<human>: Can you succinctly summarize the text in 1-3 sentences?

Ugh. I'm 28 and male, but yeah I've always been awkward about initiating sexual contact of any sort. 

That's because I was raped when I was a kid. So, I'm totally obsessed about consent. 

This leads to very boring or sterile sexual advances. "I'm going to hug you." That was the best I could come up with at the end of the date. I guess it's true I wasn't sure it was a date. But, she seemed like she expected a kiss. 

The bottom line is I'm horrible at recognizing sexual cues. And, because it's not inherent if I try and look for them then I'm not enjoying the date because I feel like I'm watching National Geographic. I know there are some women who are okay with being asked, but I am pretty sure the majority of you can't stand being told or asked before the kiss. 

This always comes up when I meet someone new. She does know I was raped, but I don't know if she connected the two. Once consent occurs and progresses I'm a lot more dominant in the bedroom, but getting over that initial bit is the hardest part. 

I suppose on another note, I don't even know if she considered it a date. I asked her to dinner this week and she said yes. But at first I was going to call it a date, but it seemed so lame that I'd have to label it that way and put pressure on it. Truthfully I like her so much that despite wanting to date her, I would totally not regret just being friends. 

What the hell do I do to get better at this?
<bot>: I can't read sexual / social cues on a date because I was raped. How do I get better at this?