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My boyfriend is the youngest of  a big family (one of 6), all of whom are married. All of whom had a big fancy wedding. It just seems to be the way they do things. We've been together for 3 years and have talked about marriage in the future. The issue is I'm not even sure I believe in marriage, and even if I were to get married I'd choose a simple ceremony with a few family and friends in a local registry office or hotel. My boyfriend however wants a big wedding, all of his siblings have spent £10,000+ on theirs and perhaps he feels he needs to follow suit. 

I've explained to him I wouldn't want the stress or hassle or organising such  a day, he has assured me he'd do all the planning, but it's just not me. I hate being the centre of attention. Plus I only have a small family and few friends, I think it would be upsetting for me to have such a small "bride's side"  of guests. 

He's told me that he has always thought he'd have a big wedding, he doesn't seem that willing to compromise. Ideally I would get married secretly or elope to Vegas without telling everyone but I realise this is a bit selfish! 

I'm not really sure where to go from here. It seems it come down to "big wedding or break up".
<bot>: boyfriend wants a big wedding, like all his brothers and sisters have done before him. I'd rather get married in the town hall. Neither of us particularly want to compromise on this.