<human>: I (34f) have an amazing boyfriend (42m) who I love and he loves me. We've been together 1 year. 

My biggest issue is that he's a very private person. If he decides he doesn't want to talk about something, he won't discuss it at all. I'm not referring to relationship issues or problems between us at all. He's open to discussing things any time I'm sad or upset. It's really just personal stuff of his that he doesn't want to talk about. 

The other part of the problem is that I'm a very open person. I want to talk about everything and how I feel about it. It's a big way that I feel connected to someone when I can bare my soul and feel like they've bared their soul. 

For example, he has a high stress job, and at the end of a hard day, he wants to leave work at work and not talk about it. The trouble is that every day is a hard day. And he never wants to talk about it. And I feel like I can't ask about it.  So I never get that feeling of connection that I need. 

There are other examples, but this one is the easiest to explain. 

I don't want to force him to talk about anything he doesn't want to talk about, but I do want to feel that sense of connection. How can I respect his wish to keep private things private but get the connection I need?  

Why when everything else is so perfect do I keep coming back to this one piece that's missing?  Why can't I love him for who he is and not try to change him?

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<bot>: I (34f) have an amazing boyfriend (42m).  We have an impasse in communication styles. How do I respect and love who he is without sacrificing what I need?