<human>: Could you distill the essence of the text into 1-3 sentences?

My fiancé was raised in a church-going household while I was raised by a secular humanist and agnostic who used Bill & Ted's Excellent Adventure as a teaching film (Be excellent to each other was a mantra in our house).
We were going to ask my oldest uncle to officiate as he's a yogi and pretty Christian.  But then he said some old guy racist things while we were visiting him, and I crossed him off the list.
My future father-in-law (FFIL) has expressed displeasure in our not getting married in a church or by a pastor.  He wants us to start out on the right foot.
Ten years ago, my dad flipped out on me when I allowed a minister to co-officiate my mother's funeral with me.  So I expect the same reaction at the wedding.
I've been blogging about the wedding planning sans mother process, and really want to write a post about what we're looking for in a officiant, but my 70 year old father hasn't told his siblings he's not Christian.  I'm afraid of starting something, but the subject is pretty close to my heart.
Do I just leave it?
Or screw the fallout?
How do I find an officiant?
<bot>: raised by an atheist who has blown up at me about church things before, do I out him in a blog explaining why we aren't having a church wedding?