<human>: I wrote a post about a yr ago that can easily be found in my submissions. My wife is still really close to her ex's family. She was with her for I think 3 yrs and took care of her mom when she was really sick with COPD. We've been together almost five years and married for three and half. We've always taken trips to visit them and have never had any run ins with her ex. We visited the first three times together and these last two times she went by herself.

Last year when my wife went, she had a run in with her and didn't tell me about it until asked. I was upset, we got over it. But I thought she understood those are things I want to know, right when they happen. Well, her ex's father died. She took a trip alone for the funeral to support her ex's mom. (I didn't want to go, I knew I'd have to meet the ex, I had only met the guy a few times, and I had cakes to make for a party). She ended up chatting with her ex again and not mentioning it until I asked. 

Am I wrong for being upset all over again? She's acting like its no big deal and says I need to get over it. She said she didn't tell me because she knows how crazy I get and it would have led to an argument anyway. I don't necessarily think it's a trust thing. I do trust my wife, I just don't see a reason for her to be even acquaintances with this ex. And they way she flipped out at one point even seemed like she got overly defensive.

I've decided to let it go and agree with her that I must be crazy for over reacting, but am I? Should this be no big deal to a normal person? She makes me feel like I should have no problems with making trips there and meeting her ex, but the idea seriously makes me sick to my stomach. Am I being petty?

I tend to drive myself crazy with thoughts and "what if" scenarios so this is a little all over the place. Feel free to ask questions.

Can you succinctly summarize the text in 1-3 sentences?
<bot>: My wife makes visits to be with her ex's family and sometimes has run ins with her ex that she doesn't tell me about until asked.