<human>: I am in a relationship with a man who is sweet, adventurous, loving, and overall amazing.  The only problem is, he is 30 years older than me.  He is currently separated from his wife, and is getting ready to ask for a divorce.  However, she does not want to give up her marriage and refuses to sign divorce papers.  When she found out about my age, she called me a gold digger, a slut, a home wrecker, etc, and has threatened to blackmail me.  She threatens to tell my parents about this relationship (they have no idea how much older he is), and has already tried to get me fired from my job on multiple occasions.
Is it selfish of me to want to be with him? We have such a wonderful relationship, despite the big age difference.  He's adventurous and romantic, and none of my past boyfriends can compare to him.  We go on the most interesting and fun dates, we talk on the phone for hours, he was my rock during some of the most difficult times in my life, and he goes out of his way to help me, even with simple things.  
I know that I am young, and I want to establish myself in my career before I settle down.  But as of right now, I want it to be him that I settle down with in the future.  Ive been with him for about a year, and can see it lasting longer than that.
What should I do about his soon-to-be ex wife? And is it possible for us to sustain a relationship that has such a big age difference? Is anyone else in a similar relationship?

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<bot>: In a loving relationship with a man who is 30 years older, but am being threatened and blackmailed by the crazy ex wife. **Please Help.**