<human>: I wouldn't be writing this if I wasn't extremely upset and conflicted.  I want someone to stop me from doing something stupid!

He left me a week ago after cheating on me.  He has been talking to me almost every day of this week, only one day off.  Now he's not answering me and I'm getting a little frantic.

He tells me that he has no feelings for this other woman but he has been emailing her on a daily basis and has vague plans to meet up again.  He cheated on me twice with her (yes, I know he isn't lying) on two consecutive days.  I would almost put this off as a one night stand and be able to get over it, but he's still in contact, and he says he doesn't want to stop.

He didn't even know her before two weeks ago!

I am getting really worried and I want to email him.  He says he's getting emails twice a day from her...in that case, I think it's only fair if I email him twice!  But I don't want to bother him, or think I'm desperate, even though I am.

I'm worried that if I don't contact him, he's going to forget about me and concentrate on her :(  but he hasn't responded to my latest text.

Also...I know something private about him that I really wish someone had told me at the outset of our relationship.  I know if I told the other woman about it, she would back off and leave him alone forever.  I am so tempted!  Sorely tempted.  But if I told her and she told him that I'd told her, he would never, ever forgive me.

I just don't know what to do in this situation and I'm so scared and hurt and upset, this literally came out of nowhere, I had no idea he would ever do this to me.  I've been crying off and on all week, no sleep, not eating properly, almost threw up a couple of days ago.  I know my judgment's fucked.

What do I do?  Do I email him?  Do I tell her?  :(

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<bot>: husband left a week ago and is not answering me, and I wonder if I should email him, and tell his mistress about his dirty secret to scare her off.*