<human>: Give me the gist of the text in a nutshell

We have been dating long distance for about 8 months, best friends for a year prior. We are basically the same person in every respect and have never really disagreed. I found out last week I have a major and unexpected health complication but there is a lot unknown right now. I am essentially in limbo and pretty scared. She is a good person and trying to be there, but everything she says is wrong for me. She keeps making "aw aw aw" *dead puppy noises* while on the phone and I think she just does not get it at all or get why this is so important/terrifying/real to me. I don't know what to do. All I want is for her to ask me what I need, hold me, and not talk. She keeps saying "we'll get through this," we have not been dating long enough for me to think she is going to be with me to the end. so it sounds really fake to me. It is my problem not hers. And she is not asking what I want, or need, or really any of my input. She just keeps saying what we'll do. What do I do? How I do I cut her some slack in my head so she does not piss me off? I know she means well, but I am just not handling all of this very well. I don't know what to do.

I do not want to push her away and I want to get out of my own head and see her help for what it is, but I feel alone and annoyed and I am definitely pushing her away right now.
<bot>: Recently diagnosed chronic illness, GF means well but is making me feel more alone/worse/annoyed. Help?!