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* When we have guests over, if I get too giddy about a story or just do *something* that triggers a reaction in her, she'll find it unacceptable. She will yell at me, and remind me of it frequently (once the guests have left).
* If we get into an argument, it inevitably turns into her remind me of the moments where I've been unacceptable, and paints me this picture where I'm really embarrassing.
* She makes me agree to the her views of the things she says about me, before she'll consider reconciliation.
* She says I am a loser and an idiot (she doesn't make me agree with it, but she says it often), frequently, most times she gets mad.
* She'll add in that the people around me are condemning my actions strongly, are shocked by my dumb decisions, and agree with her.
* She hates my family. She doesn't want us visiting them and I always stick by her whatever she says. She tells me pretty hateful things about my family when she's mad, but we still visit my parents and siblings occasionally with the kids.
* She says that she is done with our relationship every other week. It typically turns into her yelling, and telling me which of our two children she wants (and doesn't want) custody of. It takes about two days of stonewalling, hostile comments, rude remarks, to get through to her. I have to say nice things to her to get her back for days, and take a lot of hostility in return. After a few days of that some magical switch goes off in her head and poof everything is back to normal.
<bot>: Are these things verbal abuse, or is it a more general sign that something's bad (possibly me or something I'm doing) about or relationship?