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**To be clear, I have told every partner about my hsv since the diagnosis, and will continue to tell ALL partners in the future. There is no question of whether or not I will tell the guy I'm seeing, but of when.**

I've been seeing this guy for a few weeks and am getting to the stage where I'm pretty crazy about him - I want to ask him if he'll date me exclusively pretty soon. Although I'm unsure as to whether he's dating anyone else or not, I think he'll say yes. We haven't had sex or done anything below the belt yet, mostly because I've shifted away from casual sex over the past few months and have been waiting for an exclusive dating scenario before sleeping with someone new.

Thing is, I have genital hsv-1 (and have had it for about a year, to the best of my knowledge). I've had a fairly normal sex life since I found out - 3 new partners plus 1 from before my diagnosis, all casual. The shift away from casual sex has little to do with my hsv.  I usually tell partners when I'm ready to sleep with them, but as I want to wait until I know we'll only be seeing each other, this feels a little bit more complicated. A part of me feels like it's unfair to ask him to commit to me and then spring the news on him, but I'm also dealing with a large amount of guilt and shame that comes along with the stigma of having the herp. Do I owe it to him to tell him before we get more serious?

I always give my partners an "out" when telling them, and this would be no different. I'd be hurt if he chose to walk away, but obviously I'd understand his choice. I want to make this easy on him, but I'm also developing some real feelings for him which make it hard to do just that. It's also fairly difficult to go through the whole explanation with someone new, and if he's not ready to be exclusive it'll all be for nothing. Any advice is appreciated, especially from others who have been through a similar situation.
<bot>: I've got the herp; do I tell the guy I'm seeing before or after I ask him to see me exclusively?