<human>: So when my bf and I met 4 years ago, I was in a good financial situation,  had savings, had just moved back to my hometown after being away for a few years. He was  paying his rent but was working at a bar, living for the moment etc...to simplify things, when we were financially stable, our relationship was good but money issues eventually got in the way. I have never experienced hard times before the last 4 years, I used to go out to dinners, travel, buy clothes, go out etc... this all changed because it has been me working, him not, him working me being depressed at our being broke. Long story short, my bf thinks struggling financially is obviously not easy but doesn't think it should effect ones self worth, esteem etc...

As for me, I'm a shadow of who I was, Im ashamed that we barely get by, tired of refusing invitations due to not being able to afford it, not being able to do anything or feel stable, secure. I'm always stressed out, worried about bills, thinking of the future. I'm working my bf finished school last year was working but got laid off this summer is now on unemployment.

I have decided if things do not change by summer, I'm done.

My question is, do you believe that alw
ays struggling to barely get by affects a relationship? Self esteem etc...

Could you distill the essence of the text into 1-3 sentences?
<bot>: Bf thinks no money should not stress me like it has, we've been struggling to get by 4 years, obviously it would ruin everything! Thoughts?