<human>: Can you provide a brief rundown of the text in within 3 sentences?

I've always had trouble initiating sex... I want sex, but I rarely make my desires known. I treat it as though it's "impolite" or "not gentlemanly" to be the initiator... I feel like I'd be demanding, and I just wait for sex to happen.

It's come up again and again and again that my wife wants sex and wants me to initiate it more — she feels undesired when she's the only one making it happen. She recently said that most of the times I *do* initiate come across as "creepy", which I could agree with... I usually end up just being soft with my advances, maybe something like stroking her arm softly and saying something like "hey, want to have a little fun time?"

I'd *like* to be the kind of guy who can just show what he wants... grab her, take her to the bedroom, maybe talk a little dirty. To fit it to a stereotype, I want to be a "man". But somehow, I can't bring myself to be semi-aggressive.

How do I get over myself and just make my desires known? How do I get over the feeling of it not being "polite" to "demand" sex with my wife?
<bot>: I'm not a confident lover. It's borderline impossible for me to bring myself to initiate sex. How do I be more "aggressive"?