<human>: I've (25F) been in a relationship with my SO (29M) for about 2 years now. I can feel that I've grown apart from him physically, but not emotionally. I don't hide my feelings from him at all, and he knows that I am very unsure about our relationship's future. He is too. We question it a lot but we still keep trying to breathe life into it and make it work.

Normally I would think, surely this just isn't working. But I am scared to be alone and so is he. It feels like a relationship of convenience. We are both at points in our lives where it is immensely cathartic to be able to come home and have someone there to spend time with and depend on for anything. I know on my part I really do have an immense fear of being alone, for reasons relating to my family (or lack thereof).

It feels like we will not work in the very long term (think marriage and etc). It feels like our life goals are different and we have different approaches and vastly different levels of motivation in our careers. Heck, even our personalities are very different. But we just plain enjoy each others' company a lot and care about each other a lot. We have problems when we tend to butt heads about partner-type choices (the kinds of choices that I never make with a best friend, regular friend, or acquaintance), which does happen often enough to be of concern.

This just isn't the "horrible, save yourself" obvious relationship you need to escape from. This choice is hard and I keep having hope for things because there isn't any "relationship measuring stick" anywhere to tell us what's good, what's just short of good, and whatnot...

Has anyone else experienced anything similar before? What did you do? How did it turn out for you?

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<bot>: With SO for 2 years, both afraid of being alone, like having a stable relationship. Have diverging goals, decision making, and personalities. Really care about each other a lot and enjoy each others' company. What do?