<human>: I have to get this out somewhere, because right now I am having trouble handling this mentally. And technically this is my mom, my sister and me fucking up.

My family is a bit of the "black sheep" of our extended family. We always lived the farthest away from the grandparents, and we don't make it to every family reunion.

I was on my way up to visit my Grandma on Easter Sunday, the first time I'd seen her in years (we did talk on the phone, I'm not a monster). She died as I was driving up.

My part of the family was the last to be informed of this. All my aunts and uncles did the funeral arrangements, and on Sunday she was laid to rest.

I was asked to be a pall bearer. All the grandsons were. Well, almost all of us? The oldest grandson, we'll call Joe, was missing. His name wasn't even in the program.

At one point, my mom tried asking Joe's mom (her sister) where Joe was. She got a very, very angry reply of, "Well, he's not HERE."

It was a weird reply, but we pretty much guessed that it involved him being in jail. It's not exactly a new thing for Joe, he is known to be on the wrong side of the law often.

So we regroup as a family, and my sister and I opt to check with other relatives to try and figure out how did Joe screw up.

My mom and I then asked one of the in-laws (i.e. not one of her blood relatives). Joe was indeed in prison, for rape and murder, of one of my other cousin's friends. No one told us, and apparently all of my mom's brothers and sisters have been bitterly divided by this for the past half of a year.

Plus, my Mom's sister (Joe's mom) thinks that my mom is gloating over the fact that her son is facing a possible death sentence.

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<bot>: Was out of the loop about family gossip, family gossip included the fact that my cousin is in jail for rape and murder.