<human>: Hi Reddit,

About one month ago, I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 months (22f) while I am a (21m). I initiated the break up, stating that I didn't feel like she was putting enough into it/opening up, and she agreed, saying that her living situation (living at home) as well as family troubles, made it difficult for her to open up, as well as work on her own problems. 

Throughout the whole month, I put a lot of careful thought into the breakup, and ultimately realized that my expectations, or my qualifications, of what qualified as effort weren't realistic OR my own, they were defensive measures that I put up in response to getting hurt in relationships. In another words, I set up unrealistic goals so that either the girl with me was damn perfect, or that I would break up with her. The latter happened. Having realized that I have these unrealistic goals, I think I can overcome them now. 

I've proposed this to her, and she's said that she's going to think about it. But *record scratch* I just realized I hadn't thought ahead to actually being with her. 

Ok I worked out that I SHOULD be with her, but I didn't think into the details, of how I actually want to act with her. Before, I would always try to manipulate her into showing me affection (unrealistic expectations). But I know that path now doesn't work for me (it may work for others)

Can you condense the text into three sentences or less?
<bot>: Basically I'm scared that she'll reject me, and also scared that I won't have the strength to help make this relationship what I want it to be.