<human>: I've been dating this girl for 9 months. She's great. I love her and want to marry her one day. Everything about her is perfect. Except her irrational fear of penises. There has never been any pressure from me for sex, but she's told me on several occasions that she doesn't want to do it until she's married, and I told her that was fine.

One time, though, she even told that she wasn't sure she wanted to have sex AFTER marriage. What. This being said, she still masturbates and loves a good makeout session. 

*I don't feel like I need sex to be happy with her*. I already am. But I want to know if there's anyway I can... i don't know... want sex less? I don't want her to give up something she doesn't want to. But it's hard to imagine going the next five or six years without any sexual activity.

Is there anything I can do to work on this? Just to be clear, i'd rather change what I want than what she wants.

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<bot>: Girlfriend doesn't want any type of sexual activity before marriage, possibly even after. How do I make this matter less to me? How do I address this problem?