<human>: We've been dating for over two months.  Things are going well, but are still casual feeling.  I think this is because we never talk about 'us' and aren't particularly romantic. Sex, conversation, interests are all good though.

I've been meaning to ask in one way or another what he's looking for/how he sees us/if he's seeing anyone else/something along those lines.  Yet, because we never talk about our relationship or feelings, it's hard to bring up.

Eventually I'd like to become boyfriend/girlfriend, but right now I can't tell if he's looking for something serious.  I could list the things that make me think one way or another, but ultimately we need to have a conversation about it.  (ex. I have a toothbrush and towel at his place - but no  talk about us.) I don't need to be BF/GF now (it is only two months in!), but I'd like to at least have an idea if we're on the same page.

And I've managed to put it off for so long that now Valentine's Day is the next time I'll see him.  We just have plans to hang out as usual - nothing special, but he was eager to make sure we had plans for then. I'm not sure if I should bring it up then, or wait until a less loaded time. On one hand, it's predictable and maybe expected, which could be good.  On the other hand, it's so stereotypical.

Two questions: 1) Exactly how do I bring this up?  It'll pretty much be out of the blue regardless of the wording, but it would be nice to have an initial "script" so that I don't get nervous and forget what I was trying to say. 2) Should I bring it up on Valentine's Day, or wait? Other "whens" to bring it up would be helpful too.  Just after watching a movie? Non-romantic talking before bed?

Can you give me a shortened version of the text?
<bot>: Dating a guy, want to ask how he sees us/what he's looking for right now with me.  What do I say, and when do I say it?