<human>: Can you summarize the given text in a few sentences?

me and my girlfriend of 4 years broke up today. 

We met in college just before my 18th birthday and have been with her since, been on holiday together countless times, dealt with family issues together, a death of a friend, she was always at my house etc the normal things you can expect of a relationship of this time span.

we decided to finish with each other, not because we dont still love one another or because we dont care about each other anymore, but because we both feel that it isnt going anywhere and that we are holding each other back..

now for the most part the relationship was good and normal in every sense. Now , the bad; we both have very separate groups of friends - very much her friends are her friends and vice versa. She doesn't talk or see my mother due mainly to habit i guess and it just kind of became set in routine that she didnt visit her. I only recently started making effort to visit her family more and get involved. Have been arguing or having disagreements or feeling off with each other more than usual recently. 

Things had been a bit rocky this week and i think we both knew this talk was coming so we met after work to talk about things. we basically established that; we are both young, she wants to travel a bit / i dont, the stuff to do with our familys, we arent going to be together forever.  we also discussed that we obviously still care for / still love eachother.

she still has a load of stuff at mine and am not sure when to meet her to return it?

but also how do i get though the next few weeks / months? should we talk? break contact completely for a while at least?  

Even though it was a mutual decision and the thought crossed my mind time to time, it still hurts. allot. And as i said above still love her.

how should i go about this?
<bot>: Me and girlfriend of 4 years broke up after 4 years. how to cope, still hurts even though it was mutual.