<human>: To start I love my boyfriend. A LOT. But, he never wants to do anything, sleeps 3/4 of his lie, doesn't currently have a job (he's a free lancer and goes months on, months off, with jobs), won't come up to my house ("my TV is too small") and we basically only lie in his bed, watch TV and have sex (amazing sex so thats a plus). 

I am extremely active - workout, take walks, want to go out at night, socialize, etc.. I have a budding career in a very professional role and am goal-oriented. Also, in all other aspects and relationships in my life I don't put up with bullshit from anyone, and anyone else I wouldn't put up with this from.

As I said before though – I love him. I don't want to be without him. And regardless to his lack of engagement, he does love me, and he makes that clear (verbally). I told him recently that I thought he needed to put more effort into our relationship and he honestly didn't believe it. I am his first 'real' girlfriend, so I don't think he knows how it works. He's not being an ass, he just genuinely does not get it. It's not just our relationship, its his life in general he is lazy with. I'll take lying in his bed with him over not being with him at all, but I'd rather not have to settle...

What do I do? How can I nicely talk to him without making him feel like a total piece of crap? I don't want to make things awkward but I also want to be firm enough that he will actually change/try. I know people say 'you can't change someone they have to want to change themselves' but I at least want to try.

I am 27 female, he is 31 male. We've been together for 6 months.

Please help :(

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<bot>: my boyfriend puts no effort into our relationship, but we love each other and I dont want to leave him. any ideas on how to change this?