<human>: Can you provide a brief rundown of the text in within 3 sentences?

I am only 4 months out of my marriage, my wife left me for someone else. I recently met a woman who I really like. We've went out a few times now and after the last 2 dates she has stayed over at my place.

Although we both wanted to, "little i_post_from_this_acc" wasn't playing. I have never ever had issues before, can still get erect while alone, in morning etc etc so I know its probably anxiety. Happened twice now though so starting to worry me a bit. It might just be because she wants it to happen 'on its own' without her giving any stimulation directly, not sure why that is, but i tried and failed talking about it, just kinda ruined the moment.

Does most guys get erect without direct stimulation? I havent in a fair number of years! It might just be we need to learn what eachother likes/needs

On a side note, because I really like her I find myself wanting to see her a lot. Its a new realtionship and I think shes happy to maybe see eachother once a week so I'm keeping myself back a bit. I am acutely aware I could be fending off my lonliness with her company, but I genuinely enjoy being with her.

I don't want to mess her around and everywhere I read says 4 months out of a marriage is way too soon. I'm terrible at being single/alone. I crave someone nearby. Do you think it's doomed to start seeing someone so soon? 

Suppose this is more of a rant than a question now.
<bot>: I dont want to mess her about, I really like her, is it really a requirement to spend time alone after a marriage?