<human>: Update to this post 

I had a sit down with my gf about this behavior and she explained that it has always been an instinct for her to push someone away when they are mad.  She also explained to me there were a few guys she dated who made her mad and she just never talked to again.

Im her first serious long term boyfriend, so although she has pushed away she is able to reign it in again.  I told her it might be a good idea to do some counseling for this problem and her insecurity.  She agrees it might be good, but she wants to be out of debt first which could take a few years.  

Im not sure if I can handle more years of this push and pull.  Im really at a loss for what to think, but I feel like this is progress.

Could you distill the essence of the text into 1-3 sentences?
<bot>: update, my gf has admitted that pushing away with arguments has been a problem in the past but thinks seeking help is a years down the road option.