<human>: This woman I have been dating for about a year has constant problems. Every day/week/month there is some new thing that is everyone's fault but hers.

She's always broke, can't pay her rent, can't fix her car, can't take care of her kids (that don't live with her), she smokes a ton of weed (and because of this is constantly losing everything), goes out drinking at least once or twice a week, does occasional drugs like cocaine, she loses control of her emotions all the time - ie; whenever anything bad happens (like losing something) she starts yelling and arguing (even at random people on the street who have nothing to do with it). She's constantly trying to get people to help her or give her handouts. And doesn't really do anything to improve her life.

That's the gist of the cons. There are a dozen more but whatever.

As for the pros, she's fun to hang around most of the time, shooting the shit and quit wit, she's got a good job which keeps giving her raises, she's got pretty good street smarts, and she's pretty worldly.

That's the gist of the pros, there are some more but you get the idea.

This is a bit complicated because she's friends with my sister and a lot of my friends. And because of her constant woe is me and getting easily upset, I don't want to lay this on her like I'm breaking up with her. I want her (to think she's) breaking up with me. I honestly want her to be good and I care about her, but I don't think this relationship is going anywhere.

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<bot>: Self destructive gf of 1 year, will probably freak out if I dump her, and I want her to dump me so it's not so hard on her.