<human>: Can you give me the gist of the text in a nutshell?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 4 years now, since we were both in college. We get along great almost all the time, we understand each other. I love him dearly and I know for sure that I'm the most important person in his life. In fact he's already expressed for a while that he'd like to get married and have kids eventually. Sounds ideal, right?

Problem is, we do have some incompatibilities that have surfaced over the past ~4 years, which we've talked about and I've tried to overlook or give some time for the sake of our relationship...but at this point, I'm losing my hope that things will work out. He's stubborn and doesn't want to make change anything about himself, even though I make it a point to adapt to him when I can, and even given more time I'm getting skeptical that our few incompatibilities will ever iron out no matter how much I ask him to try (which yes, he will agree to try sometimes). I'm torn by how much we love each other and how these few things are throwing a wrench into us having the perfect happily-ever-after kind of deal.

To make it worse, my mother has been opposing our relationship for a while and has somewhat coerced me into admitting that I think some things aren't working out between us and that it'd be best to break up. My mother and I are usually best friends, and I value her advice and insight...and I know a lot of what she says is true, but I can't help feeling incredibly sad about all of this.

I know it's a rookie mistake to hope for someone to change in a relationship. But back in my mind, I still naively hope that he will, and no matter what happens between us I still love him to bits. Meanwhile, the rational, logical part of me has committed to breaking up with him. I feel so heartbroken and conflicted about the whole thing...any words of advice, Reddit?
<bot>: Boyfriend and I love each other very much, but have a few fatal flaws in our relationship that logically mean we should break up. I don't want to but feel like I should anyway.