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(I also posted this in the relationship subreddit, I hope it's allowed to post both places, as I'm looking for any and all advice I can get)

I've had 4 serious relationships in my life, and each of them has ended semi badly. From cheating, to really bad fights, I've never really had a 'normal' breakup. I have a really bad habit of beating myself up, and lingering on the things I did or said that led to the breakup. It gets so bad that it consumes my thoughts a good portion of the day, and has led to severe insomnia. This week marks breakup #4. I lost my temper and am completely at fault. No physical violence or anything like that, but I did punch a hole through a wall, like a psycho.

I need advice on how to keep my mind off of things. I know that time is the only real thing that makes anyone feel better, and I do feel better with time each time. But I don't want to spend the next few weeks, months, etc. constantly thinking about it. I want to get back to my normal self as quickly as possible this time. I'm already scheduled to see a therapist next week, and I'm really hopeful that that will help me not only move on from this breakup, but to address some of the things that led to it in the first place.

I've already been going out more this week since we broke up, I've reconnected with some old friends and had a generally good time - but it's always there in the back of my mind. I'll think of something that reminds me of her and be sad. I'll wonder what she's doing right now, who she's with, etc. - I don't want to think like that anymore.
<bot>: I've got a major problem trying to move on when a relationship ends and needs tip to help get on with my life quicker. Any and all help is appreciated.