<human>: Here's my situation: I have a friend with benefits (we'll call him V) who I've known for a number of years who lives in a neighboring country. We Skype once a week and email almost everyday. Our relationship has gotten increasingly more romantic and we've admitted we feel more for each other than is normal for friends who have sex, but he doesn't want us to be officially together while we live in different countries (and I pretty much agree). Our relationship is not exclusive, and he has said that if I get with someone else, "use a condom and don't tell me about it." He has said he'd probably take advantage if someone in his country wanted to sleep with him, but this is unlikely as he's working very hard on his thesis and isn't very social anyway,

I think I actually now have the chance to be with someone else (we'll call him J). J and I have gone on a few dates and kissed (I told him about V on the last date and he seemed okay with it) but I'm feeling a bit weird about it. If it were just a one-night stand, I think it wouldn't be an issue, but I like J a lot as a person and I'm afraid it will endanger my feelings for V. I've told J I can't date him (and who knows if he'd want to date me?), but I know that doing so would be really good for my social life as I'm new to this country and have had a hard time making friends. I was kind of in a situation like this before and felt really guilty a lot.

How do I hook up with J and not feel guilty about it?  How do I navigate these two casual, ill-defined relationships?  Non-monogamous people, how do you handle this stuff? Any words of wisdom?

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<bot>: In a non-exclusive, long-distance FWB-type relationship that has recently become more romantic. Have met a new guy in my city and feel a bit weird about it. Advice?