<human>: My boyfriend and I have been together since the beginning of June. I've been in 3 other relationships before him. My problem is, our methods of confrontation are completely opposite and it's causing problems. 

I am one to will bring up anything that is bothering me in a calm and respectful way (and I like the same to be done to me), and I want to talk about it, work on things between us, compromise, and just get past it and move on. My boyfriend on the other hand will lash out, deflect blame, and then not speak for sometimes days at a time. 

I've never been with a boyfriend that yells. I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing, some people raise their voices when upset. But it happens every single time I want to talk about something negative. It doesn't happen often, but the not-speaking-to-me thing makes it unbearable. He decides when we are on okay terms again then will act like nothing is wrong. 

It's been causing me to walk on eggshells around him. I am so terrified of making him upset. This is probably just affecting me more because I'm in a new place living with him and have no friends and I get very lonely. So when he isn't talking to me I just end up sitting around all day by myself feeling miserable. It also makes me feel like he doesn't care.

But when things are good (most of the time) they are great. He makes me very happy, treats me well, and I do love him a lot. I just need to know how to work through this.

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<bot>: My boyfriend and I deal with confrontation completely differently and it's causing problems. How can we come to some sort of middle ground?