<human>: My husband [24/m] and I got engaged in January this year. We had been dating for 8 years. We were planning a wedding for March 2015. In June, I got a new job. I wanted him to be on my insurance, so we eloped. We didn't tell anyone about this. Since then we have decided we do not want a wedding. We are already married so we won't be having any other type of ceremony or celebration at all. I've changed my last name and we both have been wearing wedding rings for about two months.

I'm having trouble with telling my family about our elopement. There's two sections of family, my immediate family (mom, dad, brother/sister in law, sister/brother in law, and grandma) and my extended family (aunt/uncle/cousins).

I've seen my immediate family often since we started wearing the rings. I figured the first time someone would just mention it and I could explain and that would be it, but that just never happened. I mean I'm sure they know. Oh, we also never made an official wedding cancelled announcement (never sent invitations or anything but everyone knew we were planning) maybe that's why? I guess need to officially say the wedding is cancelled at the same time. Should I send a mass email announcement? Should I just call everyone and be like "you probably already figured, but we're married" 

I realize I handled it poorly. There was a lot of back and forth about the wedding and it was very emotional for me.

We are going to see the extended family for Thanksgiving. We haven't seen them since August when we were still planning, so they don't know about the elopement. Should I call or email ahead of time to warn them? Drop it on them at thanksgiving?

I know there will be hurt feelings in the extended family. What do I say when they ask when it happened? If I say six months ago, they will be even more offended. This has just turned into a huge awkward situation.

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<bot>: Secretly eloped 6 months ago. Some of the family doesn't know, some of them don't "officially" know. How do I announce it?