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Hello [1] /r/relationships friends,

I've recently had my first break up from my first serious relationship. We were together for three years, but in the last six months neither of us were really having fun, we were fighting a lot and for some reason it just wasn't working. I consulted a lot with friends and family and, after a month apart, we decided to end our relationship. We were sure we'd remain very good friends.

Initially, I thought it was a mutual break up. She was saying the same things as I was - we needed time apart, we have different goals, it wasn't working - but as time has progressed it's become more and more one sided.

After a few weeks she asked me what she needed to change for us to get back together, which was a major red flag for me - I don't want anybody to change themselves for me. She's making this revisionist history of our relationship, saying how happy she was when I know she wasn't. Despite wanting to remain friends, she has burst into tears every time I've seen her and last night said "I wish you wouldn't treat me like a friend." When I asked how she wanted me to treat her (I was fairly angry, but not aggressive) she cried and hung up the phone.

I'd really like to keep her in my life because she's really special, but at the moment it seems to be really difficult. Is a friendship even possible under these circumstances, or any circumstances after a breakup?

Basically at this stage I'm feeling a) quite betrayed that she wasn't honest with me about how she was feeling about the break up and b) exhausted from navigating her emotions.

Does anybody have any advice? I'm completely new to this and it's really hard.

Thanks for reading
<bot>: Mutual breakup with us remaining friends has turned into a one sided break up where she is making me feel upset and bad for what we both agreed on. Is there any way to keep her in my life?