<human>: Condense the text into a few key points

Backstory: Yesterday morning on my way to work, I got into a minor rear-end accident (fortunately no one was hurt). But sadly, it left the front of my cheap commuter car damaged to the point where it was not worth the cost of repair. 

It wasn't too much to handle, and since my wife was at work for the day already, I decided not to tell her until she got home so as to not stress her out. 

When she got home (I took the rest of the day off) and I told her what happened, her first reaction was concern for my well-being and that felt good. However...

About a half-hour later, I noticed that she was starting to text her parents about what happened. I asked her to hold on the text, since the dust was still settling, I was still processing what happened, and I did not feel comfortable letting anyone else we know (family/friends) what happened yet.

This was really hard for her to take--she told me she's an external processor and needs to talk to other people to work things through emotionally. That is a very core need for her, she said.

This is contradictory to my core need of feeling secure between the two of us as a couple, as a sanctuary from the world. To go and tell her parents less than a half-hour after I told her what happened, feels to me like a leak in an window. At least, I feel, give me a day or two to process things myself, between just the two of us, before we open it up to the world.

We're at a loss of how to resolve this between us. She feels resentful that she's giving in on her core need to process by talking things through with others, because I want her to wait a bit.

Also, she is mad at me for not telling her right after the accident happened and waiting instead until she got home.

So... how do I work with this? Am I expecting too much? I want to find balance.

Thanks for your perspective.
<bot>: Got into an accident. Didn't tell my wife until she got home from work, which she's mad about (I didn't want to stress her out).