<human>: I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for three years and it has been fantastic almost every step of the way.  I knew from the start that she planned on going to Grad school, and I told her that I wouldn't mind following her to an out of state school because I didn't have a whole lot going for me in our current city. She has had a goal of getting into the higher levels of academia for most of her life, and I pretty much decided that I don't want to go to school anymore after earning my bachelor's degree.

 However, in the past 6 months I have gone from making 20k to 70k a year, and I am slated to continue moving up in my company at a pretty rapid rate.  I have totally eliminated my debt, I'm meeting many of my financial goals, and I have never been more financially secure.  My newfound financial situation is making me re-evaluate leaving my city to follow her to an unknown city to start over.

I don't want to hold her back from her aspirations, but I feel like leaving my current job to follow her to grad school would be an enormous mistake.  While anything is possible, I cannot see myself finding a similar opportunity anywhere (my cost of living is super low.)

I deal with most problems head on, and I have played out how the next year will unfold in a variety of different ways. Any attempt to discuss the topic usually results in her crying and being in a slump for the rest of the week.  She is starting to buckle to me, and it makes me upset.  She is considering giving up grad school to stay with me, while I had been mentally preparing to break up with her while easing her into the idea that we might not be together in 8 months since our aspirations are starting to diverge.

 I don't want her to abandon her goals for me, and I feel like we are great together, but I also want to be realistic.  Should I just break up with her to encourage her to go to grad school and beyond or should I let her give up on her goals to stay with me?  Is there a serious threat of future resentment?

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<bot>: gf of 3 years wants to go to grad school and my circumstances have improved so that I don't want to follow her.  She is considering abandoning her dreams to stay with me, what should I do?