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I was with my ex partner for 12. We fought a lot but we also had good times. Although I wasn't physically attracted to her, I thought she was a good person. Looking back on the relationship now i realise she was mentally abusive to me.

It is only know that I'm in a new relationship (we're together almost a year) that I'm realising the damage caused by my ex. The main problems are to do around me sleeping and also me waking my partner up.

Tonight, my partner got up to sleep downstairs because I was snoring (I have a head cold). I went into panic mode.. Fearful that she was downstairs pissed off with me and that there was gonna be a huge argument tomorrow. I ran downstairs to get her to come back up. She said she was grand and to just leave her downstairs.. Which leads me to panic more and an argument with my partner (which was resolved quickly) 

This is not my current partners fault it's my exes and the way she would react if something like this had happened.. I would have been in a lot of trouble. There would have been screaming and silent treatment.. Then she would have said she was fine but it wouldn't have been and it would have been brought up again again..

This is just one example there are so many more. She also used to get angry if I fell asleep early or if we were in bed watching to and I dosed off. I have explained this to my partner and she understands (she is great, I'm very lucky to have her),  but I do fear that she will get sick of my tears and panicking. How do I get over this fear of disappointing  and upsetting my partner. I'm in constant fear of argument not because of my current partner but because of my ex.. How do I get over this.
<bot>: issues brought up by my exes emotional abuse, finding hard to shake, fear i'm going to ruin current relationship with my fears,