<human>: M31 / F32 - So we broke up, she insists on coming over one night before i fly for my birthday weekend, i ask her multliple times if she's on birth control, she assures me she is. great. I dont see her until three weeks later, at xmas eve, when she's flying out for three weeks - she drops the news right before her flight "oh i'm late, i think i'm pregnant" and goes home to her parents for three four weeks. I'm sitting here freaking out the whole time. until she comes back, and unfortunately had a miscarriage. But post the event I get heat from her and all her friends "if she got pregnant, it takes two, and its half your fault" and then "if she got pregnant at that point you have no opinion and she can do whatever she wants - no uterus no opinion".

I dont know how to handle this. it makes me furious, the contradiction that it takes two, but as soon as she's pregnant, one half of the two doesnt matter? Or am i looking at this wrong?

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<bot>: ex got pregnant, and then unpregnant, but i've become the pariah for no reason, trying to figure out how an unwanted pregnancy should be handled