<human>: We hardly have a sex life anymore. Anytime I'm ready he always shuts me down. I even put on nice lingerie and cute makeup to try and spice things up a bit. Nothing. The only time he ever wants to have sex is right when we wake up in the morning and he only lasts for like 30 seconds or when he wants to which is very few and far between and generally ends up being a BJ. I will use my vibrator if I want to but it's not the same as making love to him. We used to have the craziest, kinkiest, most fun sex life ever. For real about 3 times or more daily. Now I'm lucky if he even says I look nice today.

Everything I have read about this issue says to never turn down sex with your partner, I don't but he always does!

I don't know what to do anymore sometimes I think about leaving him because what's a marriage without a fun sex life? Sex is very important to me. But I would feel so selfish for leaving him for that because we have a daughter together. 

Please give me some advice on saving my sex life.

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<bot>: Husband is uninterested in sex with me when I'm ready. I want to know why and how I can save it.