<human>: Hi guys.

So I am a young girl who probably shouldn't be thinking about this already since I am still in school (last year though!), but I just got stuck in the thought after a conversation with my boyfriend [24M] of 3 years.

Both me and my boyfriend are the typical logical, nerdy and atheistic people with STEM-degrees. Both of us laugh at a lot of traditions and are very open in our thoughts, and we are not afraid of being rebellious - we are both openly childfree for example.

That being said, I have never dreamed of a wedding. I was a typical tomboy when I was young and was raised by a single mother, so I never really got influenced by traditions. 

I was raised in a very abusive and poor white trash family, and I detest my family and everything that comes with it. Including my family name. Even if I didn't dream of a big wedding and being all dolled up, I dreamed of changing my name and becoming a part of another's family.

I have discussed with my boyfriend about marriage and he is openly against it. We live in Scandinavia so there are no real benefits, unlike the US. He finds it stupid and even if I have mentioned some benefits (being viewed as a family, changing names, getting to be the heir of belongings, having a say in his medical procedures and similarities), he shrugs them off and says that it's possible to fix in another way.

Then I mentioned my dream of changing my last name.

He said that he could see where I was coming from, but that I could change my last name anytime I want. But I don't want to change it into *any* name, I want to share *his* last name! I love his family and would love to be a part of it some day...

But he is very against it and I can understand that. He only sees the losses and struggles with divorce (even if I have said that I would want to keep our economy separate).

Should I give up on this for the silly isssue of just wanting his name? How should I handle this issue?

Can you succinctly summarize the text in 1-3 sentences?
<bot>: I want to share my bf's last name, but he is very certain that he doesn't want to marry.