<human>: I've just recently broken up with this guy I've been seeing for a few months. It's kind of that whole relationship that's spurred me into writing this. 

It's like I'm socially inept when it comes to relationships. I'm so oblivious, which sounds super dumb and cliché, but it goes further than "Hey, that guy was hitting on you!" "What, really?". I know this about myself though, and I communicate that to my partners, I tell them to tell me what they really mean. I have to work on understanding social cues when it comes to sexuality. I'm usually pretty okay at understanding other social cues, but shit. I didn't know that you inviting me over for lunch at lunch-time meant you wanted to have sex! We had lunch! We had a nice chat, and then I left! I thought it went well. 

I know that my last relationship completely deteriorated because he thought I was sending him "mixed signals". In reality, I told him exactly what I wanted out of the relationship, how I would be comfortable pursuing it etc, and he decided to complicate the whole thing because "women are complex! what does she mean by 'go for coffEE THIS IS A FOREIGN LANGUAGE". 

I always feel miserable during relationships because I feel like I'm missing something. For instance, I almost never desire sex. Like, to say I have a low sex drive would be putting it mildly. I've had sex with my partners before, but it was because they wanted to, and I understand in a relationship you have to compromise. It takes me a long time to trust someone enough to want to be intimate in any way (physical or no). 

I always feel like I'm going to hurt the person I'm with because I'm emotionally and romantically stunted. I try to take pre-emptive matters and have ~the talk~ with them, but most of the time when I think they understand, they really don't and I have no way of knowing. How do I stop hurting people? How can I start dating someone and know we're on the same page about our needs?

Thanks for reading, Reddit.

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<bot>: I'm emotionally/romantically/sexually stunted, it's bad and I should feel bad. How do I stop hurting people?