<human>: Could you distill the essence of the text into 1-3 sentences?

I've been single for the last three years, after a seven-year relationship (that started when I was 17 and was my first, and only, serious relationship) ended in what felt like a nuclear blast to my life and friendships.  I've dated a bit since, but nothing has really sparked...

..Until three weeks ago, when I was out with an old friend (10+ years).  Because we had both been in serious relationships for years of our friendship, we never really had put each other in the "dateable" category.  But now that we're both single (and have been for awhile), something changed between us and suddenly "hanging out" turned into a date...and a good one at that.

We've been seeing each other pretty regularly since then, and things have escalated physically and, at least, for me, emotionally.  I don't fall easily for people.  But for him, I've fallen hard and fast.

Tonight, I need to know a bit more about where we stand.  I hate being the stereotypical clingy girl and asking about emotions, etc.  But for the sake of my sanity, I need to know if he feels the same way or if I should stop hoping that this amorphous thing might be something less wibbly-wobbly.  Because I haven't dated anyone consistently since I was a teenager, I don't know how all of this works.

Reddit, do you have advice for having the "What are we?" talk without fucking things up?
<bot>: Haven't dated since I was a teen, need to find out where the guy I've fallen for and I stand, don't know the general flow of a relationship or how to ask.