<human>: I am 20 years old and I have been dating my boyfriend, also 20, for almost three years. We go to different colleges but with us both back for the summer we have began to stay at each others houses most nights. His family is very welcoming and do not mind me being there, infact enjoy it and say they think of me as part of the family.

My family on the other hand, is the opposite. My dad is constantly in silent disapproval, and my mother is completely against anything to do with him. She complains if I spend time with him, actively try to stop us hanging out and constantly voices her disapproval of us spending time together.

Talking to my sister, [18] she is equally disapproving of her boyfriend and seemed to react the same. I think its less about not liking my boyfriend specifically (she barely knows him because she won't give him a chance) its that shes my mom and doesn't want me to have a boyfriend and put her first instead. She always wants to spend "family time" which is always just the family sitting around on our phones in seperate rooms or watching tv, basically not interacting with each other. It seems to be only to stop us from socializing with others or boyfriends.

Now we could stay at my boyfriends house instead, but he is the eldest of 6 children and only has a pullout bed to sleep on in one of the downstairs rooms, while i have my own large room to myself. I feel like a burden to his parents sometimes but they seem to like having me around and i try to help out and contribute. my boyfriend feels though that my family, my mother especially, is shunning him and is very disapproving.

How do i deal with this? Do i just give up and accept she will always be disapproving and hostile or is there some other way?

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<bot>: Mother is crazy disapproving and controlling and wont let my boyfriend hang around the house or my family, or stay the night. How do i cope?