<human>: I have a question that is to some extent about interpersonal relationships in general, but it came to mind because of my current situation. I've been seeing this guy for nearly a year now, and he's repeatedly told me how NICE I am, how sweet I am, that I'm funny, he respects me, etc. But he doesn't want to commit. I get this from people all the time. They tell me unprompted that I'm so nice, so sweet, so positive, so compassionate. Nobody wants to hang out outside of work, no one invites me to anything, no one comes to things I invite them to, no one calls me just to see what's up or ask me how I'm doing. I have to do all the work to maintain my relationships. I'm pretty consistent and try to come up with fun things to do with other people. 

My friends tell me I'm the first person they call for advice or a shoulder to cry on, and that I'm the only person they can count on for help. I'm the first person to go the extra mile for people I love. But they forget about me the rest of the time I guess? Even my family does this. Am I just forgettable, too nice, too helpful? Can someone tell me what on Earth I can do to change this dynamic? Because I am really starting to resent it. 

I want to be the person people want to have around, and commit to, and hang out with, not just their shoulder to cry on and the go-to person in time of need. I give a lot, I love a lot, and I want someone out there who wants to give love and support to me too.

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<bot>: 21(M) 20(F) Almost a year of dating and other relationships and I have to do all the work maintain them. Am I too nice?