<human>: Can you condense the text into a few key points?

I'm in the ICU with my dad right now.  Stage 4 renal cell carcinoma that has metastasized to his lungs and abdomen.  The oncologist was just here and the guy's awesome.  He's still fighting for my dad when most of the other doc's aren't.
We're going to be doing more tests today with the intention determining if this fight is still worth fighting.  The last CT scan we did showed the chemo was working, tumors were shrinking and/or dieing, which gave us a lot of hope.  That was about 5 weeks ago, and he's just gotten sicker and sicker since then.  He's losing a ton of fluid into his abdominal cavity, and it's sucking all the protein out of him and dehydrating him.  His remaining kidney has shut down right now, dialysis is keeping him going and his vitals are good.  But he's made it clear that if he's not going to get better, he wants to get it over with.

Anyway.  We're going to know a lot more after tests and scans today and we'll see where we are.  I guess I'd just like to hear from everyone what it was like for them to lose a parent, what I can do to help my mom, maybe some happy pull-outs from bleak situations.
<bot>: Hoping my dad's going to pull out of kidney cancer, glad he didn't pull out 26 years ago.  The dude's been an ultimate-bad-ass-troll-dad.