<human>: I could make this a long post but I guess the background of the fight itself isn't that important. Essentially, she treated me strangely (was being distance and snapping at most things I was saying) for a while. We had just moved back to our old jobs (which means we live together) and she said she was having a tough time adjusting. She had finally been more normal the other day but everything wasn't quite right so I brought it up and asked what was going on (in the previous week I had asked twice and had been told she was fine and to stop stressing and everything was fine). I don't mean she seemed kind of off, I mean she was barely going near me. She is a very reactive person and although this is odd it's not completely out the ordinary for her.

She had been talking to her mom a lot during the week which is usually a sign she is struggling with something, it wasn't hard to put 2 and 2 together. After denying anything was wrong further I asked her 'so you haven't been talking to your mom about feeling weird about things with me and you?'. She instantly flipped out and claimed I had been reading her messages (I absolutely didn't, it was just a guess based on the fact I know her so well).

She has been acting friendly and somewhat normal since that happened but after everything I don't feel like I should just crawl back to hoping she's treating me normally. I know she isn't the type to sit me down and calmly talk about things...that's usually my role.

How do I stop this becoming an even bigger issue than it is????

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<bot>: how do I stop a fight that I didn't really cause from becoming a bigger issue than it possibly is?? What sort of approach do I take with someone who is very defensive?