<human>: Can you succinctly summarize the text in 1-3 sentences?

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So after going through the roughest patch of our relationship, my girlfriend and I seemed to be doing okay. We were hanging out like normal, laughing, loving etc.

When we tried to have sex one night, I lost my erection due to anxiety and nervousness of letting her down and starting over this whole cycle. She began to cry and think that I found her unattractive. I told her I was just really nervous and she forgave me.

We spent the next few times we were intimate having oral sex (I was avoiding penetration due to the fear of going soft). She noticed and I came clean to her that I was still nervous about performing and that I was afraid it was affecting my ability to have an erection. We went through the same cycle where she told me "I don't get how you can be nervous about this. Just focus on how good it's going to be". Easier said than done.

After me pleading for another 2 days, we sort of made up and tried again after I had time to cool my head. I was putting on the condom and this time I came prematurely. She was just silent and that's where that ended. 

I've realized that beating myself up about this isn't helping at all. I know there's a psychological issue that I need to address. I just don't know how to approach her anymore after so many chances. She hasn't returned any texts either. Help?
<bot>: Erection problems happening. Girlfriend doesn't get why I can't just fix it. I don't know exactly how to fix it either. Hurting the relationship