<human>: Hey guys.

So I'm 20F and I just did my first year at uni. Before moving away, I had a bad relationship with my mother, because my parents divorced when I was 7 and she relied on me to take on a lot of parenting responsibilities for my brother (now 16M), household duties, as well as being her emotional crutch and confidant. I was expected to be an adult at an early age, and if I screwed up she punished me as an adult as well. She would get mad at me for not knowing things that an adult should, but a child certainly would not, like how to do the chores that she never taught me to do, or if I weren't emotionally supportive enough of her (didn't come home early enough when she wanted to vent to me. Needless to say, I have a lot of resentment built up towards her. Still, she is my mother, and I want to have a good relationship with her.

I'm putting myself through college, and I haven't been financially dependent on her in over a year. This makes things easier because she used to hold money over my head, but since I've come home for the summer and chose to stay at my fathers house instead, she's been upset and hurt that I haven't made more time to see her. She also comes into my workplace unannounced "just to say hi", which I find extremely inappropriate. My cousin got married a few weeks ago and my car broke down along the way, so I chose to resolve that issue and ended up missing the wedding. She was upset with me because of this. She asks to have dinner every Thursday, and usually I do, but sometimes I have other plans and she gets upset if I "don't tell her soon enough". But I don't feel like I really want to see her as much as she wants to see me, and this offends her.

Basically, I don't know how to have a relationship with my mother, when it seems like what I'm willing to do for her is never enough. When I try to set boundaries she gets upset with me. How should I proceed?

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<bot>: Mother is both clingy and angry when she doesn't get her way. I want to have a relationship with her, but she's really needy and gets upset when I try to set boundaries. What do?