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I've been in an amazing relationship for the past 5 months and things have been mostly great. Along the way I've discovered a few things about myself that I'm glad I've picked up on. I've been able to work on things such as staying present, being more communicative and being more patient, with good progress. 

We often have energized discussions which we both enjoy immensely, however, I'm prone to getting heated in a discussion/debate to the point where I become loud and abrasive, and it results in both of us getting angry and upset. 

I think this stems partly from repressing when I need to be communicative (i'll not say something at the time, holding it in until the emotional energy redirects itself all at once in one of these outbursts.) 
and also, from seeking emotional validation: I tend to try and fuse emotionally too quickly and readily to my partner rather than keep my own sense of emotional identity: When she has differing opinions, the need for validation is at odds with this and it manifests itself negatively.

This is something I've been working on correcting and I'd been doing a good job of it, but the frustration comes through in moments of weakness. 

I'm concentrating on keeping my emotional identity at least partly separate, and also on being less reactive and more open to respectful communication, without emotional validation being a condition of this communication.

It may seem as though I've already come to a conclusion on this behaviour but I'd like outside input: Have I come to the right conclusion? What else should I keep an eye on? anyone else had any similar experiences? 

Any input would be appreciated :)
<bot>: Emotional volatility has caused some unnecessary hurt and upset, am I heading in the right direction? need some help on working through this.