<human>: Could you distill the essence of the text into 1-3 sentences?

My fiancé and I have been on the fence about this for the last year or two. We are seriously weighing our options. (Quick note: Yes, I've noticed it as one of the "Top Ten Regrets" on the side. Also, I did a search and didn't see this topic. If it's been discussed at length before I'd appreciate a link to it.)

A lot of the pull to have kids at the moment isn't some normal desire so much as social and familial obligations to do so. We're both pretty smart, educated, kind, and responsible people and it seems almost like a duty to bring more people like us into the world. I'm sure my parents would be quite disappointed to not see any grandkids.

Aside from that, all we tend to see is a huge list of cons. I see friends of ours with kids that just seem so rundown and struggling. One in particular that comes to mind has 3 kids and had to move outside the city where it's cheaper to live. She has next to no social life now and we never see her anymore. My fiancé also doesn't want to ruin her body having a child or two.

We've asked some of our friends with kids, and our own parents a bit, for advice on the topic. Everyone that has kids says it's the most amazing thing in the world and they wouldn't trade it for anything. I understand that's how they may feel but I just don't see it. The very thought of changing diapers and potty training is appalling. On the other hand, seeing your kid build something in Minecraft for the first time might be kinda cool.

We've been debating joining up with Big Brothers / Big Sisters to see if that may be a better fit. Adoption is also a possibility to get past all that baby stuff we both hate, though I debate if I could love an adopted child as much as my own flesh and blood (I would hope so, but I just don't know).

She's in her early 30's so the time to choose is quickly coming up on us.

I suppose the main thing I'm wondering is if there are any people out there (40+) that never had kids and are okay with it. Do any of these alternatives seem feasible?
<bot>: Not sure whether or not to have kids. Anyone not have kids and cool with it? We hate babies, is adoption a good idea?