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I was married for 5 years and have gotten a divorced within that last 6  months. My ex-husband was a verbally abusive person. Very manipulative and could subliminally make me feel like a worthless POS without even realizing it. Needless to say, we fought constantly and our arguments were never resolved, they just trailed off until the next one came. We spent half of our marriage not speaking to one another.

Now I am seeing another man, a polar opposite of my ex but find that an extremely small teen-tiny miscommunication drives me to blow up or ignore him, for days. I know why I did that in my marriage, it's because I didn't want to hear his voice or see his face. So now I find comfort in that in my new relationship and know if I continue to do this, he will get fed up and leave. I don't have a lot of money to shell out to shrinks or counselors so I'm just wondering if anyone has been in this type of situation. It's hard but, how do I change myself?
<bot>: Had an emotionally abusive husband for 5 years and using the same defense I did with my ex against my new polar opposite bf.