<human>: I'm a 25f he is a 28m. We have been "dating" for a year. 
We have never had the relationship talk, but are exclusive, hang out mostly at my apartment, but have hung out with friends and outside of the house. We talk everyday. Lately I have been stressed out so has he and we have both been cranky.

Last weekend he is very drunk and starts texting me. Asks me and my friends to come over, I said I would ask them, they declined. He begins to get upset and says he is mad they won't hang out with him and it shows him how important he is to me. 

I go over alone, and he has a total meltdown. Saying he doesn't know why I've been upset lately, he's putting more into this than I am and he's getting tired, and he normally wouldn't care except I've been cranky. He said it's not like he's tried to be my boyfriend because he won't take me out on dates, but we are at least friends and he can't keep depending on me if I don't share my feelings. 

Asks me what I want. Tells me he doesn't want a relationship, I don't seem ready. Then tells me if I want more we can talk about it. Says I can tell people he's my boyfriend if I want. Lists a bunch of things he likes about me and that he's happy with what we have, and labels aren't needed. Mentions he wants to have a kid soon. Doesn't specify with me. 

We end the night on a happy note and then he cancels plans and doesn't talk to me much for 3 days afterwards. Then asks me if I miss him and says he misses me. 

I care about him a great deal, I am fine with label or no label, and up until this thought we were both happy. 
My question is what is going on here? He is all over the place, but obviously upset....says he doesn't want to be my boyfriend, then acts like he does...Then ignores me, cancels plans, and says he misses me. any insight into what is going on here? Thanks

Can you give me the gist of the text in a nutshell?
<bot>: SO has a drunken meltdown, is perhaps awkwardly attempting to have the defining talk, I am confused and would like insight.