<human>: My first ever relationship was with an abusive man who manipulated me, called me awful names, and made me feel worthless. 

Since then, I've been to therapy, built boundaries, and learned self-respect. However, I still really struggle with relationships. 

I've noticed a pattern where I am dating guys who are extremely nice, but constantly forgetting about me. Basically, they are super non-judgmental and kind, fall in love quickly, and usually ask me to be in a relationship quickly. But once we are in a relationship, they start being really late to everything and frequently forgetting promises. Sleeping through date plans, rescheduling plans all the time, etc.

I try talking with them nicely at first, but it keeps happening. Their intentions are so good, but their actions do not match their words. Then I end up breaking things off, feeling horrible and guilty, and miserable that I hurt someone else's heart. They always ask me to give another chance, but every time I do that, I regret it because the same thing starts happening again in a few weeks. 

Can someone please help me understand this pattern so I can move past it? I know I'm the common denominator in these situations, I just can't figure out why. All I want is consistency and stability in a relationship, with someone who treats me as a priority, as I always do for my partner.

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<bot>: After an abusive relationship long ago, I date kind and good-hearted guys who move quickly, but they seem so distracted and forget about me once we are together. Trying to figure out how to break this pattern.