<human>: Throw away account since my ex is a frequent redditor.

My boyfriend [25/M] of 3 years recently broke up with me [25/f]. We lived together for a while with a plan of getting married in the next year or two. 

When we first met, I was the philosophical type, and the kind of girl who loved to travel, be outdoors, and generally lived my life as free-spirited as possible. I was a huge dreamer and was working hard towards securing a creative, much-less viable career. 

He was a nice, shy man, who had his life in order (great job, new car, eyes set on buying a house). Somehow underneath all that, he secretly wanted to pursue a different, also more creative career but just never had the guts to go after it (which he has said was what attracted him to me in the first place). 

Long story short... The past few years I have been trying (and often failing) to land my dream job, and he has started to pursue his. My failed attempts have taken its toll on me and my overall spirit. I've been dealing with depression and anxiety about getting older and still not having a "real job" and feeling like I haven't been able to contribute. His reasons for breaking it off have been vague, but the more I think about it, the more I feel like my depression, and lack of direction and independence may have been a big factor. 

I guess my issue is the more I go out, meet people and just try to build a new life without him, all I end up doing is seeing all of these women, who have real jobs, make their own money and actually look super confident and more importantly, mentally stable. Hah! And of course, me being me, I look at them and get really down and out about myself.. start feeling more and more like - for lack of a better term- a hopeless unappealing loser.

I guess I'm just looking for advice on how to stop comparing myself, and where to actually begin building myself back to the person I either once was or at least want to be now.

Thanks!

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<bot>: I'm just looking for advice on how to stop comparing myself to other women, and where to actually begin building myself back to the person I either once was or at least want to be.