<human>: Hi all! Ok, so after the third time this has happened, I've realized that the common denominator in these situations is me. 

I'm a single, fun, fairly attractive doctoral student that enjoys a good date. I also like to think that I'm reasonably communicative about my boundaries and "goals" for dating. The pattern is this; meet a cute/smart guy, go on several dates, text, make out, etc. All three times they pursue me far more than I pursue them. Just as I'm getting comfortable, and thinking "sure, I'm into you", they sort of freak out and go away. All three times they have cited that they are out of a recent relationship and while I'm so great (blah blah blah) they just can't see it working right now. 

Three hypotheses: First, I'm attracting men who aren't "ready" to date again. But this confuses me, as they keep asking me out. Huh?

Second; maybe it's the way I view sex? My field is public health so I spend a lot of time thinking about risk factors (pregnancy, STIs, emotional over involvement), and they're just too many to have sex too soon. The risk/reward ratio is much better for making out (lots of fun to be had, little risk). I'd just rather wait to have sex until monogamy. Does this put too much pressure to DTR? Because I swear that isn't my intention. 

Third; straight up lying? But then why would it be the same excuse?  

Of course, it could just be a pattern because I'm over thinking it. Or, it could be bad luck. Still, I thought you guys might have some insight :). Thanks!

Can you give me a shortened version of the text?
<bot>: I've [28F] recently realized that I have a troubling dating pattern and attract men who are out of recent relationships. Do I move too quickly? Or too slowly?