<human>: First time posting here. We have a great relationship and I love her to death, but communication is my pet peeve, I guess.  In the past I had some small issues with being controlling, but she helped me work through them.  Now I try extra hard to not be controlling, hence the post.

Situation:

She works sort of far away and works late sometimes. Her parents house is closer to her job then where we live. Most of her friends also live down near her job.  So sometimes she hangs out with them after work till late and then stays at her parents.  That's all great.  I just want to know after work whether or not she's coming home or hanging out and whether or not she's staying at her parents.  Mostly want to know if she's OK and whether I should make more or less food (if I am cooking) or make small surprises for her.

Its not that she refuses to tell me, more like she just forgets about 60% of the time. I would just ask her to try harder since its important to me.  Is this overbearing?

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<bot>: don't want my gf to feel like I am controlling her by asking her to keep me up to date with her location