<human>: Can you condense the text into a few key points?

It happened. I accidentally nurtured what I thought was a harmless crush into something much more. I thought I was safe, that her marriage was a sufficient subconscious deterrent, and by joking about it I wasn't feeding the flame but airing it to cool it down.

But what it ultimately did was feed it oxygen until it burned out of control. The 'joking' made me ponder the feelings I would have otherwise ignored, and over time, I realized their legitimacy and their potency.

Two key points about the situation:

- she is 11 years older than me.
- we are co-workers.

What I need to know is how to proceed. I'm NOT considering trying to break their marriage up, I'm NOT considering trying to tempt her into cheating. What I do has to somehow involve keeping her in my life, keeping these wonderful feelings alive but not being destroyed by the impossibility of it. I guess a few relevant questions would be:

Do I tell her?
Do I tell anybody?
Do I treat her as someone I love?
Do I back off completely?
<bot>: I'm in love with a married woman who is 11 years older than me, and a co-worker. How do I (or is it even possible to) move on without getting rid of her or my feelings for her?