<human>: Hi everyone,

To cut to the chase, my girlfriend is upset that one of my friends did not invite her to his birthday party (just a few drinks in a local pub). I tried to explain to her that it's gonna just be a small gathering of three or four friends, but she got even more upset that it's an "exclusive" club.

 

Also, I was explicitly invited to some of her friends (recent) birthday parties and she's using that as an "a-ha, see how normal people do things."

To clarify: my friend didn't explicitly say she can't come.

 

Her words "it's just a fucking drink, why isn't anyone else worthy to attend"

 

So... that seems majorly insecure to me... similar things happened before, I'd get invited to meet some friends and she'd throw a hissy fit about being excluded and me caring only about my friends... 

It's not like she **never** got invited or anything, but they didn't invite her every time... which, I don't see a problem with.

That happened when she was in a bad place, mentally, and I thought we were passed that.

 

She honestly doesn't see the point of "friends only" or "guys/girls night out", gatherings. She refused to go to meet her friends for a girls night out once because I wasn't invited... even when I told her I'd be fine and that she should be with her friends.

Her argument is always "what is there to do/say that you don't want someone (of the opposite gender or your SO) to hear/be there for?"

 

So, this invitation brought those unpleasant episodes back. I'm not sure what to do... she seems really upset and she's much better at arguing than me, maybe because she seems to put so much emotion into them. I can't seem to bring my point across without feeling like an insensitive jerk.

Could you distill the essence of the text into 1-3 sentences?
<bot>: My girlfriend is upset she wasn't invited to my friend's birthday party and says she feels excluded when my friends don't invite her in general.