<human>: I'm in a situation where we've had a great marriage, get along, have the same goals and she especially wants kids soon. I found out recently hearing through the grapevine (a husband of one of her good friends) that she loves me but is not especially attracted. 

It's apparently not a physical thing but my interests (more intellectual) and how passive I am. She is attracted to blue collar types and more physical type men as well. One problem further is that in years past she has flirted with such men so I have reason to think it's true though no reason to think she has done anything wrong. It just verifies what I'm hearing. 

I read, cook, I am very helpful and supportive, and am generally serious. I hate that she gets the benefit of that but only is attracted to men who are not very serious, she praised men who hang out at the bar late when she's on her way home. That kind of thing. 

I feel like for years (we met at 19) she has gotten the benefit of boring me though it's been hard for me to take her interests to heart at such a young age, but her attraction is to those men who never did or would do a thing. I feel stupid for having tried to be a good guy and husband material when my friends had a decade of fun and now have wives who respect them. 

I hate that she never told me but told her friends and now it's apparently some running joke among her friends, our friends, her workmates. I want to just do what I want now but it's like I feel l have to hold back from her now. I don't fully trust and I can't look out for her without feeling it's a double edged sword of making me less attractive. We have a good sex life for what it's worth.

I still love her and am not looking to leave. Any ideas?

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<bot>: My wife has told her friends that I am not really that attractive to her, I'm too nice. She loves me but is not into me that way. Advice?