<human>: To start off, my husband's job is very demanding. Usually he works 12+ hours and is gone for months at a time. When he finally gets home, all he cares about is drinking to forget everything. Which I understand, and based off of past posts I have made, I have learned that guys need their alone time to unwind. I get that, and he has voiced that to me as well. 

He used to try and get me to drink, and whenever I declined he'd get upset. He wants drinking to become a bonding activity, but I hate drinking. I hate who I become and who he becomes. Thankfully, he has learned to accept that I don't like drinking. Anyway, because of these habits, he always has friends over or is always on Reddit. I feel like he pushes me out because he just wants to relax after a long day of work. It seems like he has more fun with his friends.. 

When it's just him and I at home, he rarely talks to me and just asks me to get him things. He'll sit at his desk and ask me to get him drinks, ice, food, his phone, anything and it's over and over, every day. I'll tell him to come cuddle with me and he'll tell me to get up and come over to him, or that he's busy playing a video game. As soon as his friend comes over, he's up and talking with him. It really hurts and I felt like I have expressed that to him but maybe he just doesn't understand? 

I don't work currently, but I'm looking to get a part time job. I'm a full-time college student at the moment and my husband constantly reminds me that school is my job. I feel bad complaining about these types of things because I feel like since I don't work, it shouldn't be a problem to get up and grab things for him. Obviously the underlying reason is I want to be viewed as his wife, not his mom or his maid/waitress.

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<bot>: husband drinks a lot to deal with stress, seems happier with friends than with me, I don't know what to do to make him open up to me more.