<human>: My boyfriend of 1.5 years is possessive, but not at the right times. It seems that he swings between two extremes.

For example, when we go to a party together or simply call in on one of his friends, he insists I wear an item of his clothing. It always falls under the guise of ensuring I'm warm, and he wouldn't admit it was a statement of possession. **But,** he let slip after drinking too much at a party that he liked "letting people know [I'm his]."

An example of the opposite behaviour is when we go out. Now I don't insist that he sticks by my side the entire time, but when I'm feeling genuinely uncomfortable due to a guy being overly flirtatious, said boyfriend shows no interest. If I call him on it or request his help, he simply states "I'm not worried, it's not like they have a chance anyway." I know this is meant as a compliment but I don't feel *noticed* enough.

I know he cares for me deeply, but I'd like to feel possessed when I need protection, not when it's just about ownership.

Can anyone offer insight into understanding this? Is it something about him I don't quite understand clearly, or something unusual that I should try to talk to him about?

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<bot>: my boyfriend of 1.5 years is possessive(/protective?) during petty events, and not when I really need it.