<human>: It's my SO and I's first Christmas together.

I really enjoy getting someone a gift, making or planning something special that I know they'll love or at least enjoy. My SO seems so hesitant about the gift part so I said he can plan something for me if he doesn't want to give a gift. We were thinking of taking a short road trip but we have different availabilities so that didn't plan out. I also know he can't make me something.

Even though I don't care about material things, is it really that hard to buy someone a gift? It just annoys me he seems so hesitant about even buying me a gift. The trip idea also started to annoy me because it seemed like he wanted me to plan the whole thing. Is it unfair for me to ask to show me some appreciation?

A few months ago he also insisted on surprising me with something because I helped him out with an issue, that surprise also never ever happened...

I also know this bothers me so much is because in a past relationship, I let my ex get away with too much on the gift/ appreciation side. I still want to feel like it came from the heart but maybe some people can't express things that well?

I know I should talk to him if it bothers me but I want to know if I'm being unreasonable.

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<bot>: Boyfriend seems super lazy about Christmas. I'm annoyed. Any suggestions on what we should do or how I can approach this subject without seeming like I'm a shallow person? Is it stupid to want at least something for Christmas?