<human>: My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. We live together. He worked in the oil patch until March but has been unemployed since. I work full time right now.

His mom has been asking to borrow money (she is working part time and going through a divorce) and we have lent her about $5000 in total. She has not been able to pay anything back yet. About a month ago she sent him a text message asking for more money, but she asked him not to tell me about it. He did not see this message. After I got home he got a notification on his phone from some baseball app and asked me to check what it was. When I looked at the notification I saw the text message under it. I got upset about her asking him to lie to me (we were in a rough place at this time as he cheated on me at a stag in Vegas about two weeks prior).

When we went to visit her I found out she went out and bought five pairs of shoes, a shirt, and got her nails done. This made me angry. She told us she needed our money for lawyers. When I told my boyfriend this made me upset, he got mad at me. He said that I need to understand that the divorce is hard on his mom and she is not thinking clearly. I fully understand that she is going through a tough time right now but that doesn't mean she can use our money to go on a shopping spree/ ask him to lie to me about giving her money. This has become the biggest problem in our relationship.

What should I say/do? Am I being unreasonable? Should I stop voicing my concerns about his mom since it is creating friction in our relationship?

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<bot>: Boyfriend's mom said she needs money for lawyers. Goes out on shopping spree. Asks bf for more money but tells him not to tell me about it.