<human>: I am having 2 issues that I am hoping /r/personalfinance can help me with.

1. I make a budget and my fixed costs are easy. The variable costs always throw me for a loop.  How do I account for them? If I have one month that I was over I spend that extra money since it's just in my bank account begging me to. 

2. The other problem I keep running into is that if I have a budget of 200 for going out and I've exhausted that, the next time someone asks if I want to go out somewhere I'm all in and say well I'm over budget might as well go big. That's a terrible idea, and I need some tips on dealing with that too. I'm thinking I could do some kind of analysis on typical spending and then adjust. I'm worried about the problem i have in #1. 

I've tried the envelope method, mint.com, and multiple bank accounts. I should also say that all but one fixed amount bill are auto paid on a credit card that I then pay the amount billed on. Should I setup a fixed payment to the credit card that auto pays the bills ? Is that a viable solution? 

Can you guys and gals help me?

Can you give me the gist of the text in a nutshell?
<bot>: I don't follow my budget and when I do I spend leftover money. What are some methods to not do that anymore?