<human>: Can you condense the text into a few key points?

So I've been friends with this girl for about 4 months now, we are both trans women, which is only pertinent because transition is a hellish process that is taking it's toll on the both of us.

Because I spent so many years in denial, I've never been in love or even had intimacy with anyone. And now I'm feeling real, powerful attraction to people like I never have before. 

She had her heart ripped out by her ex-fiancé, who couldn't deal with her being trans. She's still getting over it.

I feel a lot of connection to this woman, which isn't that common for me. I've been trying to give her signs that I'm into her, but they've been for bunk since we're "friends". Yet she hardly seems to want me around as it is; I can't make plans to see her, she doesn't try to get in touch with me, etc. Yet when we're together, we get along splendidly. 

I really want to tell her how I feel, and see if anything happens. I can't go on waiting around to see if something will develop, yet I'm pretty sure I'm in love with her. I just started dating a girl who digs me like I dig her, and I'm thinking that this relationship will be better for me in the long run.

I'm just not sure what to do, I'd hate to see her out of my life, I really would, but I'm just not sure if I have any other option.

For reference, we met on OKC, so it's not like dating wasn't in the equation from the get-go.
<bot>: I don't want to lose my friend I've fallen for, but I can't wait around for her to see the light of day. What do?