<human>: My friend with benefits of a couple months was flirty with me for almost two years leading up to an agreed upon FWB relationship.

He vividly expresses how he does not want a relationship.

And yet, when I am away, he texts me how he misses my smell. How my his bed smells of me and he sleeps on that side. He keeps my favorite wine, my favorite drinks, my favorite snacks. He wants to cook for me and cuddle aft sex. He tells me how I am so important to him...

And in the next breath he will tell me that he doesn't want a girlfriend. He will tell me that he is not up for a relationship. He will tell me to find somebody closer in age to myself. 

He thanks me for the confidence I gave him for his future relationships.

Sometimes he switches back again into telling me how much he cares for me, how he wants to spoil me, go on vacations with me. How he wants to hold me at night.

He will text me how empty his bed feels without my hand on his chest.

Unfortunately I have started to fall in love during this process of being flattered and held close. 

I am really unsure of how to read these signals.

Today he told me he bought me a Christmas gift and wants to drive an 8 hour trip to take me to see my favorite songwriter in concert.

Could you distill the essence of the text into 1-3 sentences?
<bot>: My friend with benefits is a pendulum of back and forth alluting to wanting more. I can't read his mixed signals.