<human>: Where to start... Had no intentions of letting things spiral this far. But basically I [21F] have been involved with someone for a while now. My boyfriend [28M] and I planned a move 2,500 miles from our home state and though we've lived together in the past, I think the commitment to him scares me. We broke up for about 6 months a while ago and things just never fully snapped back to normalcy. The man [32M] I have been seeing has stolen my heart. He is aware of my situation, although he was not at first. I have been spending every night with him for the past week & I have no hopes for a future with him but I can't help but notice the little things he does and says that draw me in more and more. The passion and patience he has shown me is so great it's scary. He looks at me in a way that makes me lose my breath and I am so scared of breaking things off with my SO for many reasons: he moved to what is our new home/future state, he is *incredibly* emotional, tends to get violent and destructive when angry, could cause self harm & has gotten close before. I felt the distance growing between us and we have both felt and talked about it numerous times throughout the relationship. I am so happy that it is almost impossible to feel guilt. Where do I go from here ? Our whole future was planned. I plan to move in the new year. And now what ?

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<bot>: I [21F] am cheating on my fragile and intense [28M] SO of 3yrs. for over a month now with someone [32M] who I feel a undeniable spark with.