<human>: Could you distill the essence of the text into 1-3 sentences?

Hi, fellow redditors, I'm in need of your advice.

I'm a divorced guy who's almost hit 40. I've been separated for about 4 years now and only had a couple of very casual dates in that time (basically hooking up for nsa sex, nothing more).

I was on a couple of the free dating websites for a while but not using them to seriously find a partner and was about to delete my account when..... bam, I stumbled upon a profile of someone with incredibly similar interests to me, who is attractive and lives not too far away.

So I sent her a few messages and we got talking (online and on the phone) and seem to have a lot in common. I've asked her out on a date at a good restaurant near her's and she said yes! :-)

Suddenly I've got more nervous than I've been in a long time... I've not had a proper date since I was about 20 or 21, so as you can imagine I'm kinda rusty. I don't even know whether I should turn up with some flowers for her... is that a good idea or a bit "dating in the 1950's"..?

Does anyone have advice on how to avoid a cringe-worthy first date when you're not a teenager any more?

I'm hopeful we'll get on as well in real life as we have online and on the phone, but I'm also trying to avoid assuming she's the woman of my dreams just because it's the first date since my divorce... if it doesn't work out then it doesn't work out, c'est la vie. But I'd be grateful for any tips that anyone who's been in my shoes can offer on helping things go along as best they can. I figured ordering spaghetti is a bad idea as nobody can eat that without looking like an idiot, not getting drunk and not talking about my ex-wife... anyone got other suggestions?

Thanks in advance, redditors.
<bot>: Almost 40 yo male going on first date; how do I avoid nerves getting the better of me and ruining things at the first hurdle? Oh, and should I buy her flowers..?