<human>: Give me a shortened version of the text

I feel stupid typing this first world problem at all, but it really gets to me sometimes.

I don't handle intense relationships well...relationships that start out with a lot of "spark". I completely lose myself in them, and end up with high levels of anxiety and obsessive thoughts. Sometimes I cease to be able to function normally. I know the obvious thing to say is, "You need to work on yourself, go see a professional, etc", and while it's good, sound advice, and is definitely something that's in progress, that doesn't help with my current relationship.

I don't feel intensely for my current boyfriend. We care for each other a lot, have told one another "I love you", but I don't lose my mind when I'm with him (or without him). Some friends and family have made a point of suggesting that there's something missing in the relationship because I don't feel butterflies when I see him, or miss him terribly when he's away...that these are signs that it's not true love. I argued that "butterflies" equate to anxiety, and why on earth would I want to feel anxiety when I saw him.

Can someone tell me that it's okay not to have a Hollywood romance? That I'm not crazy to seek out an intense relationship? Or am I wasting my bf's time because I don't want to throw up from anxiety when I see him?
<bot>: Feeling "spark" with partners makes me go crazy, friends and family still think it's important. Making me doubt my relationship.