<human>: For the record, I love my momma to pieces, absolute PIECES, and I'd to anything for her. The problem is, she  really does ask me to do a lot. She leans very heavily on me (her oldest), and the people around her. She seems completely unwilling to admit or discuss her shortcomings, blaming it all "on the kids". 

The few times I've gotten up the nerve to calmly bring this up (I was generally raised with "because I'm the mom"), she'd avert the subject or turn it on me, and it always ends with us both in tears. 

This morning I got yet another phone call (she calls almost every day) for assistance. She needs me to download something for her work since her computer is down. This usually sucks up at least 2 hours of my time, time I had thoughtfully reserved to get my OWN work done. I feel like she needs to be more responsible, and handle this stuff before the day of a deadline. So, after 20 calm minutes on the phone, I (more roughly than my usual) said I really needed to get on with this and start my own day. She shot back with a guilt trip (as usual)...

Wtf Reddit. I have no idea how to handle this woman. I moved out to get some space, and she doesn't respect it. She doesn't live by the responsible standards she taught me, and I'm at my wit's end. 20 years of saying "yes mom" and just bending to her will is tiring. It was fine when I was younger - I'm all about helping the family - but I really feel like she needs to learn to stand on her own, or face the fact that she's unable. 

Thoughts?

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<bot>: My mom leans VERY heavily on me, long after I've moved out to get some "space". How do I confront her about this, or make her realize its impact on me and the people around her?