<human>: i don't know if this is the right forum to start, if not i apologize.

a brief background.

a little over 3 weeks ago my wife[29/f] (common law) told me she was no longer in love with me, that she thought it best i move out and date other people. during the course of the conversation she did say she was still attracted to me, and she loves me as a friend and our daughters father. don't know if that has changed.

over the last few weeks, i have found that she has been feeling this way for what appears to be 2 plus years now, each time we talked the length got longer, from 3 months to what appears to be 2 years now. we have been together a little over 5 years, and have known each other since we were 3 or 4. 

we have been planning to buy a house, in the next few months (about 3 months away) i have been providing sole support for both her and our daughter for the last 4.5 years. she started working full time a few months ago as a teacher. yesterday she went with our realtor to look at a home, turns out she liked it so much, she sent the numbers off to the bank to see if she can afford it on her own.

yes, we have had our problems, mostly communication. never any abuse or cheating. we are both head strong and highly independent. myself, and my family all thought we were doing better and stronger as of 2 months ago when they came to visit.

i have individual counseling starting next friday, we have couples counseling starting next sunday. she made it very clear that the couples counseling is not going to fix "us" she is going to work on being better friends and parents. when i asked one night, she agreed by nodding that she would smother any romantic love if she felt it coming back.

so obviously i have had consecutive bombshells dropped on me over the last 3 weeks. and i have tons of questions.

but are there any books you would recommend to help me understand what is going on? help me make sure our daughter is okay during this transition? (she does not know, but has noticed i have been upset and crying)

Can you provide a brief overview of the text?
<bot>: wife no longer loves me, she is planning on moving out. any books you recommend to help me understand the situation and how to make sure our daughter is okay during the transition?