<human>: Ok so this will probably get lost and I doubt many will see it, but I have to say this somewhere.

I used to be kind of a social recluse, and I have never had any luck with girls. It's not that I was ugly, I just didn't have any confidence. Lately (like, the past two years [I am 21]) I have been somewhat of a social butterfly. Going to parties, making new friends, SOCIALIZING! I spend far more less time on the computer or playing video games as I once did and it honestly feels good. I like the direction my life is going -- I'm smart, in school, very funny and charming, and pretty good looking, but there is something from the past that always seems to haunt me. My crushing loneliness.

I surround myself with attractive, ambitious, genuine people and I love all my friends to death but it seems like no matter where I am I am always lonely. My two best friends are now in relationships and it makes things worse, seeing them together with their partners. There is a girl we party with that I have had my eye on, but she is always trying to get with our friend that doesn't even find her attractive (although he stills messes around with her anyway). I don't know, it just kills me inside, it really does. It has been like this my whole life, and it's not like I don't put in any effort or put myself out there -- I do, but to quote Dancing With Myself: "I've looked all over the world and there's every type of girl but their empty eyes seem to pass me by..."

Am I aiming too high, Reddit? Should I be looking at the bottom of the barrel? I feel like I have been there before and I never want to go back. I have been telling myself that I'm not going to 'settle' anymore but the ones that I wouldn't have to settle for might be settling for me. Anyway, what can a good looking guy who is already confident, social, funny and charming do to get girls when he has never had any luck with them his whole life?

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<bot>: I have charisma and confidence but I still can't seem to land even a date with a girl I like. Any advice?