<human>: So I've been dating my man for almost 4 years and besides the bedroom our relationship is literally perfect! Our sex life was great for the first 1.5 years and since then it's been a lot of ups and downs. We spent almost a year travelling and during this time stress among other things kind of put sex on the way back burner. Now we are(or should I say, I am) trying to get things back on track.

This morning I brought up again for the 20th time that I want more sex. Every time I bring this up he immediately gets mad that I'm "whining an complaining" when things were going great. Besides sex everything is always great so idk when I'm supposed to bring it up. I also don't see talking about our issues as "whining and complaining," but he seems to think that. 

I'm just getting so frustrated because I want our relationship to be complete. I asked him if he's happy with our sex life and he says no but he Does nothing about it. I've been trying to initiate sex way more and he is not interested. Instead he waits until I go to work and then he masturbates. I feel like it's really fucked up that we are in a relationship but we spend more time pleasing ourselves then each other. I give him head like 3-4xs a week and I always shower early I'm the day in case he ever decides he wants me, but I get nothing. I'm so sick of putting in all my effort am getting nothing in return. 

When I bring up the fact that I'm bothered by him masturbating more than having sex with me, he gets super pissed and says I'm controlling and trying to tell him what to do. I am not bothered by him masturbating at all but I am bothered wen I am not getting any sex. 

What do you do in a situation like this? I don't want to end our relationship over sex but I've been dissatisfied for a while now and he just doesn't take it seriously. Idk how to word it or make it clear to him that I'm not trying to fight, but rather work out this one little issue so things can be super awesome all around!

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<bot>: lOng term boyfriend won't talk about our sex issue an thinks I'm "whining and complaining" when I bring it up