<human>: I enjoy being with her, she is deep and intelligent, and when she laughs I feel happy, *but* I am not attracted to my girlfriend.  This sounds very shallow, but if she was a stranger at a bar, I would rate her around around a 6.4 on physical attractiveness. I am simply just not physically/sexually attracted to her.  I believe she senses this and she gets upset with me sometimes.  I've tried to overlook it and did the best I could to do that for the last year, but I am starting to think it is just something I won't be able to work out.  She is also in her 30s so I don't want to keep her occupied with someone who is not physically attracted to her, when she could be out finding someone who does. Her birthday is coming up soon and I am not sure what to do.  I do not want to break up with her before her birthday, and I also do not want to lose her as a friend, but she has stated before that if we were to break up it'd have to be completely no contact, otherwise she would not  be able to handle it.  What should I do?

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<bot>: I am not attracted to my older gf one 1 year. Should I break up? If so, before or after her soon to come birthday?