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My girlfriend of six months goes to school in the same town as me. I go to a boarding school, she goes to a day school.

We can usually see each other either once or twice a week during term time and similarly infrequently in the holidays.

She has mental health issues which she has never spoken properly to anyone about. She used to self-harm several years ago but now just feels 'shit and empty' a lot of the time.

I try to give her advice and put myself in her situation so that she'll go to a therapist or councillor about it, but she never does and just says that I'm being patronizing.

She says that I seem patronizing too often and that she's bored of me asking how she is over text. I say that I only do it to check she's ok because I worry about her.

We recently found out that the universities we are going to are 250 miles away from each other because she didn't get into her first choice. We're both happy to try long-distance but I've said that I want to hold on to her and enjoy the next few months regardless of the future.

We had a long phone call last night when we both openly criticised the other, which doesn't often happen, and I feel so shit waking up this morning. 

I put in everything I can and try to make sure she's OK but I don't know if I'm meant to be a coping mechanism or a constant source of reassurance or what. 

I know I am young and naive but please don't be patronizing to me in your advice. This girl was my first kiss (tragic, I know) and is the first person I've ever felt like this about. I don't want to lose her over something I can't control.

I have no idea if she's planning on breaking up with me or what but I need some advice as to how to cope. Ask questions if you need to or PM me or whatever, I just need someone to help me help her and help me make her happy and smiley again like she used to be.
<bot>: girlfriend depressed, neither of us feeling like our relationship is going anyway even though we love each other, and I want to find a way to help her.