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Background:

-	 I grew up in an abusive household where I learned that my needs, wants and opinions have no value. 
-	When I was 18 I entered a relationship that was manipulative, controlling and full of gaslighting. That lasted two years.
-	For the past four years I have been focusing on myself and my own issues and have stayed unattached. 
-	I was very anti-relationship/vulnerability.
-	I have a problem with guys; friendships build but once it gets more serious I nope the fuck out, make up some excuse and run away.
-	I am still getting over the whole "why would my opinions, needs and wants matter?" thing.

Story: 

I met a guy back in October and we hit it off right away; we have been talking nearly every day ever since.  At the time he was dating another girl and long story short he broke up with her because she was manipulative and clingy.

A month or so later we decided to meet up and it was great – a little awkward sure, but not in a bad way. We spent New Years Eve together at his place which was full of tv, video games, cuddling and sex.

I am baffled by how well we get along; we're compatible sexually, mentally, emotionally, we have so much in common...

Problem:

I still have trouble putting myself out there because of past relationships. After about four months of building up courage, I finally told him that I feel more than friendship towards him. His reply was basically that he likes me a lot but is very anti-vulnerability after his previous relationships – and while I understand his hesitancy after having a similar issue for the past few years, it still hurts. He says that we can carry on as we were if I am comfortable with it. So pretty much confiding in each other, cuddling, watching movies, hanging out and playing video games. 

So my concern here is, is this healthy? I definitely do not want to lose him; he is one of my biggest supports. Is it possible for this to evolve into a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship?
<bot>: Told my guy friend I want a relationship, he does not. We are compatible in most ways, only thing is timing.