<human>: Awkward dilemma.  I'm planning my kid's 6th birthday. Call her Alex.  Hotel pool party/slumber party.  I want to invite a friend for my 3 year old during the day.  The obvious choice is. .. Call her Janie. Total best friends! Problem is. . Call her Helga, Janie's older sister. Helga and Alex used to be friends.  Helga is one grade up and during the expected drifting apart,  Helga got mean.  In the interactions that she and my kid have had in the past year most have ended in tears.  I don't know how aware of the the mom is.  She's got to be at least somewhat aware 

So the question is,  do I have that awkward conversation with the mom and invite her youngest to be the daytime buddy of my youngest at the party of her ex friend to which she's not invited?

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<bot>: do I openly acknowledge to an acquaintance that our older kids are no longer friends and her oldest isn't being invited to the party