<human>: Hi R-Advice,

I have been in a relationship with my current girlfriend for about 8 months now. We get along really well (never fight, occasionally debate differing opinions). We enjoy a lot of the same activities and spend quite a bit of time together.

One thing that has been a hangup is not having sex. To me, sex is an important part of a relationship (though not the only one). To her, sex (specifically PIV) is something she wants to save for marriage. I asked her about her reasons and she stated: risk (children / std's), religious morals and simply wanting to save herself.

As for the risk, it seems that it can be mitigated. The religious thing irks me quite a bit, as though I am an open person and think anyone can believe what they want to believe, to think that there is some almighty being that condems such enjoyment (sex) before some made-up aggreement (marriage) baffles me. I think that she wants to "save herself" is reasonable. But the thing is, she's ok with many other sexual acts (I can rub myself between her lips on the outside, but I can't go in the hole). This might be what gets me the most as this is by all means sex as much as anything else (in the eyes of the church, risk and certainly doesn't seem like she's saving _that_ much else for that special someone). We both get off frequently, but it's like I have to have her do it instead of being able to share in the moment.

I'm certainly not ready to get married anytime soon, and as a consequence seriously fear the fact that I won't be sharing the loving bond of sex anytime soon.

I feel like this has actually prevented me from becoming fully attached. We haven't been able to share the sacred mutual bond and it leaves me this unfulfilled connection.

Can you give me a shortened version of the text?
<bot>: gf of 8 months wont have sex (religion/morals/risk) and it's leaving me feeling unattached.