<human>: Give me the gist of the text in a nutshell

Hey all, frequent redditor but throwaway account here, just wondering if anyone could give me a hand with something that's been bothering me over the last little bit.

I'm in a pretty long term relationship (almost 5 years) and I'm finding that certain things seem to absolutely eat at me more than they should. I can't really give specifics for fear of being identified, but they often involve my other half's empowerment or modesty. I feel like I'm internally a Taliban woman-hater despite feeling very strongly about equal rights and opportunities. It also only seems to apply to certain subjects.

I know it's vague, but I'm hoping I can get some input on what I can do to convince myself internally that these things are normal and okay and something most people would be fine with. If it helps, I'm a 24 year old male, she's 23.
<bot>: Certain pretty standard things in my GF's life eat at me far more than they should for any normal self-respecting dude. What can I do to get over it?