<human>: Hello, I am wondering what are the best steps I can take to help with my girlfriend's anxiety and self esteem issues. I thought maybe talking to someone might help. Neither of us are keen on the idea of medicine however. She just shared a lot more about it to me recently, and I am concerned. Some new perspectives are greatly appreciated. 

Just a few things she shared, and I have noticed:

1. She has a lot of trouble going into a new place, and will often sit in the car for 30 minutes observing how people walk in the store before being able to enter herself.

2. She said she feels her whole life has been shaped from her self conscious mentality; she hasn't done things she would have liked to from worry.

3. She will sit inside the entire day to avoid social interactions, but says doing that makes her depressed. It feeds into itself as an endless cycle. 

4. She dwells on the smallest of gestures from people for weeks or months, good or bad, rather than just being able to move past it.

5. She has an extremely difficult time making friends, never knowing what to say, how to respond, and just an overarching feeling of oddity. 

6. She is extremely concerned with her looks and how her actions look to other people to a point I believe to be all consuming. 

As she approaches 30, she seems finally ready to take small steps towards ridding herself of these feelings, but neither of us know what to do. I am an active person (snowboarding, climbing, skateboarding, etc) and have tried including her. She wasn't very interested in anything, and it didn't seem to help. Me pretty much being her only social outlet takes its toll. And while I try to be solid and there for her as much as I can, sometimes I just... can't. I seldom can be inattentive, annoyed, and sometimes just mean.

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<bot>: Any advice on how someone can lessen anxiety for basic things (grocery shopping, job seeking, basic human interaction) and care less about appearance?