<human>: My wife went through some abusive shit in her childhood, but has had counseling and worked through her feelings. Except that I don't think she really has.

She's very reticent around strangers, very shy. We get along great, except anytime I am frustrated about *anything*, or annoyed, or any emotion that isn't wholly positive, she makes a face like she's terrified, like I'm going to beat her, and she shrinks away from me.

I want to be clear: I am not a yeller or a screamer, I don't throw or break things, I don't have any violent tendencies. I grew up in a screaming house and I absolutely hated it. What I'm talking about when I say I'm frustrated or whatever is me talking through whatever is stressing me out. Just talking, normal volume, about this stupid new process at work or something like that.

No matter what it is, though, she reacts like I'm hurting her. And I'm trying really hard to be supportive, I've told her over and over I'm not ever going to be someone she has to fear, and I've demonstrated that. I have *never* done anything to warrant this reaction, and I am started to feel real anger when she reacts to me like this. I'm feeling like I can't even talk to my *wife* when I need to talk, because she'll become silent and barely functional until the next day. I feel like she's not being fair to me. She's treating me like an abuser.

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<bot>: my wife responds like a kicked puppy whenever I express any frustration or stress, and not being able to express it is building up inside me until I'm feeling angry at *her*.