<human>: My boyfriend is afraid of having sex, we've done it a few times in our 8 month long relationship and the times we've done it I've had to basically force it on him. He usually refuses to do anything with me and it's made me insecure about if he really loves me or not.

He opened up to me a few weeks ago about why he doesn't want it, he said he had been sexually abused by an older female cousin when he was younger. I made him feel supported by me and I told him that he should have just told me all along and he was embarassed to. I feel guilty about "forcing" him to do it but I do think he should feel comfortable enough to have sex with his own girlfriend. How could I make him more comfortable with doing that? And he has never seeked counselling or any help about what happened to him whem he was younger, I think maybe that would make him comfortable with doing it?

Thanks

Summarize the given text in a few sentences.
<bot>: My boyfriend doesn't want to have sex with me because of past, I'm trying to help him feel comfortable, don't know what I can really do