<human>: Hi Reddit,

I had to create a throwaway account, because too many of my friends are redditors and I was concerned they might see my account name.

I've been in a relationship for over 6 years; Basically since my girlfriend finished highschool and I finished university (there's a 4 year age gap). For many years I've been fairly happy and whilst we fight from time to time I've never really wanted out.

Sex slowed down after the first few years, which is fine and normal, and then got even less frequent once we moved in together. About a year ago it dried up almost entirely (basically once or twice a month - right around THAT time of the month) which really bothered me at first, but I got so used to her not being in the mood that I stopped asking or expecting it at all.

My girlfriend had to move out of state for work - it's only a temporary thing, she'll be moving back by the summer, and already has a few vacations planned to come back and see me. The problem is, I'm not sure that I want her to come back. I don't really miss her all that much.

I'm really confused about how I feel, I don't know if I want out of the relationship because I'm no longer in love with her, or because she's away and I'm getting distracted by all the pretty girls who are still around, or if the kinda apathy towards our relationship is normal after so long.

I have started to develop a little bit too much of a crush on one of the waitresses at the local bar, it'll never go anywhere, but I think that might have a lot to do with how I'm feeling as well.

The problem is, my girlfriend is a warm and loving person, and when I think about leaving her, I know it would crush her... and the thought of hurting her kills me!

Should I keep quiet and try to make things work long distance, work out how I feel when she moves back next summer, or is that just the coward talking, should I tell her everything I'm thinking?

Can you provide a brief rundown of the text in within 3 sentences?
<bot>: I'm in a very long-term relationship, noone has been unfaithful or done anything wrong, but I'm starting to have serious doubts, how do I know if it's time to end things?