<human>: I just had a child, a few weeks ago, with my husband of 4 years. When we got married, I told my husband that I wanted to keep my last name, and he said that was more than fine with him. I know that he enjoys the traditional aspect of families and he probably deep down would have been happier if I took his name. I brought it up to him and asked him if he was upset that I wasn't taking his name, and he said that its really not important to him what my last name be, and that he's happy with leaving that decision completely to me. Note this was all four years ago.

So we just had a child, and a month or two before my due date, I brought it up to him that I wanted the child to have my last name. He said that he wants to upkeep that tradition of the child taking the fathers last name, gave a couple other reasons and said no. I dropped it and didn't bring it up again.

Our daughter was born 4 weeks ago, and now Im not satisfied with the decision we made. I think its sexist and illogical for the kid to take the dads last name just as default. I harbored our child for nine months in my body, and I don't even get to bear my name to our child?

It's not sitting well with me, and I want to bring it up again but I don't know how. I don't want to turn it into a big fight or anything.

Any advice? Has anyone been in this position before?

Also our names are too long to hyphenate. It'd be a 30+ letter last name.

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<bot>: I agreed that our daughters last name would be my husbands name, not mine and now I regret it. What do I do?