<human>: Hello there, and thank you for reading this.

My boyfriend and I have been living together for most of our admittedly short relationship. We hit it off really well and both fell hard, and it turns out we have very similar interests, and similar world views. We can just talk all day and he makes me feel wonderful. I love him, and I have no doubts about wanting to spend the rest of my life with him.

 But when it comes to work,he is the one earning the money (works from home) and I clean and cook and make him cups of tea and give him massages and occasionally tie his shoes, and I'm very happy in this distribution of roles. One thing to keep in mind here is that he is physically disabled and can't always do household stuff anyway, but that is not the reason I do this.

I am not a stupid woman or a gold digger, I have a university degree and have worked full time before. But I just really enjoy the role of the demure housewife, it has greatly reduced my anxiety attack and hallucinations, I feel like a mentally healthy human being for the first time in a long time. He is never demanding, always loving, and when I feel down he even cooks for us (even if it's just pizza). 

The problem I face is the values taught to me from my upbringing. Feminism has done a great deal for women, and my mum was always insistent on me being independent from men and earning my own money. She constantly begs me to get a job and I always have to blame my mental health for not getting one, when in reality I enjoy being a housewife. But it leaves me second guessing myself - am I wasting my intelligence? Am I just lazy? Should I just go and get a job already? I also feel like I'm betraying women everywhere who fight for the right to work.

Give me the gist of the text in a nutshell
<bot>: what I really want to know is: am I allowed to be a housewife in this society or should a relationship only work if I am working, too?