<human>: He's not into the big romantic gestures or thoughtful gift giving, which I can understand.  It's not really my thing either.  And I don't mind doing part of the planning for a dinner out or something.  But he doesn't seem to want to celebrate either day.

If I ask him what he wants to do, he either complains that it's always up to the guy to make plans or asks if I really need to do something different on those days.  Like it'd be a big deal for us to have a special meal or exchange gifts.

I don't expect any major gift, but some flowers or chocolate or something would make me feel appreciated.  I plan to pick up some of his favourite candy and a card, at least.  And I don't expect any more than that from him.  But I have a feeling that I'm going to be disappointed on both occasions.

Also, this is the first of each occasion that we've officially been together.  I don't want him to think that doing nothing is going to be okay with me in the long run.  How do I get it through to him that this is important to me without coming off as needy or materialistic?

Can you condense the text into three sentences or less?
<bot>: bf doesn't want to celebrate Valentine's or our anniversary.  How do I explain that it is important to me, even if the celebration is small?