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We've been together 4+ years, and very much in love. For 8 months we' were in different cities (I started a PhD a few states away). When his own grad program ended, he searched everywhere for a job nearby, even turning down a very prestigious position in the Northeast because it wasn't by me. 

So, we were both thrilled when he landed a great job nearby. He moved all his things into my attic, and then began looking at other places to live (not with me). I was pretty miffed, and asked why he didn't feel ready to move in together (we'd discussed it about a month before, at which point he seemed open). He said "it's a big step"; I said "yes, but it's also been 4 years." 

He believes that moving here to be with me should be enough of a commitment, that it's too soon to move in together, and that he doesn't want anything else to change. I feel that it may have been a mistake for him to move here if he didn't fully consider what would come afterwards. I also really feel there is a huge disconnect between feeling ready to move cross-country to be with me but thinking that moving in together is too big a step. 

So, I said I had to think about where things were really going - frankly, if he doesn't feel ready for this after 4 years, I doubt it'll ever happen, and I don't want to be sitting around after 8 years wondering where my ring is! I told him we clearly want different things going forward, and maybe it was just time to part ways. It was not an ultimatum, but afterwards he came back and said he didn't want to lose me; we'd move in together. Still, I'm afraid he'll feel like I pushed him into this or he'll resent me for it, and I really don't want to continue forward if we see the future and timeline of our relationship so differently.
<bot>: he moved cross-country to be together, didn't want to move in, but conceded when it became clear I didn't want to stay together if we saw our relationship so differently. Worries ensue.