<human>: Short gist is: for years since college I felt like I couldn't relate to anyone I've dated or even met. Having traveled extensively this was probably bc of a maturity thing (I am more mature than the avg person my age.) 

Met guy who I get along with and we share similar interests such as hiking backpacking dogs, have similar mindsets, are educated, driven, reserved (mostly him but I am as well except when I'm excited.) we both even want to take time off our jobs to go overseas and teach.

I was excited to date him. Every date brought something new and enjoyable. We went on a handful and I admit I got myself kind of lost in his personality. Then he drops the bomb: let's just stay friends. 

His reasons: we text too much and this feels too relationship-y. I was not severely heart broken I was very disappointed.

This was the first guy I could relate to in a long long time. How do I get over him? I've gone through phases and am noticing self destructive tendencies ): 

Thank you!

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<bot>: met a guy. First in a long time. Liked him a lot. Didn't work out. Self destructive / how do I get over him?