<human>: Thanks for looking. My wife and I have been together for 16 years, married for 8. She's always had a troublesome relationship with food, stress, exercise, and body image issues, but it seems like now they are worse than ever, and I need advice on how to better help me and my wife through these times.

I say "help me" because, after months (in some cases years) of negativity, it just wears me down to hear, every day, about how big she's getting (not true) or how great other women look in comparison to her (not true). If anyone has any tips on how to prevent these negative thoughts from souring me, I would really appreciate it.

Now with respect to my wife, it feels like she is never satisfied or happy with respect to food/exercise/weight. She'll eat a great meal, be happy, then at the end, be very upset for "letting go". She'll get up early the next day to exercise. She'll have a great exercise, get on the scale, see she's gained a pound or two, then freak out that her exercise habits are making her "butch" or "too muscly." (She works out 6-8 times a week.) I feel like I'm not doing the explanation justice, but perhaps those who have been through this before as the supporting SO will recognize what I'm getting at.

I love my wife dearly. I need to help my wife (and me) get some stability.

Can you condense the text into three sentences or less?
<bot>: Wife's eating/exercise/food/body issues are spiraling out of control; how do I help her and me get better?