<human>: My ex broke up with me about a week ago, and though it was shocking and hurt like hell at the time, I realize that it was pretty mutual since we both knew this was coming for a while. I thought we were in love, but I'm pretty sure the love ended a while ago, though I do know we both still care for each other a lot and enjoy each others company.

Anyway, we want to be friends because we have a lot of mutual friends/hobbies and also we just really enjoy each other as people, despite the fact that we're not meant to be in a romantic relationship (too many fights, clinginess, co-dependency, all that good stuff). 

I thought I was doing okay with the friend thing (aside from crying at random points in the day, like at finding one of his socks on my floor), but now I'm not sure if I'm actually okay with being close friends with him or if this is just a cop out so that I don't feel so sad and lonely. Like some of him is better than none right? I don't have to lose all of him right away?

Staying friends with him feels good, talking to him feels good, we just mesh really well as friends without the pressure of a forced relationship. But I really don't want to jeopardize my (or his) healing process. I want to get over him so that I can learn and someday find someone who is a better fit, and I honestly cannot tell if I'm over him, or if my brain is pretending I am just so that I can keep him in my life.

Some additional details:  We've never been really sexually passionate, and recently it's really just seemed like we're in the friendzone, even before the breakup. We were definitely in actual love at some point though (not for a while imo). I don't know if I miss him, or just having a relationship and person to do literally everything with, considering we unhealthily spent every waking minute together. 

Any advice for staying friends and/or healing? I told him I was going to take some time (no-contact) to think about things.

Can you give me the gist of the text in a nutshell?
<bot>: Not sure if wanting to stay friends with ex is about actually wanting to be friends, or about not being over him. Advice?