<human>: I posted something similar to ask women and got hanged for "not respecting my lady." 

So I have taken care to re-word, and make clear that I am not asking if it is ok to touch someone when they don't want it, but rather to explore why people's boundaries vary so greatly, even between loved ones.

Specifically, I was trying to find deeper explanation for why women may not like their 'SO' touching their breasts, under what circumstances, and for what reasons.

I find this is OK when we are having sexual relations, but not OK during cuddling, snuggling, or any other time.

I didn't easily find any post about this, everything I stumbled across in my brief search was of a positive nature, such as this:

I found mostly threads with women saying they like their significant other to touch their breasts, that it feels neutral, or positive.

As a man, it isn't naturally obvious why touch wouldn't be liked, since my own internal referience would be that I would like to be touched more by my lover.

So it lead me to wonder why a loving partner would dislike this touch. Of course, before coming to Reddit, we have spoken about this several times. I understand for her she can feel objectified, which I understand, and so we do things to her liking. I still find it curious that many women seem to claim they will enjoy to be touched quite often, whereas for others, they seem to almost dislike most touch.

I get that people have their limits, and I know to understand I cannot control them. I would enjoy to be able to touch my girlfriend more openly, she doesn't find it pleasing to her.

She comes from a fairly patriarchal society, and repressive background. (There is to be no oral sex for me ever. :()

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<bot>: How to know when is touch is good touch, or bad touch, when it seems to be up to her mood?