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I will keep this short as i can. We got married at 21 and although yoing we have always been compatible, honest, best friends, soul mates. But now in the past few months she has been pulling away from me emotionally and spending less and less time with me and i have found myself carryong the bulk of parenting duties for our 2 young children. 

Getting her to share honestly is difficult to say the least but she says she is no longer in love with me but she says she doesn't know what she wants. 

She has a romantic idea of living a free single life with no responsibilities, but even if she left me we still have 2 kids.

I am gutted to say the least. Cant eat or sleep yet trying to be a good parent and do as much as i can.

I suspect she may be suffering from undiagnosed depression.

I am offering my total support and have made it clear i am willing to try anything and everything to fight for her and save our marriage but its all one sided. I feel like i only have so much gas in my emotional tank...

We are seeking counselling and the counselor convinced her reluctantly to try to work it out for 1 month.

How do i stay strong? I will do anything for her but at what point do i know if im fighting an unwinnable war? I have a couple of great friends who have got my back. And all of our friends and family are supporting both of us and want to see us work it out but she still is stone cold.

If anyone has been in a similar situation id love to hear something to gain clarity or encouragement.
<bot>: wife of almost 9 years has pulled away and wants to leave but is possibly depressed. How do i get through this?