<human>: I've been out of the dating game for quite awhile and hadn't ever dated girls from big cities (I'm from a small Idaho town...now in DC).  I've gone out with a few women here and it seems fairly common/normal that women (and men) talk to/date numerous guys at the same time.  I'm assuming this is just until the point that they want an exclusive relationship, and I'm fine with that and things taking time to get there.

My issue is that I'm not really wired that way.  I'm more of a one woman at a time type person, and although I'm trying to put myself out there more, it feels disingenuous to go out with someone with the underlying (unspoken) assumption that we're also going out with someone else another night.

My question is...when is it appropriate to mention/discuss this?  I've brought it up on a first date (a couple times) and that didn't go well.  I'm sure they thought I was being too serious way too fast.  I've also just tried not bringing it up, but then it kinda bothers me and I'm not very comfortable hanging out with someone if something bugs me but I can't talk about it.

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<bot>: I'm ok with a girl taking her time and dating other guys while she decides who to be exclusive with...but it's not really for me.  How/when do I talk about this with her?