<human>: Hey All,

We've been together for four years, two of which were spent in undergrad together.  I got a job right out of school in NYC, and she went for an advanced degree further upstate.  We see each other once or twice a month for a few days and talk often.  In my opinion I have a low emotional need, but not to say I don't love her.

I'm reachicg out here for some advise as we enter a transitional time in our relationship.  She's about to finish school and I'd like if we lived together since I have a job here and plan to start graduate studies here.  The place she's applying for in the city isn't getting back to her and she's gotten a good job offer from a firm further upstate.

I try not to pressure one way or the other since my plans are so uncertain.  I guess my question is: am I fooling myself maintaining such a distanced relationship for so long?

There are times when I want to be there for her and can't, and sometimes that makes me feel guilty or selfish.  What any of you all do in my case?

Thanks.

Can you condense the text into a few key points?
<bot>: Distance relationship for two years with the prospect of maybe more.  How can I/should I compromise if my own future is still uncertain?