<human>: I'm 20/f and he's 20/m, we've been together for 2 years. This is both of our first real relationships and we both have been learning through dealing with each other what it means to be part of a healthy relationship with another person. It's definitely been an eye-opening experience.

**Here's the thing, though:** I'm having a hard time arguing like a logical adult. When I get angry, I get furious, and can't back myself down. The most recent example I can think of is last night, when my bf and I got into an argument over Skype and, at one point, he just started laughing, rather innocently, saying that we were taking the issue too seriously. I tried to laugh it off, too, but instead, I got all tense and saw red. I blew up at him for laughing at me and ended the call. This seems to happen a lot with me. 

I feel like I'm protecting myself 24/7, from being hurt and from not being taken seriously, so when I get mad, I get really mad, and I don't let anyone in unless they're knocking on my door with an apology. I know this is the wrong way to go about things, but I don't know how to change. Any thoughts or tips from you more experienced guys or gals?

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<bot>: I take arguments and my own anger way too seriously, and it's making me miserable. How do I start to change?