<human>: So I'm 25 and female. My boyfriend is also 25. It's a complicated situation... bear with me here. Please, no judging. I'm torn enough about all of this as it is.

He is currently in the process of a divorce. We have dated in the past, and he left me once, and I was torn to shreds. He felt it was his obligation to give his wife one more shot at keeping her legs closed. This was 3 years ago... but now he's moved 4 hours away from her to be with me, and things just haven't gone even close to plan. The first month was amazing. Perfect... and then he needed space and nearly cut it off, and now we're trying not to be so serious as he feels he needs to figure himself out again. 

But now I feel like I don't even know him anymore. It's been 7 months now. The person who is my best friend in the entire world and whom I've loved more than anyone else I've ever met has become closed off and it's freaking me out. So I panic, and I cling, and he freaks out bc I'm clinging and it all goes downhill from there. Due to our job situations, we more or less have opposite hours, so I don't get to hear from him except for the occasional text, and it's never "I miss you" or anything like that... and as much as he says he cares I'm just not getting it. I feel used and sad.

 I want to fix it... without angering him or putting him in a situation he's uncomfortable in. I have no idea what to do at this point. I've never felt like this about someone. Ever. If I leave, I'm scared that I will never find that again. But if I stay... I want us both to be happy. And I don't know how.

Please... be kind. This is tearing me apart.

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<bot>: my relationship has no emotional intimacy like it used to have and it makes me feel insecure. How do I go about getting him to open up like he used to without upsetting him?