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My boyfriend and I will have been together for 4 years in August. Recently, we've hit a rough patch and I finally told him what I've been feeling for at least a year: I don't know if this relationship is what I want anymore.

I still feel very young even though I've supported myself and been independent since I was 17. I feel like I haven't had time to figure out exactly what I want in a relationship (or if I'm even the type of person who can commit to a single person.) I feel like our relationship is missing passion and desire and that we are friends who love each other but I, at least, am not in love with him. I think I owe it to myself to finally be emotionally independent and stand on my own two feet. There is so much I want to do and I cannot help but think that to marry him (or even just continue this relationship) would be to 1) lie every day about being 100% happy and 2) do a disservice to us both. I can't help but think that I am missing out on so much purely because I've settled down too soon. I feel like I've been safe for too long and I want to finally start to live without obligation.

My mother told me that I've made a mistake. She says that I won't ever find a guy who is as kind-hearted, generous and loving as my boyfriend. Maybe she's right, he is a special person, but is that a good enough reason to stay with someone? Shouldn't I be with someone because I love them and not because he's a good caretaker? Am I totally naive to think that there's someone(s) out there who completes me and I need that more than I need a steady, safe partner?
<bot>: My relationship of 4 years is fizzling. My boyfriend is an amazing person but am I naive to think that there's something (not necessarily someone) better waiting for me?