<human>: Can you condense the text into a few key points?

So I know exactly what I have to do to be a successful dater: put myself out there, risk rejection, all that stuff. I'm pretty sure I can do it. 

But I've recently realized I have no motivation to do this unless I'm super-interested in a guy. I basically need to have made him my "special interest" (if you're on the autistic spectrum, you'll know what I'm talking about). Then I'll want to know everything about him, what his life is like, what his hobbies are, and my romantic fantasies will revolve around him and occupy the biggest part of my thoughts. I'll pull out all the stops to get his attention, until I annoy the heck out of him and drive him farther away (he's never interested in me to begin with). 

Otherwise, I just don't care. I don't want kids, and I'm not even sure I want to get married or live with anyone (I can be pretty hard to live with, anyway), so dating seems like putting in a lot of hard, stressful work for an undetermined reward that may or may not exist. And I'm not excited by the idea of making new platonic friends. 

I enjoy everything else in my life (food, writing, volunteer work, family, Internet, occasional political discussion/activism), it's just that meeting new people isn't something I love to do for its own sake. My ongoing fantasy is to become a desirable, sexy woman who's wanted by many men, but really I just want to attract the one guy I happen to be hyper-interested in at the time.
<bot>: How can I get the motivation to meet new people (including dateable guys) if I'm only interested in guys I've become obsessed with?