<human>: it's been a three year relationship. On and off. and have dated some people in between. Both of us have been unfaithful.. though in different ways. He physically cheated on me and lied about it and I constantly texted and messaged other men while we were together and tried to hide it from him.  Flash forward to the future and we're doing really well. He saw a fb message which was basically me confiding in a male confidant about our relationship and he was livid over it and wanted me to hand over my fb password.. I did and have been very open and honest. this was at the beginning of october. and since then it's felt amazing for both of us. we act like we're a couple and he showers me in compliments, provides me with support, and generally cares for me. Despite all this he refuses to call me his girlfriend claiming it's too early and hes nervous for the future, which definitely has merit. however if hes acting like my boyfriend why is he so apprehensive to label it? Does it really make a difference if the feelings are there anyways? I just dont want to put my heart on the line and wait for him to come around in the case he doesn't.

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<bot>: ex bf refuses to call me his gf. im nervous to get real feelings in the case he just up and leaves. I dont know what to do.