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A few months ago I broke up with my ex of four and a half years due to finding out he cheated on me for the fifth time (I'm sure there was more, but thats all I know of). We started dating when I was seventeen years old, and he was the "cool older guy" I'd do anything for him.

 The abuse was here and there through our relationship but became unbearble in the last year of our relationship. He would do things like get mad at me for being awake when he wasn't and talking to my friends. Later he became extremely controlling and would go through my phone bill, reddit account, and would even check on my sex toys to see when I would use them( he would memorize the position they were laying in my drawer). He became obsessed with me being with other men, to were he had one of his friends come on to me while he was drunk, and when I was so scared and locked myself in our room, he asked "why are you mad". There were many many more things to add to this, but overall he talked down to me and isolated me from almost everyone. He was obessive, controlling, and manipulative.

Now, im dating the man of my dreams, and taking things very slow, but at night I have flash backs of what happened with my ex, and begin subconsiously protecting myself, and second guessing my new relationship. Reddit, how do I heal from the abuse, and learn to trust again?

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<bot>: Was in an emotional abusive  relationship for almost five years, having trouble healing/ getting over it and trusting my new partner. Reddit, how do I heal and trust again?