<human>: I've always had a problem with talking sincerely to girls about how I feel about them or where a relationship might be going. It's much easier in my opinion to let them take the lead, but in the past I reckon my lack of decisive action has killed the relationship. I'll put it down to the insecurity of being rejected and not having the guts to overcome it.

At the moment, I'm chatting to this girl a few years ahead of me at university and I'm having the same problem. We've met for a couple of coffees and then had some drunken messing about after some nights out over the last 5-6 weeks. We get on great together but I haven't picked up anything major from her that would suggest that she's interested or not. Because of her timetable and extra curricular activities it's incredibly difficult to find a time to see her (I know this through good friends in her year who have confirmed how busy her schedule is). I want to ask her if there's anything long term in this or if she's not that interested and just wants some casual fun. I was considering asking one of her closest friends about the subject. Would that be a good idea or would it look bad on my part for being so indirect if she found out?

On the one hand, by having the "where is this going" conversation, I let her know that I think we have some semblance of a relationship (and I'm not sure she's up for that). On the other hand, if I wait then I might lose her.

How would you feel if a guy that you thought were only seeing casually turned around and said something that made it sound like he thought you were on the way to a relationship? I feel that that I knew if she was interested or not then it might make it easier to cope with her not being free very often. Thanks for the help!

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<bot>: Not sure if a girl I'm seeing is in the same mindset as I am but I don't know if it's too early to ask.