<human>: Can you provide a brief rundown of the text in within 3 sentences?

I normally don't disclose anything about my finances to family because I know it will lead to more trouble than it's worth. However, recently my aunt dropped her kids off (surprise) in an emergency and while she and I were talking her daughter went through some folders on my desk. She learned that I am very well off and have substantial savings. She of course told her mother.

Her mother instantly asked me for a loan. I declined to give her one because (a) I don't trust her to pay me back (b) I am not comfortable with that amount of money not being paid back and (c) she makes poor decisions, family members bail her out, and she does it all over again because people always bail her out - I don't want to be part of that cycle.

This led to a lot of drama between her and I.  If she had a genuine "need" circumstance I would have done it, but the situation is that she spent her tax refund and paycheck on an impromptu vacation (apparently totaling $8k) and now can't pay any of her bills. Sick kids or something I'd understand, but that's just irresponsible.

Her kids are now turning against me over this.  My nephew just turned 7 and when I called him to wish him a happy birthday, all he said to me was that he doesn't want me to come to his birthday party. I asked why and he said "my mom says that we might get kicked out of our house and be homeless because of you."  

How am I supposed to keep a strong relationship with them when they are being told things like that? I wish I could say "Well maybe your mommy shouldn't have spent all her money going to Vegas" but I know that won't help anything. Ultimately the kids believe I'm to blame for their mother's poor choices.
<bot>: My aunt makes bad financial choices. She asked me for a loan, I declined, and she's turning her kids against me over it. How do I keep a strong relationship with my niece and nephew in these circumstances?