<human>: i was in a relationship recently for a few years with the guy who i was to marry. we' talked about the wedding, everyone in our lives knew we'd get hitched eventually. we were each others everything. passionate about each other in every way. it was nothing i'd ever felt before (and may never feel again).

but it was too strong. the intensity turned into jealousy and insecurities from both of us, and things got toxic. we couldn't be happy, despite loving each other tremendously. so we ended it. and it fucking hurt.

enter new guy- he's great. he's absolutely everything i thought i wanted in a person. i'm not AS attracted to him, but that might go along with my mental barriers. i don't feel passionate about him. i don't run to him when i'm feeling insecure or sad, my heart doesn't skip a beat when he walks in the door. i like him fine, but i can't figure out if he;s just not right for me or if i'm comparing my feelings about him to the feelings i had in my previous relationship, or i'm protecting myself and not allowing myself to fall for him because i'm scared that he'll jump ship anyways and i'll be left in the dust. 

there's a lot of baggage and insecurities here. I know, and he knows it too and has committed to being along for the ride. he says he loves me and has never felt about anyone the way he feels about me. so then i ask too, am i trying to talk myself into staying with him just because he fits the bill of my dream guy and is in love with me and openly accepts my flaws? do i feel obligated to love him back?

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<bot>: met a guy who is great on paper in every way, but i can't seem to feel the spark or allow myself to feel the spark. learn some gratitude? or jump ship for his sake?