<human>: Could you distill the essence of the text into 1-3 sentences?

We've been going through some tough conversations lately trying to figure everything out. I'm a bad communicator and sometimes get stuck on very simply conversational clues, which she finds immensely frustrating. I also tend to make up excuses and get defensive without good reason, most of the time I won't even notice that I'm acting that way. We've been working together to overcome these challenges but we're now stuck on a problem which comes back to the foundation of our relationship.

It started when I told her that I had trouble saying 'no' to her, because I didn't know when it was appropriate for me to say 'no' because in the past she had gotten mad at me for saying 'no' and not coming over when I could have.

I will admit that I had no idea it would escalate this severely, or that it would make her so upset. She feels awful and has been crying because she believes it falsifies our relationship. **I also think it's important to add that her past boyfriend broke up with her 2 years ago because she was too 'clingy.'** I don't think she's clingy at all. In fact I like being wanted, it makes me feel good. This problem that I brought up traces directly back to the breakup, which caused her bad self-anxiety in all her friendships, worrying that she was too 'clingy.'

However, I don't see how feeling some sort of obligation to your partner in a relationship is a bad thing or something which falsifies the past 4.5 months. She says it means the world to her that I felt she was an obligation at any point, even though I've only felt that way 3 times at most. 

I'm lost right now because I don't know how to console her or make her feel better. I'm afraid that she won't be able to look at me the same way ever again or won't be able to get over this. Any help is greatly appreciated.
<bot>: Told my girlfriend I felt obligated to see her before, she is extremely upset because it ties back to her past self-anxiety, and I don't know what to do.