<human>: My boyfriend and I are complete opposites when it comes to lifestyle. I've been on my own since I was 14 and he's lived at home with his dad his whole life. He has always had family problems (bipolar sister, alcoholic dad, etc.) but of course they all love each other and try to work through things as best they can. 

We were roommates before we began dating. I lived with him and his dad for a short period of time in Texas until we entered a relationship, moved to California, and got our own place. His dad and I had an unspoken dislike of each other even before we moved because I disagreed with his alcoholism and irresponsibility (ie. I would give him rent and he would forget to pay the electric bills and we would be out of power for a week, or I would buy groceries for myself and he would eat them all in a drunken stupor and not tell me). I had to teach my bf how to pay bills, manage money, and some serious realistic lessons of being an adult. 

Now that we've moved, it's only gotten worse. His dad sees me as the girl who took his son away when in reality it was my boyfriend's idea to move. His sister blames my boyfriend's increasing self-distancing (emotionally and physically) from his troubled family on me, when in reality I've always tried to encourage my bf to mend his relationship with her. I've become a scapegoat I never wanted to be. It's caused riffs in our relationship from arguments about visiting relatives for holidays etc. 

I know that we are both still very young and there's a lot ahead of us. I know it is still very early to be so serious. But considering we have been dating and living together for over a year, and I love him, I would really rather work for our relationship rather than chalking it up to some young love that will eventually pass on its own. 

Does anyone know how this might be resolved? Will this just be an inevitable ongoing problem? 

I appreciate all advice. And any ambiguous areas I will be happy to answer to better help this resolution.

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<bot>: I've become a scapegoat for my boyfriend's personal family problems and now it's causing problems within our relationship. Help.