<human>: Hey guys I am going to a destination wedding in Mexico next year.   I don't know any of the bridesmaids and they recently reached out to me.    They are asking me to split the bridal shower costs and they want to have it at a restaurant.   

I've never been to a bridal party that asked me to pay before and felt it was especially rude since the wedding is costing my family almost 3000 alone to attend.   

They expect to have about 50 people attending and we priced it out to be about 2000 at a restaurant.   There are 4 bridesmaids so that is 500 each.

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<bot>: bridal party wants to split costs of bridal shower, going to cost me 3000 for the trip and 500 for the bridal shower, am I being cheap?