<human>: Can you condense the text into a few key points?

My bf (21) and I (22) have been dating for 9 months. I recently started birth control again and spoke to to him about why I was taking it. I said that this was just a back-up method and that I wanted to keep using condoms every time we had sex. He agreed.

Here are the issues we are facing:
1. Birth control decreases my sex drive quite a bit. I have tried going on other forms of birth control (shot, other pills, patch, etc. except for implants, which I am uncomfortable with) and they all decrease my sex drive among other side effects (headaches, excessive weight gain, nausea, etc.). The pill I'm on now (Lutera) only gives me a low sex drive...thats it. Which is why I prefer it. However, have any of you found effective ways to increase sex drive while on the pill?
2. Most of the time when he uses a condom, he has trouble staying hard? Any advice?
3. He wants me to either go off the pill or stop using condoms. I want to use both. Condoms are not 100% effective and i have seen friends get pregnant while using them PROPERLY, including myself (got an abortion and never want to go through that again). Also, I sometimes forget to take the pill at the same time everyday. I am a full-time college students with 3 jobs so I tend to forget to take it, which is why I also use condoms.
4. How do we find a compromise between both of our beliefs about using condoms and/or the pill?

Any advice would be great!
<bot>: My bf and I disagree about using condoms AND birth control. He can't get hard with a condom and I prefer that we use both. Also need to increase my sex drive.