<human>: A friend of a month started hitting on me to sleep (not sex) together, etc. I gave in, and we fooled around a bit (nothing more than body kissing/touching etc), he completely respects my boundaries and need for taking things slowly. I'm coming out of an abusive relationship.  During the time we spent together, he made as though and told me he was really into me. I then couldn't hang out the next two times he asked. The next time I saw him he ignored me, and flirted with a girl he had once told me he's liked for years. I have no intention of a serious relationship with him, as I'm moving soon, and he is a heavy hard drug user whereas I'm straight edge. Also, my friends and family do not approve. we come from OPPOSITE backgrounds, and he has a shady history. However, seeing him flirt with her hurts my feelings. But I know I have no right to ruin his chances with someone who could be long-term.

Since then, we've talked more and are hanging out soon. I don't know how to address this flirting issue. Also, I really want to hang out in public with him holding hands and becoming kind of an item-- however, the girls he like are in our dorm so IDK if it's fair of me to request this, and even how I would do it. Is it weird for us to hold hands if we're not in an official relationship?

I also don't like how he messages me and expects me to be available right then instead of making plan a day in advance. And I want him to take me to our dorm events. Do I even have the right to bring this up to a fwb? He would do it since he's really into me, but i'd feel guilty.... especially since i'm not having sex with him, and just doing more sexual touching related things.

I've only ever dated before with the intention or hope of potential marriage so this whole situation is confusing.

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<bot>: Navigating tricky ground of guy friend, we like each other but it could never be serious. can i still request certain behaviors from him or is it unfair?