<human>: I'm a calm and happy adult (30 F), my friends think of me as a mellow person.  As soon as my mom visits I'm crazy anxious like I was as a kid.  I mean I love her but I hate who I am around her.

She comes to visit with this stressed out energy, running late or all wound up.  I get caught in it.  She has all these worries and it gets pressed on me in the form of well meaning criticism and gets fixated on things, repeating the same worries until they're my worries.  I either get dragged into whatever she's fixated on, or angry and frustrated trying to fight it. After she leaves I'm a more worried person and it takes a bit for me to get back to my competent adult self.

It's gotten much worse now that I have a baby and I can't just cut her out or ignore things.  Before I only dealt with her maybe once every three months and over the phone it's not an issue.  Now it's weekly and it's miserable, like debatable if it's worth the help with the baby.  She's thinking of moving close by and I'm subtly trying to convince her that's a bad idea without hurting her feelings.  I don't want to feel stressed out or model anxious behavior (saw that article on the front page of reddit and took out as a sign I needed to change something).

Can you provide a brief rundown of the text in within 3 sentences?
<bot>: How do I deal with an anxious parent now that I have a baby and can't just ignore them or use distance to deal with them?