<human>: Can you give me the gist of the text in a nutshell?

Back story: I live in an Asian household. I love my mom and I am so grateful for everything she has ever done for me. However, when I was young I wasn't raised by my mother but by my aunt and then later a legal guardian. My mom is a business owner and did not spend much time at home. Because of this my two older sisters did not have such a good life. I wont go into too much detail about them but they were not as lucky as I was when growing up. I was never hit as a child (they were) however I was yelled a lot by my mother. 

Fast forward to now, I've graduated school and became a military officer. Now that I'm older and more independent my mom is very hands off (more than before I guess). She calls me all the time just to check on how I'm doing and I feel so annoyed by it (I shouldn't though...but I still do). I like to think that I'm quite mature and can handle situations really well. However, whenever I talk to my mom I feel so annoyed. Whenever she calls me I try to finish the phone call as fast as possible. For example, I would say " Yeah, Yeah, yeah , okay bye". Even when she talks to me in person I just try to finish the conversation so that I can be alone. Sometimes when she's around I feel either annoyed or angry even when she doesn't do anything. Just the mere fact that she calls annoys me. Or I get really combative whenever talking to her. Why do I feel this way? How do I get rid of these feelings? I want to have a good relationship with my mother but it just feels so foreign to me. 

Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.
<bot>: Never had a great relationship with my mom. Now that I'm older I become hostile/annoyed/combative whenever talking to her. I want to help mitigate or fix this. Advice would be great thank you!