<human>: Hi there,

Throwaway since we are both redditors. 

I've (23/f) been in a relationship with my current boyfriend (25/m) for over 3 years now. We moved across the country and have lived together for over a year. We've gotten over the usual post-honeymoon phase nitpicks and living together complaints. However, for the past 6 months or so, I have been feeling a real lack of affection. Yeah, since our first year together frequency of sex, cuddling, etc has decreased, but even more so over the past 6 months. What is compounding my frustration is the fact that when I bring up the topic for discussion, he seems to dismiss it as something that is solely my problem, and my problem alone. He states that he is satisfied. When I express frustration in his lack of wanting to understand, show compassion, or figure out where the gap is, he again dismisses my feelings. It seems we have the same conversation every few weeks and the conversations yield no results except me giving up.

Is there a different approach I can take to discussing my needs v. his needs? Is it unreasonable to request a bit more attention to staying a relatively affectionate couple?

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<bot>: Getting to that point in the relationship where affection is decreasing rapidly, and he shows no interest in changing anything or addressing my concerns.