<human>: My boyfriend and I have been going out for a little over a year now. During the entirety of our relationship, it has almost always been me asking him to hang out, go out to eat, go on a trip, etc. I did not mind always being the one putting in effort at first, but it has started to wear on me recently. This is most likely because since I am the one always asking, I'm also the one constantly getting rejected when he has other plans, or doesn't want company. 

Lately even when I make plans with him a day or two in advance, he ends up texting me the morning of and canceling for this reason or that. He has also just straight up forgotten about plans we made and left me hanging.

When we do hang out it's always great. We have a good time and get along fantastically. He is honestly the nicest guy I have ever met, and always goes out of his way to help others. When we do spend time together, he is never distracted and gives me his full, undivided attention. We have never had a fight and this is the only complaint/insecurity I have with our relationship.

I love him very much and he claims to love me as well, but I just feel like his actions don't match his words all the time. I know I need to talk to him about it, as communication is key in any relationship, but I just don't know how to bring up my insecurities with him in a way that he will understand, and hopefully work with me on. This is also my first actual relationship, so I have nothing to base his behavior on. Is this how most relationships are? Is the woman expected to be the one putting in more effort?

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<bot>: Boyfriend does not put in the effort to spend time with me and it is making me feel insecure. How can I voice my problems to him in a way that he will understand where I am coming from?