<human>: Backstory: My husband and I are the only ones who do not have kids in our church small group. Kids are welcome every week and a babysitter is provided. At the end of each group the kids come down stairs and they run and scream and it makes me really uncomfortable. I can't hear the person I'm talking to over the noise or if I'm talking to someone, the conversation is constantly being interrupted by the kids. It's at the end of group and usually late, so I understand and really don't mind leaving at that point. 
We had a party for one of the girls in May and the kids were so wild I had to leave after 20 minutes. These kids are not well behaved. I love their parents, but the kids are not disciplined. I am an elementary school teacher, so I'm used to kids, but I'm used to them being well behaved. 

Current issue: A few weeks ago we started talking about the December party. I had requested that we still have a babysitter so the adults could use the time to visit and bond. Then somehow it got turned into everyone getting their own babysitter. The party is this Tuesday and the girls are talking (in a group text) about bringing their kids because they want it to be inclusive of all. The only thing is that I feel that I'm being excluded because I cannot handle how crazy the kids are.
I'm really disappointed because I know if I go, I will be be miserable and in a bad mood and if I don't go, I'm going to be hurt that I am missing out. I don't know how to handle the situation without sounding rude.

Can you give me a shortened version of the text?
<bot>: Wild kids weren't coming to adult party and now are coming. I feel hurt, but not sure how to address it with the group without sounding rude.