<human>: Can you summarize the given text in a few sentences?

me and my bf have been dating for five months. Things are great and for the first time (I have had 2 other boyfriends) I feel like I actually love this person. I have never said that to another guy before. Any ways, his response was "I- I- I am happy to have you in my life but I am not sure yet." He then went on to tell me he hasnt had a relationship in four years, and he is very slow about these things because saying I love you and being in a committed relationship means losing your independence and giving up control.  I assured him this is not the case, I am very independent as is he and nothing of that sort has to change. As far as control, its okay to let go and be vulnerable around the one you love.

That said, I am okay with his response. I get it. Some people take longer to know. But since I said it, everything has been weird. The last few times we had sex he was SO SELFISH, like he was actually put out and refused to go down on me to get me to come. He only cared about his own satisfaction. He didnt sleep a couple nights in a row and when I asked if there was something I could do to help he was grumpy "dont worry about" and refused to talk about the subject again. Then, last night I tried to talk things out with him and he avoided eye contact, kept going " i understand i understand ill try to be different" and brushed the entire thing off. He had no intentions of trying to work it out, he just wanted me to stop talking. hes being even more closed off than before.

I feel like I am out of options. I dont know what to do or say to get back to normal. but I hate fighting. we are arguing all the time now.
<bot>: I said I love you to boyfriend. He did not. Now its weird, we fight a lot, and he wont talk to me about it. help!