<human>: Dear wonderful reddit, I hope you can help me. I've (m, 21) been on 2 dates now with a tinder match (1 in the day, 1 at a bar) and going on a third today for coffee. But, they don't seem to be leading to anything! There's light flirting going on, but then again I might do the same with some of my close friends that are girls..

What's a good way to ask a girl where she sees this going without asking directly? I really like this girl so would still like to be friends if things didn't work out, but I don't wanna be that douchebag who seems to only be interested in sex. I just wanna find out.

Can you provide a brief rundown of the text in within 3 sentences?
<bot>: Been on 2 dates with tinder match, not sure whether it's friendly or something more, how do I find out without being a db?