<human>: I have intrinsic motivation that pushes me to succeed in school and extracurricular activities. I also have emotional, physical and mental desires to have a personal relationship; plus, I feel like pursuing a relationship will better prepare me for healthy life/relationship balances in the future. 
The only real relationship I've had didn't work out because maybe 1.) she got tired of me being unsocial/ not trying to be social, 2.) I didn't spend enough time with her, only texting at night and setting priorities higher than her or 3.) some other reason that's never occurred to me (I never asked her the reason for breaking up with me).  
These two forces, relationships and my other goals, often conflict, and I can't seem to find a way to balance them. Some hypothetical solutions and logic I have are:
-end interest in dating/relationships and focus completely on my other life goals because relationship skills should come naturally and I shouldn't waste time practicing
-work toward a relationship that fulfills physical and emotional desires because I just need somebody that I'm physically attracted to; mental/interests compatibility doesn't matter and won't matter in the future
-work toward a relationship that fulfills mental desires because having similar interests and values is the most important part of a relationship; I can just become physically attracted to almost anybody (tried this for a while actually, and it was horrible)
-work toward a relationship that generally fulfills all desires; partner would be understanding of my other goals, likely very busy too; no 24/7 texting, would hang out together most weekends, spend time together at school and extracurriculars if goes to same school

I don't have the hindsight nor the foresight to follow any certain path, and I'm just looking for some advice to point me in the right direction. Thank you!

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<bot>: I don't know how to balance my life goals with having a relationship. I've tried and failed, and I have some ideas for solutions. I would very much appreciate any feedback!