<human>: So our relationship is kinda going through a rocky period, as in I've told him I'm thinking of leaving. There's a lot of reasons for it, but the biggest part of it is that I don't feel like it's an equal relationship and I'm feeling used. He works sometimes but pays no bills, I also usually do all house work and just generally work very hard to keep him happy because I love him. I've been talking to two mutual friends of ours, both of whom love him but are also very honest. The one thinks that he uses temper tantrums to control me. For example, if I say we don't have enough money to do something if he still wants to smoke for the week he'll blame himself and just go to bed and not talk to me even if I try to talk it over with him, until I give in, then five minutes later he'll start acting more normal. If it's something bigger he just plain old won't be in the mood until he gets wait he wants, so basically we go without physical contact. He'll hold me at night sometimes during those periods but it's still very physically tense at times. Our other friend says this is the equivalent of a kid holding their breath until they get what they want, and that's abuse in an adult relationship. I don't think he does it with that intention, but my friend said intention doesn't matter. They know that I can't stand to see anyone upset and they said he's essentially using that fact to get what he wants from me, whether maliciously our not. I tried looking it up but he fits no other classic signs of emotional abuser, except for the withholding of physical affection. I mean I just really can't stand to see him upset or sad.

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<bot>: boyfriend withdraws emotionally when he doesn't get what he wants, eventually I give in because I hate setting him upset, friends say that is emotional manipulation and abuse.