<human>: My husband and I cook together a lot.  We both like it, we're both good at it (I think) and we both like eating.  But there is something I've started noticing lately... 

Usually either he picks a recipe, or I do.  When he picks a recipe, I act as sous chef and help him prep stuff before, clean up during, set the table, etc.  I ask him "what can I do to help?" and let him be in control.  

When I pick the recipe, he offers to help, and does when directed, but also cannot stop doing stuff like seasoning food after I've seasoned it... checking meat as I'm searing it... adding random spices (like last weekend he added curry powder to an italian red sauce I was making), etc. 

This is annoying, because I want to make the recipe I've picked out, not make the recipe I've picked out, but with a random fusion twist or whatever.   Usually if I'm cooking from a recipe, it is something I've never made before, so I have no way of knowing how good the recipe is if he adds, say, dill to the quiche lorraine.  

It is also annoying because if I tell him to stop, he responds by saying I'm being so controlling in the kitchen.  So I feel backed into a corner that I have to let him do this, but I'm annoyed, but I can't show it... you get where I'm going with this, right?  

Anyway, how can I *lightly* remind him that we are taking turns on the lead without making myself appear overbearing?

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<bot>: I feel like my husband is taking over when it's my turn to be in charge in the kitchen, any ways to address this without being perceived as controlling?