<human>: hi! Long time lurker here but first time poster! Hope this makes sense and someone can give some sound advice, thanks in advance!

I have been with my partner (feels like much more than a boyfriend) for 8 years now and we have lived together for 5 of those years. We have a passionate relationship, we both work hard and take great care of each other making each other feel special. I have expressed to him in the past my desire to be married because he is truly all I want. I told him having his last name would be an honor. He seemed to understand the first time I brought it up manyyyyy years ago. Over time, maybe every year and a half to two years I will casually bring it up again because I DO wish to marry him.

Background info,  I grew up around healthy marriages and desire the same. His parents never married. They were THOSE hippies, didn't need marriage to prove their love. In the more recent times that we've spoken of this he reflects similar views and he said he doesn't see the reason to be married. Signing papers won't change his love or loyalty but he does see where I'm coming from (his words). 

Unfortunately the very most recent time we spoke of it I was slightly intoxicated (slightly, but enough to change my attitude) and his same response that he loves me and I'm his life partner but he doesn't nees the wedding process to prove it just really really hurt me. I took it way harsher than I normally would this time and it erupted into a fight. 

I felt awful because I've been so calm about the topic always but it finally got to me. I felt that if he couldn't do this for me it was likely because he didn't REALLY know if he wanted to spend this life with me by his side. It made me feel that I didn't matter enough for him to get over his opinion to make this a happy reality. 

So do I want too much? I love him to death and he has been an amazing partner in life giving me NO reason to walk away. Is a marriage title that important? Anyone else experience something similar? Thank you.

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<bot>: partner of 8 years does not want to marry because it doesn't prove love, I really want to be married; advice?