<human>: Give me the gist of the text in a nutshell

I started reading about non-violent communication, but she's completely closed off to the idea.  I have been working long hours because we've just had a baby, and she's starting to feel like we never get a chance to spend time together.  

I feel like we do, but it's spent with her barking orders at me, and when I finally get some time to make a decision for me, she gets pissed that I'm doing that instead of spending time with her.  Then we fight, and she guilts me into apologizing.  Pretty much the only time we spend together I'm either doing stuff for her or feeling guilty that I tried to something that didn't include her. 

 I love her so much but it's hard to explain why I wouldn't want to spend time with her when the only time we do spend together I feel like I'm being ordered around or being made (or expected) to feel guilty without hurting her feelings.
<bot>: How can I explain to my wife that because I never get any "me" time, every chance I get I'm going to take, without hurting her feelings?