<human>: Like, over the weekend we made hamburgers for lunch and halfway through on of my hamburgers I noticed that one of her hairs had cooked into it. No biggy. But she got pretty upset and quiet at herself as if I was scolding her. I said "baby, it's ok, it's nothing", she didn't fully believe me. I could see her just getting down on herself.

Her father treated her like hell and her highschool/college boyfriend pretty much walked all over her. She says that it's going to take some getting used to not being blamed for everything while at the same time not being expected to support us.

How can I make her feel better about herself and to not feel guilty about me helping support us? I mean, it sounds ridiculous to me that she would take issue with that, but, sometimes it feels like I need to actively deprogram her from feeling this way instead of just expecting her to come entirely out of this abusive and self loathing funk.

She is honestly a beautiful, funny and incredibly intelligent woman. I feel like she needs a little ego. I really want her to be happy within herself and not be scared to have some more backbone. She won't be around her father without me, the man behaves when I'm there. If I wasn't he'd just come up with some bullshit excuse to degrade her and her life choices. I wish I could just jump into her body and tell him to fuck right off. Help?

Could you distill the essence of the text into 1-3 sentences?
<bot>: She blames herself and scolds herself for things that aren't her fault and don't even bother me and I just want her to be happier and more confident