<human>: (x-post from AskMen)

I (22F)'ve grown to really like this guy friend of mine (25M) - [I posted about him recently](

We've been friends for over a year now, and the entire time (until recently) he had a girlfriend, so we hung out platonically about once a month and had a great time. He told me about a month ago that he had broken up with her (which makes it about 3 months now that they've broken up).

Last week we went out for drinks, which ended in him kissing me at the end of the night and I confessed to him that I liked him and have liked him for a while. He said he really liked me too, but he wants a bit of time because he just got out of a 2-year relationship BUT says he still wants to see me.

The thing is, he had always been fairly passive in initiating hangouts (I'd always bring it up, then he'd enthusiastically say yes and take charge in making plans, then we'd have a great time hanging out). Unless his response was to be nice/polite to me and let me down gently, our feelings are mutual and are out in the open, yet he still won't initiate anything. The only indication I have to go off of is that he now replies my texts more regularly (though very infrequently still), but not much else otherwise.

I don't want to push him away if he's not lying, since I really like him and I think we'd be really happy together sometime in the future if he gave us a chance. But he is my friend first and foremost so I don't want to put him in a position where he feels like I'm just using him. So how do I know whether he's just shy, passive (and needs me to take the lead), or is he just not interested?

Can you provide a brief rundown of the text in within 3 sentences?
<bot>: Can't figure out if the guy I like is shy, passive, or simply not interested despite him telling me that he reciprocates my feelings, because he is not really doing anything about it.