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Long story short:

I don't want kids. I never have, and probably never will (for a variety of reasons I won't get into). My girlfriend used to want kids, but over time, eventually decided she didn't either because she lacks "maternal instinct" and doesn't think she'd be a good mother, either. 

On top of that, it's hugely expensive and logistically-complex. We're also a bit selfish in the sense that we'd rather live life for ourselves and not be "tied down" by anything. 

However, her family is traditional Asian and expects, on some level, that we someday give them grandkids. I don't think she's told them that she doesn't plan on having any. I also worry that when she does, they're going to be extremely upset and forever resent us. More specifically, me -- since she only stopped wanting kids after we started dating.

Has anyone dealt with this, and what did you do / what happened?

I certainly do not want to simply have a child because someone _else_ wants us to, or out of some misplaced notion of guilt. I just don't know how to deal with family expectations in this way.
<bot>: I worry my girlfriend's family will forever resent me for "influencing" my girlfriend to not want kids even though it is a joint decision.