<human>: Can you condense the text into three sentences or less?

We both are of Indian (in Asia) background. We've been dating for 3 years, I proposed to her in October this year. Now our parents are mingling about talks of our wedding. She tells me, she does not want to take my last name. Not even hyphenate it. She will not take my first name as her middle name (traditional for our culture). She says it will affect her individuality.

I'm not asking her to completely change her last name to my last name, I asked her to hyphenate it. She doesn't want to. She will have a professional degree and reasoned that if she hyphenates is Dr. HerLastName
-MyLastName it'll end up being Dr. MyLastName. I've told her she can refer herself simply as Dr HerLastName but keep it hyphenated on paper and for legal documents. 

I don't know how to approach this, I see her taking my name as a way of showing her commitment to me, Not losing her identity. *I've told her she can simply use her last name whenever she wants to be referred to, but on paper she should hyphenate it with my last name.*

*I might give up on the last name* but she also wants to keep her name simply " HerName HerLastName ", instead of HerName MyName HerLastName. **(since we are only given One First name, females take/use their father's name as middle name until marriage and then switch to their husband's name as their middle name)**

We are sure about marrying and everything, I'm not making it a big deal so far out of the name thing yet. But, I just want some outside perspective.
<bot>: SO does not want to take my last name, no hyphenate neither, does not want to take my first name as her middle name; traditional for our cultural background.