<human>: Give me the gist of the text in a nutshell

Honestly, the title says it all. I'm looking for some input as to how anyone who has managed to get into a discussion space where asking for more sexual validation doesn't become a cluster-fuck of one's partner feeling pressured into sex. Which leads to less sex. Which leads to more frustration, because now talking about there being a problem is a problem in itself. 

My gf isn't even particularly low libido, but doesn't seem to notice when I'm massively horny/wanting sexual-emotional validation, and perhaps responds positively to my enthusiasm 1/4 of the time, so having direct communication seems to be the way forward.
<bot>: Whenever I try to discuss my needs not being met, it makes my girlfriend feel pressured into sex, and hence not want it.