<human>: Hello, ok so I'm 22 years old and ever since I can remember, I never had a normal sex drive, not even when my boyfriend and I started dating 4 years ago. He was my first and we had sex all the time, sometimes multiple times a day. I was a girl and I didn't know what I was supposed to feel. For some reason I thought it was normal for me to never want to have sex. I didn't say anything after the first year together until my low sex drive became a bigger issue.

 So a little background on my life...I was sexually abused by a teenage girl when I was about 7 years old. I don't show much emotion, I'm not an affectionate person at all, and I don't like kissing or cuddling (I just do it for him) Maybe the abuse has something to do with it. 

He knows I was abused as a kid, he knows my problems but at the end of the day, he's a normal guy and wants sex all the time. I really love and care for him and it would break my heart to lose him. The most recent fight we had was 3 days ago when I told him I wasn't in the mood. We had an argument about how i always say that and never initiate sex, or i never kiss him or hug him etc. He feels unwanted. 

So today i suggested that if he had a girl on the side to have sex with, maybe we wouldn't have so many problems. He'd go get what he needs, and I'd be able to spend time with him without feeling pressured. I honestly feel like sex is a chore and usually can't wait until it's over. Don't get me wrong, the sex is amazing, I am able to orgasm multiple times, but if it were up to me, we'd be having sex once a week or even less and the other days, he'd do it with the other girl. Anyway, he told me he wasn't interested in sex with anyone else and that that would just be disrespectful to me. 

The thing is, even if he does consider having a girl on the side, I don't know if I would be able to deal with it.

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<bot>: I have a low sex drive and suggested my boyfriend get a girl on the side to have sex with. Good idea or bad idea?