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Hi fellow redditors. I'm in a bit of a dilemma, apologies for the lengthy details.

I'm 28, and have been with my girlfriend who is 25 for approaching 2 years. I've given myself a mental deadline of 2 years to either step up the relationship or break it off, I feel I owe it to her either way.

The relationship itself is great; we are receptive to each other's interests, we get along with the other's friends, and we enjoy each other's company, whether it's just the two of us or out on the town with friends. Additionally, we are both trust each other and are secure (going out for girls/guys nights alone with friends), and there has never been any drama or fighting between us.

What flaws I have found in the relationship is a combination of both myself and her. Perhaps I'm afraid of commitments, but I always think about the big picture when I come to major decisions. I'm in the process of looking for another job and don't want to limit myself to my current city. My gf would not dare to move away from her friends and family. Also, I'd like to think I take good care of myself; what I eat and exercising often are very important to me. In contrast, my gf is the opposite, which I find irksome. She is complacent at her sub-par job, with very little initiative to improve her current situation, whether it be improving her job skills or physical health. Lately, she has gotten better with improving herself both physically and mentally, but I feel it's only because I try to push her about it a lot.

I will be the first to admit I'm an amateur with relationships and this relationship has been the most serious one I've been in by far. So my question is am I a total jerk if I end it? Also, how should I go about it?

Thank you so much for any advice!
<bot>: I've been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years, all is well. I just don't think she's the one and that I'm just wasting her time staying in this relationship. How should I go about expressing how I feel?