<human>: I went on a 3 dates with a girl (spaced out 1 week apart each) and they didn't exactly feel like dates. She was at the bar one night with her friends and invited me to go wherever she went that night. This was a really obvious sign she wanted me to make a move but I didn't (and I regret it). Our third date was to watch a movie together but we only got as far as cuddling. 

Later that night I messaged her saying I wasn't sure what speed she wanted to go at because she is a shy person and I don't want to make her uncomfortable. She gave me the whole "You're a nice guy but I'm not over my ex and I just want to be friends" speech. I'm pretty sure she's upset I didn't make a move and lost hope in me.

We've messaged and hung out once since then but I don't want to be in the friend zone. It's about 3 weeks later and I want to tell her that we should go on a date, or break contact. It's not worth thinking about her and I don't really want to be friends if I'll have one-sided feelings.

How should I go about saying this? Right now she essentially has me wrapped around her finger and I want to even out the playing field by saying "here's your last shot, take it or leave it". I'm just not sure how I want to say this.

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<bot>: How should I tell a girl I don't want to be friends, I want to keep going on dates or break things off entirely?