<human>: Last night I felt urge to Facebook stalk ex-friend (let's call her Judy) and found out that she tagged my mom (Martha) in a very long-winded and personal mother's day post. And not in a casual way. Roughly, "Thanks to my great mom and also my second-mom, Martha, who I can always turn to for advice and guidance."

I haven't spoken to Judy in 3 years.

My heart sank. I won't go into the details of why I don't speak to Judy anymore, but basically we grew up together and she was a close family friend until our latter years of college when she moved away. During one of her rare visits back home, we shared an intimate moment (but nothing physical) and both said that we felt something. I can honestly say that I fell in love for one day.

Then she told me that if she moved back home to be with me that she would feel like a failure. So she flew back across the country and cut all ties with me against my wishes.

But her parting words were, "I told my family about what happened but I made it clear to them that it's your decision to talk to your family about it on your own terms."

So rather than explain to my mom that I was in love with my best friend who called me a failure and ditched me, I decided to bury it. But after seeing that post, I have this feeling in my gut that she and my mom have been talking this whole time. This would explain why my mom would randomly bring her up in conversation, and try to get me to explain the details of why we don't talk.

I'm seeking advice on how to approach my mom about this. Or if I should reach out to Judy about this, first. Other than this one issue I am very open open with my mom about my personal life. She is your typical innocent Catholic lady with too much faith in other people. Years ago, I politely asked my mom to not speak to Judy if she reached out to her, but I fear that advice was ignored.

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<bot>: Cut ties with a friend after she broke my heart 3 years ago, and now I have a hunch that she and my mom talk regularly.