<human>: Give me the gist of the text in a nutshell

Hello, ladies (and gentlemen) of Weddit. Please help me out....

Okay, just a little background: My FH is an amazing, caring, wonderful guy. But....he's super independent (which is usually awesome!). He tries to do everything himself, and hates to ask for help in anything, which is relevant to our issue. 

Now, here's our issue. I've been asking him since July to ask his 3 groomsmen. He's known WHO he wants to ask since then, and we've seen 2/3 of them regularly. But he won't ask. I've told him to text them, to call them, to ask in person. No dice.  

I tried to explain to him that being a groomsman can be expensive, that the person he wants to ask to be his best man has a child and that another groomsman has a job that is difficult to get time off from. I showed him wedding shit that all says you should ask your bridal party 12-9 months before. That as a good friend, he should give them time to plan financially. He said he understands that....and then still, nothing. 

Due to his very independent nature, I tried explaining that it is an honor to be asked to be in someone's bridal party, that his friends would not see it as him "asking for help". 

It's at the point now where when I ask him if he's asked anyone, he just gets defensive. I am afraid that by the time he asks them, no one will have the time or money, and I know that even though he is being wishy-washy about this, he wants them there and will feel terrible if he has no one on his side. I don't want his indecisiveness to hurt him in the long run, but I don't think he's seeing that.  Part of me wants to give their wives a heads up so that they can start planning, but I feel that's over-stepping my role. 

I just don't know what to do anymore, and I'm sick of this turning into a passive-aggressive fight between us.....Help?!
<bot>: super independent groom won't ask any of his friends to be groomsmen even though he has said numerous times how much he wants them as his attendants. Bride needs a drink.