<human>: No point in arguing really though. He doesn't seem to actually discuss anything. Been together 2 years now living together for a year. The problem comes when ever I so much as dare to get upset about something he hasn't done either because A I didn't ask him to do it or B I haven't followed him around reminding him to do it. Well guess what? I may be dating him, living with him, and helping around the house but he is a grown adult I expect him to do his part without being reminded and chased around like a child. 

How do I even deal with this? I can't just get angry and not say something otherwise he nags me to talk, I can't talk to him because when I do it always becomes a arguing match of him saying I should have just asked and me saying he should just grow up and help out without me nagging.

I don't want to follow him around, I don't want to do all the work, and I don't want to get angry and fight but what can I do?

Could you distill the essence of the text into 1-3 sentences?
<bot>: boyfriend won't help around unless nagged, always turns into a fight. At the end of my rope what can I do?