<human>: How do I make it so she isn't scared of me?
We were sexting (text based) and she wanted me to be evil and dominant (I did master role), so everything is going good until she decides to tease me saying "what if I don't [do what you tell me]?" I told her I'd pull her hair (she is into that) and I told her I'd slap her. (I didn't know if she was into that or not, I am not but I was acting dominant so I wasn't really being myself at all.) This is when she tells me to stop, she tells me that she is crying and that she doesn't want to me to touch her or talk to her for a while. I was really thrown off, so apologized and tried to explain to her that it was solely a part of the act and that I didn't know if she was into it or not. She told me that everybody says that and it and they don't mean it, they eventually all hit, and that she didn't want me to be one of those people. (I am really not at all, I break down in tears when I hurt her unintentionally, I couldn't ever hit her (unless she wanted for sex)) So it is obvious to me that she has been abused by someone (most likely her mom) and now she is traumatized, and now scared of me. What should I do to help her trust me again?

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<bot>: just learned gf was abused and I threatened to slap her while sexting, acting as an evil dominant, and now she is scared of me.