<human>: I'm not even sure if this is the right place to post this. Also excuse the throwaway. I just don't want this shit on my main account.

So I know this girl. We went to college together. We hung out a lot and were basically dating, but never any physical interaction, so not really. This went on a few months, and it ended with her sating my negativity is what caused her not to pursue a more formal relationship at the time. 

That all happened like 5 years ago. Within the last year somehow we started talking again. I don't remember how it happened. Within the last 4 months we have been talking daily. This is both through text messages all day and video Skyping all night.

Neither of us are in college any more. We both have jobs. Hers is in New York City. Mine is in Philadelphia. Over these last few months we have physically seen each other 3 times. She came down here twice and I went up there once. Nothing physical happened again. We just hung out. We of course slept in each others apartments for the weekends we visited, but not the same bed.

Lately on Skype she is getting more and more revealing. Like wearing low cut shirts and constantly giving cleavage shots along with not wearing pants only panties. She has also been talking about things she is into sexually and asking about things I am into.

All of these are of course good signs, but there is an issue. There is a dude. She's been dating this dude for the last few years. He also lives in another city, but he never sees or talks to her. She says they text once in a while, but I'm the one she's texting all day and video Skyping for 3 hours every night. 

She's always complaining he is never there for her, and saying she's been left unsatisfied physically, because they never see each other, and the last time they did he didn't want to do anything.

So

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<bot>: I don't know if I should try to get her to leave this dude and progress our relationship, dial it back and realize it's a friends only thing, or just drop it all together.