<human>: We have been married for 15 years.

I'm traveling abroad and had sex with another woman. I have never cheated before and feel like shit.

I wanted to wait until I'm back home to tell her, but the guilt of what I did to her was too much, and I ended up telling her over the phone.  She is obviously extremely upset, and she's not eating or sleeping much.  She feels ugly and unwanted (both of which are not true in my eyes, but I understand her feeling that way).

So far, it seems that she will allow me to stay in the house when I'm back from my trip.
I told her that I fucked up badly, and that I really hope she'll consider giving us another chance.

The problem is that I recognize I am not very available emotionally, and I am not sure how I should best show her that I mean what I say about being sorry and about trying to rebuild our marriage.

We have 2 children, and I feel I am a good dad and husband (apart from this major fuckup).
I plan on being more involved with both my children and my wife (if she'll allow me).
I also suggested to my wife that we go see a marriage counselor.

When I come home, I fully expect her to be (rightfully so) angry with me and not want to look at me or deal with me.  

I understand that repairing our marriage will take time.

My question is: what else can I do to ease her pain right now, and when I come home in a few days?  Any other advice from redditors that may have been there before would be really appreciated.

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<bot>: I cheated, my wife is hurt. I want to show her how much she means to me and that I am sorry for what I did. What can I do?