<human>: About a month ago, I ended a relationship of about 10 months. I woke up one morning and just didn't feel the same; the spark wasn't there.  And I decided that it wasn't fair to her or myself to lead her on with false happiness.  At least this way she clearly knew what was happening and could move on rather than keep trying to determine how I felt.   

The trouble is, I don't know when is the appropriate time to "get back out there".  Furthermore, I'm not too sure how to approach women.  I've always been with someone who has expressed a bit of interest before I have.  I'm also nervous to try to flirt with women "out of my league".    

I'm just looking for some help finding the right direction.

Can you condense the text into a few key points?
<bot>: Got out of a long relationship.  Not sure if/how I should get back out there.  Nervous about approaching  "out of my league" women.