<human>: Give me the gist of the text in a nutshell

Anytime I am unhappy about something in our relationship or during an argument , my partner just sits there and doesn't say anything. In order for me to get a reponse I have to prompt him by saying "you don't have anything to say" or something along those lines. He will either respond with one or two words, often deflecting the issue back at me or he stonewalls me.

I end up getting really angry and hurt at the blatent disregard for my feelings and end up looking like the person who has the problem, nothing ever gets resolved verbally.

Last night I confronted him about not getting enough affection in our relationship. We're both really busy with school and work, but I feel like I shouldn't have to ask him to touch or cuddle me, he should just want to do it. So I did what I thought was the healthy thing to do in a relationship, communicate about it. I was clam, just told him how I was feeling, and I got nothing. No comfort, no attempt to resolve the issue, just a forced response of a few words.

Im worried, we plan on getting married and starting a family in a few years. I  know I can't take much more of this and can't see things working our if this doesn't change. He doesn't see this as a problem and refuses to see a couples councilor. In his words, " If I don't want to talk now, why would I go see someone to talk." I'm at a loss, he is a great guy and I don't want to loose him,but this is silently tearing apart our relationship.

Has anyone been in a relationship with someone who uses this tatic...I want to salvage this relationship, and I don't know how to approach him wit hour him shutting down.
<bot>: Fiancé shuts down when confronted about relationship problems, and I end up looking like an agressor,is there  any way to salvage this relationship?