<human>: I divorced a few years ago myself and prior to that the last time I dated was in high school.  I feel like I still don't know exactly what's going on in the dating world.  I know very much what I'm looking for and have no intention of rushing into anything as I already have experience of being in a long relationship with someone that's not right for you.  

I know in the big picture there's nothing wrong with me, I can easily socialize with anybody, I'm completing school to be a doctor, physically fit and intelligent. Not to say that all of the dating has ended poorly because that's not the case but I just seem to be running into the dating scene blindly so to speak. 

I almost feel like when I meet a person for the first time like its coming across as a casual interview of sorts.  I don't like for people to feel uncomfortable on dates as some people put so much pressure on them, so I keep it very casual as you would if you were friends, I keep conversation fun and light with laughter strewn about on both ends.  However, I run into situations like recently where I feel things went great, gave her a hug at the end saying I enjoyed meeting her and would like to see her again to which she reciprocates but when I send a text to set something up I'll just be ignored.  I find it rather childish instead of at the end just saying you're not interested and going on with life instead of leading me on.

I'm aware that some girls just aren't interested, or don't know what they want etc, but I don't want to place all fallacies on the other sex without looking at my own with a critical eye.

Can you give me the gist of the text in a nutshell?
<bot>: what tips/advice do you have for those in the dating scene after a long relationship/marriage that you wish you would've had known?