<human>: Hey guys, you have always been one of the most helpful subreddits around, and I want to know what some of you would do in my situation.

I am from Chicago, applied for TFA, and was assigned to the Bay Area. Which sounds awesome.

Dilemma: My mom just died in May, and my family is still relatively shattered by that. My Dad was just diagnosed with an autoimmune disease (Sjögren's syndrome) and seems to already be on his last string of sanity. My brother just entered college and my sister is halfway through high school, and they are both suffering from making these adjustments.

As selfish as this sounds, I know that I am the glue that is holding what little we have together. And even if TFA is a dream of mine, it is one I would forgo if I knew it was going to further disintegrate the mental stability of my family. So, I ask of y'all, is there a right choice to be made here? I either leave for California or spend a Gap year in the Chicagoland area doing research and staying around the family. I have always wanted the best for each of my family members, and I don't want to destroy something that is already near breaking.

Can you give me the gist of the text in a nutshell?
<bot>: family issues might hamper my ability to realize my TFA experience, don't know what course of action to take.