<human>: Now that I've gotten your attention, let's put down the pitchforks and torches so I can explain:

I've been dating my primary partner for 4 years and we're planning on buying a house together. We have an open relationship because she's asexual and I'm not, and after a few years of trying everything else we decided that the best solution for us was for me to find other partners. 

However, most of the new places we're looking to settle down in are ~20 minutes away from both the major city I'd likely be meeting new people in and a decent portion of her family and their friends network. 

These people don't know about her orientation (it's frankly none of their business) or the alternative lifestyle we've chosen to help meet my needs. They would, however, freak out, jump to conclusions, and (in some cases perhaps literally) shoot first and ask questions later if they saw me out with another woman.

Given that we're both pretty set on living where we plan to, and have no desire to try to bring the whole family's attention onto our private life, what are some good strategies for keeping my sanctioned indiscretions...discreet? Has anybody managed to maintain an affair while regularly seeing an SO's family members AND keeping them in the dark?   

I'm savvy enough to know not to make basic mistakes like bringing partners to our home and making a public access dating profile, but any other advice you can offer me would be helpful.

Can you summarize the given text in a few sentences?
<bot>: Open relationship, moving to be near her family who we don't want to know, how do we keep it that way?