<human>: My husband and I have been together for 10 years, married for 8 years. We've been through all the typical stuff all couples go through, and other things as well. Everything was pretty normal until he cheated with my best friend. I wanted things to work, so we went through counseling and it was okay for a few years. We had a child, and everything plummeted. He wanted me to be a stay at home mom and not work, but then would complain that I wasn't making any money. I could deal with his mood swings and anger, but as soon as he started swearing at our one year old, I left. 

We were split for almost a year before we reconciled. I believed he had changed and I didn't really want a divorce and put our child through that. Once back together, things were okay again for about six months, and then they have gone downhill. He doesn't want to spend any time with our child (asked to be played with and he will refuse because he wants to watch tv). He is controlling and manipulative; he threatened to take me to a pshyc ward after I confessed I was mildly depressed. He also threatened to cut me off financially because I wanted to get out of the house (with our child) for a few hours. I have so much of my life invested into this relationship, and being from a divorced family, I really hate the idea of doing that to our child, but I just don't know what to do anymore. Im not sure if counseling will help or even be worth it at this point.

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<bot>: With being together for ten years and dealing with his controlling tendencies, I'm torn on if we should try counseling again or just give up and divorce and hope our child doesn't hate me in the future. Should I stay or leave?