<human>: Can you summarize the given text in a few sentences?

We've always talked about how we would raise our kids and went so far as to pick possible names out for kids, but over the last few years, I've felt further and further away from wanting to start a family. 

A few months ago, she mentioned to me that she sees her friends getting married, and having kids, and she wants that life. We're both college educated, and for the time being, we're both underemployed, so I don't feel ready and I'm not sure I ever will. 

I was under the impression my life would go high school, college, job, and then subsequently family. It hasn't worked out that way. I graduated a few years ago and I've been at my old job ever since. I feel like I still haven't figured out what I want out of life past career fulfillment and the ability to be a fully functioning adult (car, job, home/place of my own).

We're still pretty young, so perhaps we're not at the crossroads of making this decision right second, but considering how much having a family means to her, I feel like I'm wasting her time if that's not what I want.

Furthermore, we just ended a poly relationship that had been going on for 2 years and has damaged our sex life. There are feelings of jealousy, inadequacy, and overall frustration regarding that facet of the relationship. We've been communicating much better since, but there's a ton of work to do.

On the other side, our home life is pretty solid. We have 2 cats and we usually spend quiet nights at home, cooking together when we both have nights off. We just moved in together a month ago, so my timing could not have been worse.

I mentioned my thoughts about having kids to her last night, and she wasn't pleased, but didn't seem totally devastated. She really didn't know what to say. I don't really know what to do.
<bot>: Guy and girl have been dating since high school, guy realizes he isn't ready to have kids, is unsure how to proceed