<human>: Could you distill the essence of the text into 1-3 sentences?

I'm in a relationship that has been for the most part happy. The first time we dated we were about 17 years old. It didn't end up working out but we still kept in touch no matter where life threw us around. Eventually I ended up visiting and everything rekindled, I moved to her town and from there it's all history.

She's a very sweet girl, very pretty and fairly intelligent. The issue here lies in how she can't make decisions for herself. She's always asking her mothers permission for everything. To the point where when it came down to having her visit my family in Oregon, (we reside in California) she said no for fear that her mother wouldn't allow it. Even worse, she hasn't spent a night at my place even once and I've lived here for almost two years now. 

I find myself fantasizing about having a woman who is independent and can experience things that I feel I need to experience at this age... Going out and having a good time for one... Traveling, and other alike-things. But I feel guilty when I go out because she can never join.

There's an extra dynamic to the situation because her father passed 4 months ago. Now she's not sure if she'll ever be able to move out and leave her mother alone (only child). I feel like an ultimatum would be unfair.

I had really expected her to stand up to her parents and start making her own decisions by now. This has been an issue since we were younger, I've had countless talks with her about this issue and it never seems to end up resolved. It's getting to the point where I don't even feel like getting in my car and going to her place to see her anymore.

To wrap it all up, I'm 21, an IT professional, already moving ahead in my career, and her mother won't let her get a job that isn't chosen by her. So she's still sitting at home all day.

Should I drop the relationship and break off the engagement for now in search for "Miss Independent"?
<bot>: My Fiance is stuck under her parents thumb still and I'm not sure if I should cash in my chips now and go find the independent woman I desire, or wait for the possibility of us moving forward in our life.