<human>: One of the guys I worked with, older, married, asked me whether I wanted to have kids someday? Of course, who doesn't. Then he asked if I wanted to have grandkids, again yeah, to which he told me "you're running out of time". This kind of struck a chord. Not like I'm in a hurry to have kids, but would like to meet someone and settle down in the next 5 years, 10 years ago figured it would have happened already if I'm being honest. Except I just don't see it happening, the guys I relate to, like my uncle or old college professor, were all single throughout their lives. My parents are divorced and I've never really had a strong male role model to look up to.

I don't meet many women. I work at a small startup, all guys, am an engineer and pretty introverted. It's hard for me to make connections with people, but I really want to. I don't have asperger's, at least I don't think I do, but feel more comfortable spending time with the few, mostly male, friends I already know than meeting new people. Family and friends have suggested the cliche stuff, sign up for a cooking class (I looked for classes, they're geared for people who are working to become chefs), take up an activity that interests you (signed up for rowing, no women there), don't focus on dating, just let it happen (did that for two years, nothing happened). For lack of other options, I've been on OkCupid for about a year now, go on coffee first-dates and dinner+activity second-dates pretty regularly, but that's usually where it ends. Not really sure what I'm doing wrong. I'm decent looking (6' 2", 170 lbs.), have a decently paying job, can hold a conversation, am a gentlemen and treat women with respect (trying not to be the guy my mom says my dad was), although admittedly my confidence has taken a hit, and when this has happened in the past I've jumped into the wrong relationship a couple times, so trying not to do this this time.

Can you condense the text into three sentences or less?
<bot>: What should I be doing that I'm not to meet a single, kind-hearted, above-average looking, intelligent woman who's looking for a guy like me?