<human>: My boyfriend and I have been dating for more than two years.  We've been talking about this relationship as a long-term thing since nearly the beginning, and we bought a house together this year.  As someone who hasn't had children yet, I'm starting to get anxious (see: mid-thirties and fertility decline), so have decided that we need to talk about those things that are potential stumbling blocks before we get married.  As background: he's divorced with two children who stay with us half the time.

The main issue is that he's an Atheist, and I am a Christian.  I go to church fairly regularly, but wouldn't dream of "making" him go (except for events that are more "social" occasions, and even those are few and far between).  He respects my beliefs and I respect his.  

So we started talking about what happens when there's a child in the picture.  He wants no exposure to churching and monotheism at ALL until they're old enough to make a decision for themselves, because any exposure as a child will be "indoctrination".  I'm fine with the kid making that decision for themselves, but feel like having a balanced exposure to both (non) belief systems until they're a teenager is the way to do it.  

He had a bad experience with the Catholic church as a child, and thinks that everything is going to be about guilt and a vengeful god.  Trying to explain that no, my denomination (Episcopalians) don't do that, and hey - we also believe in science! - is hard.

I think my main question is - are any of you atheists in relationships with christians, or christians in relationships with atheists, do you have kids, and how do you negotiate that balance with respect and love?

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<bot>: What advice would you give to a Christian and an Atheist in a long term relationship who are very likely to get married and have children soon, and how to balance those (non) beliefs respectfully?