<human>: I find my family to be rather toxic. Over the past couple of years, I've gone through a lot of effort to build up my self-esteem, deal with lingering issues from my childhood and become a happier and more positive person. 

My family is very co-dependent on each other and they all dwell on the negative things going on. They like to gossip and they tend to have a victim mindset - they feel like the world and everyone else is out to get them. They are not very supportive and have issues connecting with others. 

I am honestly contemplating whether or not to spend the holidays with them. When I'm around them, I feel very stressed out and get very anxious. I use a lot of mindfulness techniques and try to keep things light and positive, but the negative energy eventually takes over.

On top of all this, I had a relatively difficult year in that I separated from my husband of 4 years and we have a pending divorce. We're on good terms, but my family seems disinterested in this and doesn't really acknowledge or talk about it with me. I don't even mention it or try to discuss my feelings with them because it makes me feel rejected and uncomfortable. I've been dating someone new and I've met his family and I would eventually like to have him meet mine, but at the same time, I don't want their poor attitudes to negatively effect our relationship. 

This is a sticky situation and one that is particularly confusing because if they're my family and I'm supposed to love them, why do I want to distance myself from them? I also don't want my boundaries to come off as cold, but honestly - they need to be in place so I can feel like a productive, happy person and not get dragged into the drama.

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<bot>: Family is very negative. How do I survive (or avoid) the holidays with reasonable boundaries without coming off as cold-hearted to them or my new boyfriend?