<human>: I'm at a loss with this one.  I've been with him for 3 years and he has always claimed to really love sex, love women in general etc.  Yet our sex life has ALWAYS left me feeling confused.  I was in a long-term relationship before so I haven't had a lot of sexual partners but I know this is unusual.

If he's in a sexy type of mood (especially if we are out or if we are with others) he will flirt with me a bit and tell me what he wants to do with me.  But he never does it.  He never follows up.  He will tell me when we go on vacation he wants to have so much sex....then when we actually are on vacation he only is interested in having sex one time.   Or he'll tell me he wants to try anal this weekend (as an example)....but we don't even end up having sex on the weekend.  Or he will tell me he's going to go down on me next time we're together (for the record, he's never gone down on me even once in 3 years).

He'll tell me he can't wait to have "rough sex" with me because he knows I'm a little into that (yes, you guessed it -- we never have rough sex).   He'll tell me he'd like to have sex ______ (at his parent's house, in the rain, hanging off a mountain....whatever) but we never do any of it.   He rarely talks like this when there's any real chance of us actually HAVING sex (he doesn't talk like this when we are alone in the house and could really do these things).

I just don't get it.  He's overworked and distracted a lot, and doesn't seem to need much real sex.  I want more sex and have brought it up to him.  He seems ok with sex every couple of weeks and just masturbates the rest of the time.  The other worrisome thing is that he can rarely climax during sex (but that could be due to medication).

I'm very frustrated and worried over this.

Can you give me a shortened version of the text?
<bot>: BF talks sexy when we have no chance of being intimate, but when we are actually alone he doesn't seem to have much of a sex drive.