<human>: **Background**: Boyfriend and I (f) are both in mid-twenties and have been together over 3 years. Live together.  Just wanted some thoughts from other people on whether I'm being unreasonable.  

My bf rarely wants me to come out with him when it's with friends (but we can go out when it's just him and me).  He says it's because he can't let loose when I'm around (I don't tend to drink but I don't mind if he does).  It does hurt because: 

1) I do want to spend time with him on outings like this.

2) We share a lot of friends (though I have a group of girl friends as well) so naturally I get invited to things as well and I still like to have a night out now and again (I don't know if he thinks I'm no fun as I don't drink).  

A recent example was his birthday - there was a get together organised to celebrate it.  I was taking him out to celebrate the day after (just the two of us) but I did ask if I could come for the get together just to see friends and of course celebrate his birthday with the rest of the group (I did say I would only stay a little while so he could still enjoy himself without me there).  He said no and when I asked why not, he said that I was being unreasonable to get upset by him saying I can't come.

I don't expect to go with him every time or when it's quite obviously a boys' night out.  But it's still nice to go out with a group of friends and your bf without feeling like you're stopping the fun.

Am I being unreasonable (which he says I am when I say that I'm slightly hurt when he tells me I can't go out with him)?

I've just gotten to the point where I just feel like I'm in the wrong for asking if I can go out with him when friends are involved.  So, am I just being overly sensitive and unreasonable?  Please tell me if I should just get a grip.  Perspectives from boyfriends/girlfriends would be appreciated.

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<bot>: BF doesn't like me going out with him when it's with a group of friends.  Says I'm being unreasonable if I get upset by this. Am I?