<human>: I have a good friend, "Matt" who I spend a lot of time with, in the same social circles, classes, etc. I'm definitely getting some vibes from him that indicate he's attracted to me. I reciprocate...kind of. Something about it feels not quite like a "click." It's like I'm publicly embarrassed by him - not as a friend, but imagining going out with him kind of raises my hackles. Additionally, there's another guy "Alex" who, while he has a girlfriend, I am attracted to and I don't feel like the embarrassment is an issue. What this secondary attraction makes me think is that pursuing this relationship with Matt is a bad idea; if I was really truly interested, I wouldn't have the reservations I do have.

Another worry of mine is sex. I'm still a virgin. Not for any particular reason other than that I haven't found someone that I feel comfortable enough with for that to happen. I've run into problems with guys before because they "don't want to wait for me to be ready," in which case I'm like, "Well, bummer for you. I'm going to when I'm ready." The thought of sex with Matt is also kind of hackle-raising, just that it makes me nervous. Not in an insecurity way, but like the idea of sex with him isn't appealing at all. When I consider the same situation with Alex, I don't have that feeling. Sex in general makes me feel uncomfortable, but I know that if I find someone who I'm with that really loves me for me, they won't care. 

Do I pursue this relationship with Matt, or do I trust my gut? If I trust my gut, how do I not obsess over the currently unavailable Alex? How do I let the idea of sex not bother me so much?

Can you condense the text into three sentences or less?
<bot>: Trust my gut feeling and not date a guy, or get over what seems to be a personal issue and ask him out?