<human>: My bf and I have been together almost 4 years. We also have a child who is 2 years, and we have lived together for almost 3 years officially but have stayed at each others places constantly prior to. In the beginning of the relationship he was always very helpful, even after getting in my pants! Didn't even hesitate to ask me if I needed something.

As we got further in the relationship he became more and more lazy. He is very opposite of me...but at the time of meeting he did not come off this way. Now I have to ask him to help me with EVERYTHING. He won't even grocery shop with me. He'll help me bring in the groceries but I put everything away. 

I ask him the smallest thing and instead of just saying "yes, what can I do?" He'll question it. Ex. "Where is it." Or "I'll do it later." 

It's coming to the point that we don't even share a laundry basket. He does his own and I do my own. This happened because I was doing everything, and tried everything to change it. Ex. Making a chore chart, rotations, letting him choose, etc. nothing worked. Now his stuff is everywhere and I don't know what's clean or dirty. He doesn't fold his clothes. He says to "let him do it on his own time" instead of nagging him. I DO NOT bother him until the 2nd or 3rd day. There is always an excuse. I cannot deal with this anymore. Granted we aren't in the room at the moment, but I do use it from time to time and I cannot feel comfortable walking in there. 

This isn't just the laundry, it's everything. We are adults and we have a child. This is not acceptable, but no matter how many different ways I approach this, things do not change. He says I try to change him. BS. This is what I need to feel appreciated and to be happy. I'm slowly starting to see him as a child.

Please help me. I'm becoming a monster over this.

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<bot>: bf of 4 years (27m) doesn't help me(24f) out around the house. Turning me into a monster. I need help.