Although Dworkin publicly wrote "I love John with my heart and soul" and Stoltenberg described Dworkin as "the love of my life", she continued to publicly identify herself as lesbian, and he as gay.
Fastän Dworkin skrev offentligt "Jag älskar John med mitt hjärta och min själ" och Stoltenberg beskrev Dworkin som "mitt livs kärlek", fortsatte hon att offentligt identifiera sig som lesbisk, och han som bög.