<human>: Can you provide a brief overview of the text?

I lost my virginity to my boyfriend of 9 months (who I dated previously for approximately a year and have been friends with both before and after the relationship). 

Some info: It was a huge deal for me (and he definitely knew this) as I was originally planning to wait until marriage to give it away. I have pretty big hang ups and insecurities about myself, coupled with some pretty severe general anxiety. I also have a habit of distancing myself from others to protect myself. We have both told each other 'I love you' for quite some time. 

When it happened it hurt a bit (as expected) and after it was over I was quite emotionally shaken and feeling a bit sore. We cuddled for a couple of minutes, but soon I could feel that he wanted to get up and clean up. After a passing comment about being sweaty and how hot it was, I rolled on my side and just tried to calm myself down a bit. So he went and did his thing, he got back and I went and had a shower. I got back and he was on his computer, looks over and says "how are you?", with me obviously not being okay.

In short there was not much cuddling or level of emotional bonding that I had expected after, but the main thing that made me irritated and made me upset was that there was no "I love you". So am I just being over emotional and ridiculous? Have I just held unrealistic standards? How should I proceed now?
<bot>: lost virginity, got short cuddles but no "I love you". Am I right to be irritated and upset?