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Some unfavorable things happened between my bf & I recently concerning snooping and finding evidence of cheating. Ever since, we've been on a tug of war of who was right and what was wrong. These fights have me so messed up that I'm starting to doubt myself. And I have a lot of questions. 

Who is in the wrong. Is it bad to go through your SOs stuff, or does that become null if you find something? I get that it's bad, wrong and untrustworthy to rifle through ones personal information. I wouldn't want the same done to me. But does that even matter when you have never done that before, but suddenly find a motive to do so? Like if your partner is showing red flags, and is always on their phone? What if you find evidence of cheating. Is it even considered cheating when it's a sext sent to someone else while drunk? Or of they become mad because "it's not like it was physical, I was drunk and don't remember doing it"? Do they still have the right to be mad about the fact that you went through their things to find it? What if they become defensive. Or if they don't admit to the proof you found and don't come clean, but constantly turn it around on you for violating their privacy. How you stole personal information from them. But they hid important information from you. How do you reason with them and try to make them see what they did was wrong, when they're just as mad at what you did and try to make you see what you did was wrong. Supposedly, the information about the sexting was hidden so I wouldn't get hurt; it was to protect me. How do you even go about rebuilding trust? Can you even do that? How do you go about reassuring one another. I get with the phone thing you can just password protect everything, delete conversations, or have your phone on you 24/7 so no one goes through it. But how does the other person get reassured.
<bot>: who is in the wrong when it comes to cheating and snooping. How can you even go about rebuilding trust.