<human>: To make an incredibly long story short, my mom had me when she was 17. She named me after her aunt, whom she was living with at the time. My mom has told me on more than one occasion that my aunt kind of coerced her into naming me after her. I had only met my great-aunt a handful of times. She passed away from a heroin overdose in the early 2000s, and was known to be a racist, and a bigot.

Now that I'm 18, I want to change my name. I always have but haven't been able to, being a minor and all. My name has never felt like it was "mine". I actually have a post on /r/namenerds now, hoping those lovely folk can help me pick out a new name.

The problem is, I *know* my mom, my grandparents and basically, everyone on that side of the family will be hurt/upset that I've changed my name. My mom has told me countless times when I brought up changing my name that it was "disrespectful" to the dead relative, but why would I want to keep a name that reminds everyone in my family of a drug addict? 

So that is the problem I've came to /r/relationships with today. How do I handle the questions and the obvious "that's *so* disrespectful" from family members when they hear of my name change? Or do I just not saying anything and let them continue to call me the name I have now? It's quite confusing. :/

Can you condense the text into three sentences or less?
<bot>: Want to change my name here soon. Need help handling family's emotions after it is all said and done. Help.