<human>: Can you condense the text into three sentences or less?

My husband suffers from chronic depression. It is under control now and he is back at school and receiving student loans from the government, but for many years he had no job and I was the sole provider. Endebting myself and then paying off my debts, but never really being able to put money aside for more fun things.

The thing is, his computer broke down and his parents offered to pay for a new one for his birthday, but they also offered to lend him an old laptop in the meantime. He decided to go ahead and get the new computer anyway. They offered to give him the money immediately, but he said it could wait til this birthday in a few months.

So now, all the money from his loans has been used for that. I am also a student and work part time and was hoping to use my earnings to finally pay off some debts, but because he choose to delay getting the money for his computer, the money that was supposed to be used to pay debts is now being used to pay for daily things like food.

He does this all the time! We have been together for 7 years. He will refuse help from his parents, or refuse to ask them for help and I am left holding the bag. Whenever I bring it up, it starts this whole nasty fight. I am not saying he isn't a great husband otherwise, he is sweet and does most of the cleaning in our apartment, but whenever I bring up the issue of money he gets really down, irritable and feels guilty for wanting nice things. This makes me feel awful and it bugs me since then I feel guilty for wanting nice things for myself. Plus, he smokes, so I feel like if I get myself something nice every once in a while, it still costs less than his smoking habit.

Is there any way of approaching this subject with him without it becoming a "tit-for-tat" argument of who is the biggest victim and him becoming depressed again until I cave in so as to stop making him feel bad about himself.
<bot>: How should I best approach financial discussions with my husband and make him understand that him refusing to ask/accept help so as to protect his pride is causing me anxiety and financial strain.