<human>: Can you give me the gist of the text in a nutshell?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2+ years. This is it for us, we've talked about marriage, kids, future plans, etc. We're ready to move in together and then in a few years get married. The moving in subject is becoming more paramount and we've had very general conversations about it, but I can tell it may turn into a heated topic.

How does a couple decide who's place to move in to? I've done the pro/con list in my head about each of our places. Part of me thinks the best thing to do is just find a new place together, but (and maybe this is selfish) but my current apartment is in a great neighborhood, is very decently sized, and has private outdoor space (biggest pro for me!), and I'm paying way less than what similar places could go for. To find something even remotely comparable and affordable in NYC would be impossible. And for me one of the pros - it's not near his mother. 

His current apartment he rents from his mother in a house with multiple units. She's an amazing woman whom I love to death and have a great relationship with, but even my bf complains about her being underfoot a lot of the time - nagging him about cleaning, laundry, leaving lights on. And she drops by a lot, mostly for amazing things like bringing food, or just to talk (I enjoy chatting with her, as she's more a friend than a mother-type with me). But I can foresee not having our privacy becoming an issue.

The first time I mentioned not wanting to live in his place for a list of reasons (location, commute, size, no outdoor space, mom) he got upset and defensive about me bringing up his mom. The conversation ended because he had to leave, and I haven't broached the subject again. Am I wrong for not wanting to live so close to his mother?
<bot>: How does a couple decide who's place to move in to? Should I not bring up his mom as a reason why I don't want to move in to his current apartment?