<human>: Ok so better explanation. My BIL and his GF have been together for a year and two months. Three months ago she told me that she stopped taking her birth control because they had decided they wanted to have a child together. I was excited for them because I have a 9 month old and it would be awesome for her to have a cousin close in age to play with. BIL seemed slightly reserved but I figured it was just because he didn't want us (husband and I) to tell his parents because they're not married.

Well yesterday my husband spoke with my BIL on the phone and the topic of children came up and BIL told my husband he didn't want to have a kid right now and was worried about money, the crying, sleepless nights, diaper changes and basically everything that goes with having a child. When my husband asked him why he didn't tell GF that, he said that he didn't want to upset her and that he was afraid she'd leave him. 

Now my first reaction to this is that they're both adults and I should leave it to them to work it out and make their own choices. However, seeing as I'm still new to this whole parenting thing I know how stressful it can be when you have your first child and I had my husbands full support.

I can't say what my BIL's reaction would be if he decides after the fact that it's too much work and he doesn't want to deal with it but I can tell you that he's not ambitious, doesn't like confrontation and would rather walk away from you than continue a discussion that isn't going his way. It makes me fear him just leaving her alone with this baby.

I don't feel like I'm explaining this very well but I need advice. Should I leave it alone and let the chips fall where they may or should I talk to her and tell her that BIL isn't as ready as she is.

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<bot>: My BIL and his GF are trying for a baby but BIL told husband he doesn't want one and won't tell GF. What do I do?