<human>: I'm mostly just asking about this to nip it in the bud, since we don't have an official engagement yet, but have lived together for a while now.  As some background, pretty much all of my family consists of elopers.  My parents eloped, all of my (married) older siblings eloped, and in general I've never had anyone close to me plan a wedding. I was never the little girl that imagined her dream wedding, and in a way, I'm kind of uncomfortable planning something so big and expensive in the first place.

My SO on the other hand comes from a family that's a bit more well-off, and to him a great wedding is quite large and pulls all of your relatives together from all over.  This kind of thing would be a lot easier for him to accomplish, since his family is centered around a single state. I'm first-generation in my family, so a lot of my family members are immigrants located on both coasts of the US or in Asia. I honestly wouldn't expect anyone that isn't my immediate family and friends to attend my wedding (even if I really would like them to). 

The thought of both planning a big wedding and not having anyone show up is kind of daunting to me in a lot of different ways. I would be perfectly happy eloping like everyone else and just having a big get-together at a venue near our immediate families. He would much rather go all out (in a you-only-get-married-once kind of way) and save the reception for a smaller dinner that can be more intimate with close family and friends. I'd really like some advice on how to compromise on planning this...

Or if there isn't a compromise, some advice for getting over these jitters.

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<bot>: I want to basically elope with a big reception, he wants a big wedding and little reception. Is there a middle ground?