<human>: Or, more accurately, yesterday I (straight 23M) fked up by asking a coworker (straight ~22F) if another coworker of ours (whom she was friends with) was gay. There were some obvious signs, he likes girl-ier music, kinda struts around in an odd way, and uses this accent or something one might attribute to a stereotypically gay person. I'm not a judgmental dude, and I'm not the type to go about assuming somebody's one thing or another just because they do a few stereotypical things.

Why did I have to know? I didn't, I was curious, and I figured if I asked her I could save myself the trouble of going through a big fuss about it. So sue me. She gives me this look, as though I'm a giant idiot, and tells me that yeah, he's super-gay, and we go about our business.

Later on we're all hanging out after work and chatting, when all of a sudden my gay coworker comes out and says, oh yeah, dude, btw I'm gay, and him and her have a little laugh about it. I give my female coworker the stink eye, apologize to him, explaining I was curious and wanted to avoid a big fuss, and that's that.

I've talked to other coworkers about it and they pretty much told me that he was trying to kid around, and I get that. I'm a little pissed that my female coworker betrayed me and crap for a quick joke, but all in all I'm not sure who's been more mature in this situation. On one hand, why do I care whether he's gay or not? On the other, why'd she have to take advantage of me like that? I thought I could trust her.

I'm probably overthinking this quite a bit, but I'd appreciate it if any of you guys or girls have any advice for how I could've gone about this in a better way. I'm just another flawed human, like you, trying to make my way in the world. Thanks for reading

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<bot>: I stuck my nose where it didn't belong, got made fun of, and I'm wondering how I could've gone about this a better way