<human>: [Original Post here] 

I received a lot of good advice in my original thread and thought I would update.

So I have been thinking about how much I love my gf and how happy we generally are together, and I totally understand where she was coming from with the ultimatum especially with the consideration that she would be committing to move to be with me when I graduate. For a while I got really into the idea and thought about cute proposal ideas and even made a custom doctor who ring box, etc. But what I kept coming back to was the idea that this is a lifetime commitment and there is no going back on it(I mean I know divorce exists but that's not how you should approach marriage). I love this woman but I just don't feel 100% sure that I want to spend the rest of my life with her. She deserves to be with someone who can give her the commitment she needs in a timely manner. 

So I skyped with her(because we wont be in the same place for several months) and told her that basically I love her and think she is amazing but that I am just unable to make this serious commitment and I dont know when or if I ever will be able to. That I don't think its fair for me to keep stringing her along in hopes that "someday" I will be ready. I did the cliche thing and said that I hope we can still be friends because I do enjoy her company and our common interests, but I understand if its too hard for her. We talked about a lot of things and she said she would like to still be friends and have an NSA sexual arrangement(when we are in the same place) and I said that I dont think this would be emotionally healthy for either of us, and she was just kind of dismissive of this. I worry that falling into bed with each other will make it more difficult to move on etc, so I am going to try to avoid it. I am encouraging her to go out and find someone new etc but I dont know how helpful that is. 

Sorry this wasnt the uplifting resolution that has been frequenting this sub lately.

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<bot>: Decided I wasnt ready to make lifelong commitment to my gf, so I told her and we are done. We still love each other and the situation is rather nebulous atm.