<human>: I met my boyfriend two years ago after he moved to the US from England for work.  We immediately hit it off.  We have an incredible relationship and I am very much in love with him.  I've been to England with him several times to meet his family and friends, and he knows my parents well.  

The only problem in our relationship is figuring out our long term plans. He wants to move home to England to be close to his family, who are a huge close-knit group.  I completely understand this because I want to stay near MY family (which consists of only three people).  We don't need to move any time soon, but I'd like to figure out some sort of plan before we get married.  How do couples with separate families do this?  

We are both close to our families, but in different ways.  His is outwardly-loving and traditional.  My parents are a bit nuts, but they are great people.  My dad is ill (cancer, diabetes) and my mom has a serious anxiety disorder.  I feel like my little brother and I are all that they have.  They have no friends or hobbies and look forward to our visits more than anything else. The guilt I would feel if I moved to England is more than I think I can bear.  That said, I can't ask my boyfriend to abandon his family either.  

Also, our careers aren't exactly conducive to living in England.  I'm a nurse and from the research that I've done, nurses get paid much less there.  Also, my degree wouldn't transfer easily and I might have to go to school all over again.  He works in the games industry, and there aren't many options for his specific type of work.

We are normally decent at communicating and being honest with each other, but this topic is just too heavy for us to handle without getting upset.

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<bot>: My boyfriend and I are from different countries and both want to settle down near our own families eventually.  How can we get on the same page so that this dilemma doesn't blindside us when the time comes to figure it out?