<human>: Could you distill the essence of the text into 1-3 sentences?

I just got out of a 4-year relationship with 27M a few months ago. Now that I am single and looking for people spend time with, I am realizing again that I don't have friends of my own. All of my friends for the past few years have been his friend first, and it would be weird for me to hang out with them alone. 

I've started reaching out to old friends I had before our relationship, and a few have reached out to me, but they're mostly male. Though I enjoy our time spent together, I feel like most of these people just want to fuck me, not be my friend. 

I've always got along with guy friends best, but now I'm realizing it's not platonic friendship these guys are after, because every single one tries to make a physical move on me when we hang out. 

As for females, I find most women I meet around here to be pretty shallow and catty and it's hard for me to make a meaningful connection with girls. The few I do like are wrapped up in their own relationships now or have moved away. 

Girls, how did you make new female friends as an adult? Guys, what's your advice for making friends with single women as an adult?
<bot>: I'd like to start making more friends but am unsure how to go about it. Find it especially hard to find down-to-earth female and platonic male friends.