<human>: My husband and I have been married for 2 years. We live in a small 2bd apartment with our 6-month-old daughter and my 15-year-old stepbrother (long story). My stepbrother sleeps on our couch and keeps all of his stuff behind the couch. He's pretty neat as well, but he can't make himself and his stuff disappear so it makes the room feel more cluttered.

I've implemented 80 different organizational strategies and our apartment is rich in storage solutions. However, my husband will leave stuff all over the place. This never bothered me as much before because we didn't have a baby, we had more space, and I had more time to pick up after him. I'm not his maid but I actually kind of like cleaning so I would do it as a favor and he would do something else. The problem is that now I'm the mother of a newborn and I don't have time for this shit. I get so cranky when I see his shoes lying around. And it's a small apartment so a few pieces of clutter make a big difference. I can nag him and he will be better about it, but eventually he will return to his normal level.

However, I think his standard is relatively normal. I don't want to force him to be fastidiously neat for his entire life. I want to figure out how to negotiate so that it's a little bit neater if possible, but I also need to readjust my perspective on this because I am very neat and not everyone is as neat as me.

Can you condense the text into a few key points?
<bot>: How do I help my husband be a little bit more consistent and how do I personally come to terms with the fact that he's never going to be super neat?