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My husband of over 2 years has had medical issues for as long as I've known him. They are mostly of the unexplained autoimmune disorder variety- weird pains that come and go, chronic fatigue, heart palpitations, never feeling "good", etc. Those kinds of illnesses are surrounded by doubt and skepticism because you can't really "prove" them, but I don't think he's lying, despite the fact that no doctor has ever come up with an official diagnosis. He's had MRIs, a million blood tests, sleep studies, you name it- and nothing ever comes of it. And to top it off, he suffers from anxiety, depression, and sporadic panic attacks.

I feel selfish for saying this, but it's really starting to take a toll on me. We have an 18-month-old son, and I do my best to shoulder as much as I can when my husband isn't feeling well (about 80% of the time). He contributes a lot to our home. He's the primary breadwinner in a job he really doesn't prefer, and he loves me and our son very much. I'm at a point though where I want to see changes. He's gotten very overweight and spends most of his free time playing video games (LOL, WOW, etc.) which I wouldn't object to if it wasn't so excessive. I should note that he had the above symptoms even when he was 100 pounds lighter, but the weight has definitely made them worse.

Basically I'm just afraid that my husband is going to die when he's 40. I'm also tired of living with an 80-year-old trapped in a 26-year-old body. The other day I suggested that perhaps his physical symptoms originate in his anxiety and manifest themselves physically, which I will never bring up again because he kinda flipped out and accused me of not believing him, thinking he's lying, etc. I could handle his illness better, I believe, if we both had better coping strategies and made better health decisions in general.

So- help. Anyone out there live with a chronically ill spouse? How do you manage to live a relatively full and happy life?
<bot>: My husband is chronically ill, physically and somewhat mentally, and I want to make changes to help him feel better and cope with his illness in a better way.