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It's been awhile since I last posted, but some of you asked for an update.

My husband, M, has maintained no communication with T and her family. I have had full access to his phone, Facebook, Skype and Reddit accounts. We have started marriage counseling and are both going to go to individual therapy as well. I've started a new anti-depressant, and it's helping me relax more.

M's grandmother and brothers still talk with T and T's family, which is fine. They know that we are choosing not to talk to them. M has realized that T being so close was toxic for our relationship and she was very pushy about spending time with him alone. T's sister tried contacting M recently, but he showed me the text, and we proceeded to delete it together. Having T gone has felt like having a weight lifted off my shoulders. M felt it too, after a couple of weeks of no contact. Maybe 5 years down the road I'll be somewhat okay with them talking again. I doubt it, but maybe.

Our communication is still rocky, but it is improving greatly. I'll admit, it did get to the point we did consider a divorce since neither of us were completely happy. However, we realized we do love each other and divorce was taking the easy way out. It's been a struggle, and the trust has not completely returned and he understands that. I no longer feel guilty about what happened, and he doesn't blame me at all. We still have a long way to go, but I'm hopeful now.

Thank you, [r/relationships] Your advice really helped put things into perspective.
<bot>: M and T no longer talk. M also has no contact with the rest of T's family. I have access to all of his accounts and his phone. We are working on communication and growing closer as a couple.