<human>: My other half is really high strung all the time and I'm wondering how other members have gotten someone to relax?

She's always trying to do everything perfect, and no one does anything good enough to her standards.  She ends up doing the dishes and all the housework because when I do it I'm "doing it shitty to get out of doing it."  If I try to propose solutions "you'll just do it shitty or won't do it."

I admit, I do not do these things perfectly.  I have different standards.  However, the assumption that I'm doing it "shitty" is an overanalysis.  For instance, my mom also "did our dishes shitty" when she came over to help one day when we were falling behind (many many years ago).  I consider that sort of a red flag... well a huge one.

I'm always trying to just get her to sit down and relax and she just won't.  She also takes this into parenting too, that everyone else is "doing it shitty." 

In the bedroom she's often thinking about stuff that "has to get done."  It makes me want to strangle her, how could she think those things are more important?

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<bot>: The best times we have is when she's drunk.  Wondering if there's a way to get there without turning her into a wino or finding someone else that can ride a dick without thinking about doing the bills.