<human>: Just got out of ~3 yr relationship with 23F that was the love of my life... went on a couple dates (2-3wks later) immediatly for distraction to try avoiding drinking/self-destruct mode. I've been in more relationships than I'd like to admit, but most of them I met by circumstance and I've never really intentionally 'dated' as an adult. So I'm just wondering some folk's opinion of the ettiquete about progression of dates/intentions. I really hit it off with a girl (22F) in a similar situation I've been on 2 dates with and I could kind of sense a kiss would be appreciated after the last one but I went for the awful hug-talk some more-hug again thing because I was unsure about expectations. We're planning a third date and I think it would be somewhat awkward if I don't make some kind of move (probably just a kiss would do) afterwards. Am I am asshole for kissing her if I intend to go on dates with other women in the next couple weeks? What about sex? I know the absolute answer is to talk about it beforehand, but I also don't want to come off as over-thinking/brooding what might just be a short-term comfort for both of us.

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<bot>: Does asking about physical expectations 'ruin the mood'? How can I respectfully invite a physical component to a new flame and also communicate that I might not be ready for true intimacy?