<human>: Setting aside what triggers our fights, whenever my boyfriend and I start having some sort of disagreement he threatens to leave my apartment and/or refuses to engage in conversation with me. To date, he has gone so far as to start packing his belongings in order to make his exit.

I don't know how to deal with this behavior. I'm the kind of person who talks things through and when I don't have the opportunity to work though discord with my partner, I'm left feeling like shit for longer periods of time. When he refuses to discuss with me, I feel it is a form of emotional manipulation and punishment.

It should be added that he's the kind of person who goes from zero to ten on the rage scale in 30 seconds. He blames this on his ADHD and says he tries to avoid fighting/discussing because he's afraid of losing his temper completely at me (which could lead to acts of physical violence). I can testify that when truly angry, my boyfriend loses control of himself and flips out like a five year old child.

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<bot>: My boyfriend gets angry and threatens to leave/refuses to discuss the situation with me. I need advice with how to deal with this kind of behavior, as I have never encountered it before.