<human>: Before anyone gets the wrong idea, I realize that sexual relationships are complex two way streets, and things can go bad for a number of reasons.  I'm not trying assign any blame, just trying for understanding.

I'm in a 30+ year marriage that has been sexless for the last 20 years.  I've got friends who I know aren't getting any.  I see many posts from guys whose wives have basically shut down (again, I realize it happens with guys, too).  

My question is, for women over 40 or so, how many of you still experience desire for and satisfaction from sex?  We hear that women reach their sexual peak at 36, and sometimes heat up at menopause.  That is not supported by my experience or others that I know.  Are you really out there, or is this a modern myth?

I remember when Viagra first came out there was an article talking about it being the bane of the older woman.  "We thought we were finally done with all that mess, and now this!"  This seems to be more in line with reality than, for instance, what the Viagra ads would have us believe.

Again, I'm not trying to rattle anyone's cage, I'm just trying to get a sense of reality.  I believe a lot of people's expectations are skewed with the amount of attention sex is given in the media.  We think everybody is gettin' it but us.  I'd just like to know if the high libido older female actually exists.  I admit I'm sheltered:  I'm a 50+ guy who has been married to one person since my early 20s.  All my previous sexual experience were with young women, when I was a young man.

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<bot>: Are there really any middle age+ women who still enjoy sex?  (No, I'm not looking for names...)