<human>: I'll premise this by saying we have a healthy relationship - we like each other a lot and there are a lot of good qualities we strongly like in each other.

The problem is she's very unmotivated for sex and it's making me feel very guilty for feeling sex is a strain on the relationship because she makes a valid point when I bring this topic up - sex shouldn't make the relationship. As a guy, am I being selfish? Is it wrong of me to want more sex than she is willing to give?

I say it as if she never wants it... She does want sex as she has told me when we have discussed this, but I have to go through a tedious process to turn her on, then get myself properly turned on and then we have mediocre sex.

I've also told her I prefer being submissive in the bedroom and she's said she prefers being dominant but the problem is, she claims that she is "scared to screw up" being dominant despite how many times I've told her it's okay and I just want her to try her best... Then I just end up having to do all the leg work, which is often okay but I just never quite feel fulfilled enough. I've often found that I've climaxed way too early because the prospect of sex just doesn't interest me that much any more because of the way she emotionally handles sex. She never tells me what she wants, even if I ask, she "holds back" moans, movements and general sexual emotion because it's "not her style" and sex is just generally extremely difficult with her.

Am I being selfish, lazy and way too objective? I know relationships shouldn't hinder on sex and I would be seen as a pig if I were to break up with her solely based on poor sex but it really is quite miserable. I really like her and we really do click on a very deep emotional level but sex just isn't up to par and she just refuses to step it up a notch... Can she not even just put a little more effort into sex or is that too much to ask? I've not really had that many sex partners to speak with experience so I'm not really sure...

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<bot>: Partner is pretty bad at sex but an amazing girlfriend, is it bad if I am struggling in a good relationship that has terrible sex?