<human>: Hey Reddit!! 
Here's the story - My (27 f)  boyfriend (30 m) of 4 years who I live with doesn't feel like my boyfriend. We never do anything romantic together, we rarely have sex, and anytime I suggest we go out and have fun...you guessed it, I get rejected there too! We've argued, we've talked, I've addressed the issue, it gets us no where. 

I've asked him to help me pick out lingerie (in my world it would be so flattering to hear him say he wanted to see me in lingerie), and he looked at some but I guess he has forgotten (yeah I believe thats BS but I can only assume because I don't wanna be a nag about him getting my lingerie so I quit bringing it up just like I quit initiating sex) I've put on some pounds, I won't deny that, I still look healthy and he tells me I'm attractive.

 I am just tired of putting effort into this "relationship" for what feels like a roommate. I'm not sure if anyone has advice, I wanna keep giving him chances but it infuriates me to see such a lack of effort and I'm miserable! He's a good guy, but not really a good boyfriend. I don't feel like a priority. He works for my family with me and my family loves him. He's been there for me, and has in many ways enhanced my life. We rarely have sex (like maybe once a week or every two weeks always on the weekend never spontaneous always the same routine same place)!! I've tried sexting, I've tried to watch porn with him, no interest was shown. It's like he's ashamed. He says he will try to be more open, but isn't. We rarely talk. I get no real connection of any sort. Anyone with advice?? How (un)fucked am I??? LOL!!!

Can you give me a shortened version of the text?
<bot>: I've lost the connection with my boyfriend, we don't talk anymore and we rarely have sex. I've put it out there for him and still have the same problems. Any tips??