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Obvious throwaway here. 30/m (me), 23/f

So, I've been in a relationship with my fiancee for about 4 years, and we've been engaged for nearly a year. We still have great sex, though we're both pretty busy, so we have it a lot less than we used to.

The problem is, these days I've found myself looking more and more forward to the times she puts on lingerie instead of just plain old naked sex. It isn't that I don't enjoy seeing her naked, but I have always been kind of a fetishist for things like corsets, opera gloves and especially stockings. I even have a weird fetish for having sex while she's wearing a tight, form-fitting swimsuit. However, she rarely feels like getting dressed up in one or any combination of those things, despite me having purchased them for her. It's gotten to the point where if I ask her to, she gets upset. So, we just continue with the plain-jane sex and I just kind of imagine she's in one of those things.

Am I being a complete asshole, and maybe consider seeking help/therapy for my fetishes which might even be borderline addiction? Or is she being inconsiderate, keeping in mind we maybe have sex once a week due to our schedules now at best? I love her very much and enjoy being with her, I just wish she'd acquiesce a little more often to my...tastes. I think she looks beautiful either way, but obviously if given the choice I'll go for the lingerie every time.
<bot>: Want my fiancee to dress up in lingerie more, hurts her feelings when I ask her to, don't know what to do. Am I just a jerk?