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30(M) married to 32(F) for 6 months... been friends for 10 years and dated on/off for 7 years...

i am an asshole atheist; or un-cut half jew... Wife is spiritual but not religious (protestant); grew up in area where (she thinks) most every guy is circumcised.

She prefers circumcised (aesthetically).

Last year my sister and her secular jewish husband had a baby boy. Originally they did not plan on having the baby circumcised; but then the paternal grandfather stepped in and pretty much demanded it. My agnostic father (maternal grandfather to the baby) flipped out- arguing against the archaic mutilation- but he was too late to the game as the other gramps had already set ultimatums etc... This really upset my father. I stayed out of it and tried to calm my father by stating that i believed the decision rests more with the baby's father (debatable, but i made those statements...

My newlywed wife witnessed some of the discussions and how serous my father was about the subject. She was concerned that when she gets pregnant, my father and I will relentlessly pressure her against the circumcision (which is pretty fuckin accurate). I've avoided the discussion/argument because we have enough to argue over.

I dont want to bully my wife; but i have very strong feelings against circumcisions (except when medically necessary- as was with my cousin).

We are not pregnant yet but planning on it within the next year. It will be enough of a fight choosing a name (again, she rightfully feels bullied to keep w/ my fam tradition of naming the first son after the paternal grandfather).

Any advice?
<bot>: Wife wants to hack off un-conceived baby boys dick skin. Husband is anti-mutilation.  Advice?