<human>: My [40F] boyfriend [39] has expressed to me that I 'don't ride him enough' and that he does all the work when we're having sex. In other words, he wants me to be able to fuck him without him having to hold my hips or guide me. He says he's not complaining, but wants me to do more. He told me he wants to watch porn with me because he thinks it'll help, but he won't because he thinks I'll become embarrassed which is far from the truth. I watch porn on my own and I guess one reason why I won't watch with him is because I'd feel like I'd have to live up to some standard and feel like I'd have to perform like a porn star. Plus it just looks uncomfortable and painful. Maybe I'm just doing it wrong? I feel inadequate at the moment.  I always feel like he's comparing me to pornstars and fit girls because that's what he likes. I'm not fat out out of shape by any means. I'm thin, just not toned. I feel like if any part of me jiggles, he'll be turned off. He says he loves my body, but I guess it's my insecurities.

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<bot>: My boyfriend wants me to be more active in our sex life and wants me to watch porn with him. How do I let go of my hang ups and inhibitions?