<human>: I feel that we in general have a great sex life. Our sexual chemistry is actually one of the many things that made me fall in love with her. The only real problem we have is that she over thinks initiating sex and misinterprets the smallest comments to mean that I am rejecting her in some way. 

We have had many discussions about it, often times leading to high emotions and occasional fights. We are both to blame for the emotions. I think we both get defensive, and I know there have been times I could have handled myself better. I become frustrated with the pressure her emotions and these fights put around sex. I've begun to feel like I can't do anything right to make her happy or feel better.

What's worse is how she feels. Her feelings were already making sex harder for her, and these discussions have only made it worse. I'm heart broken that something that used to come so naturally has become so emotional for both of us. It kills me to know she doesn't think I desire her sexually and that it's not important to me.

It should be noted, that outside of these conversations we continue to have sex (often times, good sex), but there's a building pressure that I want to dissipate. 

What can I do to help her feel more comfortable about initiating sex and realize that I desire her a great deal? I've tried making some nights all about pleasing her and telling her how sexy I think she is, but it doesn't seem to have any lasting effect.

Please give me some suggestions Reddit.

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<bot>: Wife feels insecure about initiating sex and worries about me rejecting her and not desiring hey sexually. What can I do to make her feel more comfortable?