<human>: I (26f) have been dating this guy (31) for about 8 weeks.  When we're together, he's amazing.  Super attentive, very kind, extremely affectionate.  He treats me like his girlfriend in front of all of his friends and mine (he's very kissey, touchy and hand hold-ie around them). I love being around him, we have tons of fun and the sex is amazing and very intimate (lots of body massages and deep eye-gazing). We've spent a few weekends together, gone camping and he's spent money he doesn't really have on me. He talks about long-term things he wants **us** to do in the future (events that are months away, projects for us that will take 6+months, etc).

We have not yet defined anything or really talked about where this relationship is going.  I would really like to be sexually exclusive (for safety) at the least.

Here's the issue, when we're not together, he's pretty flaky.  He doesn't often return texts, rarely initiates conversation and generally leaves me feeling confused. He's a phone person, he always has it on him and replies to texts when we're together.  I could just chalk it up to stoner boy behavior, but I don't know how to tell him this bothers me without sounding passive aggressive or like I'm being possessive and weird. The other issue is that he is still active on at least several dating sites.

Is he hedging his bets incase **I** flake or is he not interested in anything outside of casual relationships.  Would you keep messing around on dating sites if you were seeing someone you liked a lot, just because the relationship wasn't defined?

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<bot>: Been dating a dude for 8 weeks, treats me like his GF when we're together, yet is flaky when we're apart and is still active on dating sites. Don't know what his intentions are.