<human>: He was verbally and emotionally abusive. I was considerably younger then him when we met and was naive about the nature of a healthy relationship. He treated me like garbage controlling almost all aspects of the relationship. He would yell at me in the street and at restaurants so that I'd be publicly humiliated in front of strangers, but would dote on me and be very affectionate in front of friends. He would constantly make sure that I felt insecure and stupid. He never hit me but once kicked his roommates dog when it became protective of me during one of his screaming tirades. He did however put me in sexual situations that I did not feel comfortable in, and once after some very aggressive, unpleasant, sex said "well that felt rapey." but did not apologize or seem particularly bothered.

All that being said, I am constantly bothered by the fact that he gets to go around thinking that he was good to me, that he wasn't a horrible, cruel, misogynist, who has made it incredibly hard for me to see a future in any relationships. I have recently entered a new relationship, and I am constantly flinching and apologizing for even the most minute things because of the way he treated me and it makes me wish that I'd never met him. I can't seem to shake this anger, it's very consuming and what I really want to do is confront him (not in person I was thinking a letter or email). However I know this would probably be a bad idea but I don't know how else to get rid of these feelings.

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<bot>: Ex was abusive, never confronted him on it, now it's all I think about and I am very angry, Help?