<human>: Can you provide a brief overview of the text?

This is a long story, I'll do my best to make it brief. 

I had been dating "Jamie" for 3.5 years. Being together for so long, I learned many terrible things about his family and past growing up. His family has been incredibly unsupportive, emotionally and physically abusive. The caveat includes an incident where he was threatened with a knife by several family members for asking for therapy as a teenagers. 

We lived together when I found out Jamie was having an affair on me with a casual acquaintance. The affair was something on going, and I was completely thrown into the fray. Thankfully our lease was up at the end of the month and Jamie moved back home. 

After several months of minimal contact, Jamie reaches out to me and says he wants to work on our relationship. Namely- trying to be friends again after everything that went down. Since the beginning I've asked for four things as a requirement from Jamie to work on this relationship:

1. Jamie must seek personal therapy, help, guidance;

2. Jamie must cut off contact with the other woman;

3. I asked for complete transparency on our social media/phones with each other;

4. Couples therapy.

Besides breaking it off with the other woman, Jamie has stated that my requests are unreasonable and that I'm "pressuring" him to seek therapy. I understand that it is a sensitive issue for him that carries bad memories- but for me, the only way I can peruse a healthy relationship with Jamie once more is knowing that he is actively working on improving himself. 

One last note: Jamie has sign up for the ACA insurance plan but otherwise has no medical insurance. One of his issues with therapy is the price, stating he cannot afford it. 

Reddit, is this a lost cause? Is it wrong what I'm asking for? I miss my best friend. I question if my relationship with him will ever be truly repaired but at the very least I would like to be on friendly terms.
<bot>: Ex who cheated is dragging his feet on therapy, something I've explicitly asked for as a means to repair our friendship. Am I being insensitive or unreasonable by asking him to seek help?