<human>: So I happened to post an instagram photo while I was out and about. I noticed a few hours later it had a comment from an old friend. It had been over a year since I'd seen her. We knew each other in high school and were quite close. She dated two of my friends and neither break was too civil, but in all honesty I saw no reason to be mean to her just because the relationship had ended. 

So we stayed in touch hung out, and when my relationship ended she was kind enough to have me over to talk and be consoling and even tried to help me find a new job. So part of me has always felt that should she ever be in a similar predicament I should do the same as not many friends were forthcoming during that period in my life. 

Her message said she'd seen me in town, and we should hang out. She lives right down the street from me. I managed to get her new number and we began texting. She told me she'd split up with baby's father and was living alone and that she'd developed an eating disorder (she'd always been incredibly svelte). 

So I said well let's hang out. I've made a few attempts, during the afternoons but she works. So I suggested after work. She suggested her lunch break but I work around that time unfortunately. When I said about after work she said that she has her son, and I said look it's no worry about him and I even offered to take care of him if she wanted a few hours/night off.

I really don't want to push her or be too ott, but I'm conflicted because sometimes I think in these scenarios you need someone to pull you out of the mire. Is there a way to strike a balance?

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<bot>: friend who is a single mom and has issues. Trying to help her but don't want to be pushy or OTT. Striking a balance.