<human>: In my extended social circle there are a few people whose lives are so dull they have to stir up drama among the rest of us. Tell me, Reddit, is this a wise way to forestall it?

Situation: I was out with an extended group of friends & acquaintances the other night. One acquaintance in the group was a bit liquored up and came over to talk to me, put his arm around me and put his face in mine like we were BFFs. I semi-jokingly told him lay off/rein it in bro. Had to do it twice.

Eventually he stumbles off and later our mutual friend comes over to me and says I hurt the other guy's feelings, I was mean, etc. So I got up and took her over to the other guy and I asked them both what this was all about.

The rest of the story is beside my point - what I'm asking about specifically is the technique of getting the pot-stirrer (her), the victim (me), and the pawn (the other guy) all face-to-face over the issue as soon as possible so that we're all on the same page about who did what to whom and why. Because it seems like pot-stirrers rely on *lack* of *immediate* cross-communication among the people they play their drama games with ... and it exposes the manipulation for what it is.

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<bot>: So next time somebody tells me I offended a third party who conveniently isn't there, or tries to create drama between me and someone else, is it wise to do a quick pow-wow and clear the air?