<human>: My bf (36 m) and I (27 f) have been dating for 19 months and living together for about a year, and everything is great between us. We have fun together and really encourage one another to be our best selves, individually and together. I'm ready to get married, but he is more apprehensive, and doesn't know why we need to change our relationship since we're happy now. 

When we first met, his divorce was a few weeks from finalized (mutually agreed upon divorce, no kids). I have never been married, nor ever particularly sure I ever wanted to be. However, this relationship has made me 100% sure that I want to spend the rest of my life with my bf. He says he wants to marry me, but thinks we should date for a few years before getting married just to make sure we know each other really really well. 

I would've married him a year ago. I'm starting to get frustrated with waiting. He dated his 1st wife for a year and a half before proposing. We've been dating longer than that. I don't understand what would change in the next year or so to make him more sure. I'm tired of friends, family, and co-workers constantly asking me when we're getting married, because the only answer I have is that it isn't up to me. I don't think he gets that outside pressure the same way that I do (I've never heard any of his friends or family mention us getting married).  I hate that we aren't family despite the fact that I love him more than I've ever loved anyone. I know marriage doesn't change everything and doesn't guarantee forever togetherness, but it's something that I've realized is important to me. And with him, not someone else. 

Divorcés who remarried of Reddit, how long did you date your 1st spouse before being at least engaged? How long did you date your 2nd? Did friends and family ask you about your future plans while dating 2nd spouse as they did about the 1st.

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<bot>: I (27f) am ready to marry my bf (36m), but he's not ready. I'm getting increasingly impatient. How does divorce influence people's ability to commit to someone new?