<human>: So, here it goes.  I've been in the process of a divorce for over 2 years now.  That process however has been my soon to be ex calling me asking for money to file (around $500 ish)  and spending it on w/e she wanted to, then calling me back and saying she missed her court date and had to re file.  I know i shouldnt have bought it in the first place, but we are seperating out of hatred (not yet)  or anything just mutual reasons.  We still get along and are friends... well were.   After 3 or more times of sending her money for a "divorce" all the while sending her additional money for groceries and to help with her son,  cause she is a drug addict who is in rehab/recovery i decided enough is enough.  So i filed myself and sent her papers.  Now... there is no problem except she has this new found need for stuff she left in my house over 2 years ago.  I have moved 3 times since then and some of it genuinely go lost or misplaced.. but the bulk of her stuff i trashed in a drunked rampage after she pretty much was taking advantage of how nice a person i am and willing to help her with her money problems.  So i was drunk packing up to move and everything that reminded me of her i trashed, blindly i trashed all of it nothing remains.  Now i remember after the fact that some of that stuff was .. pictures and other things she had of her mother who had passed away i feel shitty because i have to tell her i threw it all in the dump.. but regardless im not telling her for atleast another 2 weeks until we are legally finally divorced... does that make me a horrible person?  I sure feel like it..

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<bot>: got drunk, trashed a bunch of ex wifes stuff after she taken advantage of my help, realized some of it was her dead  mothers stuff she was keeping ...