<human>: We have been seeing each other for about 8 months, together for about 3. 

The problem is my girlfriend cant open up about anything, it doesnt matter if its simply saying her feelings, or if its about something else. If it can effect us in some way she freezes. Its tearing us apart slowly. 

My girlfriend says im the first one she has actually cared for, she has been with someone else a few years ago, but that apparently wasnt serious.

In terms of her showing she loves me, yes she can. To my knowledge she was a virign before us, and weve been there done that. However in terms of being able to kiss her, its only been these past 3 weeks that shes been able to, and even them from time to time she will still freeze. She says she could kiss previous people but with me because she cares she couldn't do it. 

She feels she isnt worth the time and says she destructive and always ruins everything, no matter how often i tell her that ive been here since day 1 wanting to be with her, and wont leave, she cant seem to accept that fact.  

At the end of the day it comes down to communication, and i know this is the most key thing to a relationship. Even with things such as meeting up, i have to play a game of does she really want to see me or not, and ive recently just said we need to start being black and white with what we want from each other, as when we dont say it clearly it ends up with us both wanting to same thing but due to lack of telling each other we then argue.

What can i do to stop her from freezing, i know trust and communication in relationships takes time to build up, but her not being able to talk to me or her parents about anything important is destroying us. 

Help?

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<bot>: Girlfriend freezes when she is thinking about feelings/anything important that could affect us. Whether its saying i love you to me, or talking about meeting up. How can i help this?