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In the beginning, I used to initiate almost every night because I have a high sex drive. 8/10 times he would either fall asleep mid-foreplay or just flat out say no. Now, this has taken a toll on my willingness to initiate and my confidence so I no longer ever initiate. I told him that when he wants to have sex, he can initiate seeing as he always denies me. However, he almost never initiates and when he does its pretty low enthusiasm. Advice? Note; I have tried to make myself more attractive to him, lost 25 lbs, bought lingerie, bough sex toys, all kinds of things.. doesn't seem like he wants me, but when I bring it up he claims he does find me attractive and does want to have sex with me. His actions don't coincide with his words..
<bot>: Is it fair that I ask him to initiate when HE wants it? Is it fair for me to say something when he doesnt initiate for weeks?