<human>: My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and are currently living together. I love him so much but honestly .. the idea of being with him for the rest of my life terrifies me. Not because of the commitment, but because over the time spent together I've discovered he has this awful temper.. And is mean, ignorant, shallow, and emotionally abusive. I'm not going to go into specifics.. I have actually made a couple of separate posts here on r/relationships about isolated events/issues about it and all of the reactions was pretty much "why the hell are you dating this asshole? You will be miserable for the rest of your life."

Unfortunately, I haven't voiced any concerns with friends and family.. I guess I feel ashamed about it. But I'm making this post because I would really love advice from people who maybe have been in my shoes before. So currently, like I said, we live together. I own the bulk of the furniture but we did make a couple of big purchases together. Also, my boyfriend is an international student, so he isn't from here nor is he allowed to work a certain amount of hours. I have already graduated and work full time. I can afford this apartment, he cannot. 

I just don't even know where to begin... How do I start this? We haven't talked about breaking up but sometimes when we argue he will say things like "oh yeah? Well if you don't like it you know what to do" (implying I should break up with him) 
I don't want it to be messy but it will likely be. And it really breaks my heart because I do love him and I love his family so much. He is my family.. they are my family.. So it's like I lose him, i also lose them.

Please, I would love to hear your experiences and some advice on the right steps to take to make this less painful as possible!

Thank you

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<bot>: I've decided I can't be with my live-in boyfriend anymore and I need advice on what steps to take to break up with him and move on with my life