<human>: Can you give me the gist of the text in a nutshell?

We live in the NJ/NY area, so if you are from there, please tell us. We are planning a wedding and ended up getting into the philosophical discussion of the "wedding gift" and it's social norms.  

We always give good presents when we attend weddings. Either in cash or cash value from the couple's registry. We know that not everyone feels this way. That's O.K. It is never good to even THINK about trying to make money off of a wedding. 

However, purely for academic reasons, we -- as a couple-- decided to ask one of our favorite subreddits. (that has been invaluable in our planning. Thank you all so much! Seriously. So much help.) 

What do you normally give, and what did you receive (married users)?
<bot>: We're getting married, help us settle a philosophical debate. What do you normally give, in dollar amount, for a wedding gift? If you are married, what did you receive?