<human>: I just ruined a wonderful new budding romance/comfortable friendship. I started out very happy and conscious of how intense I get over people I like, and while he asked me to take it slow and I agreed - I absolutely rushed like a wildfire. I overtexted, inserted myself very deeply into his personal life, required constant reassurance about his interest in me, pushed to title him as my boyfriend, etc. I also began to dump my very deep personal issues on him. I didn't see the pattern in my behavior until I had already done extensive damage. We aren't speaking to each other at all at this point.

I can start to addess this with my therapist, but that will be a slow process, and I'd like to understand why I feel this way. 

Is anyone else struggling with this? Has anyone successfully resolved the problem, and if so, how did you get past it? Are there any credible books on the topic you would recommend?

Im not seeking to fix what I've done with my recent attempt at a relationship but I want to learn how to prevent this from repeating in the future.

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<bot>: I suffocate men I care for. Advice for how to stop/Can you recommend any reading that helped you with this issue?