<human>: We have been together for 5 years, lived together for the last 6 months. He is of middle-eastern descent (an atheist though) and I am white.  

He had this thing about families - we couldnt meet each others families until he could support himself because his family would not approve of me and could kick him out. Well now he is on his own for the past 6 months with me, they still dont know about me. Thats another fucking post though........

He met my parents when we moved in together, 6 months ago. They have only met him once and are always asking about him and why he isnt attending any family functions of mine. Now with the holidays coming up, I have three things to attend: a small get together on saturday with my parents and aunt, christmas eve, and christmas day parties. I asked him to pick *one* of the three to attend. I gave him a week, knowing he was going to bitch about it. I dont talk about it for a week, and when i ask him again he just outright refuses. He said I am "trying to control him and make him do something he doesnt want to do" and that "its not fair because I only have time off on the weekends and I dont want to spend that time making stupid smalltalk with people I dont give a fuck about" I GET THIS. fuck small talk. But its important to me and I think he should respect the fact that he needs to show his face at some family functions every now and then. It is NOT unreasonable to ask him to meet my family for the second time in one year....

We went to bed mad at each other and havent texted this morning. Usually the answer is communication solves all problems. But how does it work when you are talking to a brick wall?

Am I wrong? What do I tell my family? What do I do with my boyfriend?

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<bot>: live in boyfriend wont come to holiday party even though I never ask for these kinds of favors. What should I do?