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I [M29] just finished a series of premarital counseling sessions with my girlfriend [F30].  We're not engaged yet, but I heard from many sources that it's good to do things like this before engagement and wedding planning.  We have been dating almost 3 years.

Counseling was kind of rough.  Some of the exercise were designed to stress our relationship so our therapist could see how we handled it.  More than half the time we ended up fighting after the session was over.

At the end of our final session, our therapist said he saw some red flags.  He said that my girlfriend was not communicating clearly and it was causing problems.  But he pointed out that my critical attitude toward her was making her feel unable to clearly communicate.

He also said that my girlfriend reminded him of someone who was being emotionally abused (very weepy in sessions).  He was very clear that he did not mean he thought I was abusing her - he said that while I was critical and did ask for changes from her, my requests were "well differentiated" and didn't cross boundaries.  But he wants her to go to additional therapy on her own, with a female therapist.  He said she needs to decide if she can grow a thicker skin or if she needs to break up with me.

My girlfriend was pretty upset with his advice.  She said she saw going to premarital counseling as a hoop she had to jump through in order for us to get engaged.  She refuses to go to individual counseling if I see it as a requirement for getting engaged.  She says she has waited long enough and doesn't want to jump through any more hoops.

I don't see counseling as hoops for her to jump through, but I do want to resolve this before getting engaged.  She thinks I keep delaying it because I'm scared or don't want to grow up.  I'm delaying it because we have real problems.

Any advice?  Is there anything I can be doing?
<bot>: red flags came up in counseling; therapist suggested my girlfriend go to individual therapy.  She still wants to get engaged soon; I want to sort this out first.