<human>: So I'm needing a little advice here, both male and female perspectives are appreciated. 

After going through a while of one night stands and some short-lived relationships, I've been looking for something serious - as in a real emotional connection with someone. It hasn't been hard meeting guys, although I'll admit the bar is usually where (I've frequented coffee shops as well but just haven't been approached there, not sure if this is relevant). A lot of guys are great and I'd like to get to know them more. The problem: I find my interaction with these guys usually just becomes sexual ie. more one night stands. And the understated problem with that is once sex has been involved, especially between people who don't know each other too well, the whole dynamic is thrown off and it's hard to build a natural relationship from there (from my experience, at least).

My own observation tells me that when I'm interested in a guy, I want to turn on all the charm I've got. And that for me includes: naturally flirty side (so I've been told) + tendency to touch people when talking +  boost from the booze.

Aside from approach, I'll admit there might also be a problem in intention. As I said, I know I look for a more genuine connection, but not having had experience in anything serious, I often revert to my old ways ie. charm a guy's pants off when I have interest in him. In a way, it almost seems like I can't wait to "get" the guy before I actually get to know him. Not the best mindset I know, but I can't help but feel that it's so nice to know a guy I'm interested in also takes interest in me, even if it's more on the shallow side. 

For what it's worth, I'm sex-positive and don't feel bad for having sex too soon with guys that I could have dated. I do want to move forward, though, with a right mindset and approach in meeting guys to find the real connection that I'm looking for. Any insight is appreciated!

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<bot>: Want to meet and get to know a guy for a genuine connection, but tend to end up with one night stands. Need advice to change that.