<human>: ohhhkay - throwaway account.

Both 22. Busy people, and seeing each other less relying mostly on weekends when we get a day aside to spend some time. We both work long weeks, so ya know, we want to sleep... however on these days off he's not really seeming so interested in having sex. I'm not saying it should be routine or planned (as this is how he sees my reaction) but for instance, we had a really lovely afternoon hanging out and he was hands everywhere, fliritng etc, but once we get home and i ask him gently to come upstairs, he says he's not in the mood and leaves soon after. I'm trying to be as patient as i can, and give him plenty of him-time (as he's so busy) but intimacy is crucial to me. He says i just have a high sex-drive and that he wants to keep it special and natural, but i'm feeling more and more dejected everytime he says he's not in the mood. I more often than not initiate sex, and this is also becoming tiring. When we have it it's great, it's just not very often. I'd be happy with twice a week, but he can easily go a week or more. So i guess my questions are:

- how do i encourage him? ( i suspect he is body conscious, as we've never had sex during the day out of a bedroom in our 1 yr of being together.)

- how do i discuss this with him without him thinking im making a big deal of it? ( he gets super defensive when i try to discuss it, which is a bit soul - tearing, due to having to muster up the courage to bring it up). 

- any tips or advice? Other than this relatively minor issue, we have a great relationship.

Thankyou :)

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<bot>: Busy people, trying to make time for intimacy, but it's just not a-happening at the same time. Help!