<human>: My husband was in the army for a while and ended up getting deployed to Iraq twice, once for 12 months, a month after we got married. We had a really hard time while he was deployed the first time and communication was bad. I would wait weeks for a phone call, but when he would call he would be grouchy and wouldn't tell me anything. Then he wouldn't respond to my emails except for one word answers or short sentences. 

After he got back I found out he was reaching out to everyone through phone calls and emails EXCEPT me. One of those people was a girl he was friends with in the past. They never said risque things to each other, but it was just the fact that he worked to keep a conversation going with her when he wouldn't with me that made me feel so insecure.

Fast forward four years, and he's deployed again. This time he's working with a private security company, but we are starting to have some of the same issues. I wait around to hear from him all the time and I won't make plans because if he even senses I'm busy he won't talk to me and it's really important that we keep in touch to me, but when we finally talk it's the same thing. He doesn't offer up any details, and doesn't open up to me at all. I'm worried that because communication is so bad with us he will reach out to someone else again, and hurt me. Not really sure what to do to make communication better because any time I talk to him about it he says that he's not "needy" like I am and changes the subject. 

Anyone gone through the same thing or have any advice? Thanks.

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<bot>: husband is deployed and we're having bad communication, fearing it will lead to him reaching out to someone else and cause what I think is "emotional cheating".