<human>: I have been with my wife for 6 years and married for 2. I think we have a great relationship and believe that she would too.

Herein lies the problem. Whenever something bothers me and I confront her about it she accuses me of treating her like I'm a parent and she's a kid instead of as my wife and partner. She says I tend to lecture her instead of talking the problem out with her. Frankly, I can see where she is coming from, and honestly this isn't the first SO that has told me this. 

This is something that I want to fix as I know it isn't constructive and it's getting to the point where she is getting fed up with it. I had to assure her earlier that I do see her as a partner and an equal. Honestly, I wouldn't want to be talked to/or feel like I'm being talked to like that from my SO. The fact of the matter is most of the time I don't even realize I'm doing it until after she has pointed it out to me and looking back I can see it.

My question is has anyone else dealt with this or can point me in the right direction in dealing with the way I bring up issues with my spouse? Maybe something you've read or any tips to stop myself from doing this? This is my first time posting so I apologize if this isn't formatted right. I can provide more details if needed. Thanks.

Can you give me the gist of the text in a nutshell?
<bot>: ! [34m] having hard time communicating with wife [29] when issues arise. Treating her like she's my kid instead of partner. Any helpful suggestions besides just don't do it?