<human>: Could you distill the essence of the text into 1-3 sentences?

I need a kick in the ass or something. Some outsiders to tell me I'm being stupid. I'm an optimistic realist and normally I don't focus on stuff I can't change. But this is different I guess :)

The short version of my story is that I just had my second outpatient surgery on my.... self... a couple of weeks ago. Even tho I still have the stitches and maybe a bit of swelling, I don't think I'm fixed. It feels the same.

The only symptom of my condition, is that sex tends to go on forever, and I don't finish.  It's not so much painful, just really uncomfortable. I've faked it with just about every girl I've been with (or not faked it, and dealt with that whole scene). I won't have sex without a condom (my choice), and that definitely makes it worse.

I don't know how to date because of this. So I haven't dated at all. I don't know if I need to say anything. I know that if a guy can't come, the girl will take it personally. Do I show her the scars and say "don't worry, it's not you, it's me". I'm getting to my mid 30's, and I feel like life is passing me by. I love the rest of being intimate with a woman, even the sex isn't bad, except for the inevitable let down.

Am I being stupid? If I'm not fixed, before I get another procedure done, can I date without asking too much of someone? I don't want to sleep around, but I don't want a serious relationship right now, because I've skipped out on YEARS of dating before I knew this was a fixable medical condition.

I want to give it a few months, if I'm not fixed, before I can jump to the last surgery. I am regretting my decision to try something more conservative now. A lot.
<bot>: I can't usually finish when having sex, despite enjoying everything about the entire process until then. Can I have a normal dating life? How should I handle this with a woman I'm with?