<human>: Hey there /r/relationships.

5 years ago, I met the guy who would become my first love and first serious relationship. We dated for a year and a half, broke up for a year, dated for another year, and finally broke up last year. I've had other flings and relationships yet here I am, still completely in love with him, and dude has moved on (can't blame him). Obviously this relationship was in no way stable/healthy and it's in both our best interests that it ended.

When I dated in the past I always felt like while I cared a lot about the new guy, I kind of knew that if my ex were to ask I would take him back in a heartbeat. Ex has recently let me know he no longer has feelings for me (good for him!). I still do. We met today for the first time since our breakup last year and while I thought I was in the right space to finally have a friendship with him, seeing him proved to be extremely painful and now I'm back to square one. I am finally realizing there is no way I can keep this person in my life and it breaks my heart all over again whenever I think about it.

I often idealize him but really I know we're just two ordinary people who didn't work out. Nothing special. I need to move on because this is just exhausting and I have no idea how to finally get over him and stop carrying a torch for a guy who will never come back to me. I am looking for tough love and tips on how to just drop this and move on like he has.

Can you condense the text into a few key points?
<bot>: Been in stupid love with my ex for the past 5 years, I know it's over for good but I can't get over him. It's seriously exhausting and I have no idea how to move on.