<human>: Can you provide a brief overview of the text?

My wife does something that really annoys me. She frequently uses "her feelings" as a driver to enforce certain ideas that seem restricting to me. 

The logic here being "I feel this way, so even though you don't feel the same way, your care for me should translate into action concerning said thing." The issue with this logic is that it can apply to literally ANYTHING, making me feel controlled.

~~Examples can include speeding in the car, drinking in certain situations, cussing, keeping my side of the room clean, going to bed at the same time, and really any other thing that a person could want.~~

Other examples, more common ones, are money discussions. I make good money, she makes good money as well. We are VERY well off, especially for people our age. But spending money to her is just this horrible idea. She wants to be cheap and frugal, and I like to be more "spendy". However, there is no compromise here. I have tried having split checking accounts with allotted amounts per month (essentially still keeping all earnings the same, which is fair as I make more than her), but that is a no-go for her. Buying lunch during the day is just an awful waste of money, which is easy for her to say because her company feeds her lunch. Free.

Another example is riding together to work. I like to ride separate. I like having my own vehicle. I do not like feeling pressured to leave at 5 or workout faster than at my whatever speed I want to. However, it "makes her feel like we are closer" when we ride together. We have compromised here, riding together some and separate some, but this idea sounds so stupid to me... we live together and stay in the same house 2/3rds of the day.
<bot>: How do I argue with "I feel this way, so even though you don't feel the same way, your care for me should translate into action concerning said thing" when I feel I am being taken advantage of.