<human>: Hi, everyone. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 7 months. We are both at the same college, but are currently apart for summer. We skype often. Our relationship is fantastic, and we both love each other a lot. This is just one aspect that I believe I need to work on. I have spoken to him about it, and he wasn't clear--but I think the gist was that hopefully it will fade over time.

The issue is whenever we get into an argument--a real argument or a conversational debate--I feel slightly attacked. And, I become defensive. I, then, start thinking about some of the not-so-nice things that he has done. Whenever he has done or said something that has hurt me, it has always truly been unintentional or him just being slightly callous towards my feelings. I think of things that I have forgiven him for, but it makes me upset to think of those situations.

I know this is wholly unfair to him. If we are discussing a topic where we have opposing opinions, I can't start thinking about a douche move pulled a few months back. 

I don't know how to get myself to stop feeling this way. And, I really do want to be able to have spirited discussions with him! How can I stop doing this?

Could you distill the essence of the text into 1-3 sentences?
<bot>: During debates with my boyfriend, I think of his past inconsiderate moments. This is unfair to him, and it prevents us from talking about controversial subjects. How can I work past this mentality?