<human>: Can you condense the text into three sentences or less?

So my fiancé and I have been together for 3 years now. Our sex life is currently doing it once a month, maybe twice. 

We were long distance for two years and of course would do it any chance we got when we were together and honestly (even though it's cliche) sex with him was the best! Toys, outfits, the whole nine yards..

But now, it's almost like a chore. We both work long hours and almost every day (medical). Recently, I tried to initiate (will get more to that later) and by the time I reached the bed I literally was going to pass out.

I brought up to him why it's changed and he said I need to initiate more, like just grab his dick and do it. I also enjoy doing it at night before bed and he doesn't. The thing is he doesn't initiate much either and I told him this but he wants me to just grab it and do it..

Any advice y'all? This sounds sad since we've only been together three years but I feel like there may be something I'm missing and a way I can be a better fiancé.
<bot>: My fiancé and I have a boring sex life and need advice on how I can do better/what I'm doing wrong.