<human>: Hi r/relationships,

I found out yesterday that my boyfriend has been sending out messages "winking" at girls on the app Scout. He was showing me something on his phone a notification popped up saying that this girl messaged him on Scout. I later asked him about it, and he said oh yeah he had that app from a long time ago, and just still replies to some people. I asked if those conversations were platonic, and he said yes. I then asked if I could see his messages. He said ok. So I read through the messages on his phone, and see that he's sent out a bunch of "winks" at girls, some who were halfway across the world, but some who were close by (<40 miles). 

I'm upset, because something like this has happened before, where I found out that he was on a dating site, after we had made it an exclusive relationship. He's since deleted that account, and had apologized profusely. 

The messages that he sent on Scout were not sexual or anything, and his defense was that the messages hardly took any effort -- that they were just "pokes" to see what would happen. But that he understood why I would be upset, and he can delete the app if I wanted. I say that it's not the app that's the problem, it's the desire to do that. I asked if he even wanted to be exclusive, and he said he did. I don't know if I do anymore. I mentioned taking it back a step, and to just go back to dating without any promises of exclusivity, and he said, "Will that hurt us? I don't think you would even enjoy a non exclusive relationship." 

True, but I would rather be in a relationship where no promises are made, than to be in one with exclusive promises, only to be lied to. And if no promises are made, at least I can keep my options open to. Because when I say I'm exclusive, I am completely exclusive. 

Sorry for the rant, and hopefully some of you guys read through the whole thing. Any advice and thoughts would be much appreciated. Thanks guys.

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<bot>: I found out boyfriend of around six months has been using a "dating" app and has lied to me about it.