<human>: My husband and I are both 30 y/o and have been together for just over 4 years, married for 9 months.  He started a new job last week and he mentioned this morning that he listed his dad as his emergency contact and me as the secondary emergency contact.  For some reason, this really upset me and my feelings are extremely hurt.  It makes me feel as though he doesn't trust me or/or views our relationship as temporary instead of that of a family member.  I also work about a 5 minute walk away while his dad lives in the area, but is not particularly close.  For practical reasons, I am also concerned that as the secondary contact, if my husband is hurt or injured on the job, I won't be notified directly, but instead they will call his dad and then his dad will have to call me (unless he doesn't pick up the phone).  I am not sure about the laws in our state, but I don't believe that parents can make medical decisions for adult children, while spouses can.  Am I wrong for feeling hurt that his first instinct is to have a parent instead of his wife as the emergency contact?  I don't want to make a huge deal of this and cause an argument, but I feel like I got a punch to the gut and am looking for a bit of perspective.

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<bot>: Husband started a new job this week, listed me as the secondary emergency contact after his dad and I feel hurt that as his wife I am not automatically in that position.