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Basically, I felt betrayed because my girlfriend had sex with someone else before we were a couple even though I asked her not to. 

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This issue was really messing with my head and all the advice on this /r/relationships had me really worried about any future I might have with my gf. Someone finally asked me a question that made something click in my head.

Advice Giver: If you want her, then you want her. That's not going away. What did YOU do wrong?

I have always believed that if something doesn't go my way, it is generally because I didn't do what was necessary to make that happen. And it sparked a memory. She never cheated on me! I was emotionally upset about her having sex with other people. She didn't think we were a thing or would become a thing. I had only been back in her life for such a brief period of time and she honestly just thought I was going to go back to my marriage and I didn't give her any good reason to believe otherwise. So she just lived life. I remember her telling me as much but I blocked it out because I was upset. I thought I asked her to not sleep with anyone. I didn't, I just showed mild annoyance and told her to "live her life", which is not really the way to inspire confidence in a future relationship. 

Well, I really gave her a lot of hell for this. I even convinced her that she cheated on me, and I believed my distorted story so much, I made her believe in a false history. It really, really sucks that I did that. It sucks that  I was a coward and didn't just tell her what I wanted from her, which is what she wanted all along. It sucks that I let pure jealousy manipulate my thinking. We had a talk and all of my concerns just seemed to vanish. It was a very freeing experience. Anyway, we are doing so good now and I am just happy I figured this out.
<bot>: I was so upset at my current gf having sex with someone else when I had come back into her life, I convinced myself and her that it was cheating.