<human>: I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months and things have been so great up until month 8. I started realizing that we want completely different things and he hates everything I like and frankly we're always on each other's nerves- but that isn't the problem. 

The problem is that he got a new job. He lives around 100 miles away, which is fine because we've always been a distance relationship, but now that he is in his new job he always says he's too busy to talk and we barely message anymore. I've tried to be accommodating of his new schedule but it's hard to do that when I can log onto facebook and see all of his online activity.

He used to come up every week but now he backs out at the last minute or can't commit to plans. I always have to initiate contact so in an effort to show him what he was doing, I decided not to send him any messages. We wound up not talking for three days.

Today is day four and on the advice of my friend, who knows more about the situation, I've come to terms with the fact that my relationship is dying if not dead. What I need help with is this: is it okay for me to break up with him over the phone? To break up with him in person would mean waiting until he finally commits to driving to see me because I don't have a car. Plus if he drove down it would be at night amd he would be expecting to sleep over but obviously that would not be an option. Furthermore, does it seem like maybe his behavior is just to get me to break up with him so he doesn't have to be the bad guy? Any other advice would be helpful too, to be honest.

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<bot>: Can I break up with my sort of long distance boyfriend over the phone? Also, I'm a mess send help.