<human>: Could you distill the essence of the text into 1-3 sentences?

Me and my wife have been together for 8 years, since right after high school. During that time I feel that bad decisions led us to become engaged. We were pressured for the time. I loved her yes, but want ready for that.

 Fast forward and we got married when we did for all the wrong reasons. She wanted to get away from her parents control, and I felt like I owed it to her because of the time we've been together. I've always felt like I was doing this "because I owed her". Yes I love her, but it's over shadowed.

A year after the marriage things started falling apart to me. She lost interest in me physically for no reason. Then we moved for her to attend grad school. We knew getting married that she was going to go. What we did not account for was the mental cost.

She has flat out told me that she has to ignore our relationship while she's in school because that's what it takes. "Everyone else has to." But she also tells me about all the things the other married couples do, vacations, etc.

We have started counseling, and they are suggesting to just move past this, not even addressing the issues at hand. I don't think that I can. I feel like I need to do what is healthy for me, and best for her (she could focus on school), but I do love and care for her. I don't want to hurt her, but I have been lying to myself for too long.

Yes she knows exactly how I feel. She says "we can fix this" or "this is only temporary until I'm done with school". She told me last night she its considering quitting school. To put it in perspective, she's in the top 5%. School is her life.

Am I wrong in believing that the best thing may be to end it before it goes deeper?

Any insight is appreciated.
<bot>: our marriage is not the priority to my wife, and I have felt like I've been in it for the wrong reasons since the beginning.