<human>: Hi everyone, 

I am currently on my phone - sorry if there's mistakes. 

I don't know how to react or comfort my boyfriend "Mike", when he talks about his dad. Few days ago I texted Mike if he was going to have dinner with his dad and he texted back something along the lines of  "don't know if I will ..he's been flakey lol ...". I felt bad and I responded that parents should make time for their kids and I expected  Mike to make time when we have kids . I felt like I came off preachy , but he agreed.

Another incident happened on Mike's birthday and his dad cancelled on the hour of the dinner. Mike was pretty upset and I had no idea what to say. 

 How can I comfort him about his slightly absentee dad when I do not really care for his dad ? 

To give highlights on Mike'd dad, he gave up parenting rights to Mike's maternal grandma since Mike's mother passed away and grandma "requested " to be the parent figure. So Mikes dad lives on the other side of the city , and Mike would visit him every weekend. 

Mike's dad doesn't really care for me either and expressed it to Mike a few times . Stating that it was a problem that I didn't speak our ethnic Asian language, and that I was too "Americanized ". When Mike told his dad , he planned on proposing to me - his dad came up with every excuse for us not to be together . Even stating that my wedding was going to be "too American" for his friends to invite to and that he should be able to invite any friends he wants since Asians give money as gifts and we shouldn't worry about the finances . 

Knowing that his dad doesn't like me for petty reasons and as an outsider looking in - he's an absentee father, I can't comfort or listen to Mike without passing judgement or comparing Mike's dad to my dad . Should I just quietly listen or ask him questions to open up more ?

Can you give me the gist of the text in a nutshell?
<bot>: I don't care for my BFs dad but want to be able to comfort or listen to BF when he feels down about their relationship - but don't know how ?