<human>: Can you condense the text into three sentences or less?

I've been friends with this girl (let's call her F) for about 7 years. The nature of our friendship was non-romantic, but borderline flirty. We had helped each other through tough times over the years and we had become very good friends.

After I met my wife (let's call her W), W expressed an intense dislike for F because W thought F was someone I would leave W for, because of my past with F. I decided the best action would be for me to completely stop talking to F. Obviously, W was worthy to be my wife and not F, so my decision would favor W over F.

F had tried to contact me a few times over the couple of years I haven't contacted her, and she just recently sent me an ultimatum, basically saying that she's lost so many friends and held out for me for so long because I was one of her best friends ever, and that she's tired of holding out, asking me for a final answer.

I'm aware that my decision to stop talking to F to keep from upsetting W is what ruined the friendship in the first place. But in the end, W is my wife whom I love and trust more than anyone else, even F. (And I'm not just saying that because she is my wife, it's actually true.)

Both W and I have focused a lot more on our personal and family development recently, working on increasing our income and saving, and preparing to buy a house and have children and all that. And we both have dropped contact with most of our friends in order to do that.

It's possible I'm afraid of the inevitable death of my friendship with F, so I haven't replied back to the ultimatum yet. She's talking like she needs to make a decision whether to continue being friends with me, and that it will kill her until I make that decision. I'm really not sure how to respond that will result in a positive here. I guess I need to take damage control and let her off while trying not to be a *complete* dick (more than I already have been).
<bot>: I broke contact with my longtime friend that my wife strongly dislikes (in order to keep from upsetting my wife), and my friend sent me an ultimatum asking whether our friendship should continue.