<human>: Summarize the given text in a few sentences.

"avoid wall of text" yea right. 

Okey gone use a newly made throwaway for this since anon. 
Like the headline say, been with my boyfriend for 3 years now, love him to death. We both are in a stable place in life, he is working as a webdeveloper or programmer whatever you wanna call it and doing good. I work as a Art director. So we are working alot but we still have sort of the "9 to five "kind of work style so we always see eachother everyday. 

But to the point! We have only had sex like two times, i took his virginity and he took mine, and dont get me wrong it was great and all the two times we had sex. But after that noone of us felt the urge anymore like that was that. It's not that iam not attracted to him, he works out and all that no way near fat, i find hot and lustfull, i just that noone really have the urge for penetration sex. But what i noticed the last few weeks is that everytime iam near him he is like in pain. 
We have not been completly gone from sexual things. But now iam starting to wonder if he have been abstinent from sex just because i never had the urge to satisfy any sexual need and he had just endured it for almost 3 years. I know he would never force me to do anything or even want me to do anything i don't like (he is very firm on that part since his sister got not raped but "touched" during a festival against her will). 

So reddit what should i do, because it almost feels like he is gone exploded everytime he see me naked or i touch him. But i don't feel any urge for sex. 

Just to clarify a few things, No he is not cheating on me and no i don't get a sexual urge from very very attractive men that is almost in godlike perfection when it comes to the body.
<bot>: Not felt sexual urge for 3 years, boyfriend have and keept it together but he have almost reach his limit. Help!!