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Hi. I really could use advice. I am not out at work because it would not be a smart career choice to come out. It would mean getting turned down for promotions, getting passed up, being a victim of passive aggression. If I COULD come out at work and not have it be a big thing trust me I WOULD. I'm out everywhere else except at work.

My fiancee who I love with all my heart does not understand this. She thinks I'm making a bigger deal out of this but she's not the one who is the one doing my job. To be fully honest I am frustrated and annoyed she doesn't understand. She thinks I am "insecure" about who I am and am "ashamed" and "not proud enough or brave enough" to stick up for who I am or for our relationship. Of course she thinks this because she works at a very liberal place (and her boss is bisexual) so how would she even understand.

My fiancee and I have had many fights about this and today she gave me an ultimateum I either come out at work this month or we break up. She is upset that nobody at my work knows about her or knows I am engaged and that for holiday work parties I have never invited her to a function.

I don't know how to get it into her head that if I COULD I WOULD but I CAN'T. I think she's being SO unfair and selfish and insecure. At the same time I CAN'T lose her. I don't want to imagine my life without her.

What do I do? How do I make my fiancee SEE that me not coming out at work is NOT ABOUT HER? but rather about the work culture I have to be in?
<bot>: My fiancee wants me to come out at work this month or break up. But if I come out at work it will hurt my career. She doesnt seen this.