<human>: I recently started dating this girl (27f) after being single for a year. I have known this girl for 10 months now but I was not over my ex so we kept a distance. The breakup of my previous relationship took a heavy toll on me since it coincided with my job loss and change of location. It has taken me a year of No-Contact and therapy to not feel lost and thinking of my ex constantly. So I am very apprehensive and careful about who I get involved with.

I have been on several dates with this new girl and have been intimate with her. Nothing is official yet though, as we act like friends when hanging out with mutual friends.

Problem: While we were friends and she was still single, her ex visited her from his country and they ended up sleeping together. She told him it can't work between them and she said he had a very hard time dealing. She told me he has been a VERY important person in her life and he will always hold a special place in her heart. However, with new developments, I see that her ex posts on her FB almost everyday. It bugs me. I don't want to be hurt again.

Is this a red flag? She is very stingy with her kisses and I get a constant feeling that she is not over him yet. I asked if she is emotionally available for me and she said yes. But I don't feel that it is true. She will be very distant even after having sex when we get to see each other once in 3-4 days. On such days, she doesn't initiate texts etc. throughout the day.

Red flag?

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<bot>: Dating 27f who says she is emotionally available but it doesn't show. She keeps communicating with ex on FB publicly almost everyday. I don't want to be hurt. Is this a red flag?