other, I am afraid this is causing harm to her. I can never tell for sure if she wants the physical relationship, or if she is trying to do something she thinks will make me happy.

Can you give me the gist of the text in a nutshell?
<bot>: Previously sexually abused girlfriend tries to have a sexual relationship because she thinks that is what I want. I am concerned because I think it may be harming her.