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I've know Jim (m29) for years. Our families were friends but we never really spoke much. I always felt so shy and awkward around him because he's so good looking. Or actually, it's not really his looks. It's everything about him. I would find myself getting butterflies just being near him. People would always tell me that we were so similar. That we should date. Jim knew about this too, and I think it made things more awkward between us. I've had a few longer term relationships over the years, and so has he. Then he moved away to another city. I'm going to be in his city for a few weeks for work. Should I message him? What would I even say? We have probably hAd 1 conversation before. We're pretty much acquaintances. But I feel so drawn to him. I have for years. I realize that I may be creating all of this attraction in my own mind, but a part of me wishes I gave it a shot. I just wonder if the fact that he never made an effort means he wouldn't be interested. He probably sees me as the socially awkward person who avoided his gaze. I'm quite sociable and  attractive but I'm so nervous to do anything. I'm concerned that I'm not in as good shape as I'd like to be. I'd want to be skinnier before I saw him. I want to impress him. But I also can't be too keen, forward or friendly, because that would be unattractive. What's the best way to go about this? Also, I'm worried that if anything goes wrong, all our mutual family/friends will find out and it will be forever even more uncomfortable.
<bot>: fantasizing about a guy for years. Should I make an effort to see him in his city (even though we never talk)? Or should I take his silence to mean he was likely never interested, and move on?