<human>: I've been on a relationship with my gf for almost 3 years and I haven't had many problems - partly because it was a long-distance relationship. My mother was never crazy for her because she dislikes she's not a girly girl like she expected but since I love her deeply she never made a big scene.

In the beginning of this year my gf received a job offer in the city I live (the largest one in my country) to work for a big multinational company. We decided not to marry yet or move in together since I still live with my family (went to college in my own city and I'm finishing in the middle of this year) and we could save up a bit more to buy home appliances/furniture and build a emergency fund if she was the only one paying rent and splitting with roomates. I received a good raise last month and now we can afford to live together almost comfortably. Our plan is to be together on the second semester.

The problem is since she moved to my city, my mother went into super-jealous mode. She's always complaining I don't spend time with the family anymore, that I don't like her anymore and guilt trips me everytime she can. She says my girlfriend is separating us and controlling me (apparently I don't have free will, either I'm controled by mother or by the gf) and giving us silent treatment.

For these reasons, I haven't told mother yet me and GF will get married because I don't want to deal with that emotional hurricane yet, but she suspects (it's obvious, after all). In my country people usually move out of their parents' when they marry (Italian/portuguese heritage) and people usually marry in their 30s and my mother (Italian descendant) believes strongly that people should stay at home until they can afford to buy a house. I know I'm an adult and I should make my own decisions (and I am) but I don't want to have problems with my family nor be ungrateful (they paid for my tuition) but I think I deserve to be in charge of my own life.

Can you give me the gist of the text in a nutshell?
<bot>: Mother trying to put me against my gf because she thinks I'm too young and should stay home for more time. I've already took my decision to get married but I don't want to deal with her crap.