<human>: My boyfriend and I have been together four years now, and are happy and stable in pretty much all aspects. Unfortunately, in the area of drinking, we have some issues. To explain, I come from a household of two alcoholic parents. Unfortunately, as a kid, nothing I did seemed to much help change that situation (talking calmly, yelling out in anger, removing all alcohol in the house, etc.). 

Anyways, I decided early on I would never be in a relationship with an alcoholic. On the other hand, I don't want to let my history interfere with living a "normal" alcoholic life, that is, drinking responsibly. I will occasionally drink and don't put any prohibitions on my boyfriend drinking, though he is clear about how I feel about drunks.  

Unfortunately, while he drinks rather infrequently, at least two times per month he gets very drunk, blackout drunk. After every incident, he says he feels so miserable and that he's not going to do it again. On the nights we go to hang out, he frequently says beforehand that he's just going to have two drinks and that's it, but that's never just it as when he starts drinking, it just doesn't stop. Any gentle reminders to take it easy are taken as an attack on his liberty to do what he wants, read "stop being like my mother."

He doesn't have an agreeable personality when he is drunk and mixed with my natural distaste for drunks means I usually ditch parties early. 

I am afraid his behavior is Binge Drinking and further fear it might lead to more serious drinking problems. However, like I said, I don't want to be an arse and say he can't drink anything. 

Does he have a problem, or is it me? I want to talk with him about it, but like I said, sober he agrees with me it's too much, but drunk I'm his controlling enemy. Any tips? 

Thanks all.

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<bot>: I think my boyfriend has Binge Drinking habbits which I would like to stop, but I don't know how to start a conversation that will lead to real change in his habbits.