<human>: Problem: Whenever I like people, I end up being cold to them.

Root: I have vulnerability issues. I've had some of them resolve over the years, but I still can't get over the hurt that came from my mother. I used to fight a lot with my mother when I was in high school and for almost a year I would be angry, yelling, crying like crazy, and then fall asleep crying. My mother doesn't allow crying in front of her or getting pissed off or angry, no matter how justified. Her reasoning is because she's been through much more than me and she hadn't cried one bit. Also, seeing me angry gets her upset (and then she yells at me for making her upset). I used to argue that crying is a good thing, being pissed off or angry is natural. All I wanted was for her to show some love but no matter how much I argued for it, it never came and it left a hole. I kept on arguing until I developed difficulty breathing and my heart began beating irregularly. Nowadays when I cry, I cry in a separate room and don't ever let her know. I don't think I get angry anymore. I did talk to a psychologist when I was in college to help me get over some things. It did help to know that my mother's Chinese heritage would mean that her methods of child rearing and expectations of the child differ from my expectations of how a mother should treat a child but I still can't resolve these vulnerability issues I have. What can I do?

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<bot>: Arguments with my mother from high school has left me with vulnerability issues, so much so that I am cold to people I like. I want to resolve my vulnerability issues so that I can have healthy relationships.