<human>: My wife and I both are admitted alcoholics, however we still drink together every night. Not every night, but most, we get into these verbal jabbing matches where we poke and prod each other until one loses their shit. About two months ago we got into it really bad, I was more sad this night and didnt talk as much, she however, was on one. She said a lot of things about why she "would" cheat on me and how awful she could make my life with a certain coworker of hers. 

Fast forward to july 4 and I catch her rubbing my cousins tattoos and then she told him that her tattoo (its the chinese sign for geisha) meant that she has an impossible hope of happiness (something like that) and then she leaned in and started whispering, thats when I went over to see what was going on. By the time I reached them she had ran off and he stood there looking dumbfounded. I brushed it off and kept going about my activities (fireworks and chatting with the neighbors) later she tried to cuddle him and then refused to go outside with me and stayed inside with my cousin. I asked her about it the next day, and she flipped her lid. I mean she gets mad sometimes, but she actually said the word "divorce" because I was being "paranoid".

I need to know if I am a normal person for thinking this was a heavy situation. I also want to know how I should approach her tattoo removal as well as how to stop drinking with her (we've brought it up many many many times and she refuses to stop) altogether.

She refuses to do aa, we went once together but that was it. Ive tried several treatment options and have dropped my intake to only gas station beer (idk if that translates at all) but she doesnt care, I find flasks all the time.

Can you succinctly summarize the text in 1-3 sentences?
<bot>: We drink too much and have started saying horrendous things to each other, one of her threats came to fruition in my living room.