<human>: Give me a shortened version of the text

I'm a 28/F and have been dating "J" – 30/M – for 3 months.

He's a fantastic guy. He's well-versed, genuine, funny and I'm very comfortable (both inside and out) around him.

However, in our 3 months of dating, he has yet to come over to my house (he lives a good distance out of town) or come hang out with my friends. He's very much a homebody, is a tad agoraphobic, and isn't quite as social as I can sometimes be. I'm frustrated with him. I've invited him to come have dinner with friends *several* times, but he always refuses, has something else to do, or just doesn't respond.

During the week, I will barely hear from him and once the weekend comes, *I am* the one who initiates a hang out (at his place) or has to ask to come over.

I'm a bit at my wits end. I've talked to him about my frustrations, though admittedly we were both drunk at the time, and he says that he doesn't realize that it's that bad. I don't know whether to think that he's just that *dense* and doesn't get that I can't be the only one putting in thought/effort to this relationship, or if he just doesn't care. He says that he loves me, he says that he wants to be with me, but I haven't *seen* that yet.

Am I being a crazy girl or what?
<bot>: Boyfriend is showing little effort in the relationship and though I want to be with him, putting in all the effort is becoming mentally/emotionally draining.