<human>: BLUF: My girlfriend doesn't speak my 'love languages' of words and touch and doesn't seem to be willing or able to do anything to change that - I often feel insecure and unloved. She tells me that isn't the case, but frankly we hardly ever talk about anything because she really hates talking, or gets really defensive and says I'm just always making her the bad guy…then she feels bad and no progress or talking occurs. I feel like this issue isn't going away and it's putting a lot of stress on the most important relationship in my life. 

I feel like I'm going crazy because I love this girl very much, and we're trying to build a life together, but there's some things that are really important to me that she just will not do. She won't say 'I love you' first. She wont initiate physical contact (sexual or otherwise). It doesn't matter how often I say those things are important to me. So I go through the day wanting to tell her nice things and be close to her, and have sex, and she's sort of just a statue about it. On the other hand I try to meet her needs by paying attention to her love languages, but it's all just got me feeling very frustrated and sad and alone because I feel like I'm not getting the reassurance or positive feedback that I need….and I never hear from her that there's a problem. She just doesn't want my needs to exist I guess. At this point I feel like if she tried to hold my hand I'd probably just start crying it would mean so much to me. 

So. Obviously that's all very one-sided and I'm sure I'm doing tons of things wrong, but I guess I'm just looking for advice from anyone who's been in a similar situation on how you were able to move forward, or I guess how you didn't. I feel trapped because I want to bring it up, but it doesn't ever change anything or go well so I just have all these feelings I'm scared to even talk about and that seems pretty fucked.

Can you give me the gist of the text in a nutshell?
<bot>: Girlfriend doesn't do some things that are extremely important to me despite lots of discussion. Is there a way to be happy and move forward or is this just how it's always going to be.