<human>: I had a few dates with her and, while I like her, she's the first girl that I've dated and upon introspection I recognized that I liked the *idea* of having a girlfriend (because I'm desperate for one, honestly) more than actually being in a relationship with her. She's smart and really nice and everything, but she just isn't that *interesting* to me.

That is: compared to the other people that I've met, I realize that a big component of why I'm interested in her is because she's one of the only people that have ever shown interest in me, and a major part of why I want to enter the relationship is to have a relationship, and less so for *her*.

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We made out on our fourth date, and then we both did our own thing for the summer, and we recently got back in touch for the new semester, so I feel like there's a tendency for it to go toward more dates/relationship/etc.

But I don't feel good about that outcome, as desperate as I am to have a relationship. Like I said, she's not that interesting to me. And shesaid she's used to serious relationships, so I think it would be disingenuous for both of us if I entered in a relationship with her, seeking something different and not being fully invested.

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It kinda pains me to say that since, you know, FA for 22 years blah blah blah, but my gut leans the side of not settling and making sure we're both on the same page. So:

A) Am I being too high-standards or trying to over-optimize? Should I actually settle if I do have this opportunity?

B) How should I approach having that talk? I'm planning on telling her that while it's been really nice to hang out with her, I think that given what we're both looking for, we're both better off just being friends. Or something like that.

Any advice would be really appreciated.

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<bot>: Met girl, dated, made out, becoming more serious ish but don't feel like it's the right fit. Am I being ridiculous / how to have the talk.