<human>: A little about me... I have been in two semi long-term, pretty serious relationships. Just a few months ago my ex and I broke up. I recently started going out on double dates with my friends and their friends just to get back to the dating scene.

I think at this age, I realize I am dating for the long haul and not just to mess around. This means for me no sex unless I feel comfortable (I've only slept with 3 people, I feel uncomfortable having casual sex).

However, the guys I talk to seem to really enjoy playing games that, to me, seem childish. For example, games with texting (seeming interested, then not seeming interested, then seeming interested, OR who texts firsts). And some only seem to want sex and if I don't put out then they make it seem like I should? 

Any advice on how to overcome this fear to get back into the dating scene?

Can you condense the text into three sentences or less?
<bot>: Just getting back into dating but I just want to be straightforward. No casual sex, no games. How do I overcome this fear of being played, basically?