<human>: Hi all,

I'm having a bit of a conundrum with a friend. First off, I love her very much and we've been super close for around 10 years. I think it rings true for most people that we all have a friend hierarchy: we have the best friends we spend most our free time with, and secondary friends who we enjoy hanging out with once in a while.

This friend I've had for 10 years falls into the secondary-friend category. We spent two or three years inseparable, but I quickly learned that we are just VERY different people, and while I think she's a sweetheart, she and her friends are hard to be around. She parties a lot (I'm talking raves with loud noises and pills, and I kind of outgrew that lifestyle), and is constantly in between jobs, making it hard for me to relate to her on a basic level (I'm SUPER career-driven, so it's important to me that people in my immediate circle be driven, curious and able to talk about anything and everything).

She keeps inviting me to her events that I really have no interest in going to. I want to maintain a friendship with her, albeit a casual-yet-fulfilling one, but it kills me to keep turning down her invitations. If she knew anything about me, it's that my idea of a good time is not going to bars every night. (Make no mistake, though. I love going out and drinking, but not daily.)

When I give her viable excuses as to why I can't come (like I have work the next day or during the time of the event, have to pick up my parents at the airport, or what have you), she'll push with several ideas as to how I can work around it, how I could stay for an hour if I just XYZ. Writing off her shitty event, I'll give her an alternative plan that suits me better, like a walk or brunch date, which I know for a fact is in the realm of her favorite activities, too. 

I hate having to see her put herself in such a pathetic situation, because the begging turns me off even more.

Can you succinctly summarize the text in 1-3 sentences?
<bot>: I have a friend who is way more invested in this relationship than I am and keeps inviting me to parties I don't want to go to.