<human>: Can you succinctly summarize the text in 1-3 sentences?

My wife and I had kids early and were married quite young.

We've made it work so far, but have plenty of mental scars to show for it.

Recently we made a huge move to another country for a new job I've got. The kids and I are adjusting fine, but she is struggling a bit. She barely missed out on a university program and intends to find work. But she is neglecting the housework in the mean time and not being very productive with her time.

That bothers me more than it should, especially since we could use the extra money.

I can deal with that, and I have for a few years now.

But I can't help but feel I have some resentment growing inside me... Familiar resentment. We nearly ended our relationship on a few occasions. And now we don't have the support of family or friends any more because we've moved away.

What's lead me to post this small cry for help is that last night I had the most vivid dream about having an affair. The person isn't even someone in my life right now (random person from primary school, which was 15 years ago. And I wasn't even greatly attracted to them then).

The dreams are invigorating, and because they are so vivid they tend to feel like a lifetime.  

I have a history of letting my attention wander from my wife, about the time we nearly ended our relationship, but I wasn't sleeping with anyone. I was, however, actively flirting and looking for attention from people who weren't my wife. Emotional cheating is the name I've found for it.

So, Reddit, I am a bit baffled by what to do here. Logic tells me we need some counseling, but experience with that in the past didn't help much, and now that I'm in a new country my resources for doing this are even shorter... I'd need a babysitter to even consider it.
<bot>: my wife and are experiencing some really bumpy moments after a life changing move to another country. I have a history of emotional cheating, she had a history of depression.