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He is first generation, his parents are from Poland and he grew up being very involved in the polish community. He spent every summer going to Poland for 10 years. We both want 3-4 kids I understand that he wants our kids to keep their polish culture but the thought of moving to Poland with a new baby scares the hell out of me. I have a small family here in Cali but I am very close to them. I never invisioned us living next door to them but not a whole contry away.
I don't want to move away for 5+ years and have my future kids grow up without them around. I'm also scared of feeling like the odd one out. I am, well very American not a lick of polish in me and I don't want to be "The American wife" and I'm scared I'll feel really alone.
<bot>: My husband to be wants to move to Poland after our first child is born, it scares me and I don't know how to approach the situation.