<human>: We've been together three years now.  Alcoholism runs in her family and she simply doesn't know her limits on intake.  She drinks to the point of black out once or twice a month.  Whenever she gets blackout drunk she gets very angry and confrontational with me specifically.  It almost always turns into a fight and we pretty much only fight during these episodes.

She becomes verbally abusive: telling me that she thinks our relationship will fail, why I'm a shitty person, "fuck you", urging me to break up with her, etc.  I initiated a breakup last year and she has told me that she still doesn't trust me; that this is the reason she gets hostile towards me in particular when she's drunk.  I usually try to distance myself but she will persist, keeping me awake and not letting the fight die down.  I'm not blameless, I get frustrated and yell at her to leave me alone.

To add to this, she doesn't remember most of this the next day.  This happened last night and after I told her some of the things she said, she downplayed it as me exaggerating.  I don't know what to do.  I'm not exaggerating what she says, and I never escalate the situation by returning her insults.  It hurts more because she doesn't really seem to own up to it the next day.  I end up looking like an asshole in her eyes for recounting her insults to her.  I've considered recording her to show her that these arguments really are pretty much one-sided affairs with me on the receiving end, but that doesn't really seem constructive.

How can I get across to her that there's a reason we only fight when she blacks out?  I've given up on her not blacking out anymore.  Our relationship is otherwise very good, but the 1% of time she is like this is nightmarish.

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<bot>: Girlfriend gets verbally abusive with me when she blacks out, doesn't remember the next day and thinks I'm exaggerating.