<human>: Summarize the given text in a few sentences.

Our relationship was probably the most serious one that I've ever had. We both eventually reached a crossroad in our life where we were going different directions and had to make critical life decisions. Since we were young and honestly I didn't know if we were going to last forever, I wanted to make sure we made the decisions that **we** wanted, with no relationship influence.

I then broke it off with her, stating numerous ridiculous reasons including religion, and eventually about our "crossroads", and said no when she wanted to still be friends because I knew that we were both still very vulnerable to each other. I wanted to give each of us complete separation so we could get over each other entirely. I haven't talked to her in a year, mainly due to me shutting her out.

Since we've both had a lot of time from each other, I selfishly kind of miss her friendship and company, and have thought about sending her a general message saying, "Hey, how are you doing nowadays?" Is this a bad idea?
<bot>: I broke up with my ex and shut her out for a year. I now want to be friends again. Is this bad?