<human>: Can you provide a brief rundown of the text in within 3 sentences?

Me and this girl dated over a year ago now. We had been good friends for a long time and that developed into a very intense relationship. We had a bad breakup but about six months ago we made up and became friends again.

I'm not sure we should be friends. The problem is that I love her. At first I thought that I just really cared about her because we had been so close in the past, but I realized that that was just self-denial. I try not to let this show at all so that we can continue to be friends, but its hard. 

Our friendship isn't terrible but it's inconsistent. We could text all week, and spend an entire afternoon together, but then she'll more or less ignore me for a week after that. Sometimes I feel like she's my best friend, and sometimes I feel like we're distant acquaintances. I figured out a while ago that I have no control over this so I just let her do what she wants. It's really draining though. I have to constantly adjust my expectations, actions, and emotions to make this work, and its making me miserable.  I don't think I do anything wrong either. I'm nice to her, maybe every once in a while i'll text her too much, but I do my best to respect boundaries, so I'm kind of confused. 

My question for you is how do I make this work?  I'm pretty sure we both like and care about each other. However, this relationship isn't really healthy for me. While it may be unfair of me, I need consistency, and a degree of closeness with her for this friendship to work. We're both people that do what we want so i feel like if thats what she wanted then there wouldn't be a problem. I don't know if I should confront her, try to let things fall where they fall or just leave.
<bot>: I'm in love with my ex, we're friends now but it's very up and down and I'm not sure if I can make this work.