<human>: When I was 12-18 I just spent all my time playing video games and never put effort into maintaining friendships. I still feel the effects of this now in many ways, but the one I don't know how to deal with is my lack of ability and fears about maintaining friendships.

I have friends, I'm sociable, I have some hobbies, but I rarely think to include people or crave hanging out with people. I feel uncomfortable inviting people over for one-on-one hangouts and I get worried over what we'll end up doing because I think it might be boring or I won't have anything to say (which generally isn't a problem, as I have been on many first dates without being too worried). 

With my new girlfriend she's told me a few times that she feels bad that I don't often initiate hanging out with her. I don't want to be like this but I feel kinda helpless and stuck in old ways. I admire her ability to spend time with her friends just talking and hanging out. She really appreciates and values her friends. It feels like something I want, but I haven't worked for it. I know it takes effort.

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<bot>: stuck in old awkward ways of not hanging out with people or being comfortable initiating friendships or hang outs. Not incapable of either, just never make the effort due to anxieties about it. Help!