<human>: Over the past few weeks, or more like couple months I started to get very close to a friend. We would speak of deeply personal subjects, starting speaking just about daily, and clearly we both have started to develop 'feelings,' for lack of a better term.

When we first started getting to know each other, just as friends, I had spoken of how I don't date. There are many reasons I don't date, but perhaps the biggest reason is I believe you need to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with another, and I'm  not happy. I don't want to rely on someone else in the state I'm in, and it would probably be unfair to anyone that tried to get too close for the time being. My opinion on this won't change.

The way we speak and how others perceive us is changing, and it's because I've been allowing it to materialize beyond what I feel comfortable with. I thought based on what she knew of me and my stance when it came to relationships would protect me and prevent this. It hasn't; we both know we have the hots for each other, and while she wants to be in a relationship, and might already be joking of us being in one, I can't let there be anymore confusion and ground us as close, important friends.

Ooh, now here comes a plot twist! She and I only know each other through an online community, albeit a very social one, and have never met outside of video chats and things of the like... but that is changing really soon, when this community will be getting together for a few days and we'll both be attending.

I have reasons to believe she expects our none relationship to develop into a sexual one during this time, and I don't want that. With anyone. I've decided I need to clear on what I expect and understand what she expects before we meet up, and I need to help with this inevitable conversation.

"It's not you, it's me" won't cut it, and I need help knowing what to keep in mind, what aspects I need to be sure to hit and what to avoid when we do have this conversation.

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<bot>: I need to have a "it's not you, it's me" conversation with a close friend, and I need help with this.