<human>: Before this relationship I've only had one other girlfriend about 3 or so years ago. During the time in between I dated quite a bit but for the most part I would rarely get to or past a third date. I'd say 90% of the break ups if you can call them that were not initiated by me.

So now I have met a girl whom I have quite a bit in common with, I find attractive, and intelligent and I find myself wondering if I'm just going for the first girl who didn't reject me.

I have a couple issues with her, but that isn't unexpected. Everyone has their problems. First, she is a bit overweight, which I have always liked to say doesn't bother me but in practice it does. I can say that this is a minor issue and I can already see she has made a commitment to loosing weight for her own health. So perhaps this isn't a big deal.

The second thing does actually bother me a bit. She is into rougher sex, which I'm fine with, but she can't seem to separate bedroom activities from everyday life. She has been encouraging me to make decisions for her about her appearance and what she should do in other areas in her life and I just don't feel comfortable telling her what to do.

I'd appreciate any insight before I try to talk with her about these things.

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<bot>: Am I getting nervous because I'm entering a relationship for the first time in a long while or are these legitimate red flags?