<human>: Due to some really poor communication from her and some jerkish behavior from me, My gf and I have been going through some shit.

She says shes still in love with me, but the romance isn't there. She said she wants to get it back. But neither of us have any idea what to do next. 

I'm interested in maintaining the relationship, we were planning on getting married, I knew we were both shitty at talking about things with one another (both very passive people) and that it would probably cause problems. I think if we both grew up and learned to discuss things that a lot of the issues we were going through would be worked out.

She wants some time to sort things out for herself. I'm not interested in beating a dead horse and I'm scared shes just wanting space in order to build up to a breakup, so it doesn't feel so bad for her.

I honestly have no idea where to go. Shes really cold to me, I still want to do things together, I want to do nice stuff for her, I want to just make out for a bit... but I can tell shes not into it.

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<bot>: How do I know if gf is really trying to get the spark back, or just delaying a breakup? How would anyone suggest we go about GETTING the spark back?