<human>: Hey all. 
My boyfriend and I have been together for a while now and he used to be in great shape when we first starting dating, however as the years have gone by he's gotten very comfortable and started gaining weight. We enjoy going out to eat at different restaurants, but I've always been the more active one and have kept up with my appearance. We're currently in a long distance relationship because I had to move for work (I'm planning on moving back before the end of the year)...while I was gone he planned to take his health more seriously and get back into shape, but he hasn't followed through on anything. He always says hes going to exercise, but just ends up sleeping or eating a huge meal instead. I've tried motivating him to work out and eat healthier (I'm also worried about him developing high cholesterol, diabetes, high blood pressure etc as it runs in his family), but it seems like all he ever wants to do is eat, sleep, or drink with his friends. He says there's no point in him exercising because I'm not there, but I don't want him to just workout for me...I want him to take care of himself. 
This is the most he's ever weighed and I just don't know what to do anymore. I feel really shallow for saying this, but I'm starting to find him really unattractive. I think it's gotten to the point where I need to tell him, but I don't know how without totally crushing him and possibly hurting his self esteem. 

Please help, Reddit!

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<bot>: Boyfriend has gained a lot of weight and refuses to do anything about it. I'm starting to find him really unattractive and don't know what to do.