<human>: I'm sorry if this isn't the right place to post this. My head's a mess and I don't know what to do.

So like the title says, my best friend killed herself last night. It was, as these things often are, a huge shock. I've been in contact with her aunt and was told that there might not be a funeral for anyone but the family.

I'm flying in from out of the country tomorrow just in case. But the thing is, I've talked to so many of our friends who want there to be some sort of service to remember her. I've never dealt with anything like this before. What do you do if you can't go to your best friend's funeral? Is it inappropriate to hold some sort of candlelight vigil for her if the family is more private? Or what other options are there?

I know her family is suffering more than I am and I would never want to disrespect their wishes, but she was truly like a sister to me. I feel like I'm losing my mind as it is, and I feel like I need to do SOMETHING for her for closure. Please help. I'm so lost.

Can you give me the gist of the text in a nutshell?
<bot>: My best friend killed herself last night and the family might not want to have a traditional funeral. How do her friends and I properly mourn?