<human>: So I started dating this girl in freshmen year and she was incredible and really good for me. We got along great and got really comfortable with each other. She's my first girlfriend for some context. We dated for 3 years until we broke up. 

The reason I gave at the time was because we'd discussed the future and how we'd end up in different cities after college and it wouldn't work out. The relationship had an expiry date and so we broke up. But I've been thinking about it since, and the reason I was so ready to break this relationship was because I wasn't happy with how I'd developed personally in college. 

I felt like I'd given up a lot of things for the relationship such as going out with my friends more or hanging out with people longer. I am not the person I was hoping to be when I leave college and thats why I needed a change. Just to be clear, she never made me stay in or not let me hang out with my friends; it was just something I did by choosing her more often than my friends and I feel like I would keep doing that if I stayed in the relationship. We also have distinct friend groups so we don't go out together too often.

So since the break up, I've had a chance to meet a lot of people I was neglecting and thats been nice. But I really miss her and being with her. We've barely spoken since the breakup; we decided to remain friends and we've been nice to each other when we do talk - despite it being kinda formal and lacking the previous comfort. 

So yeah, I'm not sure what to do. Should I try to get back with her? Or should I just wait and see what happens?

Can you condense the text into a few key points?
<bot>: Broke up with long term girlfriend to focus more on myself but cant stop thinking about her; not sure what to do now