<human>: I just got out of a 3 year relationship, 1 year of marriage, at the beginning of june. I was single for a while, then met a guy on OKC. I had sex with him the first time I met him, which is against my personal moral standards. 

Thankfully, I'm on birth control because I told him to put a condom on, but he didn't, then he refused to pull out. I'm kind of pissed about the whole thing. Not only that, but he keeps insisting I call into work for him and gets upset when I don't text him all day because I'm at work. I work at a call center and can get fired for having my phone out. I also get 10 min breaks, which require going up and down 6 flights of stairs. Doesn't leave much time for texting.

I'm really into him, but I feel already like he will be clingy and controlling. My ex was mentally abusive. It's really difficult for me to trust and I'm very wary of men. I just have all these red flags and alarms going off in my head. I just don't know how to tell him. 

He expects me to hang out with him on all my days off and gets extremely depressed if I hang out with my girls instead. On the first date he mentioned wanting to get married and having kids and said several times that he loves me. 

What do, Reddit?

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<bot>: met boy on OKC. Don't think I'm ready to date. Lots of red flags going off. Don't know how to tell him I'm not ready.