<human>: I'm a 28(f) having a rather difficult time conveying to my significant other (36m) that we need to work on saving money for our October wedding. I feel like every time I turn around he's bought more shoes and toys. I have tried talking to him, I've tried explaining the importance of saving, I've tried harping, I've tried crying, I've tried panic attacks (the last few involuntarily). I am at such a loss. 10 months goes by quickly. 

Since him and I have been together, 2 years, he has made a lot of lifestyle changes, because he was so used to being by himself. He never really worried about whether or not he could pay bills he just always expected it would work out, which is challenging for me to wrap my head around. He spent money frivolously without regard for much else. He has since been working on this, but I feel like it's just not enough. 

Not trying to sound bitchy, I'm genuinely curious how to resolve this. We have talked about bigger better things we want to do in the future as well and at the rate we are going we'll be far beyond our death beds before any of it comes to fruition.

Thanks in advance for all your help

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<bot>: finance spends money on toys and shoes when we should be saving for our wedding. Help me teach him new money saving ways