<human>: Summarize the given text in a few sentences.

My bf and I have had a great relationship; it has its ups and downs but we always listened to each other and supported each other and came out of tough times stronger. But for the last few months, we have been fighting like crazy and don't seem to be able to communicate properly anymore. 

We now have explosive arguments about twice a week (sometimes worsened by drinking). These are usually just miscommunication, mild fuckups and unintended offenses - the real problem is how we handle these situations.

 I tend to get sad or annoyed, and get quiet while I try to calm down or push it away and move on. He sees this as being cold and distant and taking out my emotions on him but is in fact the opposite of my intention. I usually wait for him to offer to talk about it and if he shows no interest in reconciling I will go home. 

He, on the other hand, gets angry and aggressive. He avoids me at first and if I try to talk to him he blows up. I cannot communicate with him when he is like this, I can't even stand to be around him. He says that he tries to reach out to me, but apparently in very subtle ways that I don't pick up on when I'm upset. He also gets very bitter and never apologizes anymore, even after admitting to being in the wrong.

The strange part is, we have a fantastic relationship otherwise. We are best friends, have great sex, do new and enjoyable things together, and most of the time are very lovey but the fighting has become too much and we don't know what to do. We've talked about all of the above and have agreed to be more sensitive to our preferred ways of communicating (me to be more confrontational, him to be less aggressive, both to be less stubborn) but nothing has changed.
<bot>: Boyfriend and I can't communicate effectively in tense situations anymore, need insight as to how we lost our capability and how to get it back.