<human>: Condense the text into a few key points

I hate my dad. Just him as a person. I have since I was in elementary school (I'm in uni now). The way he talks to people in a very patronizing and sometimes condescending way, how he is so set in his ways that it's just plain rude to other people (if he doesn't like something he will literally throw it or just move it to where he likes it EVERY DAMN TIME HE SEES IT even if it's not even remotely in his way), the way it takes him 100x longer to explain anything than it should, the way he's one of those people who are embarassingly nice to other people in public. He doesn't carry on a conversation with something you're interested in; he always starts talking about something he likes as soon as you're done, whether it's related or not. And it's always something he's told you about at least 10 times before. He doesn't ask you to do things, he TELLS you to do them. 

But...he is the most loving, caring father who has helped provide for and raise 5 children (me being the 4th). He is so patient, even with me, who does not always treat him that nicely. He would do anything for his family, and pretty much anyone really. 

Everything he does frustrates me to no end. During the school year I don't live with my parents so it's much better and I can actually carry on a civil conversation with him over the phone. However when I come home and see all the things he does with the house that make absolutely no sense and just does not look nice at all I get so worked up. My mom just accepts it and gets mad at me when I say anything about it. I realize this is 100% my own issue and I need to learn to get over it, but it honestly is so hard. I really don't want to create a bad relationship with him as I grow into an adult. Moreover, I don't want my mom to start resenting me because of my hatred. 

Please if anyone has any advice to help me get over this and be more patient with him I would be so grateful.
<bot>: Basically my dad annoys the living shit out of me and I want to learn how to be more accepting of him and his ~~fucking dumb~~ habits.