<human>: Hi there! First post on this subreddit, thank you for reading! 

Right, As far as I know there is this tradition that in Chinese culture that when a baby is 100-110 days old.. Friends/family members of the said family must hold a celebration so that said kid can be revered and enjoyed by all the people who have come by to visit. Initially, I didn't care, as I thought "right, I'm going to be in the UK, they can do what they want." Then I was told it was anywhere between 100-110.. That's where the trouble begins. I arrive back at about that mark..

Now, This is the part I struggle with.

1. I was raised TCK, so I never really bothered to learn up about Chinese culture, and now that I'm older, I just don't really care/I know fuck all anyway.

2. I REALLY DON'T LIKE KIDS. AT ALL. I don't like when they cry, I don't like it when they come near me, I almost threw up when I saw a kid play with his phlegm.. I'm also afraid of children and babies in general and I really don't want to go.. but then the family will give me what I think is unwarranted amount of bullshit for not going.. I'm a Childfree/tokophobic person, and while no one is pregnant, I just don't want to experience that atmosphere. This is an issue with me and not the family, but I need to tell them a reason as to why I can't go. I told them "I don't want to." but only to have my issues 'brushed off'. I'm not pleased by this change and I really don't want to be there.

How do I handle this so that I don't look like a complete wanker but not go at the same time?

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<bot>: Tokophobic and Pedophobic individual who is in a tight bind as he desperately does not want to celebrate a new baby.